(M 22) Advice on seeking out a ‘suck buddy’

[CuriousOne13]

Hi All,

It’s been a while since I posted here, though I’ve certainly been in the habit of browsing the myriad of threads on the site, including few with a similar enquiry put forward to my own.

I’ve been interested in the idea of seeking out a dynamic not dissimilar to a friend with benefits situation - a ‘suck buddy’, as others have aptly coined it.

I’m in an open relationship, and my partner and I have discussed the prospect of seeing out other guys for casual hook-ups, with the specification that we are open and honest about said hook-ups, make sure that we’re safe and take precautions, and get tested regularly, of course.

I like the idea of having a buddy who I could be sexual with, kind of acting as the foundation of a semi-friendship in a sense.

Our meet-ups being characterised by jerking off together, exchanging pornography we found arousing, experimenting things with one another, etc.

A fantasy I could offer for context is meeting up in a forest that’s within my area, with me sucking him off (maybe in one of those balaclava hoods you may have seen in videos to maintain a sense of anonymity), worshipping his body, and all that comes with it.

Maybe we hang out for a bit in a semi-public space first, I would like somewhat of a friendly aspect to it, given that one of the primary fears and dangers of casual hook-ups is the very real possibility of contracting an STD from a guy who hasn’t been honest about his health, or them taking advantage of a vulnerable person under the guise of a sexual encounter.

As you can likely discern, I’m very much a newcomer, who has fantasies he’d like to be fulfilled by a generous man.
I’m posting with the hopes that other guys here may have some tips about how to approach something like this, or, if I’m so lucky, there are any guys here who’d be interested in taking up such an offer.

My experience here thus far has been a positive one, so I look forward to hearing any and all responses to this.

 

[theplayerking]

First off, if you’re concerned about STIs, go to your doctor or gay health clinic and get the appropriate precautions. Don’t trust your health to others.

If you’re in an open relationship, it might be better to stick with casual, one-off hookups rather than a “buddy” situation, which could lead to complications.

 

[CuriousOne13]

First off, if you’re concerned about STIs, go to your doctor or gay health clinic and get the appropriate precautions. Don’t trust your health to others.

If you’re in an open relationship, it might be better to stick with casual, one-off hookups rather than a “buddy” situation, which could lead to complications.

I have been to a health clinic and been given advice, precautions, and things like PREP.
I suppose it’s the cynic in me, but also the inexperience talking.

That’s a fair enough point, my current partner and I met with the initial intention of a fling, and it developed into something more intimate within a short period.
Many thanks for your reply, it’s much appreciated.

 

[SilentMajority]

Communication is key. It sounds like you have set a good foundation by discussing this. Not every couple can deal with it, but if you both have a continual, non judgemental say in how it develops, it may work for you. I personally think the key is having two people with the same basic values and also both having the ability to object or to stop the play without being judged. Otherwise your primary relationship is over.