Possibility of having a straight guy as friend of benefits?

[a1000oceanz]

Either way they’re not totally straight.

I consider myself gay even though I've had multiple women in my past. I don't feel that makes me straight or bi. At the time it was a "no guys around. why not. i don't feel like jerking off" situation. I think we can be a little quick to flip that to a straight scenario. Sometimes people just need to get off. Sometimes their female partners have low sex drive and hate giving head. It's a situation where they can keep their relationship, get expert head, and have no complications of falling in love doing so. If it is someone they feel comfortable with no fear of STDs and willing to keep it a secret, it can go pretty far. it's just a friend helping a friend. I think it would be different if the straight guy was openly homophobic.

 

[Oldcowboy]

From my experience there is usually a significant delay between the first BJ and the second. The majority of curious st8 guys I've been with usually ask for a second, but they have to get over the mental confusion of enjoying a true BJ from a guy. I even had one hit me up ten years later after a divorce. You have to go into it with no expectations and make them feel like it was no big deal. You also have to make sure they understand there are no expectations for them to reciprocate and your need is solely to service them. A lot of them are used to having to beg for a BJ from their partner and it sometimes comes with strings attached. If it is someone you have regular interaction with (friend circle/coworker) don't bring it up, act like nothing ever happened, and wait for them to imply they need more. They just have to get over the post nut clarity and the mental hurdle of being with a guy.

Some of my ‘first time cocksuckers’ need time and space. Lots going on in their head. After a couple of weeks, I might reach out in a non sexual way—-then, it’s their move

 

[FrankieGuile]

Ok this might sound a bit tricky but I still decide to post it out and get advice.

So I am a fem looking guy and I sometimes crossdress for fun. I have a dating profile picturing myself as “female” on app and with my real picture. I matched with some straight guys but 80% of them dismiss me after knowing I’m actually a man in dress.

However, last week, I matched with a really hot muscular young guy who is in his mid 20s and he told me a BJ is a BJ and he wouldn’t mind trying my mouth. We set up some rules, such as I cannot kiss him, he would not touch my penis, I cannot put my penis into his ass etc. and then we met up.

He was as hot as the picture. He works in construction and has a natural muscular body and his cock was like the most amazing thing in the word. I can tell he was nervous and he said it was first time he had been with someone who isn’t a woman. But I got him rock hard in 1 min and got his precum out in 5 mins.

he became like totally dominated by my mouth that night. I managed to play with his chest and even his beard during the sucking session. I also tried having his feet press my hard cock and he did it too as long as I keep sucking. I played with his ass and almost fingered him (he didn’t push me away). It was like he just submitted to this pleasure and let me take the lead. I even ordered him to pose differently, to fuck my throat, to flex, etc. he all did them for me.

In 1 hour, I got him cum hard twice and also extracted countless amount of precum of that cock. After the session, he lied in the bed and told me “hey I never thought I would have cum twice so fast”.

After the session, I haven’t tried to message him yet. I don’t know if there is a chance for us to become regular. I really enjoyed it. I think he did too. But I don’t know if he would go back to the “straight” mode and just stopped talking anymore.

Is this kind of Fwb relationship possible to survive? How should I process it now?

Your question seems disingenuous because 1) you described more about your dalliance than necessary, causing one to wonder about the true motivation of your post; and, 2) you have not tried to answer your own question by going to the source (i.e., "I haven’t tried to message him yet."). That said, you don't have to worry about him going "back to the 'straight' mode." He wasn't straight when you hooked up; otherwise, he would not have engaged you sexually.

 

[coordinatedchaos]

I consider myself gay even though I've had multiple women in my past. I don't feel that makes me straight or bi. At the time it was a "no guys around. why not. i don't feel like jerking off" situation. I think we can be a little quick to flip that to a straight scenario. Sometimes people just need to get off. Sometimes their female partners have low sex drive and hate giving head. It's a situation where they can keep their relationship, get expert head, and have no complications of falling in love doing so. If it is someone they feel comfortable with no fear of STDs and willing to keep it a secret, it can go pretty far. it's just a friend helping a friend. I think it would be different if the straight guy was openly homophobic.

i don't agree. a straight person wouldn't even stomach same-sex activity. if that bothers hyper-liberals, so be it.

 

[pass3434]

i don't agree. a straight person wouldn't even stomach same-sex activity. if that bothers hyper-liberals, so be it.

well the fact is, sexuality is a spectrum. Also exploration in sex has nothing to do with your sexuality. In the prison you would see so many men doing gay sex because that's the only thing they have access to.

liberals don't care about sexuality at all. A good dick is a good dick. I really don't care if he fucks girls next day or not. But yeah, I do find those "straight" guys exploring really hot. And I enjoy breaking their "straightness".

 

[pass3434]

Your question seems disingenuous because 1) you described more about your dalliance than necessary, causing one to wonder about the true motivation of your post; and, 2) you have not tried to answer your own question by going to the source (i.e., "I haven’t tried to message him yet."). That said, you don't have to worry about him going "back to the 'straight' mode." He wasn't straight when you hooked up; otherwise, he would not have engaged you sexually.

well,
1). I have to admit that I was showing off a little too. He was super hot. Like porn star level hot.
2). I messaged him and I guess he did not want to continue so I accepted it.

Last but not the least, you need to educate yourself about sexuality and sexual exploration. Tons of straight guys perform gay sex on the side. They don't feel anything emotional so they can cut it as soon as they want.

The idea of "having gay sex" == "not straight" is stupid as hell. You would be surprised to find out how many straight guys around you actually had gay sex. Easiest way is to register a grindr or tinder with a trans photo and claim you only want straight guys. Disclaimer, you might come across someone around you.......

I have to be honest that even in 2024 there are people who associate sexuality with sexual behavior...... Let me put it this way. I am gay. But i will do anything (legal) sexual to a female if you offer me 1 million. People have sex for different reasons. For straight guys, they sometimes just need a quick release. That is the 1 million to them. Got it?

 

[FrankieGuile]

well,
1). I have to admit that I was showing off a little too. He was super hot. Like porn star level hot.
2). I messaged him and I guess he did not want to continue so I accepted it.

Last but not the least, you need to educate yourself about sexuality and sexual exploration. Tons of straight guys perform gay sex on the side. They don't feel anything emotional so they can cut it as soon as they want.

The idea of "having gay sex" == "not straight" is stupid as hell. You would be surprised to find out how many straight guys around you actually had gay sex. Easiest way is to register a grindr or tinder with a trans photo and claim you only want straight guys. Disclaimer, you might come across someone around you.......

I have to be honest that even in 2024 there are people who associate sexuality with sexual behavior...... Let me put it this way. I am gay. But i will do anything (legal) sexual to a female if you offer me 1 million. People have sex for different reasons. For straight guys, they sometimes just need a quick release. That is the 1 million to them. Got it?

Well,
1) You're "showing off a little" was obvious.
2) You did the right thing by accepting his rejection.

I do not need an education about sexuality or its exploration, and certainly not from you. We simply disagree. You believe guys can be heterosexual and then homosexual and then heterosexual, and on and on. I believe that is nonsense. Heterosexual men do not experiment as your paramour did. I understand it is "hot" for you to think you were so irresistible sexually that you converted a straight man into a gay man, and I understand that thought is a significant and unshakable fantasy for gay men. But a heterosexual man does not want or allow the kind of homosexual interaction you claim in your story. Your contention to the contrary is merely an attempt to deny the existence of straight men. I am quite sure you would find the reverse highly offensive.

 

[pass3434]

Well,
1) You're "showing off a little" was obvious.
2) You did the right thing by accepting his rejection.

I do not need an education about sexuality or its exploration, and certainly not from you. We simply disagree. You believe guys can be heterosexual and then homosexual and then heterosexual, and on and on. I believe that is nonsense. Heterosexual men do not experiment as your paramour did. I understand it is "hot" for you to think you were so irresistible sexually that you converted a straight man into a gay man, and I understand that thought is a significant and unshakable fantasy for gay men. But a heterosexual man does not want or allow the kind of homosexual interaction you claim in your story. Your contention to the contrary is merely an attempt to deny the existence of straight men. I am quite sure you would find the reverse highly offensive.

That’s exactly why you need an education. Not from me though. I charge for educating people.

It’s 2024. Get out and learn. In fact people always experiment. One example I gave you is in the prison. Another one is in the marine. The number of marines I have played with is not countable by two hands. And guess what, they are all straight. They are comfortable with gay sex as well. But they only get emotionally attached to women. To them, a mouth is a mouth and a hole is a hole.

You must be really old to have this thought. Young generation nowadays don’t even take sexuality seriously because so many of them had sex with both sides. It’s no longer a label

 

[FrankieGuile]

That’s exactly why you need an education. Not from me though. I charge for educating people.

It’s 2024. Get out and learn. In fact people always experiment. One example I gave you is in the prison. Another one is in the marine. The number of marines I have played with is not countable by two hands. And guess what, they are all straight. They are comfortable with gay sex as well. But they only get emotionally attached to women. To them, a mouth is a mouth and a hole is a hole.

You must be really old to have this thought. Young generation nowadays don’t even take sexuality seriously because so many of them had sex with both sides. It’s no longer a label

You live in a fantasy world where the whole world is homosexual -- maybe not now, but soon and then they will never go back. The facts are that a very large percentage of men have never had a homosexual relationship, never want a homosexual relationship, and never will have a homosexual relationship. Whatever you think is "straight" is not straight, but you can be excused for living in a bubble and suffering from a group-think that has created a mythology in which you believe. By the way, you have no idea of my age (or anything else about me personally for that matter). As such, drawing conclusions, as you did, risks revealing yourself as narrow-minded and presumptuous, which should be avoided if you fancy yourself more tolerant of people with different backgrounds than you.

 

[pass3434]

You live in a fantasy world where the whole world is homosexual -- maybe not now, but soon and then they will never go back. The facts are that a very large percentage of men have never had a homosexual relationship, never want a homosexual relationship, and never will have a homosexual relationship. Whatever you think is "straight" is not straight, but you can be excused for living in a bubble and suffering from a group-think that has created a mythology in which you believe. By the way, you have no idea of my age (or anything else about me personally for that matter). As such, drawing conclusions, as you did, risks revealing yourself as narrow-minded and presumptuous, which should be avoided if you fancy yourself more tolerant of people with different backgrounds than you.

Well, apparently you are the one living in the fantasy.

you really would be surprised that how many straight men around you actually have had gay sex. Maybe you can try crossdressing and find out. I tried it. I did it.

 

[FrankieGuile]

Well, apparently you are the one living in the fantasy.

you really would be surprised that how many straight men around you actually have had gay sex. Maybe you can try crossdressing and find out. I tried it. I did it.

The belief that heterosexual men are only homosexual men-in-waiting is preposterous. The only thing that surprises me is how ardently some gay men believe this tripe, perhaps because they cannot get turned on by other openly gay men which I find tragic.