Moral Dilemma. NOT fiction!

[Thick_uncutUK]

Before I get going, this is NOT an erotic story, or work of fiction. Although it may sound like a work of calculated prose, this happened to me a couple of days ago and I am sharing in the hope of getting genuine advice on what to do. (I know what the correct way to deal with this is, but I’d like to see if any other guys would have the same moral dilemma when faced with this situation).

Additionally, if this isn’t the correct thread to post on, please suggest a suitable alternative.

Strap in….

A bit of background: I (36M) have been with my husband (41M- let’s call him Paul) for 15 years, married for 8. We are happy together, successful and have a good sex life. Now, although I enjoy online fun with other guys (chat, pic/vid swap, live cam) my partner doesn’t. We’ve discussed it, but it’s not his thing, which is fine. I however, have been unfaithful in the past (but not for over 10 years). I state this only to set the scene for the moral dilemma I now face.

Last weekend, we visited his family in the north of England for a few nights to celebrate various birthdays- Paul’s, his father’s and his nephew’s who turned 18 last Wednesday (let’s call him Jake). I have known Jake since he was 3 and have watched him grow up into the polite, talented & well-mannered young man he is today. Over the years we have had regular updates on his athleticism (being part of the college football, volleyball and track teams), his academic achievements (top of the class in maths and science and wanting to study architecture), and how he has become a very confident and polite young man. I have only ever known him to have one relationship with a girl from college which ended last summer when she went travelling. His sexuality has never been questioned or discussed- it has never had to be. However, now he is 18, and since I haven’t seen him for nearly 2 years, the change in him is striking.

Upon arrival on Friday afternoon, he greeted us at the door, clothed in a T-shirt and shorts, evidently just back from one of his training sessions. He gave Paul and I a hug and said he was just jumping in the shower and would be down to join us shortly. Whilst I brought the bags from the car, Paul went into the lounge and greeted the rest of his family. As I closed the front door behind me, I looked up the stairs and saw Jake stood at the top, looking down at me, wearing just a towel. I wanted to divert my gaze, but he stood there, staring at me, one hand on his hip, the other arm extended above his head with his hand resting on the wall beside him. He winked at me and turned to go into the bathroom for his shower.

I felt an overwhelming warmth and a thickening in my jeans. Despite being Paul’s nephew, he is, in essence, a handsome, athletic young man, and no longer the boy I’ve spent years watching grow up. And he was flirting with me- I was honestly dumbfounded, as well as aroused and more than a little curious.

The rest of the weekend passed without further incident, except for Jake’s occasional glances and maintained eye contact, which I both dreaded and relished.

Whilst discussing various topics over lunch with the family on Sunday afternoon, the subject of social media arose. Whilst neither Paul nor I have any social media, I do have a “secret” Snapchat account that I regularly use to trade pics & vids and cam with guys online. It’s my porn; and no, Paul doesn’t know I use it. It isn’t linked to any of my personal info, it contain my name and isn’t accessible to my phone contacts. The username is sexual- one that suggests the size and thickness of my manhood.

Whilst showing Jake some pictures on my phone of a house we recently bought to renovate (remember his interest in architecture?), a selfie popped up with an obvious Snapchat filter applied. To be clear, this wasn’t a nude, and had no sexual connotations attached. It was, simply, a filtered selfie. However, he looked at me, square in the eye, and with a smirk said “I didn’t think you had Snapchat..?” I brushed it off and said it was sent to me by someone else as I liked the picture.

As we were leaving and goodbyes were being said, he gave me a hug (which lasted a second too long) and told me to check my phone. Via WhatsApp, he’d sent me his Snapchat account info with a message attached which simply said “Add me” with a wink emoji.

My dilemma: do I add him, or not?

Obviously the moral, professional husband in me is screaming DON’T ADD HIM: there’s only one reason he wants to contact me on Snapchat. But, the highly sexed, gay man in me is curious and wants to see more of this handsome, muscled, 18 year old lad…

What would you guys do? All advice and suggestions, whichever side you fall on, is welcomed.

 

[GayBootyLover69]

yeah i think the best thing to do is to not add him on snapchat

adding him would make things more awkward in the long run, not to mention the possibility of your husband finding out

 

[theplayerking]

This sounds like a potential disaster. If you really want to see his pics, I would create new innocent, PG-rated account to send him.

 

[Thick_uncutUK]

This sounds like a potential disaster. If you really want to see his pics, I would create new innocent, PG-rated account to send him.

I never thought of this…

 

[Johnnie89]

I never thought of this…

Regardless, it's clear you want to add him (I want you to add him haha) but, if anything happens and Paul finds out or the nephew potentially uses this against you, you're gonna have to have that moment where your blood runs cold and you have to face something.

 

[Thick_uncutUK]

Regardless, it's clear you want to add him (I want you to add him haha) but, if anything happens and Paul finds out or the nephew potentially uses this against you, you're gonna have to have that moment where your blood runs cold and you have to face something.

Yea I get that.. but I am inherently ruled by my penis and the thought of adding him (which I still haven’t) really gets me going.. *sigh*

 

[Johnnie89]

Yea I get that.. but I am inherently ruled by my penis and the thought of adding him (which I still haven’t) really gets me going.. *sigh*

Genuinely gets me going too. I want the story! Haha.

 

[dana2]

The questions you need to contemplate are:

1) If you add the nephew to your sexy snapchat, what are the chances your husband will find out?
2) Flirtations can ramp up quickly and lead to dick sucking and more. By adding him to your snapchat you are increasing the possibility of ramping up the flirtation and ending up entwined naked with the nephew. What are the chances your husband will find out that his nephew sucked your dick and/or that you sucked his?

On the one hand I say go for it! Life is too short. On the other hand your will be doing something that can potentially end your marriage if your husband finds out. I would not want to be in your shoes.

 

[Thick_uncutUK]

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The questions you need to contemplate are:

1) If you add the nephew to your sexy snapchat, what are the chances your husband will find out?
2) Flirtations can ramp up quickly and lead to dick sucking and more. By adding him to your snapchat you are increasing the possibility of ramping up the flirtation and ending up entwined naked with the nephew. What are the chances your husband will find out that his nephew sucked your dick and/or that you sucked his?

On the one hand I say go for it! Life is too short. On the other hand your will be doing something that can potentially end your marriage if your husband finds out. I would not want to be in your shoes.

I genuinely don’t think there’s a chance my husband will find out.. I’ve had my SC account for many years without him knowing. It’s all been harmless fun with guys online and I don’t expect that to change if I do add him. It’s just the thrill of him wanting me to add him and sharing nudes

 

[Brodie888]

Your main problem is you are opening yourself up for blackmail. Is a piece of ass really worth the sleepless nights?

Secondly, your fantasy about your nephew is not going to lead to anything substantial and most likely to be expensive if you divorce.

Your partner will not look at this situation the same way as your interaction with strangers. If I was you, I would tell your partner what your nephew is up to before he gets the opportunity to find out from someone else.

Not to be rude but your nephew is 18, full of testosterone and stupid. What's your excuse?

 

[GayBootyLover69]

Your main problem is you are opening yourself up for blackmail. Is a piece of ass really worth the sleepless nights?

Secondly, your fantasy about your nephew is not going to lead to anything substantial and most likely to be expensive if you divorce.

Your partner will not look at this situation the same way as your interaction with strangers. If I was you, I would tell your partner what your nephew is up to before he gets the opportunity to find out from someone else.

Not to be rude but your nephew is 18, full of testosterone and stupid. What's your excuse?

this, pretty much. not worth the risk honestly

not demonizing sex here but in this specific case, its best to be mentally strong and not give in to the temptation

 

[Thick_uncutUK]

Thanks for the constructive replies guys- the ones posted here and the private messages too are much appreciated!
I haven’t added him as I write this

 

[MisterB]

@Thick_uncutUK

Faced with such a dilemma, I think I would have to ask myself what's the best and worst outcome to this situation? What if you add him to your SC as he slyly suggested?

Best: You two do whatever and no one is the wiser.
Worst: You two do whatever and your Hubby discovers it.

Are you willing to take the risk? And if so, for what? Pics of a hot 18 year old?

How far are you willing to go with taking the risk? Could that possibly lead to you taking it further with him? Clandestine meet ups?

If so, what happens if you get discovered? That's the issue I'd focus on if I were you.

Cuz if the worst case happens and shit hits the fan, are you willing to live with the fallout? Are you prepared for the possibility of your relationship to end? All for pics of a hot 18-year old? Or a taste of some young stud?

That's the conundrum you face IMO. Let's say you take the risk and do end up taking it further than swapping pics? Will you have any guilt? Remorse? Worry that you'll be found out? What about him? STDs? I ask because how would you know he's not hooking up with others already?

You have a lot to think about before you do anything like adding him to your SC; who you are and what your values are. Especially given this young lad is related to your Husband.

I think this is one time that you might want to be thinking clearly with the head above your shoulders. Because the one in your pants may end up making a decision for you that completely upends your life. Are you willing to take that risk?

 

[chrisrobin]

Before I get going, this is NOT an erotic story, or work of fiction. Although it may sound like a work of calculated prose, this happened to me a couple of days ago and I am sharing in the hope of getting genuine advice on what to do. (I know what the correct way to deal with this is, but I’d like to see if any other guys would have the same moral dilemma when faced with this situation).

Additionally, if this isn’t the correct thread to post on, please suggest a suitable alternative.

Strap in….

A bit of background: I (36M) have been with my husband (41M- let’s call him Paul) for 15 years, married for 8. We are happy together, successful and have a good sex life. Now, although I enjoy online fun with other guys (chat, pic/vid swap, live cam) my partner doesn’t. We’ve discussed it, but it’s not his thing, which is fine. I however, have been unfaithful in the past (but not for over 10 years). I state this only to set the scene for the moral dilemma I now face.

Last weekend, we visited his family in the north of England for a few nights to celebrate various birthdays- Paul’s, his father’s and his nephew’s who turned 18 last Wednesday (let’s call him Jake). I have known Jake since he was 3 and have watched him grow up into the polite, talented & well-mannered young man he is today. Over the years we have had regular updates on his athleticism (being part of the college football, volleyball and track teams), his academic achievements (top of the class in maths and science and wanting to study architecture), and how he has become a very confident and polite young man. I have only ever known him to have one relationship with a girl from college which ended last summer when she went travelling. His sexuality has never been questioned or discussed- it has never had to be. However, now he is 18, and since I haven’t seen him for nearly 2 years, the change in him is striking.

Upon arrival on Friday afternoon, he greeted us at the door, clothed in a T-shirt and shorts, evidently just back from one of his training sessions. He gave Paul and I a hug and said he was just jumping in the shower and would be down to join us shortly. Whilst I brought the bags from the car, Paul went into the lounge and greeted the rest of his family. As I closed the front door behind me, I looked up the stairs and saw Jake stood at the top, looking down at me, wearing just a towel. I wanted to divert my gaze, but he stood there, staring at me, one hand on his hip, the other arm extended above his head with his hand resting on the wall beside him. He winked at me and turned to go into the bathroom for his shower.

I felt an overwhelming warmth and a thickening in my jeans. Despite being Paul’s nephew, he is, in essence, a handsome, athletic young man, and no longer the boy I’ve spent years watching grow up. And he was flirting with me- I was honestly dumbfounded, as well as aroused and more than a little curious.

The rest of the weekend passed without further incident, except for Jake’s occasional glances and maintained eye contact, which I both dreaded and relished.

Whilst discussing various topics over lunch with the family on Sunday afternoon, the subject of social media arose. Whilst neither Paul nor I have any social media, I do have a “secret” Snapchat account that I regularly use to trade pics & vids and cam with guys online. It’s my porn; and no, Paul doesn’t know I use it. It isn’t linked to any of my personal info, it contain my name and isn’t accessible to my phone contacts. The username is sexual- one that suggests the size and thickness of my manhood.

Whilst showing Jake some pictures on my phone of a house we recently bought to renovate (remember his interest in architecture?), a selfie popped up with an obvious Snapchat filter applied. To be clear, this wasn’t a nude, and had no sexual connotations attached. It was, simply, a filtered selfie. However, he looked at me, square in the eye, and with a smirk said “I didn’t think you had Snapchat..?” I brushed it off and said it was sent to me by someone else as I liked the picture.

As we were leaving and goodbyes were being said, he gave me a hug (which lasted a second too long) and told me to check my phone. Via WhatsApp, he’d sent me his Snapchat account info with a message attached which simply said “Add me” with a wink emoji.

My dilemma: do I add him, or not?

Obviously the moral, professional husband in me is screaming DON’T ADD HIM: there’s only one reason he wants to contact me on Snapchat. But, the highly sexed, gay man in me is curious and wants to see more of this handsome, muscled, 18 year old lad…

What would you guys do? All advice and suggestions, whichever side you fall on, is welcomed.

do not answer

 

[Thick_uncutUK]

Sounds like the general consensus is that I don’t add him in order to avoid my husband finding out. I guess I’ll always that “What If…” question hanging over me though

 

[JohnTrager1]

I agree with the above, it’s too close to home to be anything but trouble. That being said I would be exactly the same if I was you and be constantly itching to add him. ‍♂.
It’s the what ifs and the evenings you’re downstairs alone when your husband has already gone to bed that’ll be the trouble. But you need to weigh up how many times that will happen with how many times you’ll have family’s dos and have to see him. Through a phone it’s ‘harmless’ when he’s flirting dangerously at the next family bbq and you’re having to try and play it down that’s another thing…..

…..Fuck it, do it from a fake profile so you can have your cake and eat it too (kidding btw before anyone comments that I’m scum) xx

 

[Thick_uncutUK]

I agree with the above, it’s too close to home to be anything but trouble. That being said I would be exactly the same if I was you and be constantly itching to add him. ‍♂.
It’s the what ifs and the evenings you’re downstairs alone when your husband has already gone to bed that’ll be the trouble. But you need to weigh up how many times that will happen with how many times you’ll have family’s dos and have to see him. Through a phone it’s ‘harmless’ when he’s flirting dangerously at the next family bbq and you’re having to try and play it down that’s another thing…..

…..Fuck it, do it from a fake profile so you can have your cake and eat it too (kidding btw before anyone comments that I’m scum) xx

A couple of guys have mentioned setting up a fake account to contact him.. I hadn’t thought of that

 

[GayBootyLover69]

adding him on snapchat through a real account is one thing (still I highly recommend that you do not add him regardless), but making a fake account to add him might come across as much more deceitful and weird, especially if your husband finds out

 

[JohnTrager1]

Good point. In that case, send it to me and let me add him! Haha

 

[Thick_uncutUK]

Good point. In that case, send it to me and let me add him! Haha

Haha! You’re not the first guy to offer to do that
If anyone is gonna get his nudes, it’ll be me