Moral Dilemma. NOT fiction!

[JohnTrager1]

Well, ya know, sharing is caring and all that

 

[Thick_uncutUK]

Well, ya know, sharing is caring and all that

I still haven’t added him yet though.. the vast majority of guys are (quite rightly) saying how it’s immoral and would ruin my marriage if it ever got out. I just need to work out whether the risk of being caught is worth the interaction (whatever that may be) between this lad and me

 

[JohnTrager1]

Tbh, when are you next due to go there? His reaction and mannerisms then will tell you more about what he’s thinking. Failing that, you could always strike up a conversation over something he’s interested in (architecture etc) and judge by his responses whether he’s thinking about it and whether he mentions the Snapchat. 18 year olds aren’t the most subtle when it comes to flirting or subtle suggesting, (and we thank the Lord for that every single day! )

 

[Brodie888]

If this was fiction, the twist would be that your partner asked his nephew to trap you cheating on him because he has suspected for a while that you are up to no good again . The irony being that this was the first time you've recently crossed the line.

 

[Thick_uncutUK]

If this was fiction, the twist would be that your partner asked his nephew to trap you cheating on him because he has suspected for a while that you are up to no good again . The irony being that this was the first time you've recently crossed the line.

Wow.. that’s kinda hot

 

[dana2]

Here is a question: If you could, say he made it clear he wanted time alone with you, and your hubby would not find out, what would you want to do with the nephew?

 

[Thick_uncutUK]

Here is a question: If you could, say he made it clear he wanted time alone with you, and your hubby would not find out, what would you want to do with the nephew?

Sounds to me like you’re fishing for an erotic story… not exactly what I had in mind

 

[JohnTrager1]

Answer the question man

 

[Sexb1150]

Tell your husband what he's doing. That will end ALL possibility of anything happening and the the entire situation out of your hands. The second I saw the first reference to the nephew I knew this was a hot mess waiting to happen. It's not just your relationship with your husband at risk, it's an entire family relationship/ dynamic.

 

[GayBootyLover69]

Tell your husband what he's doing. That will end ALL possibility of anything happening and the the entire situation out of your hands. The second I saw the first reference to the nephew I knew this was a hot mess waiting to happen. It's not just your relationship with your husband at risk, it's an entire family relationship/ dynamic.

yes. this is by far the best thing to do in this situation

 

[P.B]

Once got in bother for responding to a question in the Ask A Gay Man chat because I'm not a gay man, so I'm gonna PM you with my idea.

 

[hornyuk23]

We need an update lol so hot

 

[Thick_uncutUK]

We need an update lol so hot

Okay.. so a quick update for those that are asking..
It’s been a week or so since I posted the initial dilemma and I’ve revived mixed advice on this thread, privately and elsewhere on the net.
I took bits of advice from various guys and ended up adding him on SC under a pseudonym (I’m afraid to say that curiosity go the better of me..)
He’s replied to my anon add (after I told him he popped up on QuickAdd) and we’ve been chatting since. HOWEVER… I think he secretly knows it’s me. He’s away on a college trip atm so correspondence has been hit and miss, but the conversation so far has been cordial and engaging- not quite for the NSFW stuff yet…

 

[Sexb1150]

Okay.. so a quick update for those that are asking..
It’s been a week or so since I posted the initial dilemma and I’ve revived mixed advice on this thread, privately and elsewhere on the net.
I took bits of advice from various guys and ended up adding him on SC under a pseudonym (I’m afraid to say that curiosity go the better of me..)
He’s replied to my anon add (after I told him he popped up on QuickAdd) and we’ve been chatting since. HOWEVER… I think he secretly knows it’s me. He’s away on a college trip atm so correspondence has been hit and miss, but the conversation so far has been cordial and engaging- not quite for the NSFW stuff yet…

Dude... no. Just no. You're playing with hell fire and one way or another, is going to bite you in the ass. The so called "polite young man" is hitting on his uncle's husband. That's devious as hell, and I wouldn't put it past him to hold that over you either. Just my two cents.

 

[deepthroatLVR]

As someone else pointed out, he is a horny 18 year old, you are a married man twice his age. One of you should show a bit of restraint, and act like the adult- and you fit the bill for that. I it really worth losing your marriage and new family to see some 18 year old dick?

 

[Johnnie89]

I think all advice here is just that. It's what you've asked for. You can do with it what you wish and there is no real knowing what the outcome will be. I think you're well able to navigate what you're doing.

With all that said, I'm invested so I look forward to your updates / I offer you support should you need it.

 

[JohnTrager1]

Yeah I agree with all the above but I’m also really invested and looking forward to these updates!

 

[sheerq]

Before I get going, this is NOT an erotic story, or work of fiction. Although it may sound like a work of calculated prose, this happened to me a couple of days ago and I am sharing in the hope of getting genuine advice on what to do. (I know what the correct way to deal with this is, but I’d like to see if any other guys would have the same moral dilemma when faced with this situation).

Additionally, if this isn’t the correct thread to post on, please suggest a suitable alternative.

Strap in….

A bit of background: I (36M) have been with my husband (41M- let’s call him Paul) for 15 years, married for 8. We are happy together, successful and have a good sex life. Now, although I enjoy online fun with other guys (chat, pic/vid swap, live cam) my partner doesn’t. We’ve discussed it, but it’s not his thing, which is fine. I however, have been unfaithful in the past (but not for over 10 years). I state this only to set the scene for the moral dilemma I now face.

Last weekend, we visited his family in the north of England for a few nights to celebrate various birthdays- Paul’s, his father’s and his nephew’s who turned 18 last Wednesday (let’s call him Jake). I have known Jake since he was 3 and have watched him grow up into the polite, talented & well-mannered young man he is today. Over the years we have had regular updates on his athleticism (being part of the college football, volleyball and track teams), his academic achievements (top of the class in maths and science and wanting to study architecture), and how he has become a very confident and polite young man. I have only ever known him to have one relationship with a girl from college which ended last summer when she went travelling. His sexuality has never been questioned or discussed- it has never had to be. However, now he is 18, and since I haven’t seen him for nearly 2 years, the change in him is striking.

Upon arrival on Friday afternoon, he greeted us at the door, clothed in a T-shirt and shorts, evidently just back from one of his training sessions. He gave Paul and I a hug and said he was just jumping in the shower and would be down to join us shortly. Whilst I brought the bags from the car, Paul went into the lounge and greeted the rest of his family. As I closed the front door behind me, I looked up the stairs and saw Jake stood at the top, looking down at me, wearing just a towel. I wanted to divert my gaze, but he stood there, staring at me, one hand on his hip, the other arm extended above his head with his hand resting on the wall beside him. He winked at me and turned to go into the bathroom for his shower.

I felt an overwhelming warmth and a thickening in my jeans. Despite being Paul’s nephew, he is, in essence, a handsome, athletic young man, and no longer the boy I’ve spent years watching grow up. And he was flirting with me- I was honestly dumbfounded, as well as aroused and more than a little curious.

The rest of the weekend passed without further incident, except for Jake’s occasional glances and maintained eye contact, which I both dreaded and relished.

Whilst discussing various topics over lunch with the family on Sunday afternoon, the subject of social media arose. Whilst neither Paul nor I have any social media, I do have a “secret” Snapchat account that I regularly use to trade pics & vids and cam with guys online. It’s my porn; and no, Paul doesn’t know I use it. It isn’t linked to any of my personal info, it contain my name and isn’t accessible to my phone contacts. The username is sexual- one that suggests the size and thickness of my manhood.

Whilst showing Jake some pictures on my phone of a house we recently bought to renovate (remember his interest in architecture?), a selfie popped up with an obvious Snapchat filter applied. To be clear, this wasn’t a nude, and had no sexual connotations attached. It was, simply, a filtered selfie. However, he looked at me, square in the eye, and with a smirk said “I didn’t think you had Snapchat..?” I brushed it off and said it was sent to me by someone else as I liked the picture.

As we were leaving and goodbyes were being said, he gave me a hug (which lasted a second too long) and told me to check my phone. Via WhatsApp, he’d sent me his Snapchat account info with a message attached which simply said “Add me” with a wink emoji.

My dilemma: do I add him, or not?

Obviously the moral, professional husband in me is screaming DON’T ADD HIM: there’s only one reason he wants to contact me on Snapchat. But, the highly sexed, gay man in me is curious and wants to see more of this handsome, muscled, 18 year old lad…

What would you guys do? All advice and suggestions, whichever side you fall on, is welcomed.

Don't be a dick. Ignore him online, but if he flirts with you in person, enjoy it for what it is - flirting.

 

[Thick_uncutUK]

Don't be a dick. Ignore him online, but if he flirts with you in person, enjoy it for what it is - flirting.

Shit. Too late

 

[Heyhayden23]

Dude... no. Just no. You're playing with hell fire and one way or another, is going to bite you in the ass. The so called "polite young man" is hitting on his uncle's husband. That's devious as hell, and I wouldn't put it past him to hold that over you either. Just my two cents.

Devious… or my mind is wondering if your husband is behind all of this..