Moral Dilemma. NOT fiction!

[Johnnie89]

Agreed.

I know there is no need to, but I almost feel like future posts should be as if this topic had changed from "dillema" to "so this is happening".

Oooooh forward to updates.

*looking forward to updates.

 

[jisoox]

In my country, this situation would be considered very, very awkward.

Since you saw him growing, like, when he was very young (?), I don't think you should actually add him on Snapchat. Things can be morphing in another context and you need to think that Jake could be your son. I dunno, I think is weird.

But I dont know how semantics of a situation like that works in England. Anyways...

 

[Thick_uncutUK]

In my country, this situation would be considered very, very awkward.

Since you saw him growing, like, when he was very young (?), I don't think you should actually add him on Snapchat. Things can be morphing in another context and you need to think that Jake could be your son. I dunno, I think is weird.

But I dont know how semantics of a situation like that works in England. Anyways...

Where are you from?

 

[Thick_uncutUK]

Okay, so.. strap in. And please remember- this is a GENUINE situation that I am currently living through and everything posted is true. You honestly couldn’t make this up…!

YESTERDAY (Saturday afternoon)

Hubby: I’ve Just had Martin on the phone (His brother, Jake’s dad)
Me: Oh yea? How’s things with him?
Hubby: All good. He was calling to ask if we’d have Jake stay at ours for a few nights in a couple of weeks’ time
Me: Um… why?
Hubby: He’s doing some sort of work experience at {enter local outdoor activity centre located 6 miles from our house here} and wondered if we’d have him stay over as it’s closer to us than it is to their house, and therefore more convenient for Jake to get to
Me: ….
Hubby: What’s wrong? It’ll only be Thursday to Tuesday ..

Now at this point, I’m a little puzzled, to say the least. As previously mentioned, despite his keen interest in sport, Jake’s projected career path has always been architecture and not, as this work experience suggests, outdoor pursuits. But apparently, according to Martin, since arriving back from his college skiing trip, Jake has decided he’d like to get experience working with children in an outdoor setting in addition to, and not instead of, his current curricular studies. The perfect place to do this (now this is important) according to Jake, is the outdoor activity centre located in the next village along from where we live. Jake told Martin that this place is “perfect” for him to work at.

In light of recent developments, I was obviously dumbfounded when Paul (hubby) was telling me this, but of course, had to act nonchalant and even agreeable. Naturally, Paul wholeheartedly, and very generously said we’d be delighted to welcome Jake into our home for a few nights in order for him to gain this valuable experience.

Am I reading too much into the fact that Jake has asked his dad to contact us to ask if he can stay a few nights? Or is this activity centre going to provide a genuine, character-building place that he can embrace and grow from?

Sub note: Jake and I have had more conversations on Snap since my last post; he’s sent some selfies and mirror shots too which I imagine were sent not just to me, but to multiple accounts on his friends list too.

Like I said, is it a legitimate request, or am I thinking too much into this??

 

[Sexb1150]

Okay, so.. strap in. And please remember- this is a GENUINE situation that I am currently living through and everything posted is true. You honestly couldn’t make this up…!

YESTERDAY (Saturday afternoon)

Hubby: I’ve Just had Martin on the phone (His brother, Jake’s dad)
Me: Oh yea? How’s things with him?
Hubby: All good. He was calling to ask if we’d have Jake stay at ours for a few nights in a couple of weeks’ time
Me: Um… why?
Hubby: He’s doing some sort of work experience at {enter local outdoor activity centre located 6 miles from our house here} and wondered if we’d have him stay over as it’s closer to us than it is to their house, and therefore more convenient for Jake to get to
Me: ….
Hubby: What’s wrong? It’ll only be Thursday to Tuesday ..

Now at this point, I’m a little puzzled, to say the least. As previously mentioned, despite his keen interest in sport, Jake’s projected career path has always been architecture and not, as this work experience suggests, outdoor pursuits. But apparently, according to Martin, since arriving back from his college skiing trip, Jake has decided he’d like to get experience working with children in an outdoor setting in addition to, and not instead of, his current curricular studies. The perfect place to do this (now this is important) according to Jake, is the outdoor activity centre located in the next village along from where we live. Jake told Martin that this place is “perfect” for him to work at.

In light of recent developments, I was obviously dumbfounded when Paul (hubby) was telling me this, but of course, had to act nonchalant and even agreeable. Naturally, Paul wholeheartedly, and very generously said we’d be delighted to welcome Jake into our home for a few nights in order for him to gain this valuable experience.

Am I reading too much into the fact that Jake has asked his dad to contact us to ask if he can stay a few nights? Or is this activity centre going to provide a genuine, character-building place that he can embrace and grow from?

Sub note: Jake and I have had more conversations on Snap since my last post; he’s sent some selfies and mirror shots too which I imagine were sent not just to me, but to multiple accounts on his friends list too.

Like I said, is it a legitimate request, or am I thinking too much into this??

What are you two talking about on snap?

 

[dana2]

Okay, so.. strap in. And please remember- this is a GENUINE situation that I am currently living through and everything posted is true. You honestly couldn’t make this up…!


Like I said, is it a legitimate request, or am I thinking too much into this??

One possibility is that it is a legitimate request. The other possibility is that he wants to get close to you physically. Or it could be somewhere in between-the work experience is real but he also sees it as a chance to get close to you. Time will tell. But if you two do get intimate I think it will be difficult to hide it. Once two people have sex and lust after each other, the way they behave around each other changes in ways that are difficult to control and will be picked up by others. So if you end up in naked make out sessions with this guy I think your hubby will find out. For that reason I encourage you to find a sexy young fuck buddy to divert your sexual energy. That will make it easier to resist any advances your hubby's nephew makes.

 

[deleted18388141]

Hi there
Long message made short : DON’T
And DONT THINK OF THIS ANY MORE
This is wrong on so many levels but it seems that you enjoy the danger of being caught doing something wrong!
I have so many similarities with your story and i understand it
But aside of the fact that you are married!
1- you would cheat
2- you would cheat with his family!!!!!!! What the helllllll??????
3- you wiuld cheat with this guy you saw growing up!!! Underlign what the hell many times and put on the bells of war in your head!

i think you should masturbate this out of your system! It excited you that this “young” appolo was playing seduction with u!
I d say, delete the message and delete that snap.. you might make another one later but don t play with FIRE

 

[Inputpower1]

Okay, so.. strap in. And please remember- this is a GENUINE situation that I am currently living through and everything posted is true. You honestly couldn’t make this up…!

YESTERDAY (Saturday afternoon)

Hubby: I’ve Just had Martin on the phone (His brother, Jake’s dad)
Me: Oh yea? How’s things with him?
Hubby: All good. He was calling to ask if we’d have Jake stay at ours for a few nights in a couple of weeks’ time
Me: Um… why?
Hubby: He’s doing some sort of work experience at {enter local outdoor activity centre located 6 miles from our house here} and wondered if we’d have him stay over as it’s closer to us than it is to their house, and therefore more convenient for Jake to get to
Me: ….
Hubby: What’s wrong? It’ll only be Thursday to Tuesday ..

Now at this point, I’m a little puzzled, to say the least. As previously mentioned, despite his keen interest in sport, Jake’s projected career path has always been architecture and not, as this work experience suggests, outdoor pursuits. But apparently, according to Martin, since arriving back from his college skiing trip, Jake has decided he’d like to get experience working with children in an outdoor setting in addition to, and not instead of, his current curricular studies. The perfect place to do this (now this is important) according to Jake, is the outdoor activity centre located in the next village along from where we live. Jake told Martin that this place is “perfect” for him to work at.

In light of recent developments, I was obviously dumbfounded when Paul (hubby) was telling me this, but of course, had to act nonchalant and even agreeable. Naturally, Paul wholeheartedly, and very generously said we’d be delighted to welcome Jake into our home for a few nights in order for him to gain this valuable experience.

Am I reading too much into the fact that Jake has asked his dad to contact us to ask if he can stay a few nights? Or is this activity centre going to provide a genuine, character-building place that he can embrace and grow from?

Sub note: Jake and I have had more conversations on Snap since my last post; he’s sent some selfies and mirror shots too which I imagine were sent not just to me, but to multiple accounts on his friends list too.

Like I said, is it a legitimate request, or am I thinking too much into this??

I think he wants to hang out with you. Did he mention his visit to you in Snap?

 

[stupiditydrdr]

Mmm.... Interesting

 

[Thick_uncutUK]

What are you two talking about on snap?

Just general conversation.. I wake up most mornings to a message from him, or a few pics he’s fired my way

 

[Thick_uncutUK]

I think he wants to hang out with you. Did he mention his visit to you in Snap?

Interestingly no, he never mentioned it.. however since his dad had the conversation with hubby, he has

 

[Snack217]

Would you like to have this done to you? Finding out your husband cheated on you with your young nephew?

Have some self control, people, or dont get involved in serious relationships, or even worse, marry, if you are uncapable of being faithful.

As someone who had his childhood ruined thanks to my dad cheating on my mom and ruining everything for us, if your husband is faithful to you, and you betray him... shame on you.

And shame on everyone else here giving you ideas, hope it happens to all of you just so you know how it feels when someone you trust, listens to their dick more than their brain.

 

[Johnnie89]

I won't be following this story going forward. Before that, it has to be said. OPs relationship is his business and nobody else's. Even if he invites people into his business for opinions, it's still his and his husband's business to do as they please once it is legal.

I just want to highlight that because although I can sympathise and even empathise with the comments on here for what is morally right in everybody's own opinion, it's also important that we be objective. Even if you share what's happened in your life, it's not fair to project and judge. I'm sure the experiences you share weren't what you deserved, but it is not fair to go after OP.

Also, the use of the word young (which can be done the same with old) are creating what I believe to be a false understanding of the actual person's age in this situation. A consensual adult of the age of 18 years old is able to have sexual interactions with anyone of the same age or more. This is not someone underage.

xoxo - Covergirl

 

[Bas bic]

This is coming a month too late but to (mis)quote Demi Lovato: Get a job. Stay away from him.

Where this any other 18yo I would say Fine, what else can you do? That between you and your conscience. Lusting after a barely legal hot man half your age will happen... But you've known said 18yo for most of his life! You where barely older than him now at that time! You've been with his uncle for long enough for me to assume he has at some point called you uncle.
If I've read this thread correctly you are still occasionally chatting with him on the SC account you use to send other men nudes right? The one your husband doesn't know about? If your husband doesn't care you fool around with other men is one thing but how would he feel if he knew you were chatting with his nephew via that medium?
I do not care what the hot horny 18yo intentions are, you've made pretty clear yours to us. You should tell your partner of 15 years where you've been talking to his nephew ( and I say "his" because I don't recall you calling him "our" so it seems you don't think of said nephew as also yours despite being part of that family for long enough for you to have met him when he was probably still in diapers) before he arrives at your house because, again, you are thinking this too much into the situation because the 18yo being an 18 yo and therefore probably kinda dumb in the relevant sense to this situation could have no idea that he is doing something weird and how horny he's making you.

However I will admit that if this whole situation where actually fiction I would think it incredibly hot but you say it's not so... shrug

 

[Man2kiss]

Just read this entire thread tonight.

Thick_uncutUK I don’t think I can say anything more than what has already been said. I hope that whatever happens that it doesn’t harm your family relationship or your relationship. It does seem like you are hoping for something to happen and have from the start, otherwise you would not have a dilemma.​

Having been an 18 year old with a 3 year relationship with someone 20 years older, I can understand that Jake has a lot of learning ahead of him. Anyone interacting with Jake should ask themselves if their interaction is good for Jake, not just good for you.

 

[northernirish]

Tell your husband what he's doing. That will end ALL possibility of anything happening and the the entire situation out of your hands.

100% what I was thinking too. If I was in this situation and had a husband, the last thing I would be thinking of is getting nudes off this young guy. I'd tell my husband about it immediately. And in future situations I myself would feel uncomfortable af around the 18 year old knowing that he thought he could slide in my DMs in the first place when I have a whole husband....

 

[northernirish]

After reading this entire thread, I can't believe how many of you seem to have no sense or morality, and no self control. As for OP and how people have said that he posted this for encouragement and establishing that he should go ahead with a sexually charged conversation involving his husbands nephew that he specified he has known since he was very young... I agree wholeheartedly. OP also has only been liking the comments that seem to say that yes he should definitely engage with the nephew in a sexual way so he has made his intent as clear as day.

You wanted a possible opinion towards your moral dilemma so here it is, I think the entire situation is pretty disgusting, and consenting adult or not, the kid just turned 18. You have decades on him, and a husband by your side. I think considering your own big age it might be time to think with the head on your body, not the one on your dick.

 

[Snack217]

After reading this entire thread, I can't believe how many of you seem to have no sense or morality, and no self control. As for OP and how people have said that he posted this for encouragement and establishing that he should go ahead with a sexually charged conversation involving his husbands nephew that he specified he has known since he was very young... I agree wholeheartedly. OP also has only been liking the comments that seem to say that yes he should definitely engage with the nephew in a sexual way so he has made his intent as clear as day.

You wanted a possible opinion towards your moral dilemma so here it is, I think the entire situation is pretty disgusting, and consenting adult or not, the kid just turned 18. You have decades on him, and a husband by your side. I think considering your own big age it might be time to think with the head on your body, not the one on your dick.

Exactly, its honestly disturbing how many people here have no sense of loyalty.

And if he is liking only the posts that encourage him, then he wasnt looking for an opinion, he was looking for approval because he knows what he is doing is wrong.

But welcome to a forum, asking for an opinion on any topic, can go both ways.

All I can do is hope that when I find love, it wont be with someone with OP's principles.

 

[Sexb1150]

and consenting adult or not, the kid just turned 18. You have decades on him,

This isn't an issue for me. It's the the fact is someone in the family and that he's known the guy since he was a little kid.

 

[northernirish]

Exactly, its honestly disturbing how many people here have no sense of loyalty.

And if he is liking only the posts that encourage him, then he wasnt looking for an opinion, he was looking for approval because he knows what he is doing is wrong.

But welcome to a forum, asking for an opinion on any topic, can go both ways.

All I can do is hope that when I find love, it wont be with someone with OP's principles.

100%, if this was my husband and I ever found out, it would be completely over straight away and I’d make sure everyone knew the reason why.