My wife is kind of a size queen. I think

[Jjjameson999]

Wife and I have been married 9 years we have been together since senior year college. My wife is a sexy lady, very good in bed not overly sexual but when she’s horny she can be kind of a freak. Long story short my wife had an ex boyfriend who had a big dick. She’s petite and fit as can be. When we first started dating 11 years ago she told me all about her ex and was very straight up. She told me he had a very big dick and that she has kept some pics of him. She was totally up front and said she obviously found him very attractive and wanted to keep a few pics. I assume for fantasy purposes. I was totally ok with it because I have pics of exes as well. Of course I don’t show people but yeah I obviously used to masturbate to them. So whatever I was ok with it I understood. Fast foreward years later we are married are sex is very good no complaints. My wife still has pics of his dick and body years later. Again I’m ok with it that’s ancient history. I’m not small he was just really big and obviously my wife admitted she enjoys a really big dick but she still loves fucking me. So she has been 100 percent honest and up front. I assume she masturbates to the thought and the pics of his dick. That’s fine. My question or concern is I would absolutely love to make my wife cum like she did with him but of course I wasn’t as blessed as him. I tried getting her a dildo and she doesn’t like the feel of it. I assume a lot of people on this site have very similar experiences and was wondering if anybody had any ideas on how I can fulfill my wife sexually like he used to. Again our sex is totally fine and she’s never complained but I want to be the guy she masturbates to as well as the guy who gets to fuck her. Any thoughts?
Thank you

 

[lapdog2001]

Wife and I have been married 9 years we have been together since senior year college. My wife is a sexy lady, very good in bed not overly sexual but when she’s horny she can be kind of a freak.

Sounds like you have a fantastic woman who loves having sex with you!

Long story short my wife had an ex boyfriend who had a big dick. When we first started dating 11 years ago she told me all about her ex and was very straight up. She told me he had a very big dick and that she has kept some pics of him. She was totally up front and said she obviously found him very attractive and wanted to keep a few pics. I assume for fantasy purposes. I was totally ok with it because I have pics of exes as well.

I infer that she likes the looks of the guy's body and dick. She with you, and not him, and as you've said, she's happy with you.

Fast forward years later we are married are sex is very good no complaints. My wife still has pics of his dick and body years later. Again I’m ok with it that’s ancient history. I’m not small he was just really big and obviously my wife admitted she enjoys a really big dick but she still loves fucking me. So she has been 100 percent honest and up front.

Sounds like you have a fantastic woman who loves having sex with you!

I assume she masturbates to the thought and the pics of his dick. That’s fine. My question or concern is I would absolutely love to make my wife cum like she did with him but of course I wasn’t as blessed as him. I tried getting her a dildo and she doesn’t like the feel of it.

Lot's of assumptions about what she does with the pics. Also a huge assumption that his larger dick means she had a better sex with him. While a dildo is not the same as a dick, the fact she didn't like the larger size of the dildo is a huge hint for you.

I assume a lot of people on this site have very similar experiences and was wondering if anybody had any ideas on how I can fulfill my wife sexually like he used to. Again our sex is totally fine and she’s never complained but I want to be the guy she masturbates to as well as the guy who gets to fuck her. Any thoughts?
Thank you

I've been with a few women who had been with guys who had larger dicks than mine (I', 7" by 6"). They weren't with those guys anymore, they were with me, giving me compliments on my lovemaking skills, (and yes admiring my large dick). But the point was, and is, they were enjoying sex with me, not the other guy.

You've repeatedly said your sex life is good. What you never said is that your wife was looking for a larger dick experience again. Based on everything you've written, it sounds like you have a good marriage with a good sex life. Why not ask your wife if there's anything that you (not some ghost of a past lover's dick) can do to give her greater satisfaction?

 

[Jjjameson999]

Sounds like you have a fantastic woman who loves having sex with you!


I infer that she likes the looks of the guy's body and dick. She with you, and not him, and as you've said, she's happy with you.


Sounds like you have a fantastic woman who loves having sex with you!


Lot's of assumptions about what she does with the pics. Also a huge assumption that his larger dick means she had a better sex with him. While a dildo is not the same as a dick, the fact she didn't like the larger size of the dildo is a huge hint for you.


I've been with a few women who had been with guys who had larger dicks than mine (I', 7" by 6"). They weren't with those guys anymore, they were with me, giving me compliments on my lovemaking skills, (and yes admiring my large dick). But the point was, and is, they were enjoying sex with me, not the other guy.

You've repeatedly said your sex life is good. What you never said is that your wife was looking for a larger dick experience again. Based on everything you've written, it sounds like you have a good marriage with a good sex life. Why not ask your wife if there's anything that you (not some ghost of a past lover's dick) can do to give her greater satisfaction?

I have asked her and she said no nothing really she told me I do everything just fine. She’s said that it was just more intense with him because he filled her out more I guess. And I guess he can do more positions based on his size.

 

[Jjjameson999]

And no I don’t think she like wants to fuck her ex again I don’t think it’s like a swinger type deal but I do think she masturbates to his pics once in a while in fact I know she has she’s admitted that. But it’s similar to me watching porn and jerking off so it doesn’t bother me. I just wish I could give her a mind blowing orgasm like she said he has. I definitely make her cum but she said it was just more intense back in the day with him. She also mentioned hormones and stuff may affect that which I guess makes sense. She likes it rough and hard and sometimes I’ll fuck her as hard and deep as I can and I feel it’s just not enough. I mean not much else I can do I guess

 

[lapdog2001]

And no I don’t think she like wants to fuck her ex again I don’t think it’s like a swinger type deal but I do think she masturbates to his pics once in a while in fact I know she has she’s admitted that. But it’s similar to me watching porn and jerking off so it doesn’t bother me. I just wish I could give her a mind blowing orgasm like she said he has. I definitely make her cum but she said it was just more intense back in the day with him. She also mentioned hormones and stuff may affect that which I guess makes sense. She likes it rough and hard and sometimes I’ll fuck her as hard and deep as I can and I feel it’s just not enough. I mean not much else I can do I guess

Thanks for the clarifications and pertinent details. Have you considered trying a penis sleeve? It would give you both length and girth, and it would still be you doing the sex thing!

In my case while my length (7") is above average, but my girth (6") is in the 99th percentile, so it's the combination of both, but especially the girth, that has given women that "full" feeling when I'm inside them.

Most of the women I've been with could only orgasm via oral and/or digital stimulation, no matter what man it was (or his size) in their lives. Go down on her until she orgasms, and if she one of the ~20% of women that can have orgasms via intercourse, then give her another that way. Basically ask her what she wants and how she likes it. That goes a really long way to sexual satisfaction.

 

[8inchy]

i completely agree with lapdog2001. Give a sleeve a try. Tommy Gunn adds a lot but does not have a ball strap

 

[Jjjameson999]

i completely agree with lapdog2001. Give a sleeve a try. Tommy Gunn adds a lot but does not have a ball strap

I’ve thought about that. I’ll look into it

 

[RaskaYu]

Again our sex is totally fine and she’s never complained but I want to be the guy she masturbates to as well as the guy who gets to fuck her.

I don't know man I hardly masturbate thinking of my wife. Not that I can't because she's a cutie pie and a sex goddess but masturbating implies fantasy and fantasy implies what's outside of reach, being that her ex or Ryan Gosling or whoever she decides at that moment because that probably depends on how you're feeling that particular day, don't you think?

Back on topic I think you may be overthinking it. Back when I didn't know I was big I asked two girlfriends what they thought of my meat and they said "Pretty alright but that's not big you should have seen my ex. What a monster." — In reality sex was perfectly fine but I found those comments thought-provoking. They vastly prefered my cock, but simply didn't find it to be so impressive.

Let's consider how one of those monstercock ex was a violent over-political bonehead she dated the summer before college and the other was a rapist yunkie. If you're q "complete" well rounded man, you've got more than at least 80% of blokes out there.

 

[WilliamG]

I’ve thought about that. I’ll look into it

The nice thing about a penis sleeve is that you are just pushing a dildo into her. My wife is one of those that is self conscious with me putting one in her. But on your dick... She has your body to hang on to and your face to look at. Much more intimate. Pro tip: Run is under warm water prior so it feels more natural to her. Check out the Vixen Creations "Vixskin" line. They feel VERY close to real.

 

[figgnewton]

Wife and I have been married 9 years we have been together since senior year college. My wife is a sexy lady, very good in bed not overly sexual but when she’s horny she can be kind of a freak. Long story short my wife had an ex boyfriend who had a big dick. She’s petite and fit as can be. When we first started dating 11 years ago she told me all about her ex and was very straight up. She told me he had a very big dick and that she has kept some pics of him. She was totally up front and said she obviously found him very attractive and wanted to keep a few pics. I assume for fantasy purposes. I was totally ok with it because I have pics of exes as well. Of course I don’t show people but yeah I obviously used to masturbate to them. So whatever I was ok with it I understood. Fast foreward years later we are married are sex is very good no complaints. My wife still has pics of his dick and body years later. Again I’m ok with it that’s ancient history. I’m not small he was just really big and obviously my wife admitted she enjoys a really big dick but she still loves fucking me. So she has been 100 percent honest and up front. I assume she masturbates to the thought and the pics of his dick. That’s fine. My question or concern is I would absolutely love to make my wife cum like she did with him but of course I wasn’t as blessed as him. I tried getting her a dildo and she doesn’t like the feel of it. I assume a lot of people on this site have very similar experiences and was wondering if anybody had any ideas on how I can fulfill my wife sexually like he used to. Again our sex is totally fine and she’s never complained but I want to be the guy she masturbates to as well as the guy who gets to fuck her. Any thoughts?
Thank you

Just leave it alone. If she is giving you all that good sex why start problems. If she masturbates privately with those pics then be happy she's fucking YOU . Dont open the Pandora's box that you can't put back. My wife isn't fake cock even a small one. She prefers the real thing. I'm about 6" not too thick but give the sides hell ! If she's happy thy will be done. Don't complicate what you have. Be happy she's not fooling around with some big cocks !

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[Roudiest]

Try giving her a hand job. You'd be surprised the results you get

 

[FrankieGuile]

Wife and I have been married 9 years we have been together since senior year college. My wife is a sexy lady, very good in bed not overly sexual but when she’s horny she can be kind of a freak. Long story short my wife had an ex boyfriend who had a big dick. She’s petite and fit as can be. When we first started dating 11 years ago she told me all about her ex and was very straight up. She told me he had a very big dick and that she has kept some pics of him. She was totally up front and said she obviously found him very attractive and wanted to keep a few pics. I assume for fantasy purposes. I was totally ok with it because I have pics of exes as well. Of course I don’t show people but yeah I obviously used to masturbate to them. So whatever I was ok with it I understood. Fast foreward years later we are married are sex is very good no complaints. My wife still has pics of his dick and body years later. Again I’m ok with it that’s ancient history. I’m not small he was just really big and obviously my wife admitted she enjoys a really big dick but she still loves fucking me. So she has been 100 percent honest and up front. I assume she masturbates to the thought and the pics of his dick. That’s fine. My question or concern is I would absolutely love to make my wife cum like she did with him but of course I wasn’t as blessed as him. I tried getting her a dildo and she doesn’t like the feel of it. I assume a lot of people on this site have very similar experiences and was wondering if anybody had any ideas on how I can fulfill my wife sexually like he used to. Again our sex is totally fine and she’s never complained but I want to be the guy she masturbates to as well as the guy who gets to fuck her. Any thoughts?
Thank you

If your "sex is totally fine and she's never complained" then on what basis do you believe you do not "make [her] cum like she did with him?" Something tells me you get off more on thinking about her with her ex than she does. A good first step in the right direction to conquer your emotional struggle is to ditch the photos of your ex's and for her to do the same. There is nothing liberated or cool or hot or forward-thinking about making your past the present. A good second step in the right direction is to stop thinking about another guy's dick and focus on what you can do for your wife's enjoyment.

 

[elklindoxxx]

Wife and I have been married 9 years we have been together since senior year college. My wife is a sexy lady, very good in bed not overly sexual but when she’s horny she can be kind of a freak. Long story short my wife had an ex boyfriend who had a big dick. She’s petite and fit as can be. When we first started dating 11 years ago she told me all about her ex and was very straight up. She told me he had a very big dick and that she has kept some pics of him. She was totally up front and said she obviously found him very attractive and wanted to keep a few pics. I assume for fantasy purposes. I was totally ok with it because I have pics of exes as well. Of course I don’t show people but yeah I obviously used to masturbate to them. So whatever I was ok with it I understood. Fast foreward years later we are married are sex is very good no complaints. My wife still has pics of his dick and body years later. Again I’m ok with it that’s ancient history. I’m not small he was just really big and obviously my wife admitted she enjoys a really big dick but she still loves fucking me. So she has been 100 percent honest and up front. I assume she masturbates to the thought and the pics of his dick. That’s fine. My question or concern is I would absolutely love to make my wife cum like she did with him but of course I wasn’t as blessed as him. I tried getting her a dildo and she doesn’t like the feel of it. I assume a lot of people on this site have very similar experiences and was wondering if anybody had any ideas on how I can fulfill my wife sexually like he used to. Again our sex is totally fine and she’s never complained but I want to be the guy she masturbates to as well as the guy who gets to fuck her. Any thoughts?
Thank you

So you are basically asking yourself whether or not you are fuckable...from a physical perspective I presume.

I may catch some flack for this, but I like to get in front of the mirror, get an erection and admire my lean muscular physique in the mirror. And I know without a doubt that I am the go to guy for my partner....

When you see yourself naked in front of the mirror...do you think you are fuckable? And be honest with yourself. It's not rocket science. Let's get real here, we are all grown men and should know by now what women find sexually attractive in men.

 

[Jjjameson999]

So you are basically asking yourself whether or not you are fuckable...from a physical perspective I presume.

I may catch some flack for this, but I like to get in front of the mirror, get an erection and admire my lean muscular physique in the mirror. And I know without a doubt that I am the go to guy for my partner....

When you see yourself naked in front of the mirror...do you think you are fuckable? And be honest with yourself. It's not rocket science. Let's get real here, we are all grown men and should know by now what women find sexually attractive in men.

Lol I’m definitely fuckable. And she fucks me. She just admittedly enjoyed sex with him and his big dick more. She’s since admitted it to me. Just not sure how to feel considering I can’t help how I was made lol I mean I have a pretty good size dick. She says my technique is good and she’s totally happy but he filled her up more and to her that increased the pleasure. What can I do I can’t really do much about that so I shouldn’t really worry about what I can’t control

 

[Jjjameson999]

If your "sex is totally fine and she's never complained" then on what basis do you believe you do not "make [her] cum like she did with him?" Something tells me you get off more on thinking about her with her ex than she does. A good first step in the right direction to conquer your emotional struggle is to ditch the photos of your ex's and for her to do the same. There is nothing liberated or cool or hot or forward-thinking about making your past the present. A good second step in the right direction is to stop thinking about another guy's dick and focus on what you can do for your wife's enjoyment.

Lol I don’t think about his dick she does

 

[Jjjameson999]

Just leave it alone. If she is giving you all that good sex why start problems. If she masturbates privately with those pics then be happy she's fucking YOU . Dont open the Pandora's box that you can't put back. My wife isn't fake cock even a small one. She prefers the real thing. I'm about 6" not too thick but give the sides hell ! If she's happy thy will be done. Don't complicate what you have. Be happy she's not fooling around with some big cocks !

.

We’ll see that’s what I’m afraid of. Like is she gonna have temptation to cheat on me with her ex. I have no reason to ever question her loyalty but when a woman tells you that she enjoyed sex with her ex more how would you feel? I’m not worrying about it much anymore we had a talk and she explained what she meant

 

[FrankieGuile]

Lol I don’t think about his dick she does

So you say. The general tone of your original post causes curious minds to wonder. In any event, the issue is easily addressed by you, assuming you have the will to address it, because the issue is self-created. Only you can know why you perpetuate it, though I have my suspicions.

 

[Ranxerox]

I'm in the "try a sleeve" camp... You can even try a cock ring to give her a bit more girth!

I think she will really enjoy that! She will make some different noises, and that's going to make you even harder, and make you feel powerful! Have fun!

Roxx.

 

[Jjjameson999]

I'm in the "try a sleeve" camp... You can even try a cock ring to give her a bit more girth!

I think she will really enjoy that! She will make some different noises, and that's going to make you even harder, and make you feel powerful! Have fun!

Roxx.

How does the cock ring work exactly you just put it on soft and get hard? I’m scared of it getting stuck lol freaks me out

 

[Ranxerox]

How does the cock ring work exactly you just put it on soft and get hard? I’m scared of it getting stuck lol freaks me out

Just try a silicone one a little smaller than your girth... They stretch, so you can always get it off no matter what. I always put it before the balls, not behind for that reason!

Roxx.