Need opinions on how to deal with cheating

[Sagittarius84]

She uttered after blatantly disrespecting him.

I think much like some of the undesirable tendencies of men that often get euphemised in our relationships with women, I think a lot of women have a very distorted(and self important) definition of wat respect for a man entails...my guess is she's nice to him to his face and so that's respect in her eyes, she can't comprehend how acting on her feelings at the time could ever be disrespectful(textbook solipsism)

 

[AllieHeidi]

I think much like some of the undesirable tendencies of men that often get euphemised in our relationships with women, I think a lot of women have a very distorted(and self important) definition of wat respect for a man entails...my guess is she's nice to him to his face and so that's respect in her eyes, she can't comprehend how acting on her feelings at the time could ever be disrespectful(textbook solipsism)

Have you considered talking to a professional about your fairly obvious issues with women? I truly recommend it as someone who used to have the same problem, but in reverse. Once you start taking one person's behavior and haphazardly applying it to the collective of whatever demographic they belong to, it becomes unhealthy.

She has the problem. Leave other women out of it.

 

[Sagittarius84]

Have you considered talking to a professional about your fairly obvious issues with women?

Honestly, very early on I've already spoken to counselors about my relationships with women. It was established very early on I had an ability to compartmentalize how I interact with women, vs the observations I have of them and subsequent opinions. I had an abusive grandmother whom parroted the very same sentiment as you the moment I was brave enough to start voicing my own opinions and took in me into family an individual counseling as a result. She wasn't too happy when the therapist suggested my ability to see her specific behaviors play out to lots of women at scale was probably the healthiest response as far as making sure I never ended up in what I felt like I was in an abused position again.
You ever find it interesting that we applaud women's ability to see potential abuse coming from mildly or currently non abusive men when they have endured it on a major scale previously, but when men exercise that same ability it's automatically seen as "issues with women"?
....And this is after I first made sure to hold men specifically accountable for their undesirable tendencies
But go on, fill me in on #notallwomen

 

[AllieHeidi]

Honestly, very early on I've already spoken to counselors about my relationships with women. It was established very early on I had an ability to compartmentalize how I interact with women, vs the observations I have of them and subsequent opinions. I had an abusive grandmother whom parroted the very same sentiment as you the moment I was brave enough to start voicing my own opinions and took in me into family an individual counseling as a result. She wasn't too happy when the therapist suggested my ability to see her specific behaviors play out to lots of women at scale was probably the healthiest response as far as making sure I never ended up in what I felt like I was in an abused position again.
You ever find it interesting that we applaud women's ability to see potential abuse coming from mildly or currently non abusive men when they have endured it on a major scale previously, but when men exercise that same ability it's automatically seen as "issues with women"?
....And this is after I first made sure to hold men specifically accountable for their undesirable tendencies
But go on, fill me in on #notallwomen

I am not going to argue with you. Your own personal issues with women are not the topic of this thread. If you wish to soliloquize on that further, start a thread about it. This thread is about one woman cheating on her partner.

If you find yourself unable to criticize her specifically and instead choose to incorporate women you don't even know into this matter due to your own unresolved issues and dysfunctional upbringing, that is 100% a you problem and this isn't the place for it.

As I've stated previously, start your own thread or go back to counseling. Maybe both. Routinely derailing threads with these endless lamentations about "how women are" is beyond tired.