"Performers?"
So like I discussed on email recently that I never got proper replies on, this issue is not as black-and-white as you all seem to simplistically think it is. How do you define "bullying" exactly for instance? Is it when you reply in self-defense to an UNPROVOKED bullying email cloaked in fake "politeness" by calling them out on their bullshit, hypocrisy and disrespect? There are some noobs here who act like they own the site and bully others into abiding by "their rules" through careful wordiing that avoids language that would technically not be considered bullying but are clearly intended to offend and bully others into submission, knowing full well that others would react honestly like any normal human being who is subjected to being degraded/humiliated publicly and that is to then use language that would be ironically considered "bullying" by the trigger-happy moderators who may have genuine frustration over the real aggressors and would just dismiss the case as just another "garden variety" offense without reading the full exchange and investigation of the conflict history that may span several threads over a long period of time? (Of course, I understand who wants to do that?! I wouldn't either. Lol)
But aren't passive-aggressive "signatures" or "instructions" to just post porn, click "like" and not to bother with (God forbid it just uses up an inch of digital space!) the simple yet gracious act of saying "THANK YOU" (you're not only NOT supposed to discuss on this discussion forum anymore, you're not to even "waste" precious bytes on expressions of gratitude on people whose generosity you came here solely for, wow!!! WTF are these "people?!" Absolute porn ad-dicks who can't afford it so they feel entitled to be given it for free?) that actually encourages a genuinely friendly and respectful community that makes sure generous members and contributors (of ideas and information also, not just porn) feel appreciated and not disrespected, which would then encourage others in a chain reaction to share instead of constantly being in fear if they might get banned and punished for their good deeds or even (gasp!) defending themselves or their opinions. Happier community, less hot heads, less fights, less micro-managing and policing! See?
When you've just been discussing the topic at hand using proper sentence and paragraph structures and punctuation (remember those ancient days?!) in the mature and civil manner with others in the thread but, because these noobs came here for the obvious sole purpose of just collecting porn for free and not to discuss and exchange information and opinions at all on a MESSAGEBOARD/DISCUSSION FORUM that was originally created for that main purpose, they somehow thought anything longer than "any nude pics or video clips on him?" or "Bump" if you're not posting copyrighted or even private material, you're OFF-TOPIC or actually in violation of the "unspoken rules" they have in mind. So they then feel "entitled" to order you around to move the discussion to PM? [Put yourself in my shoes for a minute and imagine you were discussing the day's topic in class with some classmates calmly and enthusiastically and then this new transferee came in LATE and proceeded to "nicely & politely" ask you all to STFU because he needed to cram for an exam for another class that day. So you exclaimed "WTF!" and then he doubles, triples, quadruples down on it. The teacher then AGREES WITH HIM and suspends you or the whole class just to add more WTFs and insult to wounds.] This is an act that is just as bad if not actually worse than cursing someone out in terms of the utter DISRESPECT for the equal rights of everyone to express themselves and their views. At least the cursers are honest, sincere and aren't disguising their disdain and real intent and they're not denying your own right to curse back or even just speak freely. This form of bullying is worse because it has the intention of DECEIT on top of the main offense not only on its main object of attack but mainly on the managers of the site whom they are actually USING by clever manipulation to then do their bidding for them. You are being controlled but you feel like you're just doing your jobs and the actual agrieved party is "the enemy." It's like a spit in everyone's drinks instead of in their faces. So then you pat yourselves and each other on the back for keeping the community "friendly" and fearful, but none the wiser in seeing the root causes and how rigid rules that do not consider the FULL CONTEXT and NUANCE of the issues and the REAL INTENTIONS of those involved behind their superficial words and actions only manage to create and maintain the APPEARANCE of peace and order while ironically disregarding the very purpose of real peace and order, which is not to foment resentment and fake "politeness" instead of engendering REAL RESPECT FOR EACH OTHER AND THEIR RIGHTS among the community members.
Let's be clear here, Mr. LPSG. With all due respect, those violations you cited are no-brainer, obvious ones that no one sane and rational would disagree with should not be acceptable in any community, so much so that they should go almost without stating. But for most real situations, stuff committed are nowhere near as bad or clear-cut like I just illustrated. At least as far as I am concerned.
This is, of course, apart from the heated arguments that are simply UNAVOIDABLE in any discussion forum and really aren't as much of a big deal as simply scrolling past them when they don't concern or interest you. Show me a "democratic" forum or system where everyone just agreed in perfect harmony and I'll show you that it's actually China or even North Korea, which would only be okay if you're into propaganda and not into providing freedom for the citizens. The bitching about bitching about bitching is actually not only unhelpful, hypocritical, tone-deaf and funny, they're also adding fuel to the fire that they claim to hate ever so dramatically because they believe in their "perfection" as if they lived in North Korea themselves and really believed it was paradise when they were just involved in some fight over dumb stuff recently. But there, they can add another pat on their own back, if that makes them feel better for a minute.
