I can’t stay hard while using the Aneros for some reason, unless I’m about to have a dry orgasm. Does stroking “distract” the prostate, if that makes sense?
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Lay down a towel if you need one where you're working your prostate and just let the "piss come out" and keep going don't let up. I get this feeling but its the reaching PONR for a very strong prostate orgasm that results in an extremely calm and "washing over me" sensation, much like my wife says some of her orgasms feel like. Aneros users call it a "calm seas" orgasm. I liken it to the scare I feel as the roller coaster goes up to the top and then at the peak its a release of tension, and instead of a racing thrill downhill its more of just a smooth, slow gentle decline down to baseline.
Yes DO NOT touch your cock. It resets your prostate and anal pleasure centers back to zero. There is an urge, sure, to grab it and just feel all that pleasure. But even just a light touch of the shaft can derail a prostate orgasm. It does way more than "distract" it "derails" and prevents the cascading anal automatic contractions that propel the Aneros into an autofuck mode that will fuck your ass and hit your prostate rhythmically, which makes you have a prostate orgasm.
I'm usually never, ever hard when I have prostate Os and super Os. My cock kind of goes from flaccid to semi, sometimes almost hard, and then as pleasure ramps up and my prostate is making me feel like I"m about to have an O, my cock goes into "extreme shrivel" mode and I have massive, eye rolling orgasms. All my best of best Os are when I'm not anywhere near hard. If you do get hard before you have a dry, or prostate, hands-free orgasm, that's just how your urogenital system works when it gets off in different ways. I have Os when I'm hard too, don't get me wrong, but they aren't the same, they are less frequent, and sometimes not as good as when I'm soft.
So when I have prostate Os, there is a ramping up almost full body thing going on, blood racing, head moving slightly out of control, my hands are working my nipples on autopilot, and my pelvis starts getting very busy inside, almost the feeling of PONR when I'm about to cum normally with my cock. The toy is moving all on its own I cannot control my anus and it is propelling the toy and not me making it do that. then all of a sudden, it just kind of "stops," there is a realization, a "black out" instant like when I shoot cum normally during penile orgasm, and then a full body and mind relaxation a complete AHHHHHHHHHHH feeling and the toy starts moving in and out rhythmically at the same rate and pulsation as my normal penile orgasm. I relax, my whole body loosens up, and its just utter and absolute bliss. Then, because the toy is in me still, it just starts up again, and blammo its happening again sometimes in seconds or a minute or two later.
I also have this thing happen where my anus clenches up really tight on the toy and I can't purposefully relax it. It feels like I'm consciously making it clench down, but I'm also consciously trying hard to release. That tug of war between body and mind is the moment, those handful of seconds, when my body is reeling for some kind of release, blood racing, muscles tight against my will, and then I orgasm, and the toy starts moving as my anus releases and I'm having an amazing orgasm. If you feel like your body is clamping down on the toy just let it do its thing and wait to see what happens. I call this "cumming out of control" which is something men have a hard time doing unless someone is making it happen to them.
That intense feeling of almost peeing or cumming, which felt amazing for you, what happened AFTER that feeling ended? Physically, did the toy move on its own? Did you relax and feel a sense of release and a "wow, I'm done" kind of feeling?
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I'm 50. Been fucked many times. Bought every toy imaginable, and still cannot find my prostate. I've explored thoroughly in there but there is no 'magic button' or anything. I don't know what I'm doing wrong. I hear such great things about the prostate and would love to experience what everyone else is talking about...
You've felt inside with your finger? If so, have you felt any kind of bump or round slightly "helmet-shaped" thing that your finger can pass over and it makes you say "there's something like a large flat marble slightly protruding there"? I'm sure you've seen diagrams or heard/read of where the prostate is, its in the wall on the penis-side of your rectum. Has a doctor ever given you a prostate exam before and if so did they comment on it? Sometimes the prostate can be super small or hardly noticeable, but its there. Just wondering and asking with hopes of helping you out if I can!
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Go back up and look at my post showing that black prostate wand. It should help a lot. I like to stand with one leg up on a counter. Then you're free to work it from behind. It should be right at the base of your cock from the inside. Think of pushing you cock out with the wand. For me I have to be pretty rough.
BTW, I just checked your pics... I'm available for in-person consultations...
I kinda stopped after, because again I didn't wanna piss everywhere and wet my bed. Physically, I think the Aneros was just doing its own thing, and making subtle movements. I definitely did feel relaxed (a bit dazed, to be honest) after all that though and I couldn't believe what just happened. It's something I've never felt before. Also I get pretty verbal when using the Aneros. I'm naturally very quiet when jerking off normally, and I don't make noise at all. But when I'm using the Aneros I just start moaning and cursing uncontrollably.
Thanks for sharing. I was rock hard, like insanely hard when I was getting close to the prostate o. When it hit, I didn't lose my erection at all. Even after, I was still rock hard. I'm flaccid at the start obviously, or when I haven't touched my nipples yet.
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Yes, felt with my finger...nothing. I know where it should be located, I've done a ton of research, but really can't find it. Never had a prostate exam.
The closest I've come to finding it was using an Njoy wand. The kind that's metal and shaped like a wide 'U' with 2 steel balls on the ends. I played with that once and briefly found a spot that kind of felt 'different'. Only slightly pleasurable, and made me leak some cum. But it was nothing to write home about. Subsequent trials didn't result in anything.
Before that tried an Aneros Progasm, but that thing is just stupid... It won't stay in, keeps popping out. I know you're supposed to relax and let the thing do it's thing, but since it won't stay in it didn't do anything for me.
I like to put something in there and walk around in public with it, feels naughty to me. Having it pop out in like the supermarket would be the last thing I need!
This weekend I'm going to try this other toy that has a heavy steel ball inside at the end that moves around when you walk. Reviews were good and it sounds interesting. If it moves around and hits the prostate (which is what people have said), then I figured it's worth a shot anyway.
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Go back up and look at my post showing that black prostate wand. It should help a lot. I like to stand with one leg up on a counter. Then you're free to work it from behind. It should be right at the base of your cock from the inside. Think of pushing you cock out with the wand. For me I have to be pretty rough.
BTW, I just checked your pics... I'm available for in-person consultations...
I haven't tried a wand like that, but it totally makes sense and looks like it would hit the exact spot. I have considered going that route, and may. I have one that I just mentioned in a previous post, so depending if that's a pass or fail, this type would be next on my list.
And thanks
Sounds to me like you found it with the Njoy wand, its a good wand for sure, in the 20 years of anal play I've never gotten one before. If it made you leak some cum, you were most certainly on your prostate.
The Progasm model you have is probably the old original shape. It was notorious for slipping/falling/shooting out of users, me included! Its since been redesigned with a more tapered base and it stays in, literally it locks in, now and I'm having a much better time with it; all users are enjoying it more than the old original model.
Butt plugs sound like what you are seeking, especially for walking around, etc. Mind sharing the name or a link to the steel ball toy you're describing that you are trying this weekend? It sounds cool!
I wanted to add that if the Njoy got some stimulation going for you, enough to make you leak cum, you should relax a little into it, keep the sensation going, keep the movements you're making to evoke that feeling and cum leaking the same, and push in slightly harder. You will start to feel it more and more, sometimes contact on my prostate is light at the beginning of stimulation but minutes into it the feeling is stronger and its more sensitive and accepting of stimulation. You have one of the best prostate wands ever made in the Njoy, I'd just keep at it with that one. Many men have been in your shoes and only the Njoy has brought them the feelings they have missed.I haven't tried a wand like that, but it totally makes sense and looks like it would hit the exact spot. I have considered going that route, and may. I have one that I just mentioned in a previous post, so depending if that's a pass or fail, this type would be next on my list.
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I'll try to focus more on using the Njoy wand. It's hard to me to find the time to dedicate to just enjoying the solo pleasure with something like that. That's why I like something I can plug in and move around with it.
That's probably it with the Progasm. 'Shooting out' are the right words lol! One second it's fine, the next it's blasted out and snaking down my leg...
The one I got but haven't used yet is from a company called Heavy Hitters. Here's the link from Amazon: https://www.amazon.com/dp/B08LQSY7PB?ref=ppx_yo2ov_dt_b_product_details&th=1
cool toy, the weight must be awesome to feel! Yah the Progasm really only works when I lie down on my back and let it do its thing. Time is what is really needed for prostate pleasure and hands-free orgasms, there are some faster ways to get there but its a delicate gland and takes some coaxing and patience to make it respond. But weighted plugs might make things feel really good for you and wind up stimulating you through movement like walking. Smaller Aneros models, like the Eupho, move around inside me and wiggle around when I have it in me while walking around. I can't orgasm this way, but it feels fucking amazing!
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Yeah, I mean that's what I'm really looking for, something that feels amazing. HF orgasm or prostate orgasm, those would be nice but not necessarily my goal. I just been hearing my whole life about how great the prostate is, but could never experience it myself. I don't think my expectations are too high, as I don't (except for the wand a little bit once) feel anything special in there really. I'll let you know how the weighted one does.
I use only a drop of lube on the tip of the Aneros - just to get started in. Too much lube and it pops out.
Buy an Aneros, highly reccommend it. But for me at least, you gotta be really horny and turned on to feel pleasure. So that means rubbing my nipples and watching porn. The prostate works differently compared to the penis, and the prostate needs "warming up". You also can't aggressively stimulate it without and foreplay, so you gotta start slow. Be relaxed, horny, and in the right mood for prostate play.
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Yeah, I mean that's what I'm really looking for, something that feels amazing. HF orgasm or prostate orgasm, those would be nice but not necessarily my goal. I just been hearing my whole life about how great the prostate is, but could never experience it myself. I don't think my expectations are too high, as I don't (except for the wand a little bit once) feel anything special in there really. I'll let you know how the weighted one does.
Well, tried the weighted one yesterday. Not easy to insert as the insertable part is rather small, but removing it was much easier than others. It was different, but again nothing to write home about... Didn't feel much walking around, but rocking back and forth in a chair a bit was actually nice. You can really feel the weighted ball move inside hitting the front and back. Nothing crazy, but a little pleasant. No danger of slipping out due to the skinny stem, it stayed put. But maybe it was too small. I ordered the medium size, maybe I should have used the large. Reviews say the larger ones are hard to remove. One person said they couldn't get it out and had to 'let it pass' (jeez!). My biggest fear was that the stem could break upon trying to remove the thing, as it's very thin (less than 1/4 inch), but when it came time I didn't sense it would.
One thing that popped in my mind instantly when I was rocking on the chair was using it while horseback riding with it. I think THAT would have made a big difference. Man, I totally believe that would be the ultimate experience!
I noticed after I bought it that they make a specific prostate one, angled to hit it with 2 weighted balls inside. I think that will be my next trial. These are so inexpensive yet are of high quality (just over $20!). Even the box has a lot of attention to detail, and it doesn't feel like cheap China garbage. It doesn't say where it was made though.
For the other poster here, I have tried 3 different Aneros over the years. I started with the original one, then another that I don't remember the model of, and lastly was the Progasm but it was suggested I had the earlier design because it did not want to stay in, kept popping out.
So overall, my experiences have resulted in the following ratings:
All toy including Aneros (excluding the ones below): 1/10
Heavy Hitters Weighted: 2/10
Njoy Wand: 4/10
The elusive quest to find that thing up in there... Unless everything I've read is wrong, I don't know... Stories and accounts all say once you find it, there's no mistaking it. Njoy may have found it once, but it was nothing special really, just a little different. The quest continues...
As I replied just recently, I put only a drop of lube on the top of the Aneros - just enuff to lube the sphinter so I can start putting it in; more than a drop and it pops out. I have had enough experience that I can easily insert. GREAT feeling, especially sitting and rocking on it. Makes my dick really hard !!
Straight, gay or fluid, anal stimulation is a great experience.
