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[yawshaw]

Hey guys,
Am 22 and I started dating my boyfriend since September and we officially became together since February. The problem is I guess I am a polyamorous and I know for sure he is a monogamous. We live in a homophobic country, you can imagine the risks, so we have zero to little sexual experience, in our case I was more sexually active than him. We had sex only once because finding a safe place is hard and also his sexual activity and libido isn't high as mine. The problem is that I am fantasizing being with other men and making my sexual fantasies and kinks come true. Actually I have many chances to meet these men in their safe places to hook up, but I refuse because I do really love my boyfriend, but I can't stop thinking about them and how they make me horny. I don't know if this is because I am sexually frustrated, I have little experience so I wanna experience a lot of things and fantasies, or I am really a polyamorous.
I don't know what to do and I really hate that situation
Give me an advice please

 

[tps87]

You are young, it sounds like you aren't ready to settle down yet. Maybe if the boyfriend wanted to have sex more often and was into trying new things that would be enough? Or maybe you just want to experiment with a variety of guys? To start with you need to decide that. If the former then you can work on that with him. Tell him what you want to try with him. He may surprise you and be on board. As for experience you can learn together. Plenty of videos out there to give you ideas. If it is really about just having experience with different people maybe you can open up the relationship? That doesn't work for everyone but maybe it would for you two. Maybe you can do this together and bring in a third person or meet up with the third person at their safe place.

If the issue is having a safe/private place for alone time with him, that is something you two could work to fix. Make money, rent your own place or rent it together as roommates to split expenses. Then you can do what you want whenever you want.

 

[HungBtmVegas]

Hey guys,
Am 22 and I started dating my boyfriend since September and we officially became together since February. The problem is I guess I am a polyamorous and I know for sure he is a monogamous. We live in a homophobic country, you can imagine the risks, so we have zero to little sexual experience, in our case I was more sexually active than him. We had sex only once because finding a safe place is hard and also his sexual activity and libido isn't high as mine. The problem is that I am fantasizing being with other men and making my sexual fantasies and kinks come true. Actually I have many chances to meet these men in their safe places to hook up, but I refuse because I do really love my boyfriend, but I can't stop thinking about them and how they make me horny. I don't know if this is because I am sexually frustrated, I have little experience so I wanna experience a lot of things and fantasies, or I am really a polyamorous.
I don't know what to do and I really hate that situation
Give me an advice please

Unless one of you are willing to make a lifestyle change, it's not going to work. You see sexual openness, he'll see you cheating, which is absolutely what that'd be

 

[wvgwm52]

Guys are saying things like maybe if have sex more often.. but you stated that where you live at it’s hard to do .. some countries homosexuality is totally illegal and frowned upon..

And as long as there are laws promoting hate then homosexuals don’t stand a chance.

I grew up kind of naive about sexuality .. I never even knew what a homosexual was at a certain age.. then I asked why guys were picking on a friend at school and they told me what he was .. I was like so.. told my friend come on then they picked on me and him and I punched and kicked them while they were on the ground told them if gonna pick a fight pick on someone you can handle..

I played bodyguard to my friend for 4 years.. he was kind of girly even more than I was and I didn’t think that was possible …

mine say he tried to hide a black eye from me .. it took me several times asking who did it.. I went to his class room he was in. Knocked to floor started punching f his face .. others pulled me off him blood all over his face.. told him if wanted to finish this let’s take it outside ..

I got suspended for 10 days.. almost expelled from school because when he got checked out and the next day people saw him he had broken nose and two black eyes ..

when I went back the principal told me next outbreak and he’d have to expel me.. I told him to tell the guy I beat up to leave my friend alone ..

So principal told him next time he bullied someone he’d be expelled ..

So figure out ways to get laws changed .. I’ve read horror stories online about what people do to homosexuals and it sucks

 

[dreamer20]

I'm 22, officially with a boyfriend, from February, in a homophobic country. We had sex once <as> finding a safe place <was> hard. <My> problem is <wanting> hook ups with other men in their safe places, but I refuse because I really love my boyfriend. How they make me horny. Am I really polyamorous? Give me an advice please

You are interested in no strings attached sex, but not polyamorous. I don't see how this current relationship is advantageous to you. You can neither admit to having an official boyfriend, nor have a place in which you do as you please. Think of your own safety and hook up with a man who has a safe place for the two of you to live in and explore your kinks too. Alternatively that person could be a lover for you and an additional person in a polyamorous situation.