no oral sex

[da_blissmachine]

Are women ok with living without oral sex? I mean if the man is ok with not receiving it either but doesn't want to give... ever....

 

[Mikuhagane]

I would be okay with that.

 

[izzycajun]

I personally like to give and get so I would miss both. But I supposed if I got fingered instead it might be ok most of the time. I'm wondering why you ask? Is this a hygiene thing? Or uncomfortable? Just wondering.
Izzy

 

[da_blissmachine]

I'm kind of uncomfortable with vaginas... I'm not gay because I love boobs and the curves on the rest of a woman's body... but I'm not into shemales either... giving oral sex or fingering just seems kind of humiliating and emasculating.... but I like to play with a girl's hair and give backrubs and footrubs... don't like to receive backrubs because of scars though... I think it's because of my sucky childhood.

 

[IntoxicatingToxin]

I'd be fine with it.

 

[izzycajun]

I'm kind of uncomfortable with vaginas... I'm not gay because I love boobs and the curves on the rest of a woman's body... but I'm not into shemales either... giving oral sex or fingering just seems kind of humiliating and emasculating.... but I like to play with a girl's hair and give backrubs and footrubs... don't like to receive backrubs because of scars though... I think it's because of my sucky childhood.

Sex of any kind can be very healing as can be touching and massaging. I am not one to make too many "forever" or "never" statements about things. I'm more into "for now" thoughts. For instance...no oral sex for now until you feel more comfortable with it...and maybe you'll never get into it but to close that door might be premature if you have had a bad childhood. You might just end up In a relationship in the future where you Might be more willing. Just my humble opinion.
Izzy

 

[AlteredEgo]

I'm kind of uncomfortable with vaginas... I'm not gay because I love boobs and the curves on the rest of a woman's body... but I'm not into shemales either... giving oral sex or fingering just seems kind of humiliating and emasculating.... but I like to play with a girl's hair and give backrubs and footrubs... don't like to receive backrubs because of scars though... I think it's because of my sucky childhood.

My husband used to be a lot like you because of some early trauma. I told him early on that I expected him to get over it someday. I told him he would have to learn to be comfortable kissing me, or get good at faking every once in a while because I expected to sometimes be kkissed. I told him I wouldn't be able to live forever with his stiff, wooden kisses and refusal to ever make out, but that I could wait a very long time while he healed. I told him the same about oral sex. Any contact with my vagina used to give him panic attacks. Now he gives some of the best oral I have received, and even finds it tantalizing if my vagina hovers over him while I blow him, but I make him wait to taste it. You have to decide that living your life under the control of fear is beneath you, and do something about it.

 

[Jillang]

Never ever? No, I don't think I would be comfortable with that, not at all. Besides just being wierd, I enjoy both.

 

[EllieP]

Difficult question for me to answer as I'm not faced with that situation. A lot would depend on the circumstances like health issues, for example. But if out of the blue he just says "no more oral sex" then we'd have a very serious discussion.

 

[Daisy]

No way! Never..I love to give oral sex way too much to not do it.

By the way based on your posts I'd say stop asking the women of LPSG what they think and get some counseling. I think it's obvious you've got some hangups with women.

 

[HiddenLacey]

No, why settle for anything less than everything?

 

[Pandora77]

I wouldn't mind all that much, since I am not so keen on recieving oral myself.
But I guess you can see in this very thread that every woman feels/thinks different about this. So it depens on your gf.

 

[petite]

No. I wouldn't be happy with that. I've never been in a relationship with a man who wouldn't and I can't even imagine being with someone who wouldn't.

I think AlteredEgo is an awesome woman for working through that issue with her mate, though. Of course, she's just awesome in general. :biggrin:

 

[FallenMadonna]

Good Heavens, I wouldn't even want to think about not looking down and seeing my husband's head between my legs! :smile:

 

[hippyglass]

it would be a pretty serious bummer to do without in the long-term - receiving i mean. well, or - giving. it would be an extra serious bummer to give and never receive.

 

[D_Sandy_Krautch]

Absolutely not. NO chance in hell. I have no hesitation in ruling someone out if they're not into oral (giving and receiving). Totally a non negotiable for me.

 

[Kotchanski]

I would be a heart broken little panda, I love it both ways!

I'd stay in the relationship and work on the issues (assuming they were ones you could work on) for the right guy though, but if I knew the guy wasn't really the one for me in the long run, I'd just cut my losses and move on.

 

[D_Kitten_Kaboodle]

I'm kind of uncomfortable with vaginas... I'm not gay because I love boobs and the curves on the rest of a woman's body... but I'm not into shemales either... giving oral sex or fingering just seems kind of humiliating and emasculating.... but I like to play with a girl's hair and give backrubs and footrubs... don't like to receive backrubs because of scars though... I think it's because of my sucky childhood.

ok if this is the dilemma....

first it should be noted that I have an oral fixation .... and though I do love to receive... I am much happier giving.

I am far to impatient to recieve very much.... b/c when I start to cum I just wanna fuck... so move your tongue and stick the dick in... LOL...

But I could suck a good cock all day/night long.

Knowing that a guy may have hangups about oral sex would not be a deal breaker, but I would want to try to sex therapy to see if we could work on it. You said you were uncomfortable with vaginas... not with recieivng... so hopefully we could work on your "mental" issues. I'd really be fine with a guy playing with my vagina.... fingers, toys, etc.

but I do love love love oral sex... and if I really loved the guy and he really loved me... we could find a compromise...

FP