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The house was still and quiet. We had already said good night and gotten into bed to get some much needed sleep, the worries of the day already starting to fade with the darkening sky outside the window. I laid my head on the pillow, closed my eyes, and felt my mind slowly drift off to sleep, effectively ending a rather long day.
Only it wasn’t the end. Something happened that happens quite frequently in our bedroom, something we take turns doing to each other in the middle of the night.
Something woke me up, or rather, someone woke me up. I found myself first wrapping my arm around PJ, who was asleep on his side, and then scooting my body closer and closer to him. Eventually, and without warning, I was fully up against his back, skin to skin and completely spooning him with nothing but our boxer briefs between us. I felt his warm body and I couldn’t help myself. I was immediately aroused.
And from there, I started thrusting and moving by body to form around the familiar contour of his. I felt like an animal, feral and wild and like I coudnt’t get enough. Something about his warm, hard body, and knowing he would like it, too, really turned me on. He slowly began to wake up, and turned to face me, wrapping his legs around mine and pulling me closer to him. We started making out, his breath hot and his lips sleepy, and I can’t remember ever wanting my husband more.
I put my arm under him and wrapped my elbow around his neck, pulling him even closer while I kissed him. We were both fully up and awake now and completely lost in the moment as I pushed his head under the covers. Time and space meant nothing. Me and him in this moment was the only thing that mattered.
When we were finished, I had trouble falling back asleep, my mind still racing from what just happened. It was so free, so sexy, so wild. Here we were, in our little wooden beach shack in the middle of a hot July night, all sun burnt and scruffy from being on vacation for the last two weeks, making love to each other like it was the first time.
As I laid on my pillow and looked up at the painted plank ceiling, I couldn’t help but wonder: Is there anything more sexy and exciting than the blurred lines between dreams and reality?
Sex. It’s a topic we’re often encouraged to discuss openly, but let’s face it, sometimes the sexiest moments are the ones that happen without a single word. One such moment is the ethereal act of initiating sex while your partner is asleep. It’s like waking up to find that your dreams have spilled over into your waking life.
Picture this: You’re nestled under the covers, safe and warm in your bed, and you’re drifting in and out of dreams. Your partner, blissfully unaware, breathes softly beside you. In these vulnerable and raw moments, the boundary between reality and fantasy fades, and something primal awakens within you. The key here is subtlety and, most importantly, consent—a delicate ballet of touch and response.
When initiating sex while your partner is asleep, it’s about creating a space where they can wake up to pleasure. Start with the lightest of touches—a feathered caress along their arm, a soft kiss on the back of their neck. The idea is to stir their senses without startling them, to gently weave a thread of arousal through their dreams until they’re drawn into waking up and partaking in the act.
Communication is the golden rule here. While the act itself may be wordless, the understanding must be there. Talk to your partner about your desires and boundaries beforehand. Knowing they’re comfortable with being woken up this way can transform a sleepy moment into a tantalizing encounter.
In a world that feels like it never stops even for a moment, where schedules are packed and time is a precious commodity, these quiet, intimate moments become the highlight reel of our relationships. It’s in these quiet, secret exchanges that we find the true magic of connection, the dreamy dance of initiating sex while asleep.
So, the next time you find yourself half-awake in the dead of night, don’t be afraid to reach out and blur the lines between dreams and reality. After all, in the world of love and sex, sometimes the sweetest awakenings are the ones we don’t see coming.”