"reading" My Sauna/gym Shower Buddy (advice?)

[Clean Cut and Hung]

Haha yes, I downloaded some apps last year, but he didn't appear on any of them, unfortunately. Everyone in the vicinity of the gym always has a picture, and "surprisingly", I've only ever seen one guy from the apps in person at the gym.

@ThePeen I've done what you suggested about the stretching and he's definitely taken some repeated glances. I need to try to fluff myself up some before the next time, though. I wouldn't be able to invite him over to my place after dinner because I live 25 miles away from where we're going in DC. If I can get some alcohol into both of us by the end of the night, your boy (me) will be all set!

At this point, I need to be inside him or him inside me (the joys of being versatile! ) by the time I leave!

Are you going to head back to the gym and shower before dinner? Where are you going to douche?

 

[Saint Raphael]

Alright guys, I'm back after a brief hiatus!

As I mentioned before, we hardly ever speak on the gym floor, but today he approached me and asked if we're still on for our restaurant date (he didn't actually say "date" lol). Of course I said yes, and hope I wasn't grinning too hard. We didn't talk too much in the sauna today because his friend was with him. His friend is very talkative, so I actually talked to him the entire time.

For the first time ever, I popped a full erection in the shower, but the showers we normally use were taken, so we weren't opposite each other. Still, we both showered with the curtain open, but I'm unsure of the extent to which he saw anything. I'll give it a try again tomorrow though, and hope we can get our usual spots.

As I was leaving (sans erection), he did say, "Okay, I'll let you know tomorrow what works best for me (for the restaurant)" So I'm anxiously looking forward to seeing how it plays out, but am also taming my excitement and getting myself into a mental space where there are no expectations.

PS: @Bbloft95 (and other curious souls) I promise to upload some pics soon. I've been waiting to go back to the gym where I took my profile pic as the lighting there is awesome, but it's also far out of my usual commute, so I need more of a reason to go there besides working out in a fancier gym and taking dick pics.

 

[sunandfun]

Nice update... I agree, this story is better than a Netflix series. PS nobody cares about "awesome lighting" in dick pics

 

[Saint Raphael]

I left out the best/funniest/most outrageous part about today's interaction. His friend told us a story about how he got a handjob in a Bedouin tent in Israel! Completely random and unsolicited. I was like !

@sunandfun Good to know about lighting, but I also think my artistic eye would enhance them...and that all of you will be even more appreciative.

 

[Mister2101]

Curious my friend....how or why did you get a full-on erection? Too bad you're not sure if your friend had a chance to catch a glimpse.........I really think he'll respond positively......good luck with the "date"......

 

[Clean Cut and Hung]

How did you pop a full erection and no one noticed? Were the others showering around you with their curtains closed?

Once I have a full erection it’s obvious for a while that I was bonered up. My cock does not go from full hardon to fully flaccid quickly. It hangs out in post-hardon state for a long time — stretched out, plumped, not-quite-semi form. So afterwards at my locker as I finished toweling off and putting on my underwear if anyone looked over to check out my cock they would know I had had a hardon.

 

[Raman1985]

Is his friend Indian too and was he naked as well? How did he react to hearing about his friends handjob... perhaps that will help your case.

 

[Lookinginconshy]

You should post some pictures of your hard-on so we can also see .

 

[Saint Raphael]

Here are my responses to your questions:

@Mister2101 I got an erection because I took more time to cool off in between hitting the sauna and shower than I normally do, which is to go straight to the shower from the sauna, and I guess my blood was boiling. By the time I got to the shower, I was sporting a tee-pee.

@Clean Cut and Hung Besides my crush and I, there were only two other guys in the shower, and they had their curtains closed. Since my guy and I were standing diagonally from one another, I couldn't tell if he was able to see or not. I did face outward, closed my eyes, and leaned my head back into the water for a little bit, so he may have stole a few glances then.

@Raman1985 His friend (actually, his roommate) is half Ukrainian/half Israeli. When he was telling the story, we all laughed and my guy stuck his hand out for a high five to his roommate and said "None of us can beat that. That's awesome. Respect."

His roommate is also very liberal in the locker room. He also showers with the curtain open and is the only other young guy besides myself and my crush who will walk around the locker room without a towel (however, unlike us two, he NEVER has a towel). He's a very handsome guy and I was actually initially more attracted to him than the Indian guy, but the latter has grown on my exponentially. Plus, I do believe wholeheartedly that he's straight.

@Lookinginconshy

 

[Clean Cut and Hung]

His roommate is also very liberal in the locker room. He also showers with the curtain open and is the only other young guy besides myself and my crush who will walk around the locker room without a towel (however, unlike us two, he NEVER has a towel). He's a very handsome guy and I was actually initially more attracted to him than the Indian guy, but the latter has grown on my exponentially. Plus, I do believe wholeheartedly that he's straight.

Indian guys are like redheads. They’re either totally hot or totally not.

I was at a spa in Vegas. Two totally hot Indian guys were in the whirlpool baths — getting in and out, trying out the various temperatures. They were both handsome, really fit and built, and both had big 6-7” soft cocks!

 

[Saint Raphael]

Indian guys are like redheads. They’re either totally hot or totally not.

I was at a spa in Vegas. Two totally hot Indian guys were in the whirlpool baths — getting in and out, trying out the various temperatures. They were both handsome, really fit and built, and both had big 6-7” soft cocks!

I agree! Luckily there is a nice supply of handsome Indian guys at my gym and school. However, the guy I like is the only one who is open with his body and nudity. The others either so the towel dance or don't shower at all.

 

[Raman1985]

Indians (like myself) tend to be shy for some reason around being nude at the gym. Perhaps the risk of poping a boner when its unwanted might have something to do with it. I think his high five is an indication that you might just be lucky enough.

Maybe you can post a pic of both of your boners next to each other if you luck out.

Also, try asking him what the slang is for dick in hindi or whatever language he speaks... and then start referring to it as such.

 

[sunandfun]

update? did u guys have your "date" yet?

 

[capthoodmd]

Update on your date?

 

[Raman1985]

Any updates?!

 

[Saint Raphael]

Hey guys,

I love how you’re all so invested in my situation lol! Thanks for your continued support.

We haven’t had dinner yet, but are still on. I had to reschedule our initial plan due to an unexpected surgical procedure last week. We have rescheduled for May 19th, but I have to undergo the second (and final) phase of my procedure on May 15th, so it will all boil down to how I’m feeling by then. (It’s nothing major by the way, but does affect my diet for a few days.) He has asked me twice if we’re still on though, so I know that he’s at least still interested in going.

Today was the boldest I’ve been since I’ve started talking to him. He asked what my weekend plans were and I told him that a friend who recently came out asked me to go to a gay club with him. Initially he was like, “Oh, that should be...interesting”, but then became a bit more engaged and said he’s also been to gay clubs several times with some of his frat brothers that came out in undergrad. “The hottest chicks are at a gay clubs!” He also talked at length about how difficult it is for gay people to come out, especially those of Asian descent (my friend is Chinese) due to familial expectations, etc. I already know how I’m gonna bait him on this when I let him know how the weekend went on Monday.

Also, he shaved his pubes for the first time in months - at least since February. I’ve obviously seen him shaved before, but this is the first time that I’ve really paid attention. He still looks great, but I must say it’s not the best look for him lol. In the heat of the (sauna) moment I asked him what shaving products he used and he listed them off. He talked about how sometimes it’s hit or miss and can look gross if you have razor bumps. But in true med student form, he quickly got technical on how shaving affects the skin and whatnot lol. In hindsight, I should have baited him better than I did, but...oh well!

In a way, I feel like our vibe has kinda gotten thrown off, but it may be due to the fact that some of his classmates have been coming to the gym (and sauna) a lot over the past couple of weeks, so we haven’t had as much time to talk. I did let him know that I’ll give him my coveted parking spot on campus once I leave, for which he has expressed his gratitude several times now. I’ll hit him with the “Okay, so what are you gonna do for me?” later.

 

[Clean Cut and Hung]

Hey guys,

I love how you’re all so invested in my situation lol! Thanks for your continued support.

We haven’t had dinner yet, but are still on. I had to reschedule our initial plan due to an unexpected surgical procedure last week. We have rescheduled for May 19th, but I have to undergo the second (and final) phase of my procedure on May 15th, so it will all boil down to how I’m feeling by then. (It’s nothing major by the way, but does affect my diet for a few days.) He has asked me twice if we’re still on though, so I know that he’s at least still interested in going.

Today was the boldest I’ve been since I’ve started talking to him. He asked what my weekend plans were and I told him that a friend who recently came out asked me to go to a gay club with him. Initially he was like, “Oh, that should be...interesting”, but then became a bit more engaged and said he’s also been to gay clubs several times with some of his frat brothers that came out in undergrad. “The hottest chicks are at a gay clubs!” He also talked at length about how difficult it is for gay people to come out, especially those of Asian descent (my friend is Chinese) due to familial expectations, etc. I already know how I’m gonna bait him on this when I let him know how the weekend went on Monday.

Also, he shaved his pubes for the first time in months - at least since February. I’ve obviously seen him shaved before, but this is the first time that I’ve really paid attention. He still looks great, but I must say it’s not the best look for him lol. In the heat of the (sauna) moment I asked him what shaving products he used and he listed them off. He talked about how sometimes it’s hit or miss and can look gross if you have razor bumps. But in true med student form, he quickly got technical on how shaving affects the skin and whatnot lol. In hindsight, I should have baited him better than I did, but...oh well!

In a way, I feel like our vibe has kinda gotten thrown off, but it may be due to the fact that some of his classmates have been coming to the gym (and sauna) a lot over the past couple of weeks, so we haven’t had as much time to talk. I did let him know that I’ll give him my coveted parking spot on campus once I leave, for which he has expressed his gratitude several times now. I’ll hit him with the “Okay, so what are you gonna do for me?” later.

Thanks for the update!

A few questions:

1. What was the vibe you picked up from him talking about the gay bar? Straight? Gay trying to act straight? Playing it in the middle because he’s not sure where he wants this to go?

2. When you say “shaved his pubes” do you mean shaved his cock and balls or the BIG SHAVE, i.e., no bush? When you were talking about shaving products and razor bumps were you talking about shaving face or specifically shaving down there? Funny that he got all med school technical. I dated a surgeon and know how things can turn “clinical.” LOL

3. Where did the two of you shower? Across from each other?

4. I’m curious what others think. I think it’s time that you just go for it. Just be really forward. Next time you’re in the sauna alone with him. Tell him that he looks really good; his workouts are paying off. When he showers across from you, soap your cock and balls while looking at him; show him your semi hard cock

5. Do you jack off thinking about him?

Thanks for keeping us posted!

 

[RJ5on1]

Thanks for the update!

A few questions:

1. What was the vibe you picked up from him talking about the gay bar? Straight? Gay trying to act straight? Playing it in the middle because he’s not sure where he wants this to go?

2. When you say “shaved his pubes” do you mean shaved his cock and balls or the BIG SHAVE, i.e., no bush? When you were talking about shaving products and razor bumps were you talking about shaving face or specifically shaving down there? Funny that he got all med school technical. I dated a surgeon and know how things can turn “clinical.” LOL

3. Where did the two of you shower? Across from each other?

4. I’m curious what others think. I think it’s time that you just go for it. Just be really forward. Next time you’re in the sauna alone with him. Tell him that he looks really good; his workouts are paying off. When he showers across from you, soap your cock and balls while looking at him; show him your semi hard cock

5. Do you jack off thinking about him?

Thanks for keeping us posted!

Good Questions...

 

[hzs3fg]

I thought his comment, "The hottest chicks are at a gay clubs!” spoke volumes about where his head might be.

 

[Saint Raphael]

Thanks for the update!

A few questions:

1. What was the vibe you picked up from him talking about the gay bar? Straight? Gay trying to act straight? Playing it in the middle because he’s not sure where he wants this to go?

2. When you say “shaved his pubes” do you mean shaved his cock and balls or the BIG SHAVE, i.e., no bush? When you were talking about shaving products and razor bumps were you talking about shaving face or specifically shaving down there? Funny that he got all med school technical. I dated a surgeon and know how things can turn “clinical.” LOL

3. Where did the two of you shower? Across from each other?

4. I’m curious what others think. I think it’s time that you just go for it. Just be really forward. Next time you’re in the sauna alone with him. Tell him that he looks really good; his workouts are paying off. When he showers across from you, soap your cock and balls while looking at him; show him your semi hard cock

5. Do you jack off thinking about him?

Thanks for keeping us posted!

Here are my responses to your questions, @Clean Cut and Hung :

1. Hard to say on his vibes during that part of the conversation, because the vibes he gives off in general are kinda ambiguous. I see him fitting somewhere in between str8-curious and bi. As I mentioned before, he talked for a while on how difficult it must be for anyone to come out and the importance of a strong support system. I’m hopeful that he’ll put his med student memory to use and directly ask me about my time at the club. Worst case, I’ll remind him when we talk about our respective weekends.

2. Shaved, as in completely bare/no bush. It’s the first time that I recall seeing him freshly shaved with no stubble if you will. As for the products, I simply asked “What shaving products do you use” and explicitly talked about an issue that I had with razor bumps and ingrown hairs below the belt before. He kinda fluctuated back and forth between face and pubes, but mostly referred to his face. He did joke how shaving pubes is hit or miss sometimes, and how in the bad times you might want to keep your shorts on in the sauna so no one thinks you have HPV, herpes, or warts lol.

3. Yes, we showered across from each other.

4. Indeed, I do need to go for it and am more comfortable with being explicit now since I’m within my 2-week window of leaving. In the event that it goes bad, we could avoid each other until I leave. But honestly the anxiety/worry over him not being receptive has passed.

Over the past couple of weeks, I’ve been treading more carefully because I see us forming a casual acquaintanceship, if not a friendship, even if it’s only surface-level (for now). I’ll for sure ask for his number and social media before I leave (I already found the latter and his account is public). I’ll be moving abroad for a year and he said where I’m going - which is off the typical beaten tourist path - is in his top 5 places he wants to visit. I’d love to extend an open invitation for him to visit anytime, and in turn I’ve told him how much I want to visit India and would have no qualms about asking to tag along the next time he goes. So at this point I’m asking myself if I want to risk prioritizing a sexual encounter or letting him know I’m attracted to him, or continue building a budding relationship and seeing what happens down the line. Does this make sense?

5. I used to but stopped about a month ago for the very reason I mentioned above. There are some guys I used to think about while jacking that I’ve since developed a relationship with. At least for me personally, me it’s kinda awkward to conflate the two and have sexual desires about a friend. Of course, I know that it’s possible and perhaps even normal to, but I try to suppress those feelings for practical reasons. Now that I’ve transferred him into the category of “unthinkables”, I don’t even let me mind go there over him. But that still doesn’t mean I wouldn’t be down for action with him or any of the other guys if a situation comfortably presented itself.