Straight and Likes Gay Porn

[Curious65]

Thats really interesting to read and would have just assumed you were closeted queen until that last paragraph when you clearly explained how you feel.

A straight guy who is into gay porn - totally unexpected, thanks for that.

I was going to go down a whole psych 101 path about missing out on affection from your Dad so seeing men be vulnerable with each other somehow...just tell me to shut the fuck up at any time I'm fine with that lol

In fact its probably in my best interest to do so

Dave - you might be on to something. I had an interesting relationship with my dad that was not very supportive. After some therapy I came to the conclusion he never got the son he wanted and I never got the dad I needed. But enough on that.

Trust me, I have gone over and over this and also wondered if I were a closeted queen. I did some serious experimenting with one person before college and although getting my rocks off was nice , I did not enjoy topping, bottoming, or having him cum in my mouth. So there's that. I for damned sure wasn't going to swallow his seed.

I've tried researching this issue and the closest I've come to an explanation is that it is an unusual obsession... with dicks. LPSG has become an avenue to indulge this obsession so I guess spending time on here is my compulsion. I don't know.

Probably more than you wanted to know. I appreciate your feedback.

 

[Joel7chang]

First thread post so excuse me if I didn't post in the appropriate location or if this has been posted before (although I have only seen it touched on)

Long time straight, married man here that frequently enjoys and even prefers gay porn now. Whatever that makes me doesn't matter. I would like to hear from others who might share this taste or fetish and what specifically turns you on about it. I would love to hear about the journey and how you started and then arrived at this fetish. Here's a few questions that might spark the conversation, but feel free to expand and expound.

What are some of your experiences with straight porn versus gay porn and the differences to you?

What percentage of getting off do you experience with the various porn types (ie straight, bi, trans, or gay porn)?

If you are in a strong hetero relationship like me, how does this impact your relationship?

Is it known? If so, how do you deal with this in terms of your relationship with your partner?

If it's not known, how do you feel about this secret and how do you deal with it whether with your partner or societally?

Having a little fun with it, what are some stories or experiences you had with this preference? What are some of your go to's or specific fetishes in this space?

Lastly, although I'm mostly interested in hearing from other straight guys like me, I welcome hearing from others too. It can be gay men who enjoy straight porn or women who enjoy gay porn, or any other combination as long as you can touch on some of the aforementioned questions and it is a similar dynamic for you.

Hey man.....similar and would definitely like to chat with you, message me back here. Thanks.

 

[dave in oz]

Dave - you might be on to something. I had an interesting relationship with my dad that was not very supportive. After some therapy I came to the conclusion he never got the son he wanted and I never got the dad I needed. But enough on that.

Trust me, I have gone over and over this and also wondered if I were a closeted queen. I did some serious experimenting with one person before college and although getting my rocks off was nice , I did not enjoy topping, bottoming, or having him cum in my mouth. So there's that. I for damned sure wasn't going to swallow his seed.

I've tried researching this issue and the closest I've come to an explanation is that it is an unusual obsession... with dicks. LPSG has become an avenue to indulge this obsession so I guess spending time on here is my compulsion. I don't know.

Probably more than you wanted to know. I appreciate your feedback.

Thanks for taking my response the way it was meant - genuine curiosity and being intrigued about learning about someone elses interesting path.

And knowing you even tried it out in a variety of forms and just reconfirmed its not about sex with men is good to know.

I find this genuinely interesting thanks for sharing your story.

 

[Curious65]

Thanks for taking my response the way it was meant - genuine curiosity and being intrigued about learning about someone elses interesting path.

And knowing you even tried it out in a variety of forms and just reconfirmed its not about sex with men is good to know.

I find this genuinely interesting thanks for sharing your story.

Dave:

I'm happy to share here. It's another benefit of membership. It's not like I can bring it up at happy hour with friends and expect anyone to understand; especially when I don't get it myself. I have had a few guys hit on me over the years when in college and grad school and told them I was flattered, but no. On the flip side, there have been countless men that I've seen and wondered about their cock or stole glances at the guys in the locker room. Then, go home and devour my gfs or wife's pussy.

When in college, I once went into an adult bookstore to get my dick viewing fix and unbeknown to me a man followed me into the adjoining Booth. Next thing I know a massive perfectly proportioned cock, worthy of this site, comes through the glory hole. I was stunned, scared, confused, mad, horny, offended, and probably several other emotions. I thought about touching it just to feel the heat and heft of it, but couldn't. In a few seconds the dick was replaced by some fingers coming through the hole beckoning me to stick my cock in for an anonymous suck. I couldn't and just had to get out of there. Kinda freaked me out.

It feels a bit cathartic to type this out knowing there is no negative judgement coming.

Sorry for rambling. Thanks for the free therapy

C65

 

[dave in oz]

Dave:

I'm happy to share here. It's another benefit of membership. It's not like I can bring it up at happy hour with friends and expect anyone to understand; especially when I don't get it myself. I have had a few guys hit on me over the years when in college and grad school and told them I was flattered, but no. On the flip side, there have been countless men that I've seen and wondered about their cock or stole glances at the guys in the locker room. Then, go home and devour my gfs or wife's pussy.

When in college, I once went into an adult bookstore to get my dick viewing fix and unbeknown to me a man followed me into the adjoining Booth. Next thing I know a massive perfectly proportioned cock, worthy of this site, comes through the glory hole. I was stunned, scared, confused, mad, horny, offended, and probably several other emotions. I thought about touching it just to feel the heat and heft of it, but couldn't. In a few seconds the dick was replaced by some fingers coming through the hole beckoning me to stick my cock in for an anonymous suck. I couldn't and just had to get out of there. Kinda freaked me out.

It feels a bit cathartic to type this out knowing there is no negative judgement coming.

Sorry for rambling. Thanks for the free therapy

C65

"stunned, scared, confused, mad, horny, offended, and probably several other emotions"

Sounds like me when I see myself naked in the gym bathroom mirrors lol

ITs obviously a great space for it here and I think we all have a lot of stuff we do or feel but can't pinpoint why.

Whether or not we feel OK about those actions or emotions really comes down to our conditioning over what is and isn't acceptable to broader society.

Unfortunately that programming is very often counterproductive or even destructive to us.

If we simply accepted that some people get off on looking at some stuff and not other stuff. If that doesn't hurt someone else or themselves then whats the problem.

What a much more accepting world it would be.

And who said anything about free?

I have emailed you my invoice - payment within 7 days is preferred.

 

[Curious65]

"stunned, scared, confused, mad, horny, offended, and probably several other emotions"

Sounds like me when I see myself naked in the gym bathroom mirrors lol

ITs obviously a great space for it here and I think we all have a lot of stuff we do or feel but can't pinpoint why.

Whether or not we feel OK about those actions or emotions really comes down to our conditioning over what is and isn't acceptable to broader society.

Unfortunately that programming is very often counterproductive or even destructive to us.

If we simply accepted that some people get off on looking at some stuff and not other stuff. If that doesn't hurt someone else or themselves then whats the problem.

What a much more accepting world it would be.

And who said anything about free?

I have emailed you my invoice - payment within 7 days is preferred.

Thanks, brother.

 

[braziliancub]

I'm a gay man. When I was very young and I was discovering who I was, I used to masturbate to women and I remember having fun and even cumming thinking about women. But I soon discovered I was attracted to men -- hairy, big, masculine men -- and I completely lost interest in women. That being said, I sometimes enjoy watching straight porn because, for me, whenever a hairy, masculine guy fucks a woman, that would be the perfect kind of man I picture in my head to come and fuck me. I feel no desire to BE the woman; I am a man and I want to keep being a man. I also have to say that I've been penetrated very few times, so I keep my bottom fantasy mostly in my head. Whenever I'm with another guy, I like to implicitly battle with him to see who is going to top who. I mean, I like to be dominant and let him know I want to be in command, but I'm super excited when the guy challenges my authority and tries his best to dominate me (and this is when I give up and let myself be fucked), but very few guys were up to the task of challenging me and they just accepted being fucked (especially because I have a fat dick).

 

[ronin001]

I have watched Lesbian porn on a few past occasions, does this label me a lesbian ?

 

[dave in oz]

I have watched Lesbian porn on a few past occasions, does this label me a lesbian ?

It depends.

Were you IN the movie?

 

[ronin001]

It depends.

Were you IN the movie?

Only in my dreams

 

[wise_imp]

I think it's all been shared, that we are a broad universe of people. For me, I love the vulnerability of people, thing straight baits, or a dude emotionally connected with his woman, expressing that connection with them.. it's the tease and the appeal. It sounds like it's the direct and lack of other influences that you like with gay porn, it's just the sex, it's hard and raw and perhaps, clean, emotionless...

What are some of your experiences with straight porn versus gay porn and the differences to you?
I tend to watch both, I'm gay always into dudes, the similarities is that ameture is more real in my mind, authentic. the differences, gay sex is more raw and less about connection, it's about the fuck the cum and the build up. Straight porn can be like this, but then it's still a with a women expressing themselves in a way that confuses the sex... if that makes sense

What percentage of getting off do you experience with the various porn types (ie straight, bi, trans, or gay porn)?
50/50 it's really about the guy and the connection i feel with him

If you are in a strong hetero relationship like me, how does this impact your relationship?
N/A
Is it known? If so, how do you deal with this in terms of your relationship with your partner? It sounds like this is a part of yourself you're exploring alone and enjoying, you're not seeking to act on it or change your world. . . keep enjoying and loving your wife on the level that you do.

 

[jimbrownski79]

Thanks for your post and this is exactly why I wanted to start this conversation. I was fascinated that as a gay man sometimes you enjoy straight porn and the reasons why. The interesting part to me was that it sounds like it is occasional and when you do you still like to look at the men. It doesn't sound like you are into the women other than envying them for being on the receiving end of the men. It seems that although it's straight porn your reasons for watching it still fit into your true sexuality.

For me, although I almost exclusively enjoy gay porn these days, it wasn't always like that and I still have a healthy sexual appetite for women, outside of pornography. When I watch gay porn I don't want any semblance of the straight porn dynamic. As a matter of fact, I'm not into twinks or more feminine portrayals of men as much as masculine men whether solo or together.

This is why it's so interesting to me. I wanted to ask questions on here like you hinted at, is this part and parcel of my true sexuality's suppression? In other words, is it telling me something about my true self and desires? Or is it something more shallow and superficial where I'm seeking sexual novelty and fun because I'm bored from a lifetime as a straight man and the sexual depravity from a long time monogamous relationship? Or is just a moment that addresses the sexual spectrum that you so eloquently spoke of?

That said, I love being able to hear from someone like you with an experience so different than my own and there is no offense at all! I have certainly thought about the things you mentioned in terms of acting these desires out in real life or coming clean with them to my wife or revealing them to the outside world. That might be another conversation for another day or another thread tho. I was really fascinated by the specifics of a gay porn fetish.

I am also straight and love gay porn, but for similar yet different reasons. I enjoy masculinity vs femininity pornographically. I do also love the aninmalistic, let's get right to it nature of gay porn. There is a level of nastiness(in a good way lol) that cant be rivaled in straight, trans, or lesbian porn. however I do watch with some semblance of straight dynamic. I have no desire to pursue a gay or even trans sexual encounter in real life, but id be lying that there arent gay bottoms I've seen in porn and said "if I was in a room alone w/them, drunk and high then maybe?". However my main thrill in gay porn is the POWER - the power of seeing a strong masculine type top ravage a bottom. In general, in terms of all porn, I like seeing Masculine vs Feminine. And extensive porn watching has taught me - femininity comes in soooo many forms nowadays! lol

As I am straight, I love watching feminine twinks vs a strong top. Or two twinks, but one is in the clear top role. I do not like scenes where there are two swole buff tops together or two twink types taking turns switching from top to bottom. Somone has to be the clear "total top" lol. Dont like gay 69 either. Dont want to see two hairy men either - one can be but not both. i would also prefer bottoms with a phat juicy ass or a bubblebut. If not then just a real thin "pretty" type, with feminine characteristics. So basically I like scenarios where a "Straight" guy is tempted by a fem type. For reference I will admit my favorite gay porn would have been "Its Gonna Hurt" or a lot of the Blacks on Boys stuff. Sites of that ilk where the top is a total top, and wants ZERO to do with the bottoms cock, other than the fascination of seeing it flop and dangle while getting fucked, and maybe the occaisional reach around.

While Not into watching two men taking turns sucking dick, I do enjoy Gay Frottage. There is something so intimate and erotic about seeing two dicks rub up against each other. HUGE turn on. Also enjoy docking and sword fighting. I like kissing IF it's a Very swole masculine man vs a pretty, effeminate twink.

I am probably more rigid and particular with gay porn than most, But its a lot of gay porn that is just too much for me lol. As mentioned I HATE seeing to muscular guys fucking and going down on each other. I also don't like any gay porn where the performers take turns switching from top to bottom. Not into watching two men lick ass or feet. Not into leather daddy stuff. I have to sift through a ton of gay porn i hate to find what I love, So I know in real life it's a lot easier to find what I love in a woman than a man lol. I have nowhere near the pickiness in straight porn.

I watch trans porn of course as its the best of both worlds in a sense. But even there I have the same rules as gay porn. Clear Masculine male ON TOP, don't like watching a man and trans switch on each other, nor am I into seeing a trans top a man. That actually angers me as seemingly thats 70% of trans porn. To be honest the fascination of trans porn is of course the cock, but for me I just like knowing its there, not the actual dick on the trans bottom. Same with gay porn. Thus as mentioned I like watching Masculine dominating feminine. Whether its a woman, trans, or gay. Lol even in Lesbian porn, I like one dominant woman, and one submissive. I would say Magic Productions is the ONLY lesbian porn I really love. Not really into watching two pillow princesses get it on for a bigger check lol. I like watching women that actual ENJOY having sex with women - and a man on occaison lol.

 

[Curious65]

I am also straight and love gay porn, but for similar yet different reasons. I enjoy masculinity vs femininity pornographically. I do also love the aninmalistic, let's get right to it nature of gay porn. There is a level of nastiness(in a good way lol) that cant be rivaled in straight, trans, or lesbian porn. however I do watch with some semblance of straight dynamic. I have no desire to pursue a gay or even trans sexual encounter in real life, but id be lying that there arent gay bottoms I've seen in porn and said "if I was in a room alone w/them, drunk and high then maybe?". However my main thrill in gay porn is the POWER - the power of seeing a strong masculine type top ravage a bottom. In general, in terms of all porn, I like seeing Masculine vs Feminine. And extensive porn watching has taught me - femininity comes in soooo many forms nowadays! lol

As I am straight, I love watching feminine twinks vs a strong top. Or two twinks, but one is in the clear top role. I do not like scenes where there are two swole buff tops together or two twink types taking turns switching from top to bottom. Somone has to be the clear "total top" lol. Dont like gay 69 either. Dont want to see two hairy men either - one can be but not both. i would also prefer bottoms with a phat juicy ass or a bubblebut. If not then just a real thin "pretty" type, with feminine characteristics. So basically I like scenarios where a "Straight" guy is tempted by a fem type. For reference I will admit my favorite gay porn would have been "Its Gonna Hurt" or a lot of the Blacks on Boys stuff. Sites of that ilk where the top is a total top, and wants ZERO to do with the bottoms cock, other than the fascination of seeing it flop and dangle while getting fucked, and maybe the occaisional reach around.

While Not into watching two men taking turns sucking dick, I do enjoy Gay Frottage. There is something so intimate and erotic about seeing two dicks rub up against each other. HUGE turn on. Also enjoy docking and sword fighting. I like kissing IF it's a Very swole masculine man vs a pretty, effeminate twink.

I am probably more rigid and particular with gay porn than most, But its a lot of gay porn that is just too much for me lol. As mentioned I HATE seeing to muscular guys fucking and going down on each other. I also don't like any gay porn where the performers take turns switching from top to bottom. Not into watching two men lick ass or feet. Not into leather daddy stuff. I have to sift through a ton of gay porn i hate to find what I love, So I know in real life it's a lot easier to find what I love in a woman than a man lol. I have nowhere near the pickiness in straight porn.

I watch trans porn of course as its the best of both worlds in a sense. But even there I have the same rules as gay porn. Clear Masculine male ON TOP, don't like watching a man and trans switch on each other, nor am I into seeing a trans top a man. That actually angers me as seemingly thats 70% of trans porn. To be honest the fascination of trans porn is of course the cock, but for me I just like knowing its there, not the actual dick on the trans bottom. Same with gay porn. Thus as mentioned I like watching Masculine dominating feminine. Whether its a woman, trans, or gay. Lol even in Lesbian porn, I like one dominant woman, and one submissive. I would say Magic Productions is the ONLY lesbian porn I really love. Not really into watching two pillow princesses get it on for a bigger check lol. I like watching women that actual ENJOY having sex with women - and a man on occaison lol.

I think part of the appeal and arousal of my gay porn consumption is this idea in my head that two men can be passionate with each other and get off with each other. It isn't the norm of the expected m/f sex, but almost like helping a buddy in need. As I've said before, I don't really understand it myself, but I do know that I do not want a gay relationship or physical gay experiences. I gravitate to the masculine guys and am turned off by twinks and sissy's. Recently, I've discovered FTM porn that gets me hard quick! The idea of being able to fuck a hot wet pussy that is between the legs of a muscle jock gets me going.

Different strokes for different folks - for sure!

 

[Curious65]

I think part of the appeal and arousal of my gay porn consumption is this idea in my head that two men can be passionate with each other and get off with each other. It isn't the norm of the expected m/f sex, but almost like helping a buddy in need. As I've said before, I don't really understand it myself, but I do know that I do not want a gay relationship or physical gay experiences. I gravitate to the masculine guys and am turned off by twinks and sissy's. Recently, I've discovered FTM porn that gets me hard quick! The idea of being able to fuck a hot wet pussy that is between the legs of a muscle jock gets me going.

Different strokes for different folks - for sure.

This should have been in my prior post:

Mostly, I enjoy watching gay porn because I have what might be a legitimate obsession with cock. I'm fascinated by them and it's the reason I joined this site. The size, shape, color, texture, and proportions are infinite. The soft to hard ratio, do they dribble or hit the wall when they cum, do they cum a little or a lot, are their balls big or small, do they hang low or up tight, what is the body like that the cock is attached to? I could go on, but I guess the point I'm trying to make is there seems to be an endless variety of feature combinations that is really super intriguing to me. Gay porn let's me experience that in spades and compare one or more guys at once. I don't understand the how's or why I am like this, but here I am.

I experimented before college with one guy and discovered that I didn't enjoy it. Getting sucked off was nice, but there was zero pleasure in topping or bottoming and swallowing cum was never going to happen.

 

[ManchesterTom]

Yeah. That’s a common view.

Porn=sexuality. It’s not as simple as that for many of us on this thread and many of us on LPSG.

equally many gay men assume (and accuse) us as being “in denial” of our true gay identity, but that doesn’t explain lifelong interests in Heterosexual sex and homosexual sex at the time. In my case I have had sex with a man and a woman in the same day (at different times) and it all still functions ….

this is a stable pattern in my life.

That simplistic Psych 101 approach you mentioned basically = Bi-erasure.

Bi erasure is real and very often us bi people erase ourselves.

 

[LVCB77]

Bi erasure is real and very often us bi people erase ou

Happily married here. 2 kids, 5 grandkids and I love watching gay porn. Have for years. Its not the guys I drool over. Just love seeing cock.

Love this! As someone who probably makes this more complicated than it shoud be, your honest, and carefree, in a good way, perspective on it is very cool and admirable.

Was curious and not to soil it, but is anyone aware of your love for gay porn?

 

[LVCB77]

I'm a straight woman but i enjoy watching bi (male) sex, like a threesome with 2 bi men and one woman. I even watch fully gay (male) sex sometimes. Not sure why i like it. Maybe because i don't really like watching women in porn, how they are treated and how they behave. Women giving men a blow job is an instant fast forward. The way women scream also makes me dry. I don't watch porn often, maybe once every few months but bi men is my favorite to go to section.

Love this! As someone who probably makes this more complicated than it shoud be, your honest, and carefree, in a good way, perspective on it is very cool and admirable.

Was curious and not to soil it, but is anyone aware of your love for gay porn?

I'm a straight woman but i enjoy watching bi (male) sex, like a threesome with 2 bi men and one woman. I even watch fully gay (male) sex sometimes. Not sure why i like it. Maybe because i don't really like watching women in porn, how they are treated and how they behave. Women giving men a blow job is an instant fast forward. The way women scream also makes me dry. I don't watch porn often, maybe once every few months but bi men is my favorite to go to section.

Sorry for the technical issues. Intended on replying to royal_madnessty and that reply in this thread was to another post. Nice to hear from a straight women on this. I can totally relate to the way women often behave in porn. As far as fast forwarding BJs in porn, I often do that when watching all porn; straight, trans, and gay. For me its not so much the exploitative aspect of the person on the swallowing end of a BJ that turns me off, but I get bored and want to cut to the chase and get to the penetration. Maybe I've never experienced epic enough head but this is probably why I've only cummed from a BJ a few times in my life and mostly get off from penatration and in a lot of cases cum more often and quicker from a handjob compared to oral.

 

[Lovetobetouched]

Bi erasure is real and very often us bi people erase ourselves.

Tru dat

 

[LVCB77]

Sorry for the technical issues. Intended on replying to royal_madnessty and that reply in this thread was to another post. Nice to hear from a straight women on this. I can totally relate to the way women often behave in porn. As far as fast forwarding BJs in porn, I often do that when watching all porn; straight, trans, and gay. For me its not so much the exploitative aspect of the person on the swallowing end of a BJ that turns me off, but I get bored and want to cut to the chase and get to the penetration. Maybe I've never experienced epic enough head but this is probably why I've only cummed from a BJ a few times in my life and mostly get off from penatration and in a lot of cases cum more often and quicker from a handjob compared to oral.

I think it’s pretty awesome that you like watching guy on guy action. All guys should feel free to enjoy watching whatever mm, mmf , mf , ff , ftm action without any feeling of ‘shame’.

I personally identify myself as mostly gay. However have been with both men and women before, would still want to have sex with both, and definitely enjoy watching straight porn a lot. I really get off watching a guy go down on a girl upclose .

Great POV! Agreed that it is awesome to be able to enjoy watching all kinds of porn. Unfortunately, married "straight" men like me make this enjoyment and indulgence a bit more complicated. Bless beautiful people like you, open minded, and having experienced a variety of things.

 

[Lovetobetouched]

Dave - you might be on to something. I had an interesting relationship with my dad that was not very supportive. After some therapy I came to the conclusion he never got the son he wanted and I never got the dad I needed. But enough on that.

Trust me, I have gone over and over this and also wondered if I were a closeted queen. I did some serious experimenting with one person before college and although getting my rocks off was nice , I did not enjoy topping, bottoming, or having him cum in my mouth. So there's that. I for damned sure wasn't going to swallow his seed.

I've tried researching this issue and the closest I've come to an explanation is that it is an unusual obsession... with dicks. LPSG has become an avenue to indulge this obsession so I guess spending time on here is my compulsion. I don't know.

Probably more than you wanted to know. I appreciate your feedback.

This guy Dr Joe Kort‘s book “is your husband gay, straight or bi”. really helped me understand what you are saying. This is a link to a short video where he discusses it. It’s written for the many women he sees in professional practice who freak out when they discover (as inevitably happens) that their husband looks at gay porn, or has sex with men. It basically suggests that what we experience as “str8” men in dabbling with dick, is fairly common and within the realms of normal. But that does not necessarily make us “Gay” in the classic sense.