Straight and Likes Gay Porn

[Lovetobetouched]

First thread post so excuse me if I didn't post in the appropriate location or if this has been posted before (although I have only seen it touched on)

Long time straight, married man here that frequently enjoys and even prefers gay porn now. Whatever that makes me doesn't matter. I would like to hear from others who might share this taste or fetish and what specifically turns you on about it. I would love to hear about the journey and how you started and then arrived at this fetish. Here's a few questions that might spark the conversation, but feel free to expand and expound.

What are some of your experiences with straight porn versus gay porn and the differences to you?

What percentage of getting off do you experience with the various porn types (ie straight, bi, trans, or gay porn)?

If you are in a strong hetero relationship like me, how does this impact your relationship?

Is it known? If so, how do you deal with this in terms of your relationship with your partner?

If it's not known, how do you feel about this secret and how do you deal with it whether with your partner or societally?

Having a little fun with it, what are some stories or experiences you had with this preference? What are some of your go to's or specific fetishes in this space?

Lastly, although I'm mostly interested in hearing from other straight guys like me, I welcome hearing from others too. It can be gay men who enjoy straight porn or women who enjoy gay porn, or any other combination as long as you can touch on some of the aforementioned questions and it is a similar dynamic for you.

I can’t recommend Dr Joe Kort’s book “Is my husband gay, straight or bi” enough. It really helped me sort it all out. I love being me and the fluidity I enjoy. Probably more of a fetish (for dick) for me, but it has taught me to be way more accepting of others’ different feelings and the range of sexualities that people experience. I think younger people (I’m 57) have a much more healthy sense of sexual fluidity without the judgement and pigeon-holes of our generation. I really envy some of the young dudes I know of or observe totally allowing their sexual fluidity to play out.

 

[LVCB77]

Thanks for the question. I would class myself as Bi because I literally have interest in both - and notice physical attributes that spark my interest in both men and women. I’m hopelessly in love with my wife of 27 years and she turns me on by just her smell, let alone her body and the respect I have for her. But from before we met I had a series of secret dalliances with men - mostly very cock focused. Wanks and frot. Gyms and nude beaches.

my porn was never really hetero. I didn’t have access to magazines and it’s only when the internet arrived (after I was married) that I found porn. Was never a big user until recent years.

so I used this new fangled internet to find fuel for my secret cock fetish.

I’m now 90% gay porn. Like you I prefer an idealized (in my mind) idea of masculinity. Muscles, hairy chest. Effeminate and hairless or younger men are a total turn-off.

I like the things I don’t do. The blowies and arse fucks and men doing that mutually for each other. I like buddy-porn where we are all mates and lend a helping hand.

I am also a keen nudist sunbather and I love nude beaches, so anything outside, and especially in the sun and nature really turns me on. Skinny dipping pics, sauna etc. gang showers and gym. Love gym porn. But then, I love the gym in real life.

My wife knows I like porn and disapproves. She has also discovered some pictures I took of myself, and made me delete them and still brings it up as some disgusting secret fetish I must have. I am very careful not to put pics of other men in my phone or iPad etc.

She thinks I’m eccentric about the nudey-baking but doesn’t mind me washing the car in the buff or mowing the lawn nude. I used to clean our pool naked and the kids made a joke of Dad’s lunchtime swims.

I think my wife guesses something, but our sex is pretty good - when we prioritize it for each other.

however, in recent years our previously good marriage has been tough, and the fantasy of porn has become a refuge for reality.

I think porn is fantasy and needs to be something fantastical. Something that takes the imagination someplace else.

I wonder if we were more on track as a couple I would use porn less. But the reality is I love gay porn and looking at men. It pre-existed our couples issue so isn’t the problem - it’s simply the refuge.

unlike you, I have dabbled with men and find it very relaxing and transactional. Uncomplicated. It hurts me that I can’t tell my wife. But, as I said, I have a funny idea she sort of knows.

I seem to have a flirt radar with women. I’m a bit of a flirt myself and am always being told off by my wife and daughter who reckon I flirt with any pretty waitress or store attendant. I’m not even aware I am doing it. But as soon as a woman shows signals that her flirting back is more intentional and there is a chance that I would be able to take it further I instinctively shut it down. Somehow cheating with another women seems so wrong. I love my wife.

but my periodic “cheating” with a man doesn’t seem to have the same effect on me. Mostly because it’s just a release and not an emotional “affair”

either way, I am not rushing to admit it. But I hope she would understand that the bi side of me is a powerful and enduring need. I have very strict limits on what I do and those have been formed by experience of what I like. As I said it is very focused on each others dicks.

so I’m str8 90-95% of my time and very happy that way. Certainly no desire to increase that limited and occasional (but persistent and long-standing) gay side of my actual sex life. But my porn fantasy life is aligned almost entirely to the 5/-10% gay side of me.

i think it’s a way to process that I am in a happy Hetero relationship, but still have gay feelings.

that’s “bi” I guess. It’s certainly me. And the label doesn’t matter. Men and women are beautiful, as is sex.

Wow, your post really resonated and is relatable to me. My gay porn affinity is not so much a cock fetish as it is a fetish for the male physique but regardless, my current porn taste is dominated by gay porn and primarily of the masculine variety. I might be more than you as far as percentage goes and am like 97 percent gay porn these days. As a matter of fact, the straight stuff I enjoy is almost exclusively with social media, nd when it comes to non porn movies and tv I find myself more focused on the sexy females over the men.

It's not until things get raunchy and X rated, like with porn, where my gay tastes come into play. Because of my artistic background, I've long since noticed and enjoyed a beautiful ,atlhletic, physique. However, somewhere along the way it got sexual, and I would get hard from seeing it and thinking about it.

Now that we have technology at our fingertips,

This guy Dr Joe Kort‘s book “is your husband gay, straight or bi”. really helped me understand what you are saying. This is a link to a short video where he discusses it. It’s written for the many women he sees in professional practice who freak out when they discover (as inevitably happens) that their husband looks at gay porn, or has sex with men. It basically suggests that what we experience as “str8” men in dabbling with dick, is fairly common and within the realms of normal. But that does not necessarily make us “Gay” in the classic sense.

Thanks for the reference. Will definitely look this one up.

 

[LVCB77]

Wow, your post really resonated and is relatable to me. My gay porn affinity is not so much a cock fetish as it is a fetish for the male physique but regardless, my current porn taste is dominated by gay porn and primarily of the masculine variety. I might be more than you as far as percentage goes and am like 97 percent gay porn these days. As a matter of fact, the straight stuff I enjoy is almost exclusively with social media, nd when it comes to non porn movies and tv I find myself more focused on the sexy females over the men.

It's not until things get raunchy and X rated, like with porn, where my gay tastes come into play. Because of my artistic background, I've long since noticed and enjoyed a beautiful ,atlhletic, physique. However, somewhere along the way it got sexual, and I would get hard from seeing it and thinking about it.

Now that we have technology at our fingertips,

Thanks for the reference. Will definitely look this one up

Continued... technology at our fingertips, I think I was finally able to fully explore my curiosity and admiration of the male physique in particular. Becaue I've only ever experienced sex with women, the novelty aspect and the intrigue of gay porn is very strong for me. Now that I've been married to a woman for many years, and although we still have our moments of good sexual chemistry and sex from time to time, I find the time away from one another to be wanting to be spent sexually thinking about and seeing other men.

Would I ever act it out in real life? Probably not. However, the fantasy of other men and watching them in porn is a very satisfying and a pleasurable experience for me these days.

 

[LVCB77]

Dave:

I'm happy to share here. It's another benefit of membership. It's not like I can bring it up at happy hour with friends and expect anyone to understand; especially when I don't get it myself. I have had a few guys hit on me over the years when in college and grad school and told them I was flattered, but no. On the flip side, there have been countless men that I've seen and wondered about their cock or stole glances at the guys in the locker room. Then, go home and devour my gfs or wife's pussy.

When in college, I once went into an adult bookstore to get my dick viewing fix and unbeknown to me a man followed me into the adjoining Booth. Next thing I know a massive perfectly proportioned cock, worthy of this site, comes through the glory hole. I was stunned, scared, confused, mad, horny, offended, and probably several other emotions. I thought about touching it just to feel the heat and heft of it, but couldn't. In a few seconds the dick was replaced by some fingers coming through the hole beckoning me to stick my cock in for an anonymous suck. I couldn't and just had to get out of there. Kinda freaked me out.

It feels a bit cathartic to type this out knowing there is no negative judgement coming.

Sorry for rambling. Thanks for the free therapy

C65

I love your candor.

 

[deleted20362541]

Love this! As someone who probably makes this more complicated than it shoud be, your honest, and carefree, in a good way, perspective on it is very cool and admirable.

Was curious and not to soil it, but is anyone aware of your love for gay porn?

No. Only me and the guys I've chatted with

 

[Curious65]

This guy Dr Joe Kort‘s book “is your husband gay, straight or bi”. really helped me understand what you are saying. This is a link to a short video where he discusses it. It’s written for the many women he sees in professional practice who freak out when they discover (as inevitably happens) that their husband looks at gay porn, or has sex with men. It basically suggests that what we experience as “str8” men in dabbling with dick, is fairly common and within the realms of normal. But that does not necessarily make us “Gay” in the classic sense.

I'll have to look up the good doctor. Thanks for the reference.

 

[jimbrownski79]

I think part of the appeal and arousal of my gay porn consumption is this idea in my head that two men can be passionate with each other and get off with each other. It isn't the norm of the expected m/f sex, but almost like helping a buddy in need. As I've said before, I don't really understand it myself, but I do know that I do not want a gay relationship or physical gay experiences. I gravitate to the masculine guys and am turned off by twinks and sissy's. Recently, I've discovered FTM porn that gets me hard quick! The idea of being able to fuck a hot wet pussy that is between the legs of a muscle jock gets me going.

Different strokes for different folks - for sure!

Lol I guess because I dont care about the sexual pleasure of the submissive (same in straight porn). I do not feel women are "used" in straight porn. Hell they get paid 3-5 times more than male performers. That said, mainstream straight porn is TRASH!! There is nothing better than amateur straight porn. Dont get me wrong Passion is good in porn, and makes for a better scene, but when Im just trying to bust a nut, honestly Im just focusing on a nice ass or a nice pair of tits, or a mouth going to TOWN on a dick lol. So agreed - different strokes for different folks....But that said, yes gay porn is undeniably more passionate. Can't fake an orgasm in gay & trans porn. There is definitely an arousal especially seeing a hands free orgasm because you hit the prostate just right. Frottage also brings out a passion in both gay and trans porn that cannot be rivaled in straight porn.

But OMG, I just discovered FTM porn!! It's some FTM's that give you the same curiousity of watching gay porn, but still have pussies obviously, and a few still have fem/twinkish body types. It's this one Noah, that is super duper cute. He is a Twink FTM, like literally the BEST of both worlds!! lol. But it's another I follow (can't remember his name unfortunately) that is black, muscular, bearded, but his pussy gets oh so wet and juicy!! And He takes it up the ass like a man. The passion level is something else with FTM gay porn. That whole concept fascinates me, women that transition, and now MOSTLY like men.

Lol Now that I think about it - Anal sex in general is something I LOVE in porn - but actually NOT that interested in real life. I have tried it, but it wasn't my thing. Nothing like pussy lol.. But it's so hot seeing a man thrust passionately into some ass. Watching a man (&FTM) or woman (&trans) get fucked in the ass in porn is stimulating. I would say I honestly spend my porn watching like thiis. About 55% straight porn, 30% trans porn, and 25% gay porn. Even in that 45% it is super specific lol. phat booty, A total Top vs a submissive bottom. When it comes to my fetishes (I like farting, giantess, and toilet fetish content) I am 100% straight and passable trans. I watch a TON of fetish porn nowadays

 

[Curious65]

Lol I guess because I dont care about the sexual pleasure of the submissive (same in straight porn). I do not feel women are "used" in straight porn. Hell they get paid 3-5 times more than male performers. That said, mainstream straight porn is TRASH!! There is nothing better than amateur straight porn. Dont get me wrong Passion is good in porn, and makes for a better scene, but when Im just trying to bust a nut, honestly Im just focusing on a nice ass or a nice pair of tits, or a mouth going to TOWN on a dick lol. So agreed - different strokes for different folks....But that said, yes gay porn is undeniably more passionate. Can't fake an orgasm in gay & trans porn. There is definitely an arousal especially seeing a hands free orgasm because you hit the prostate just right. Frottage also brings out a passion in both gay and trans porn that cannot be rivaled in straight porn.

But OMG, I just discovered FTM porn!! It's some FTM's that give you the same curiousity of watching gay porn, but still have pussies obviously, and a few still have fem/twinkish body types. It's this one Noah, that is super duper cute. He is a Twink FTM, like literally the BEST of both worlds!! lol. But it's another I follow (can't remember his name unfortunately) that is black, muscular, bearded, but his pussy gets oh so wet and juicy!! And He takes it up the ass like a man. The passion level is something else with FTM gay porn. That whole concept fascinates me, women that transition, and now MOSTLY like men.

Lol Now that I think about it - Anal sex in general is something I LOVE in porn - but actually NOT that interested in real life. I have tried it, but it wasn't my thing. Nothing like pussy lol.. But it's so hot seeing a man thrust passionately into some ass. Watching a man (&FTM) or woman (&trans) get fucked in the ass in porn is stimulating. I would say I honestly spend my porn watching like thiis. About 55% straight porn, 30% trans porn, and 25% gay porn. Even in that 45% it is super specific lol. phat booty, A total Top vs a submissive bottom. When it comes to my fetishes (I like farting, giantess, and toilet fetish content) I am 100% straight and passable trans. I watch a TON of fetish porn nowadays

Great post. FTM porn is the best of both worlds, as you say.

 

[Curious65]

Love this! As someone who probably makes this more complicated than it shoud be, your honest, and carefree, in a good way, perspective on it is very cool and admirable.

Was curious and not to soil it, but is anyone aware of your love for gay porn?

No one is aware except those that have read my posts here on LPSG.

Thanks, LVCB77, for your comments. This is a great place to be open and honest about this. There's no way anyone in my closest circle of friends would understand. And as I've said elsewhere, I really don't get it myself. I've had a few guys reach to me through the private chat feature to share that they too are like me. I was humbled and a bit overjoyed to learn that I might not be the unicorn I thought I was.

Of course now I'm going to head over to your page and take a look.

 

[Curious65]

Continued... technology at our fingertips, I think I was finally able to fully explore my curiosity and admiration of the male physique in particular. Becaue I've only ever experienced sex with women, the novelty aspect and the intrigue of gay porn is very strong for me. Now that I've been married to a woman for many years, and although we still have our moments of good sexual chemistry and sex from time to time, I find the time away from one another to be wanting to be spent sexually thinking about and seeing other men.

Would I ever act it out in real life? Probably not. However, the fantasy of other men and watching them in porn is a very satisfying and a pleasurable experience for me these days.

I can't tell you all what a positive experience this thread has been for me
I thought I was unique and am thrilled and relieved that I not. Thanks guys for bravely sharing.

 

[Musthaveporn]

Hi! I am new to the site, and this is my first post.

I am definitely in this same boat. I have been married to my wife for twenty years, and we have two teenage sons. I have only had sex with women, but over the years my interest in gay porn has exploded (pun definitely intended!).

I continue to be surprised at how many guys there are like this. Although I can still get off to straight porn, I watch 99% gay, and I think it is so much more stimulating - for all the reasons listed by several different men above. My liking of it started with just basic cocksucking and moved to cum swallowing and then finally ass eating and fucking. When I was first aroused by guys sucking each other's cocks, I couldn't even watch a rim job! I have moved way past that.

Sometimes I think it is due to the novelty of it or the difficulty in separating porn from reality, but I would love to have sex with a guy (or, better still, GUYS). With guys no area is untouched, and I really want to experience all of that. Although very few people know about this side of me, I look forward to meeting others who are in similar situations and would love to talk about which gay porn actor is the hottest!

 

[Curious65]

Hi! I am new to the site, and this is my first post.

I am definitely in this same boat. I have been married to my wife for twenty years, and we have two teenage sons. I have only had sex with women, but over the years my interest in gay porn has exploded (pun definitely intended!).

I continue to be surprised at how many guys there are like this. Although I can still get off to straight porn, I watch 99% gay, and I think it is so much more stimulating - for all the reasons listed by several different men above. My liking of it started with just basic cocksucking and moved to cum swallowing and then finally ass eating and fucking. When I was first aroused by guys sucking each other's cocks, I couldn't even watch a rim job! I have moved way past that.

Sometimes I think it is due to the novelty of it or the difficulty in separating porn from reality, but I would love to have sex with a guy (or, better still, GUYS). With guys no area is untouched, and I really want to experience all of that. Although very few people know about this side of me, I look forward to meeting others who are in similar situations and would love to talk about which gay porn actor is the hottest!

Welcome to the site! This is a great place to safely explore. Although I'm still a newbie myself, I have definitely gone down the LPSG rabbit hole. Never did I ever think I would post dick pics, but I did and it's a rush to read the comments. I hope you'll consider posting too as your comfort allows.

Feel free to reach out if you want to chat.

Be well.

 

[chromecountry]

This is a great thread. It’s good to see a forum where people can express themselves and have a mutual understanding, particularly when it’s about something that’s usually difficult to speak to other people about.

 

[Curious65]

This is a great thread. It’s good to see a forum where people can express themselves and have a mutual understanding, particularly when it’s about something that’s usually difficult to speak to other people about.

You are so right, chromecountry!

 

[royal_madnessty]

Sorry for the technical issues. Intended on replying to royal_madnessty and that reply in this thread was to another post. Nice to hear from a straight women on this. I can totally relate to the way women often behave in porn. As far as fast forwarding BJs in porn, I often do that when watching all porn; straight, trans, and gay. For me its not so much the exploitative aspect of the person on the swallowing end of a BJ that turns me off, but I get bored and want to cut to the chase and get to the penetration. Maybe I've never experienced epic enough head but this is probably why I've only cummed from a BJ a few times in my life and mostly get off from penatration and in a lot of cases cum more often and quicker from a handjob compared to oral.

It's both boring and feels wrong as most men do not return the favor and when they do it only last for a few seconds.

My BJ skills are bomb, so bomb that a guy told me he ''never exerienced something like that before'' and he's a 30 yo good looking man, not someone inexperienced. He's still trying to get back with me almost 3 years later because of it. Last week he again messaged me, telling me how he often still thinks about it. Not bragging about myself,( i'm a faceless nobody online) i don't even know why it's so bomb but guess it really is lol.

 

[Lovetobetouched]

It's both boring and feels wrong as most men do not return the favor and when they do it only last for a few seconds.

My BJ skills are bomb, so bomb that a guy told me he ''never exerienced something like that before'' and he's a 30 yo good looking man, not someone inexperienced. He's still trying to get back with me almost 3 years later because of it. Last week he again messaged me, telling me how he often still thinks about it. Not bragging about myself,( i'm a faceless nobody online) i don't even know why it's so bomb but guess it really is lol.

That will make you popular. A “keeper” in any man’s book. I hope your men really value that and work extra hard at pleasing you.

 

[LVCB77]

I can't tell you all what a positive experience this thread has been for me
I thought I was unique and am thrilled and relieved that I not. Thanks guys for bravely sharing.

It's been a very positive experience for me too, and I want to thank you and everyone else for being brave and sharing. I started this thread with the hope that I would get honest feedback and testimony from all kinds of people, and it has delivered in spades. It's been fascinating and has taught me that I am not unique or alone with these feelings.

 

[LVCB77]

Hi! I am new to the site, and this is my first post.

I am definitely in this same boat. I have been married to my wife for twenty years, and we have two teenage sons. I have only had sex with women, but over the years my interest in gay porn has exploded (pun definitely intended!).

I continue to be surprised at how many guys there are like this. Although I can still get off to straight porn, I watch 99% gay, and I think it is so much more stimulating - for all the reasons listed by several different men above. My liking of it started with just basic cocksucking and moved to cum swallowing and then finally ass eating and fucking. When I was first aroused by guys sucking each other's cocks, I couldn't even watch a rim job! I have moved way past that.

Sometimes I think it is due to the novelty of it or the difficulty in separating porn from reality, but I would love to have sex with a guy (or, better still, GUYS). With guys no area is untouched, and I really want to experience all of that. Although very few people know about this side of me, I look forward to meeting others who are in similar situations and would love to talk about which gay porn actor is the hottest!

Hello and welcome. So honored that you chose this thread to post for the first time.

I love your exuberance and enthusiasm about gay porn and can relate. My initial liking started with the male body more so than the cock. I use to often find myself focused on the guys body in straight porn, and then it evolved to solo male stuff. When I got my first taste of male on male action I was a little weirded out initially but quickly realized how aroused I was and was hooked.

 

[LVCB77]

Hi! I am new to the site, and this is my first post.

I am definitely in this same boat. I have been married to my wife for twenty years, and we have two teenage sons. I have only had sex with women, but over the years my interest in gay porn has exploded (pun definitely intended!).

I continue to be surprised at how many guys there are like this. Although I can still get off to straight porn, I watch 99% gay, and I think it is so much more stimulating - for all the reasons listed by several different men above. My liking of it started with just basic cocksucking and moved to cum swallowing and then finally ass eating and fucking. When I was first aroused by guys sucking each other's cocks, I couldn't even watch a rim job! I have moved way past that.

Sometimes I think it is due to the novelty of it or the difficulty in separating porn from reality, but I would love to have sex with a guy (or, better still, GUYS). With guys no area is untouched, and I really want to experience all of that. Although very few people know about this side of me, I look forward to meeting others who are in similar situations and would love to talk about which gay porn actor is the hottest!

Hello and welcome. So honored that you chose this thread to post for the first time.

I love your exuberance and enthusiasm about gay porn and can relate. My initial liking started with the male body more so than the cock. I use to often find myself focused on the guys body in straight porn, and then it evolved to solo male stuff. When I got my first taste of male on male action I was a little weirded out initially but quickly realized how aroused I was and was hooked. Over the years it got stronger to the point where I nearly

This is a great thread. It’s good to see a forum where people can express themselves and have a mutual understanding, particularly when it’s about something that’s usually difficult to speak to other people about.

Well put chromecountry and exactly what this is all about.

 

[royal_madnessty]

It's been a very positive experience for me too, and I want to thank you and everyone else for being brave and sharing. I started this thread with the hope that I would get honest feedback and testimony from all kinds of people, and it has delivered in spades. It's been fascinating and has taught me that I am not unique or alone with these feelings.

At first i thought it was weird that as a straight woman i like to watch non straight porn but i see it like this, there are millions of straight men that love lesbian porn. It's pretty much the same thing. I think it's really just that simple but also, there's still a taboo on men being gay when it's more accepted when women are gay, that too plays a factor i'm sure.

There's a reason why straight men are quick to say ''no homo'' when they say something nice about other men. Women never do that.

Men complimenting another man: ''he looks buff #no homo.''
Women complimenting another woman: ''she's beautiful, she has a cute shape.''

I sometimes talk to straight men and have conversations about porn (preferences) and some of them think it's gross how i watch gay male porn but they admit in the same breath that they like to watch lesbian porn. What's the difference? Taboo...insecurtities...toxic masculinity.

Enjoy the ride and don't worry too much, it's not hurting anybody.