Tell or not tell a good friend I am bi?

[tjhonesh]

Personally, I wouldn't tell my close friend about it. I believe most straight guys wouldn't tell their friends the details how he fucks his gf/wife. I guess he won't tell you about his sex life too. Most of guys I fucked are married w/o kids. I'm sure no one would know they loved getting fucked by me! One of my best friends used to be my fb and I don't even share anything about my current sex life with him now. Of course, I won't risk to share that with my future gf/wife. To be honest, I'm not attracted to any of my close friends at all now lol. I guess the reason why you wanted to tell him is because you are attracted to him. IMHO, I don't think it's worth it to lose the good friendship. You can always find an attractive sexy safe sex partner. Like @bi2 said, enjoy your bi sex privately and keep it private

 

[deleted17938181]

Personally, I wouldn't tell my close friend about it. I believe most straight guys wouldn't tell their friends the details how he fucks his gf/wife. I guess he won't tell you about his sex life too. Most of guys I fucked are married w/o kids. I'm sure no one would know they loved getting fucked by me! One of my best friends used to be my fb and I don't even share anything about my current sex life with him now. Of course, I won't risk to share that with my future gf/wife. To be honest, I'm not attracted to any of my close friends at all now lol. I guess the reason why you wanted to tell him is because you are attracted to him. IMHO, I don't think it's worth it to lose the good friendship. You can always find an attractive sexy safe sex partner. Like @bi2 said, enjoy your bi sex privately and keep it private

Thank you bud for your time replying this!
In the end is like that, for sure he doesn't want to know about my privates either. Or I don't want to know how he fucks, turns out I know his wife too. He won't tell, I would be weird.
I have known him for 30 years. He's been always kind, caring and handsome. Yes, I have felt attracted to him. He is 3 years older than me.
About six months ago, I was wondering why I end up discussing with him bad because we work together for a charity several months in the year. We used to hang out and have long talks not implying sex or anything like that. And work together in our free time.
He is unreachable by all means and homophobic as well. He wouldn't understand, he would just walked away. So, there is no doubt that I mustn't say. He as a person is more valuable.
And following what I was saying, about fighting with him, I thought that maybe I was developing something more, perhaps sexual tension or a crush. But there is no way to know.
As some other guy said, we tend to project what our mind wants. And in this case is someone non available, and I am moving from that.
I agree completely with you @tjhones and @bi2 this my own private business.
I appreciate very much your opinion and as you guys are on the same patio, we know the rules, we know how is this about being bi and there won't be any champion that put this label happily. Just a finger pointing out (you know what I mean).

 

[bi2]

Personally, I wouldn't tell my close friend about it. I believe most straight guys wouldn't tell their friends the details how he fucks his gf/wife. I guess he won't tell you about his sex life too. Most of guys I fucked are married w/o kids. I'm sure no one would know they loved getting fucked by me! One of my best friends used to be my fb and I don't even share anything about my current sex life with him now. Of course, I won't risk to share that with my future gf/wife. To be honest, I'm not attracted to any of my close friends at all now lol. I guess the reason why you wanted to tell him is because you are attracted to him. IMHO, I don't think it's worth it to lose the good friendship. You can always find an attractive sexy safe sex partner. Like @bi2 said, enjoy your bi sex privately and keep it private

Correct.

Being Bi, is a private consenting fetish that I get to indulge and enjoy without any stress or dramas. Adding a layer of complexity by disclosing this to others, is absolutely unncecessary and potentially could affect my relationship with my fuckbuddy.

Its in my best interest to keep this part of my sexuality discrete. So everything to lose, with extremely little to gain. I dont need any friend's approval or disapproval in what I do behind closed doors for an hour once every 2-3 weeks.

I have occasionally seen my fuckbuddy out with his wife and family. Similarly he has seen me out and about too. We ignore each other and make no acknowledgment of this. I respect his privacy and he respects mine. There is no jealousies from either end, I am definitely happy he has an emotional outlet on his end, similarly Im sure he feels the same about me too. I wouldnt want it any other way.

 

[bi2]

Thank you bud for your time replying this!
In the end is like that, for sure he doesn't want to know about my privates either. Or I don't want to know how he fucks, turns out I know his wife too. He won't tell, I would be weird.
I have known him for 30 years. He's been always kind, caring and handsome. Yes, I have felt attracted to him. He is 3 years older than me.
About six months ago, I was wondering why I end up discussing with him bad because we work together for a charity several months in the year. We used to hang out and have long talks not implying sex or anything like that. And work together in our free time.
He is unreachable by all means and homophobic as well. He wouldn't understand, he would just walked away. So, there is no doubt that I mustn't say. He as a person is more valuable.
And following what I was saying, about fighting with him, I thought that maybe I was developing something more, perhaps sexual tension or a crush. But there is no way to know.
As some other guy said, we tend to project what our mind wants. And in this case is someone non available, and I am moving from that.
I agree completely with you @tjhones and @bi2 this my own private business.
I appreciate very much your opinion and as you guys are on the same patio, we know the rules, we know how is this about being bi and there won't be any champion that put this label happily. Just a finger pointing out (you know what I mean).

The only approval you need wtih MM sex, is with your parnter who is fucking you. As long as its consentual, its no elses business.

 

[lroque7777777]

Correct.

Being Bi, is a private consenting fetish that I get to indulge and enjoy without any stress or dramas. Adding a layer of complexity by disclosing this to others, is absolutely unncecessary and potentially could affect my relationship with my fuckbuddy.

Its in my best interest to keep this part of my sexuality discrete. So everything to lose, with extremely little to gain. I dont need any friend's approval or disapproval in what I do behind closed doors for an hour once every 2-3 weeks.

I have occasionally seen my fuckbuddy out with his wife and family. Similarly he has seen me out and about too. We ignore each other and make no acknowledgment of this. I respect his privacy and he respects mine. There is no jealousies from either end, I am definitely happy he has an emotional outlet on his end, similarly Im sure he feels the same about me too. I wouldnt want it any other way.

"private consenting fetish"

It's 2022, don't lock yourself in a closet bro.

I remember when I was 15 and I had my first guy relationship with my then bestfriend, while he had a gf and I also had a gf. We would go on double dates sometimes and it was all fun and games.... then things got complicated and toxic. It was quite an awakening and taught me how to be honest with myself. I've learned that being bi is who I am. Liking a guy isn't the lesser of my liking a girl and vice versa.

 

[Rippedspeedo]

Keep to yourself.

 

[bi2]

Keep to yourself.

This is the right approach. We live in 2022, Bi guys are not same way accepted or celebrated like Bi Girls.

Everything to lose, little to gain.

 

[Puffdaddy316]

This is the right approach. We live in 2022, Bi guys are not same way accepted or celebrated like Bi Girls.

Everything to lose, little to gain.

Totally agree 100%

 

[bi2]

Totally agree 100%

I just think if you have any doubt in your mind whatsoever, keep it private.

Once you "come out" there is no going back in.

 

[Puffdaddy316]

I just think if you have any doubt in your mind whatsoever, keep it private.

Once you "come out" there is no going back in.

Well said

 

[Puffdaddy316]

I he’s a great friend then go ahead and tell him

 

[RosewoodAvenue]

I have only told one friend that I am bi. He is younger and gay. He is a good listener and helped me a lot

What's his email? We all need him as a friend!

 

[bi2]

Well said

I think the bottom line is that you dont need to confide or confess anything to anyone that you dont feel 100% comfortable with. If you have any doubt whatsoever, simply dont. If you do, then sleep on it for another day or two before confiding so you have had even more time to think it over.

In my situation, I see my fuckbuddy once every 2-3 weeks for an hour in most hookups. We both have wanted and needed to be private and discrete about us having sex together. I respect him, he respects me. We have great sex together. So even if I had a friend that I could confide and felt comfortable in trusting, why would I want to betray my fuckbuddy on a "trivial" matter. He is a fuckbuddy, neither of us have never had nor ever want anything more outside of a physical relationship. So in reality, if I did confide to a friend, all I would be saying is that I have great MM sex. Thats the extent of it.

 

[Puffdaddy316]

I think the bottom line is that you dont need to confide or confess anything to anyone that you dont feel 100% comfortable with. If you have any doubt whatsoever, simply dont. If you do, then sleep on it for another day or two before confiding so you have had even more time to think it over.

In my situation, I see my fuckbuddy once every 2-3 weeks for an hour in most hookups. We both have wanted and needed to be private and discrete about us having sex together. I respect him, he respects me. We have great sex together. So even if I had a friend that I could confide and felt comfortable in trusting, why would I want to betray my fuckbuddy on a "trivial" matter. He is a fuckbuddy, neither of us have never had nor ever want anything more outside of a physical relationship. So in reality, if I did confide to a friend, all I would be saying is that I have great MM sex. Thats the extent of it.

I 100% and totally agree with this. Well stated!