Tommy Defendi, Porn Actor

[MichaelSambitoJR]

I asked Tommy about Jake once he basically said he was a Prima Donna and had a big ego

 

[Joseph6920]

I just listened to an interview Tommy/James did in 2022 on the podcast Sorry For Asking with Cole Connor and Adam Ramzi. James describes himself as "heteroflexible," that he is attracted to men but primarily to women, and his favorite activity with men was giving blowjobs. He admitted that he trash-talked his gay porn past after he got out of the industry but that he has a more balanced view of his experience now, that it was the drug addictions that were tearing him apart, not the porn necessarily. Still has many friends in the industry.

Selfishly, I wish he were still in porn, particularly now that it's all bareback -- God, I would so love to see him get railed raw by somebody like Sir Peter -- but he's sober and sounds happy now. After all, we still have those iconic scenes of him having sex with men, captured forever.

Sorry For Asking with Tommy Defendi-James LaRusso

 

[Lanchan]

I just listened to an interview Tommy/James did in 2022 on the podcast Sorry For Asking with Cole Connor and Adam Ramzi. James describes himself as "heteroflexible," that he is attracted to men but primarily to women, and his favorite activity with men was giving blowjobs. He admitted that he trash-talked his gay porn past after he got out of the industry but that he has a more balanced view of his experience now, that it was the drug addictions that were tearing him apart, not the porn necessarily. Still has many friends in the industry.

Selfishly, I wish he were still in porn, particularly now that it's all bareback -- God, I would so love to see him get railed raw by somebody like Sir Peter -- but he's sober and sounds happy now. After all, we still have those iconic scenes of him having sex with men, captured forever.

Sorry For Asking with Tommy Defendi-James LaRusso

It's nice to hear he has a more nuanced view about it now. Never thought it fair to bash the whole industry just because of your couple bad experiences. It's still a career choice he made knowingly!

 

[SplurgyA]

I know this is old, but I was curious does anyone remember the Beef him and Jake Bass had on twitter like in 2015/16? I saw the thread a few days after the fact but they both deleted a lot of messages and honestly I was kind of lost, I was just curious if anyone could digest what happened for me.

I know something about James talking about an Amazon wishlist, then Jake calling him broke and then they argued (honestly I always thought people asking strangers to buy them things from Amazon was tacky, but Jake took it too far) and it lasted for a couple of days I think. I think Jake must have been mad about something else honestly. Weird also since they had scenes together before..

Shortly after he announced his retirement he started a GoFundMe to try and get his fans to donate so he could buy $5000 worth of equipment and "start a DJ career".

This was probably just after Jake had left Cockyboys for the second time so there was likely behind the scenes drama going on. (I'm aghast to realise I remember gay pornstar drama from a decade ago, but Tommy Defendi was a personal fave)

 

[MichaelSambitoJR]

Tommy told me Jake was a Prima Donna

 

[ChuChiPapi]

Shortly after he announced his retirement he started a GoFundMe to try and get his fans to donate so he could buy $5000 worth of equipment and "start a DJ career".
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This was probably just after Jake had left Cockyboys for the second time so there was likely behind the scenes drama going on. (I'm aghast to realise I remember gay pornstar drama from a decade ago, but Tommy Defendi was a personal fave)

Ah it makes more sense now lol. I only saw some of these tweets as a few of them were deleted.

I mean in my opinion it is tacky and cringe to ask for money to buy dj equipment, but then again Jake shouldn't have said anything.


When I first read the tweets I was thinking about the time Jake and Tommy flipped a coin and Jake fucked him in the ass. It was very unexpected lolol.

 

[ChuChiPapi]

Tommy told me Jake was a Prima Donna

I can absolutely see that. I am sure most porn stars are.

 

[ChuChiPapi]

A HQ scan I did of his dvd cover. He has a beautiful dick. Too bad we won't be seeing it anymore.

 

[ChuChiPapi]

I am shocked that Adam Ramzi and Boomer Banks still follow him on social media, and that they are all friendly still.

Boomer always has such a strong opinion about everything and he as soon as anyone deviates from his point of view, he trashes them and tells other people not to associate with them anymore... I can't believe Boomer didn't call Tommy out for "gay baiting" or "gay for pay" or anything like that. The dudes loooooves to argue with anyone that doesn't believe exactly like he does.

 

[Joseph6920]

A HQ scan I did of his dvd cover. He has a beautiful dick. Too bad we won't be seeing it anymore.

I agree. Tommy has one of the most beautiful cocks in the history of gay porn. And, yet, I rarely watched the videos where he topped. Instead, I was all over the clips of him bottoming; he claimed in the interview I linked above that he didn't enjoy bottoming, but he must've been an Oscar-caliber actor, as he took cocks up his ass like a champ and projected pure bliss while doing it. A shame we never got to see him take cock bareback, with cum leaking out of his asshole.

 

[LetMeInYourWorldUKnow]

I am shocked that Adam Ramzi and Boomer Banks still follow him on social media, and that they are all friendly still.

Boomer always has such a strong opinion about everything and he as soon as anyone deviates from his point of view, he trashes them and tells other people not to associate with them anymore... I can't believe Boomer didn't call Tommy out for "gay baiting" or "gay for pay" or anything like that. The dudes loooooves to argue with anyone that doesn't believe exactly like he does.

Tommy Defendi was engaged to a man, had several hookups with other men and as he himself admitted he was turned on during filming.
Boomer would probably had a problem if he was actually straight but it seems like he had little problem with closeted guys.

Who cares if you identify as straight if your dick starts leaking precum from looking at smooth ass and taint?

 

[ChuChiPapi]

I agree. Tommy has one of the most beautiful cocks in the history of gay porn. And, yet, I rarely watched the videos where he topped. Instead, I was all over the clips of him bottoming; he claimed in the interview I linked above that he didn't enjoy bottoming, but he must've been an Oscar-caliber actor, as he took cocks up his ass like a champ and projected pure bliss while doing it. A shame we never got to see him take cock bareback, with cum leaking out of his asshole.

I completely agree... for some reason him bottoming is so much hotter.

I love seeing his big size 13 feet squirming when he takes it in the ass.

 

[Laysoven1]

Has he ever done an interracial scene with a black guy? I can’t seem to find one.

 

[jjkly123]

I agree. Tommy has one of the most beautiful cocks in the history of gay porn. And, yet, I rarely watched the videos where he topped. Instead, I was all over the clips of him bottoming; he claimed in the interview I linked above that he didn't enjoy bottoming, but he must've been an Oscar-caliber actor, as he took cocks up his ass like a champ and projected pure bliss while doing it. A shame we never got to see him take cock bareback, with cum leaking out of his asshole.

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The best bottoms have what he has, big cock and hairy hole/body. I love masculine bottoms, or at least hung ones

 

[michael_james]

Has anyone brought the Tommy Defendi dildo? Thoughts if so?
Does anyone know if he has put it aside next to his dick so we know it is the same size?
I HATE when they make the dildo a different size/shape than the actual thing, makes me feel cheated

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I have it and it's absolutely enormous. But, the material is very realistic and not too firm. I'm pretty sure he did a video with Tommy comparing his dick to the dildo when it launched and they looked the same size/shape, etc.

 

[Hale88]

he's married?
to whom?

 

[Becausing]

Has anyone brought the Tommy Defendi dildo? Thoughts if so?
Does anyone know if he has put it aside next to his dick so we know it is the same size?
I HATE when they make the dildo a different size/shape than the actual thing, makes me feel cheated

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I also have it! It’s really nice! The material and size are great— definitely not a beginner’s toy, but not a traffic cone that will wreck you for a couple days. The material/texture/density has me wanting to try another of FT’s toys.

 

[ChuChiPapi]

I also have it! It’s really nice! The material and size are great— definitely not a beginner’s toy, but not a traffic cone that will wreck you for a couple days. The material/texture/density has me wanting to try another of FT’s toys.

I just want it to be similar to his size and shape. The Joel Birkin dildo (among others) are MUCH MUCH bigger than the actual model's D.

 

[cam_cam17]

You have to factor in that most of that 16.7% (or whatever percentage) has historically been invisible, living heterosexual lives and passing as straight. Before Gen Z, only a small segment of the bisexual population would openly identify as such and join in with the LGBTQ community.

I think bisexuals would be less "denied" if they didn't equivocate so much about their queerness. Obviously, everyone isn't like this. But many will want to be respected in the community while simultaneously masking most of the time & not risking their status in the hierarchy of heteronormativity.

I don't mean to be harsh, and I really get how convenient it is not to have to be constantly bombarded with homophobia. It's exhausting. But I also can't help but think you can't be in community with the community if you have no skin in the game because you chose the route of the most privileged.

 

[Heddonist]

I still dream of this guy. Hopefully hes doing well these days, there's a very dark side to doing porn.
There's one guy at my gym who's the spitting image of him, for the longest time I thought it was actually him until i saw he he's got some tattoos.