Too Big To Take Frequently

[weapondavid]

So, here's a challenge that I'm sure many of us have had. I'm currently experiencing it and it drives me batty: I'm too large to have (gay, anal) sex with on a regular basis. My partner needs at least a few "days off" after a good fucking just to recover. He's an excellent bottom, for sure; best sex I have ever had! But I want to have sex, like, every other day, and he just can't take it. To add insult to injury, he has told me that if I were smaller -- 5 or 6 inches (instead of the 8.5 that I am) -- we could probably have sex everyday, whenever I want, etc. <sigh> With my perpetually high libido, this is such an unintended slap in the face...

The way I see it, I have few options: Masturbate, try to convince him to engage in a different sexual act with me (pretty difficult to do), seek another partner for on-the-side fulfillment, or nothing.

Most of the time I jerk off, but I have sought out someone to give me head. The only thing is, it was a little sketchy (truck driver in his cab, which smelled of cigarette smoke, etc.); I ended up getting an STI test the next day just to be on the safe side.

Anyway, I actually don't WANT someone else; I want my man. But I can't have him, not as often as I'd like anyway. And, as I mentioned above, my libido is so fierce that it drives me crazy and into all sorts of potentially bad situations. I'm built to fuck. I love it. There's nothing like breeding a good hole. I'm sure many of you can relate.

Any advice? Thanks in advance.

You can alway fuck me on his day off

 

[MilfBanger78]

Im not a monster cock like some of u guys on here lol but pretty girthy. My gf wants it every day but she gets sore as hell, which is not helped by the fact it takes me a long time to cum. Im a lot bigger than both her ex's. They were 2 minute men. So she gets frustrated since she wants to fuck every day but after 15 mins or so she just cant take it. i Have had this experience with ex's too.

I remember an interview with Gianna Michaels where she said she loved Shane Diesel's massive cock but said theres no way she could take it on the daily lol

 

[JGay2000]

Im not a monster cock like some of u guys on here lol but pretty girthy. My gf wants it every day but she gets sore as hell, which is not helped by the fact it takes me a long time to cum. Im a lot bigger than both her ex's. They were 2 minute men. So she gets frustrated since she wants to fuck every day but after 15 mins or so she just cant take it. i Have had this experience with ex's too.

I remember an interview with Gianna Michaels where she said she loved Shane Diesel's massive cock but said theres no way she could take it on the daily lol

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Fuck I’d die to take Shane Diesel every day!

 

[Bibamaguy]

So, here's a challenge that I'm sure many of us have had. I'm currently experiencing it and it drives me batty: I'm too large to have (gay, anal) sex with on a regular basis. My partner needs at least a few "days off" after a good fucking just to recover. He's an excellent bottom, for sure; best sex I have ever had! But I want to have sex, like, every other day, and he just can't take it. To add insult to injury, he has told me that if I were smaller -- 5 or 6 inches (instead of the 8.5 that I am) -- we could probably have sex everyday, whenever I want, etc. <sigh> With my perpetually high libido, this is such an unintended slap in the face...

The way I see it, I have few options: Masturbate, try to convince him to engage in a different sexual act with me (pretty difficult to do), seek another partner for on-the-side fulfillment, or nothing.

Most of the time I jerk off, but I have sought out someone to give me head. The only thing is, it was a little sketchy (truck driver in his cab, which smelled of cigarette smoke, etc.); I ended up getting an STI test the next day just to be on the safe side.

Anyway, I actually don't WANT someone else; I want my man. But I can't have him, not as often as I'd like anyway. And, as I mentioned above, my libido is so fierce that it drives me crazy and into all sorts of potentially bad situations. I'm built to fuck. I love it. There's nothing like breeding a good hole. I'm sure many of you can relate.

Any advice? Thanks in advance.

It's called self control . And you have it , you just don't want to use it. Does your man know you are potentially giving him an sti ? There's more to life than your sex drive . You need to fess up and let " your man" know he isn't the only one anymore .

 

[MilfBanger78]

Fuck I’d die to take Shane Diesel every day!

Love his cock. Plus u just KNOW hes bi, hes been doing so many cuckold films where the dudes lips are an inch from his awesome BBC lol

 

[ohyeah379]

So, here's a challenge that I'm sure many of us have had. I'm currently experiencing it and it drives me batty: I'm too large to have (gay, anal) sex with on a regular basis. My partner needs at least a few "days off" after a good fucking just to recover. He's an excellent bottom, for sure; best sex I have ever had! But I want to have sex, like, every other day, and he just can't take it. To add insult to injury, he has told me that if I were smaller -- 5 or 6 inches (instead of the 8.5 that I am) -- we could probably have sex everyday, whenever I want, etc. <sigh> With my perpetually high libido, this is such an unintended slap in the face...

The way I see it, I have few options: Masturbate, try to convince him to engage in a different sexual act with me (pretty difficult to do), seek another partner for on-the-side fulfillment, or nothing.

Most of the time I jerk off, but I have sought out someone to give me head. The only thing is, it was a little sketchy (truck driver in his cab, which smelled of cigarette smoke, etc.); I ended up getting an STI test the next day just to be on the safe side.

Anyway, I actually don't WANT someone else; I want my man. But I can't have him, not as often as I'd like anyway. And, as I mentioned above, my libido is so fierce that it drives me crazy and into all sorts of potentially bad situations. I'm built to fuck. I love it. There's nothing like breeding a good hole. I'm sure many of you can relate.

Any advice? Thanks in advance.

Some guys can handle it daily and some can't. Its hit or miss but hopefully he's at least giving that nice cock a good bj or 2 a day.

 

[JGay2000]

Love his cock. Plus u just KNOW hes bi, hes been doing so many cuckold films where the dudes lips are an inch from his awesome BBC lol

Well I want to be the first boy to take him!

 

[MancmanMatt]

It's called self control . And you have it , you just don't want to use it. Does your man know you are potentially giving him an sti ? There's more to life than your sex drive . You need to fess up and let " your man" know he isn't the only one anymore .

It's not just about self control. Differences in libido are reasons why couples break up all the time. If it was only a matter of self control then these couples wouldn't break up. I honestly do not know why anyone in this thread is coming down on the original poster like it's his problem and he needs to get over it because this is simply not the case. This is a genuine problem faced by lots of people.

That said the main issue I see is that anal is the only thing you go to. This is impractical. Someone's hole being able to take it every day is one thing but having the time and energy to prepare properly is another. Most bottoms do not want anal every day because of the prep not because they are sore. Prep is also made harder if the guy has a big dick. If he's just 5" it can take less than five minutes and you're good to go. But if he opens you up deep, past the second hole, then this can take an hour+ to prep for. Ain't no one got time for that every day.

Your problem, imo, is that he won't do other things, to get you off, between the times when you have anal sex. Either he's one of the very rare kinds of man that doesn't get off on anything other than anal, or, his sex drive is actually quite a bit lower than yours. He could be lying about being able to take it every day to cover up this fact. Most bottoms will drop to their knees, in a second, to swallow their man's load if they are horny. It also sounds like he isn't the kind of guy who gets off on actually pleasing people in bed.

Like you I love pleasing people sexually. Even if I'm not horny I'll eat ass, suck dick, worship a man's body and make out to satisfy him. Even if I'm tapped out and my dick won't get hard again that day. Your man doesn't sound like this kind of guy.

It sounds like, to be sexually satisfied, you need to end your relationship and find someone else. Or accept that you'll always be unsatisfied and stay with him. This isn't an easy choice to make.

On the topic of soreness after sex this can be mitigated by changing the way you fuck. Fast, rigourous, thrusting is a sure fire way to make someone sore even with lots of lube. I know lots of you like to pound away for a long time but if you want that hole to remain ready for the next day change your fucking style.

Take time to open them up and then adopt a slow thrusting style. Enjoy teasing their hole more with your cockhead. You don't need to go balls deep or fuck fast for immense pleasure. The hole is the tightest part, simply enjoy feeling it slowly wrap around your cockhead over and over. Then after you've teased that hole really open slow deep thrusts. Each slow thrust purposeful to give you both a large pleasure wave rather than you needing to bang that hole ten times to get one. The slower you go the more each thrust feels just like the first. You know that first moment when you go balls deep and you both moan in ecstasy. You're wanting to hold onto this rather than pounding his insides into jelly.

 

[MancmanMatt]

Some guys can handle it daily and some can't. Its hit or miss but hopefully he's at least giving that nice cock a good bj or 2 a day.

He isn't. That's the main problem in my opinion.

 

[teddybaerli1]

Ok I'm straight but, my wife always struggled like hell with anal and we'd never try it very often but when we did a little more than the head of my dick would have her tapping out and literally crying with pain even with tons of lube of course. We'd laugh it off and it was fine, obviously I had her pussy for regular sex so not really the issue you have bruh but all the same she always said that one day she'd like to 'give her ass up to me properly'. We've been swingers ever since we've been together, myself all my adult life and long before I even met her, one advantage of her having a tight butt hole was that when we were with other couples the guys who couldn't get friction from her pussy could always take her ass which worked fine for those guys and her. Fast forward to recent times and our swing life has become a little more diverse in the type of couples we meet with, my wife plays more of a dominatrix role these days and physical sex isn't as important to her in our meets with other people so, and sorry this has been a little long winded but I felt it helped to explain properly, she decided that the time had now come to give up her ass to me properly in our personal sex life.
Obviously no easy journey for either of us but especially her, we decided we'd practice a couple times a week minimum, along with lube we'd use different toys and dilators working her up gradually until we could finish each session with myself penetrating as much as she could handle each time. It was slowish progress but her ass began to stretch more easily than she'd thought it would using the gradual and more gentle approach, these days now she needs no preparation apart from the application of lube, me working up my stroke to begin with after initial penetration in her ass and within a few minutes she can accommodate my whole length in her butt and she thoroughly enjoys it I'm pleased to add.
So my advice is toys and dilators, also get yourselves an inflatable dildo or two they're a great tool for the stretching process, you need to look at a thicker skinned inflatable though buddy as the cheaper ones with a thin jacket don't really cut it.
Hope it helps bruh, a little patience and practice and I'm sure you'll get where you want to be man.

What a great comment from a straight man to a gay one. Wouwwww, that's diversity! Congratulations! YOU are a fantastic man (and so is your dick as I just saw, lol). I really liked to read your words. Enjoy your dick fun and thanks for being so open minded!
Cheers-Ted

 

[MDM8]

My wife can only take me about once a week or she is to sore. I just touch myself instead. It's kinda depressing. I will never cheat, but I watch a ton of porn. If I bring it up she will offer (halfheartedly) to get me off some how, hj usually. I could go twice or three times a day if allowed. We tried anal one time and I was completely unable to enter. Anal is my fetish I've had only a very few women try it and only one was into it but even she tapped out.

Similar experiences with my wife. Too many times in a week and she is too sore, and sometimes there can be a little bleeding in some positions. We also tried anal once but didn’t even get it in, that was a no-go! Good thing that I’m not really into the idea of anal anyway...

 

[creamstick]

It's not just about self control. Differences in libido are reasons why couples break up all the time. If it was only a matter of self control then these couples wouldn't break up. I honestly do not know why anyone in this thread is coming down on the original poster like it's his problem and he needs to get over it because this is simply not the case. This is a genuine problem faced by lots of people.

That said the main issue I see is that anal is the only thing you go to. This is impractical. Someone's hole being able to take it every day is one thing but having the time and energy to prepare properly is another. Most bottoms do not want anal every day because of the prep not because they are sore. Prep is also made harder if the guy has a big dick. If he's just 5" it can take less than five minutes and you're good to go. But if he opens you up deep, past the second hole, then this can take an hour+ to prep for. Ain't no one got time for that every day.

Your problem, imo, is that he won't do other things, to get you off, between the times when you have anal sex. Either he's one of the very rare kinds of man that doesn't get off on anything other than anal, or, his sex drive is actually quite a bit lower than yours. He could be lying about being able to take it every day to cover up this fact. Most bottoms will drop to their knees, in a second, to swallow their man's load if they are horny. It also sounds like he isn't the kind of guy who gets off on actually pleasing people in bed.

Like you I love pleasing people sexually. Even if I'm not horny I'll eat ass, suck dick, worship a man's body and make out to satisfy him. Even if I'm tapped out and my dick won't get hard again that day. Your man doesn't sound like this kind of guy.

It sounds like, to be sexually satisfied, you need to end your relationship and find someone else. Or accept that you'll always be unsatisfied and stay with him. This isn't an easy choice to make.

On the topic of soreness after sex this can be mitigated by changing the way you fuck. Fast, rigourous, thrusting is a sure fire way to make someone sore even with lots of lube. I know lots of you like to pound away for a long time but if you want that hole to remain ready for the next day change your fucking style.

Take time to open them up and then adopt a slow thrusting style. Enjoy teasing their hole more with your cockhead. You don't need to go balls deep or fuck fast for immense pleasure. The hole is the tightest part, simply enjoy feeling it slowly wrap around your cockhead over and over. Then after you've teased that hole really open slow deep thrusts. Each slow thrust purposeful to give you both a large pleasure wave rather than you needing to bang that hole ten times to get one. The slower you go the more each thrust feels just like the first. You know that first moment when you go balls deep and you both moan in ecstasy. You're wanting to hold onto this rather than pounding his insides into jelly.

Very insightful and thoughtful reply MancMann. It is so good to see and hear intelligent replies to what can be difficult issues. I totally agree with the way you suggest to use your cockhead. As it is by far the most sensitive area of a cock so much mutual pleasure can be gained by methods you suggest.

 

[BuntakNgigau]

Some guys can handle it daily and some can't. Its hit or miss but hopefully he's at least giving that nice cock a good bj or 2 a day.

Share your dick pict please .. I could possibly want to try it.

 

[HOU_HEADHUNTER]

So, here's a challenge that I'm sure many of us have had. I'm currently experiencing it and it drives me batty: I'm too large to have (gay, anal) sex with on a regular basis. My partner needs at least a few "days off" after a good fucking just to recover. He's an excellent bottom, for sure; best sex I have ever had! But I want to have sex, like, every other day, and he just can't take it. To add insult to injury, he has told me that if I were smaller -- 5 or 6 inches (instead of the 8.5 that I am) -- we could probably have sex everyday, whenever I want, etc. <sigh> With my perpetually high libido, this is such an unintended slap in the face...

The way I see it, I have few options: Masturbate, try to convince him to engage in a different sexual act with me (pretty difficult to do), seek another partner for on-the-side fulfillment, or nothing.

Most of the time I jerk off, but I have sought out someone to give me head. The only thing is, it was a little sketchy (truck driver in his cab, which smelled of cigarette smoke, etc.); I ended up getting an STI test the next day just to be on the safe side.

Anyway, I actually don't WANT someone else; I want my man. But I can't have him, not as often as I'd like anyway. And, as I mentioned above, my libido is so fierce that it drives me crazy and into all sorts of potentially bad situations. I'm built to fuck. I love it. There's nothing like breeding a good hole. I'm sure many of you can relate.

Any advice? Thanks in advance.

I'm in a similar situation with a FB. He's a total top and he enjoys fucking me but I simply can't take it on a regular basis. I'm tight and he made comment of this the first time that we were intimate. I already knew this and didn't think it would lead to him wanting to have regular hookups as we started out as a NSA hookup the first time. Now I've been seeing him on a weekly basis as he often calls me to see when I can come over, always under the guise that we are just going to be hanging out and nothing more. Of course I know better. His intentions of getting me over are so he can have sex with me.

I love sex like most men but I also like being tight and I also feel that too much of a good thing can ruin the experience in the longrun. I feel that since we are not committed to one another I shouldn't have to commit to sex as often as we probably would if we were committed to one another. I also try to explain to him that bottoming requires so much more from me as I have to go through a preparation that can sometimes be a task in itself that takes a while. I also feel the need to space out sessions because douching too often is not good for the body. While he's experiencing pleasure throughout our lovemaking I'm often in pain for a while before I can fully relax because he's quite large and he sometimes gets a little too enthusiastic and wants to go hard and deep long before I'm ready for that.

Take into consideration that he's a much young man than I am. His sex drive is at it's peak whereas mine is tapering off as I am more experienced. His lack of experience is one of the first things we talked about as I am only the second man that he's been intimate with. He did admit that he's attracted to women and felt he would eventually settle down with a woman and have kids but he is in an experimental phase of his life. I accepted this and didn't judge him for it.

 

[deleted808122]

I'm in a similar situation with a FB. He's a total top and he enjoys fucking me but I simply can't take it on a regular basis. I'm tight and he made comment of this the first time that we were intimate. I already knew this and didn't think it would lead to him wanting to have regular hookups as we started out as a NSA hookup the first time. Now I've been seeing him on a weekly basis as he often calls me to see when I can come over, always under the guise that we are just going to be hanging out and nothing more. Of course I know better. His intentions of getting me over are so he can have sex with me.

I love sex like most men but I also like being tight and I also feel that too much of a good thing can ruin the experience in the longrun. I feel that since we are not committed to one another I shouldn't have to commit to sex as often as we probably would if we were committed to one another. I also try to explain to him that bottoming requires so much more from me as I have to go through a preparation that can sometimes be a task in itself that takes a while. I also feel the need to space out sessions because douching too often is not good for the body. While he's experiencing pleasure throughout our lovemaking I'm often in pain for a while before I can fully relax because he's quite large and he sometimes gets a little too enthusiastic and wants to go hard and deep long before I'm ready for that.

Take into consideration that he's a much young man than I am. His sex drive is at it's peak whereas mine is tapering off as I am more experienced. His lack of experience is one of the first things we talked about as I am only the second man that he's been intimate with. He did admit that he's attracted to women and felt he would eventually settle down with a woman and have kids but he is in an experimental phase of his life. I accepted this and didn't judge him for it.

Do you prep with toys beforehand? I'm also tight, but with some pregame show activity, taking truly huge men no longer results in the discomfort you describe. I've gotten into a regular regimen of getting clean a couple of hours before, then snaking a long, moderately thick one deep to ensure things are truly clean just before he comes to my hotel. That "warmup" time you mention is pretty much gone & I've gotten some great compliments on how readily my ass takes their beatings.

 

[Freeballeruk]

Have you tried changing roles ,
Just thought it may be good for him to experience what it's like to receive, might appreciate the situation you're in a bit more.

I'm in a similar situation with a FB. He's a total top and he enjoys fucking me but I simply can't take it on a regular basis. I'm tight and he made comment of this the first time that we were intimate. I already knew this and didn't think it would lead to him wanting to have regular hookups as we started out as a NSA hookup the first time. Now I've been seeing him on a weekly basis as he often calls me to see when I can come over, always under the guise that we are just going to be hanging out and nothing more. Of course I know better. His intentions of getting me over are so he can have sex with me.

I love sex like most men but I also like being tight and I also feel that too much of a good thing can ruin the experience in the longrun. I feel that since we are not committed to one another I shouldn't have to commit to sex as often as we probably would if we were committed to one another. I also try to explain to him that bottoming requires so much more from me as I have to go through a preparation that can sometimes be a task in itself that takes a while. I also feel the need to space out sessions because douching too often is not good for the body. While he's experiencing pleasure throughout our lovemaking I'm often in pain for a while before I can fully relax because he's quite large and he sometimes gets a little too enthusiastic and wants to go hard and deep long before I'm ready for that.

Take into consideration that he's a much young man than I am. His sex drive is at it's peak whereas mine is tapering off as I am more experienced. His lack of experience is one of the first things we talked about as I am only the second man that he's been intimate with. He did admit that he's attracted to women and felt he would eventually settle down with a woman and have kids but he is in an experimental phase of his life. I accepted this and didn't judge him for it.

 

[HOU_HEADHUNTER]

Have you tried changing roles ,
Just thought it may be good for him to experience what it's like to receive, might appreciate the situation you're in a bit more.

He's not receptive to bottoming at all. He did start trying to give me oral but he's not good at it. He recently started eating me out before penetrating me and that was pleasurable.

 

[Capitolhillguy]

Maybe don't go so deep so much. If your partner were as skilled at head as I was you wouldn't miss breeding. He would have to suck while he jacked your cock in a hybrid move with a steady rhythm. Mouth alone is lame when it comes to stimulation. Presto you are feeding him. Most gays prioritize anal because so few gays know how to suck cock for results rather than just to please themselves.

 

[HOU_HEADHUNTER]

Do you prep with toys beforehand? I'm also tight, but with some pregame show activity, taking truly huge men no longer results in the discomfort you describe. I've gotten into a regular regimen of getting clean a couple of hours before, then snaking a long, moderately thick one deep to ensure things are truly clean just before he comes to my hotel. That "warmup" time you mention is pretty much gone & I've gotten some great compliments on how readily my ass takes their beatings.

I'll have to find a good toy that's pleasurable and start doing that. Most toys I've had are not pleasurable. I do have a plug that I enjoy but it's not particularly big.

 

[MancmanMatt]

Getting fucked regularly by a big dick doesn't make you "loose". The only thing it does is get you, and your body, used to it and more capable of relaxing quickly so you can take it comfortably.

The feeling of excess tightness comes from the muscles in the anus clamping down and not relaxing. Not relaxing enough causes you discomfort, learning to relax doesn't make you loose like a woman who tore during childbirth. Even if you learn how to relax your anus, to take a thick dick, you can easily tighten up instantly by clenching your hole a little.