Torturing Me After Getting Laid

[sudcalifornio]

A little ago I was washing my truck, my neighbor stopped by to chat, she told me she was getting divorced, even told me about the husband not able to hold a job and she had enough of this.
I stopped doing chores to start talking to her, i even made her to come later to my place.
Well, there was some alcohol involved, I was able to made her dance, sooner or later i fuck her that same night.
every time she comes to visit she tells me she regrets we had sex that same night, she never done it. i should not get a wrong image of her.
Only thing i can think of to tell her not to worry, she was horny and there was some beer around us.
How can i make her stop?

 

[1277255]

Make her stop what? Telling you she regrets it? Simply explain to her that you understand, it won't happen again and that it doesn't ever have to be spoken of again. Beyond that there's not much else to do other than simply not be around her. Tell her you're both going to take a break, stop the visits and move on.

This is far from torture though. This is just two adults who fucked and one who has less than stellar feelings about it.

 

[Tight_N_Juicy]

"i was able to *make* her dance"? Is that what you just said?

Do you know that alcohol can take away a person's ability to consent?

Maybe don't fuck people when they're drunk.

 

[sudcalifornio]

"i was able to *make* her dance"? Is that what you just said?

Do you know that alcohol can take away a person's ability to consent?

Maybe don't fuck people when they're drunk.

she was somewhat sad, i put some music on, my house was not exactly clean, so i had to light some candles instead of turn the lights on.
pretty much tried to cheer her up
we got wasted, i told her she was pretty, then i played Smooth operator, never pressured her

 

[Tight_N_Juicy]

she was somewhat sad, i put some music on, my house was not exactly clean, so i had to light some candles instead of turn the lights on.
pretty much tried to cheer her up
we got wasted, i told her she was pretty, then i played Smooth operator, never pressured her

I stand by what I already said.

Don't have sex with drunk people.

Just avoid doing that ever again. That's my advice.

 

[Tight_N_Juicy]

I have drunk sex with my fella, but we're in a very close relationship. We've had a lot of time to understand each other when we're not sober.

If you don't *very* much know explicitly that the inebriated person fully consents to sexual activity just don't do it.

 

[sudcalifornio]

I have drunk sex with my fella, but we're in a very close relationship. We've had a lot of time to understand each other when we're not sober.

If you don't *very* much know explicitly that the inebriated person fully consents to sexual activity just don't do it.

when a woman put legs on your shoulders and guide the cock inside pretty much consents in full

 

[Tight_N_Juicy]

when a woman put legs on your shoulders and guide the cock inside pretty much consents in full

No. Not when she's drunk and this hasn't been communicated before drinking alcohol.

Also, I think you have boundary issues and need to stop thinking with your dick.

 

[sudcalifornio]

No. Not when she's drunk and this hasn't been communicated before drinking alcohol.

Also, I think you have boundary issues and need to stop thinking with your dick.

we were not that drunk, and i repeat she was the one who iniciated

 

[Scarletbegonia]

Aren’t you in a long term relationship?

 

[1277255]

we were not that drunk, and i repeat she was the one who iniciated

OK, so, I'm going to call bullshit on this entire thing. Not that it's a lie, just that the entire situation is bullshit and you're quickly becoming a pile of it too. Dudes who decide to take drunk consent, or in her case drunk and emotionally distraught consent really don't land high in the moral realm.

You use the excuse initially that "beer was involved " and that you got "wasted", that is not a subjective term. You clearly told @Tight_N_Juicy that you both got WASTED. So, now to say that she wasn't "that drunk" is bullshit. Total and complete bullshit.

Bring inebriated isn't the time to say yes. Being any form of drunk /tipsy/sloshed or fucked up isn't a time to say yes. You also aren't her. You don't have her body or her tolerance. You have truly no idea how drunk she was or wasn't.

If she didn't tell you she wanted to fuck you when she was sober, you shouldn't have stuck your dick in when she was drunk. You should have thought with your head and not your dick.

As @Tight_N_Juicy said, stop sleeping with drunk women.

@Scarletbegonia asked, weren't you in a long term relationship? You asked us not too long ago how to handle your gf wanting you to be more aggressive in bed, so, guess that didn't work out after all.

 

[1277255]

Also, I had to fucking laugh out loud at the Smooth Operator bit. I just played that song to see what the deal was.

Dude, you got her drunk, you played what I can only describe as music meant for porn with a plot, "made her dance" assumingly to THAT song, of all fucking songs.

You set this up. You had a goal in mind. Let's not even attempt to pretend otherwise.

I'm checking out of this thread, it's not worth busting your balls anymore than I have.

Stop fucking drunk women, and maybe pick better music to dance to if your plans aren't to fuck the drunk lady in your living room.

 

[LaFemme]

2 drink limit. Period. After that, consent is iffy. You could get in a lot more trouble than a remorseful neighbour.

Besides, getting someone drunk/high before sex is so 80s.

 

[MickeyLee]

Ummm does it not occur to some men that turning down a sexual advance is an option?

Assuming ya Skinamax tales is wholely accurate and unbiased....

That turning down the sexual advances of a drunk, emotionally fragile friend is in fact the only appropriate action?

And your neighbor? Where you live...

This woman has repeatedly expressed regret for what happened. You need to be a fully grown human being and say "I think maybe we should switch to coffee. You seem really upset right now, we can talk or Netflix minus the chill."

I mean, isn't not feeling "tortured after" reason enough to keep ya dick to yourself?

What the ladies up thread posted... Deadly fucking accurate schooling from very awesome women. Instead of backtracking your story to lessen the negative/predatory nature of your actions, use this as a chance to learn and be better.

 

[MickeyLee]

Also... Speaking literally for ALL women.

If your house is so dirty you put on candles instead of turning on the lights and she still fucks you... She is too drunk to consent.

This is a PSA from Clean Your Damn House! A Society for Tidy Bitches.

 

[Holly Doors]

This thread got me rofl

 

[Tight_N_Juicy]

we were not that drunk, and i repeat she was the one who iniciated

You should probably shut the fuck up.

 

[Tight_N_Juicy]

Ummm does it not occur to some men that turning down a sexual advance is an option?

Assuming ya Skinamax tales is wholely accurate and unbiased....

That turning down the sexual advances of a drunk, emotionally fragile friend is in fact the only appropriate action?

And your neighbor? Where you live...

This woman has repeatedly expressed regret for what happened. You need to be a fully grown human being and say "I think maybe we should switch to coffee. You seem really upset right now, we can talk or Netflix minus the chill."

I mean, isn't not feeling "tortured after" reason enough to keep ya dick to yourself?

What the ladies up thread posted... Deadly fucking accurate schooling from very awesome women. Instead of backtracking your story to lessen the negative/predatory nature of your actions, use this as a chance to learn and be better.

Just because it's relevant:

When my fella was in his "me time" period of his life and I was single/insanely depressed that he left I partied a lot more than I should have. I mixed and matched substances that should have stopped my heart.

At one of those parties, I got absolutely shitfaced and snuck away to play with myself (because I clearly had some issues, it wasn't even my house) and a friend who in fact is a man thought I was just throwing up and came to make sure I was ok. He caught me with my pants down, and I drunkenly offered him to join me.

HE. SAID. NO.

He told me "not that I don't want to, but I just wanted to make sure you were ok, let me know if you need a ride home and I'll find someone to take you. I'll go and make sure you get home". And that's exactly what he did.

Good people exist. Just not enough of them.

 

[deleted848353]

You are scum especially if your in your ltr and fucked your supposedly consenting when drunk neighbour. I sure hope said gf finds out and busts your balls over it then leaves you

 

[Scarletbegonia]

2 drink limit. Period. After that, consent is iffy. You could get in a lot more trouble than a remorseful neighbour.

Besides, getting someone drunk/high before sex is so 80s.

(Thinks about some recent discussions with sweetie about potential altered states fun...and this was in a grocery store, no less)
Hey, I feel called out here! Lol.