What do you do when your partner is cheating?

[FrankieGuile]

Cheating for men is a function of opportunity. Granted nothing will ever stop any man when cheating is offered as an opportunity, but we can definitely estimate that cheating amongst men is far more likely amongst those that are offered said opportunities than those whom are not.
I've never offered a prescription for a man that doesn't cheat, I'm just playing to probabilities and common sense, no different than a man can get left by the girl next door or the IG model for the baller, but common sense dictates it's much more likely to happen from the IG model.

It's not easy to interpret your words, but it appears you're coming around to the inevitable conclusion that two men in a homosexual relationship raises significantly the likelihood one will cheat compared to one man in a heterosexual relationship. The outcome of the poll, which is the subject of this thread, supports that contention, revealing a rather loose acceptance of cheating.

 

[Sagittarius84]

It's not easy to interpret your words, but it appears you're coming around to the inevitable conclusion that two men in a homosexual relationship raises significantly the likelihood one will cheat compared to one man in a heterosexual relationship.

Not necessarily, because the only way I would be confident the likelihood of infidelity would be raised would be based upon the sexual optionality offered either man in the 1st place. Depending on either partner's sexual market value, id actually say there's as much of a chance neither will be motivated to cheat, then both or one having the propensity to do so

 

[FrankieGuile]

Not necessarily, because the only way I would be confident the likelihood of infidelity would be raised would be based upon the sexual optionality offered either man in the 1st place. Depending on either partner's sexual market value, id actually say there's as much of a chance neither will be motivated to cheat, then both or one having the propensity to do so

Women are not motivated to cheat nearly as much as men are motivated to cheat. Any notion to the contrary is an outlier and inconsistent with long-accepted conventional beliefs. You can be that outlier, but as such, your beliefs are inconsistent with what most people over many centuries have experienced.

 

[Sagittarius84]

Women are not motivated to cheat nearly as much as men are motivated to cheat. Any notion to the contrary is an outlier and inconsistent with long-accepted conventional beliefs. You can be that outlier, but as such, your beliefs are inconsistent with what most people over many centuries have experienced.

So....by that logic lesbian infidelity rates should be infinitesimal as compared to any relationship constructs that include men? Conventional beliefs used to affirm women craved monogamy when we know today it is typically women that are most and first bored and unsatisfied with the construct. Conventional belief was confident women were not as motivated as men to cheat, only because they didn't necessarily have the same reasons for doing so, fully ignoring that unlike men, women have sex, marry, and cheat for far more varied reasons, they generally have heightened social privileges which facilitate both more opportunities for infidelity and its nondisclosure, and are much more incentivized to keep it hidden given the societal and family implications.
Women are not naturally motivated to upset a family structure, we naively assumed that meant they simply wouldn't cheat, DNA seems to indicate otherwise, and even that only covers the women whom cheated for biological acquisition.
That old saying about a woman needing 4 animals in her life, A mink on her shoulder, a Jaguar in the garage, a tiger in the bed, and a jackass to pay for it all? That's much more indicative of a woman's societally unrestricted mating and dating strategy.

 

[AllieHeidi]

So....by that logic lesbian infidelity rates should be infinitesimal as compared to any relationship constructs that include men?

They are.

Studies that have compared the levels of monogamy find that bisexuals are the least likely group to report monogamy in their relationships. Lesbians are the most like to report sexual fidelity, followed by heterosexuals, and then gay males, and last, bisexuals. However, as a group, bisexuals, both men and women, also appear to be the ones most likely to explore negotiated or ethical nonmonogamy, such as polyamory or other forms of open relationships.

Source(s): Does Bisexual Infidelity Count?

 

[Sagittarius84]

They are.



Source(s): Does Bisexual Infidelity Count?

Do you also think lesbians self assessment of their domestic violence matches the true statistics, because I don't. I also don't think women self report misattributed paternity anywhere near what statistics reveal about just the men that question it.
Societal consequence and stigma has made women some of the most unreliable self reporters of just about anything regard sex, and we've gotten more accurate data on women's propensities from their swipes and metadata than anything they report when directly asked. It's not that I don't give grace, shame and potential violence are powerful motivations and anybody who happens to be more susceptible to it are most likely to offer answers that avoid such consequences.

 

[FrankieGuile]

So....by that logic lesbian infidelity rates should be infinitesimal as compared to any relationship constructs that include men? Conventional beliefs used to affirm women craved monogamy when we know today it is typically women that are most and first bored and unsatisfied with the construct. Conventional belief was confident women were not as motivated as men to cheat, only because they didn't necessarily have the same reasons for doing so, fully ignoring that unlike men, women have sex, marry, and cheat for far more varied reasons, they generally have heightened social privileges which facilitate both more opportunities for infidelity and its nondisclosure, and are much more incentivized to keep it hidden given the societal and family implications.
Women are not naturally motivated to upset a family structure, we naively assumed that meant they simply wouldn't cheat, DNA seems to indicate otherwise, and even that only covers the women whom cheated for biological acquisition.
That old saying about a woman needing 4 animals in her life, A mink on her shoulder, a Jaguar in the garage, a tiger in the bed, and a jackass to pay for it all? That's much more indicative of a woman's societally unrestricted mating and dating strategy.

Obdurately adhering to a belief that very few share is one thing; trying to convince others that that belief is the truth, and they are wrong, is desperate. It is best to acknowledge that differences between the two genders -- their biological drives and psychological needs, among other factors -- drive males to be more promiscuous than females, and thus, increase the odds for homosexual infidelity vis-a-vi heterosexual infidelity, in addition to the prospect that the infidelity will be tolerated. You will not persuade others by arguing that what they have experienced, what they have learned, and what they have observed, is all an illusion.

 

[AllieHeidi]

Do you also think lesbians self assessment of their domestic violence matches the true statistics, because I don't. I also don't think women self report misattributed paternity anywhere near what statistics reveal about just the men that question it.
Societal consequence and stigma has made women some of the most unreliable self reporters of just about anything regard sex, and we've gotten more accurate data on women's propensities from their swipes and metadata than anything they report when directly asked. It's not that I don't give grace, shame and potential violence are powerful motivations and anybody who happens to be more susceptible to it are most likely to offer answers that avoid such consequences.

And no one is stopping you from thinking any of this. Your thoughts are not necessarily facts, however. Only speculation.

 

[FrankieGuile]

And no one is stopping you from thinking any of this. Your thoughts are not necessarily facts, however. Only speculation.

And wild, suspect and unsubstantiated speculation at that!

 

[DavidAlmeria]

I may be unusual but if/when my husband cheats you can usually find me rock hard and masturbating on my own, imagining it.

 

[Type Null]

Cheat on them also to make it even, & then break up with them lol…