What is his angle?

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What is his angle?

I’ve got this best friend and for long story short, I may have developed feeling for him. Now a bit of background we are both African (safe to say that our environment is not welcoming to gay stiff), I’m a bit on the spectrum and he knows and I know he is too (but he doesn’t know that I know) even less then I am (he likes chicks with dicks)REMEMBER THAT PART!!!. He has a gf and I am seeing someone but only now not during the duration of the story. Now although we have been best friends for a 10 years, everything was good until I found out he had a gf, I guess that’s where I was made more aware of my feelings towards him, crashed out in silence until I just decided to move on and move out (I was living with his family), during that time however he found out about my bicuriousity and kept teasing me sexually but taking a little too far under the guys of a joke but if I were to push things further he would kinda shut it down even though he would mostly always initiate it.

Now somewhere down the line he must of found out about my romantic feelings too since I would be cold or not interact with his gf due to crippling jealousy and and an indirect love confession (did not know he was listening). Ever since then he would continue to tease me (sexual touching, sexual talk and ect..) despite
bicuriousity or my romantic feelings and he would push it as far as asking me if I liked boys and girls more (despite never even telling him about my bicuriousity or anything) but the last straw was when while in the middle of talking dirty to me like always, he said that “I should stop with that gay shit cause if a mutual friend found out he would drop me”
That was my breaking point, I had decided to leave for good cause I had felt played and disrespected at that point especially since he was the one initiating this so to throw that back in my face especially since he was struggling with sexuality was the ultimate form of disrespect.

Now fast forward to know, I don’t trust or talk to him as much and I try to keep my distance so that I can move on and maybe we can go back to what we once were (but not trusting him as much especially not with this) but there have been times when he kept going with the sexual stuff if we linked up but I wouldnt react or play into it as much, every now and then though he would send me insta reels with people calling other people gay but pretty aggressively or kinda being homophobic( he would obviously lend that with other reels (which I don’t care, I mostly care about the motive of it). Sidenote about that is that he now knows I’ve been seeing other girls and tries to be slick in asking questions and digging for info about that, he would ask if I had fucked any of the girls yet since I had just moved out of his and into my own.( which I have)
I just want to know what his or was his angle?
I know he struggling with his sexuality too so why would he take all these courses of action even though he was the one mostly initiating the sexual stuff, is trying to play mind games, is he interested? Is he confused?
Have yall ever been in a similar predicament?
 
What is his angle?

I’ve got this best friend and for long story short, I may have developed feeling for him. Now a bit of background we are both African (safe to say that our environment is not welcoming to gay stiff), I’m a bit on the spectrum and he knows and I know he is too (but he doesn’t know that I know) even less then I am (he likes chicks with dicks)REMEMBER THAT PART!!!. He has a gf and I am seeing someone but only now not during the duration of the story. Now although we have been best friends for a 10 years, everything was good until I found out he had a gf, I guess that’s where I was made more aware of my feelings towards him, crashed out in silence until I just decided to move on and move out (I was living with his family), during that time however he found out about my bicuriousity and kept teasing me sexually but taking a little too far under the guys of a joke but if I were to push things further he would kinda shut it down even though he would mostly always initiate it.

Now somewhere down the line he must of found out about my romantic feelings too since I would be cold or not interact with his gf due to crippling jealousy and and an indirect love confession (did not know he was listening). Ever since then he would continue to tease me (sexual touching, sexual talk and ect..) despite
bicuriousity or my romantic feelings and he would push it as far as asking me if I liked boys and girls more (despite never even telling him about my bicuriousity or anything) but the last straw was when while in the middle of talking dirty to me like always, he said that “I should stop with that gay shit cause if a mutual friend found out he would drop me”
That was my breaking point, I had decided to leave for good cause I had felt played and disrespected at that point especially since he was the one initiating this so to throw that back in my face especially since he was struggling with sexuality was the ultimate form of disrespect.

Now fast forward to know, I don’t trust or talk to him as much and I try to keep my distance so that I can move on and maybe we can go back to what we once were (but not trusting him as much especially not with this) but there have been times when he kept going with the sexual stuff if we linked up but I wouldnt react or play into it as much, every now and then though he would send me insta reels with people calling other people gay but pretty aggressively or kinda being homophobic( he would obviously lend that with other reels (which I don’t care, I mostly care about the motive of it). Sidenote about that is that he now knows I’ve been seeing other girls and tries to be slick in asking questions and digging for info about that, he would ask if I had fucked any of the girls yet since I had just moved out of his and into my own.( which I have)
I just want to know what his or was his angle?
I know he struggling with his sexuality too so why would he take all these courses of action even though he was the one mostly initiating the sexual stuff, is trying to play mind games, is he interested? Is he confused?
Have yall ever been in a similar predicament?
When you moved out, how long ago was that and how long did it take you guys to start talking again after you left? When he said, you should stop with the gay stuff because if the other guy found out about it, who would drop you, the other guy or him?

You see this kind of behavior when they are not happy with themselves but instead of dealing with it, they take it out on others. Are you the only one he jokes like that with? Do you know if others are teasing him like that as well? If you have lost trust in him, I would start to distance myself because like you said, you live in a place that isn't very welcoming when it comes to this kind of thing and the last thing you want if for him to start talking to people about it, even though he's the one that always initiates it.
 
When you moved out, how long ago was that and how long did it take you guys to start talking again after you left? When he said, you should stop with the gay stuff because if the other guy found out about it, who would drop you, the other guy or him?

You see this kind of behavior when they are not happy with themselves but instead of dealing with it, they take it out on others. Are you the only one he jokes like that with? Do you know if others are teasing him like that as well? If you have lost trust in him, I would start to distance myself because like you said, you live in a place that isn't very welcoming when it comes to this kind of thing and the last thing you want if for him to start talking to people about it, even though he's the one that always initiates it.
I left in January I had just came back from a trip, funny enough he was still flirting at the beginning of the trip, he went as far asking me for snap of my dick, me still skeptical sent him a pic of a bulge through my pants to test the waters but when I asked him for one back, he just sent me a dirty gif of Kermit.
We still talk here and they’re and hang out but I still keep distance from him a little and I can see that he senses that too but he still wants to be playful.
He said our mutual friend would drop me if he found out about it.

He only jokes like that with me for the most part. As far as I know and no the others don’t tease him like that, he really only started when he had an idea I could be bicurious when I sent him porn on accident, wasn’t gay porn but it was dick.