Me? I've been into all sorts of women but if I had to say a type it'd be blondes, preferably with a phat ass (though interestingly, both of my biggest irl crushes so far had long brown hair, so there's that)
Who am I kidding? I'm gay and I need to stop pretending I'm not
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It's not that I don't believe you. I never implied I didn't believe you so don't try to redirect the point. My point is that I cast doubt on your assertion that you are different because you are only attracted to the non-physical whereas plenty of straight, gay, and bisexual men and women would say the same thing. It makes the term "pansexual" a distinction without a difference, as I said previously. Honest question: do you think basing attraction solely on non-physical aspects makes you superior to people who, in some part, are attracted to physical aspects?That is why I said assume, did not want to answer for you. Just an example of what happens. I was just trying to explain unlike most, who have the luxury of being attracted even a little bit by someone’s looks. It has never played a role in my choice. Most will admit some sort of attraction, a persons eyes, skin color, hair color, body. For me as I have explained have never been a factor. I can’t lie to someone and say you have the most beautiful eyes, lips, butt, when in fact I have no idea. Physical appearance does not play a role in my attraction EVER.
You can believe that or not, I really don’t care.
My chemistry makes the choice for me. Not me, I wish I could look at someone with lust and wanting, but I NEVER HAVE.
Even after falling in love with my wife, I have no idea if she was attractive.
Big difference being they have the “Choice “ to do that, Where I do not.
The answer to your question is for me NO, I am not superior in that aspect. If anything it hurt me so much. I have taken myself out of dating. I have two amazing kids, I plan on spending the rest of my life without a partner or mate. I will focus on watching my kids lives and help them out where I can. So most of the time I HATE BEING LIKE THIS!
And question a GOD that would make a creature like me.
Your assertion that you do not have a choice whereas others do have a choice is a self-centered notion that is not above challenge. Loathing yourself for it is a matter for a mental health professional and you should seek that kind of help for the sake of your children. If you have done so already, then finding it on these pages is not your solution.
I see. And when you think about men sexually, what do you imagine doing with them? Getting fucked? Doing the fucking? Both? Everything? Cuddling lol?
Please read this carefully.
The choice to focus on my family is not a mental illness.
The choice to remain single is not a mental illness.
I don’t loathe myself, I question WHY I AM THIS WAY, there is nothing fucking wrong with that.
I don’t need mental help, as i already have spoken with a PROFESSIONAL, who agrees with my current choices and understands why I question the way I am as Is perfectly normal.
Avoiding people like you sometimes is the challenge.
One who claim they understand then make statements that prove otherwise.
And you’ve had sex with women before?
Sorry! I just think lots of peeps here make lots of assumptions without asking more questions.
Thanks for humoring all those questions! My understanding of the situation is if you haven’t been with a man or woman is you just need more time/experience to figure out who you like and what kinds of stuff you’d like to do with them. What you might find out is that a lot of these boxes you’re trying to put yourself (and anyone else) might just be N/A.
You’ve been living in your head about it all and as someone said here, the idea of sex with a man is very different than what really happens and the same is true for women.
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Not saying this with any judgment but if you are spending a lot of time with idealized (frequently to the point of unrealistic) examples of humanity, it is not surprising you haven't had a real life attraction or experience to a man or woman other than a few unattainable ones, because 99.99% of them don't look like porn stars or influencers.
