Why am I made to feel guilty for showing off pictures and videos of my dick?

[Vastian]

I say you do you. If you enjoy it and it gives pleasure then go for it. Obviously it's the internet so there is always going to be some assholes. Sides...if anyone sees what you post they must have been browsing anyways...so even if they have crap to say they don't have much to stand on

 

[mitchellk]

Great discussion. I wouldn't worry about people judging you. They'll judge you for liking coffee instead of tea as well. I find this site to be a godsend because it gave me a community to compare and talk about my sexuality without being judged by others.

 

[AlextheRedhead]

I used to have just a few photos of my dick on my profiles but during the pandemic
I really got into showing off. The attention I got helped the isolation at that time.

Trading dick pics is very common. I don't see any embarrassment for doing so.

 

[itwasfun]

I'm in. I always have felt comfortable sharing my nudes and being naked in the presence of others as long as they don't have an issue with it. Probably that makes me an exhibitionist and I have given a lot of both men and women sexual pleasure masturbating with my nudes. And now that I am getting older, I enjoy it as much as I did in my 20's.

 

[dreambridger]

I don't understand any instance when someone condemns something that doesn't effect them whatsoever.

 

[likitisplit]

I grew up being told by people that I was girthy, and that I had big balls etc. It was all fun and games when they were joking about it, friends, partners etc, but when I actually want to show it off, it seems a lot of people can be quite judgmental. Which is why, I assume most of us don't declare it to friends and family if we are using sites like these.

I obviously didn't tell anyone, but my ex found out and it is now a talking point. A negative one, but why is this?

Why do you think it's looked down on or frowned upon? How is it really any different to photographers showing off their stuff online, or models taking selfies on Instagram, or YouTubers vlogging, or musicians sharing music?

I'm open to discussion because I enjoy a chat! inbox always open too!

who does that? hell show show!

 

[theplayerking]

I grew up being told by people that I was girthy, and that I had big balls etc. It was all fun and games when they were joking about it, friends, partners etc, but when I actually want to show it off, it seems a lot of people can be quite judgmental. Which is why, I assume most of us don't declare it to friends and family if we are using sites like these.

I obviously didn't tell anyone, but my ex found out and it is now a talking point. A negative one, but why is this?

Why do you think it's looked down on or frowned upon? How is it really any different to photographers showing off their stuff online, or models taking selfies on Instagram, or YouTubers vlogging, or musicians sharing music?

I'm open to discussion because I enjoy a chat! inbox always open too!

Is your ex a woman? I know a lot of women feel strongly about dick pics. If women receive them unsolicited (which I’m told by my friends happens more frequently than one might expect) it a form of harassment. That might lead some women to respond negatively to all dick pics, even if they’ve not received them directly.

As a gay man, I personally love dick pics (and yours are beautiful, but the way), but not everyone feels the same. I think there are two ways to view nudity: either demonstrating vulnerability or implying dominance. As a man, I enjoy the camaraderie of being naked (virtually or in person) with other men. I find the acceptance cathartic and liberating. As a promiscuous gay man that has engaged in anonymous hookups and group sex for decades, I am not threatened by the thought that a random naked guy might want to fuck me. I might be interested, or I might not, but I would take it as a compliment.

 

[RoyaleTommy]

I just don’t agree that posting nude photos is always about insecurity or seeking validation. The idea that sharing explicit content is automatically a sign of desperation seems like a stretch.

I don’t see why it’s considered any less valid than sharing any other type of media that is your own. If nudity is for validation and suggests desperation, then everything else must be too surely? But the rest isn't stigmatised. A photo of the sunset doesn't imply desperation, for example.

Nudity is just another form of self-expression that society tends to judge more harshly.

Beautifully said oh kindred Spirit.

 

[elklindoxxx]

There is nothing wrong with posting nude pics on this website. And I would argue that it is expected and encouraged.

 

[Jake1973]

ow is it really any different to photographers showing off their stuff online, or models taking selfies on Instagram, or YouTubers vlogging, or musicians sharing music?

In the case of artists and musicians (and to some degree models I guess) it's because those things require talent, discipline, etc. Your dick is a happenstance of nature, not something you earned. And there are forums (like this one) where if you are gifted and want to show it off you can find an audience. But obviously this is not exactly a "mainstream" site or interest.

 

[CharlieJames123]

In the case of artists and musicians (and to some degree models I guess) it's because those things require talent, discipline, etc. Your dick is a happenstance of nature, not something you earned. And there are forums (like this one) where if you are gifted and want to show it off you can find an audience. But obviously this is not exactly a "mainstream" site or interest.

For me, the comparison wasn’t down to the talent. Obviously having a specific talent is not the same thing here. What I’m referring to is the act of sharing it. Not the talent itself.

 

[Jake1973]

For me, the comparison wasn’t down to the talent. Obviously having a specific talent is not the same thing here. What I’m referring to is the act of sharing it. Not the talent itself.

Okay. It doesn't justify the reaction but to me they are two different things, and one is considered more normative than the other so the reaction is going to be different.

 

[WilliamG]

To me, if you are privately posting your pics here and other pseudo anonymous sites... It's your thing. Now if your partner is not liking it... Different story. Some consider it a level of cheating. And I would not argue against that view. Now unrequested dick pics..? To a woman..? Not usually appreciated. There's a reason many of the fine ladies here keep their profiles hidden.

 

[brandon38]

Sorry they may you feel that way they should have not I think you have beautiful sexy body .