Why Am I Repulsed By Ass Holes?

[goodandbed]

I'm gay so the main option I have for sex is anal, but for whatever reasons assholes gross me out. I'm just not really into "butt stuff" and I kind of feel like it's wrong. I mean, I love the idea of it but when it comes to actually fuck or be fucked I kind of feel like I'm not really into it (and it's not that it's stressful to me - I just don't feel aroused by it).

Anyone feel the same?

 

[Nigel Atkinson]

I'm gay so the main option I have for sex is anal, but for whatever reasons assholes gross me out. I'm just not really into "butt stuff" and I kind of feel like it's wrong. I mean, I love the idea of it but when it comes to actually fuck or be fucked I kind of feel like I'm not really into it (and it's not that it's stressful to me - I just don't feel aroused by it).

Anyone feel the same?

I don’t think you’re alone in that feeling. I’ve seen plenty of gay men who aren’t into butt play or anal. Just because you’re gay doesn’t mean you have to be into that.

 

[SirFroak]

I'm gay so the main option I have for sex is anal, but for whatever reasons assholes gross me out. I'm just not really into "butt stuff" and I kind of feel like it's wrong. I mean, I love the idea of it but when it comes to actually fuck or be fucked I kind of feel like I'm not really into it (and it's not that it's stressful to me - I just don't feel aroused by it).

Anyone feel the same?

Everyone has their likes and dislikes. You aren't alone.

A friend of mine, who identifies as a top, isn't that into butts either. Yes, he'll penetrate, but he isn't into fingering or rimming. Another gay friend of mine isn't into giving blowjobs, like, at all.

A friend from way back in the day bumped across this guy when he was first coming out. He told him, "If you don't bottom, you have no business in the gay community!". Yeah, fuck that. BUT, he believed it, and it haunted him for years.

You keep being you.

 

[deleted1074483]

you are certainly not alone - i think the term now is 'sides' ie gay men who don't fuck/get fucked? And for all sorts of reasons from social, religious or just a dislike there are many guys for whom sex does not equal penetration - so don't think you're out of kilter or not 'normal'.

I also agree with others that so many people equate sex with penetration - for me sex is any intimate act and a 'mind fuck' can be just as great as a butt fuck with the right person. Even for hookups there are so many ways to have sex that don't involve fucking - a good massage body to body for example is just so sexy and horny with lots of oil and kissing.

My boyfriend coming up behind me, holding me round the waist pulling me close to him whilst he kisses my neck or nibbles my ears can send shockwaves of ecstasy through my body and is very different but equal to when we have penetrative sex.

so look for what you enjoy doing, whatever that is, and so long as it doesn't involve harming yourself or others, just go with it and accept thats who you are and what you're into. There will be others like you and into the same stuff.

Good luck

 

[FunnyLittleMan92]

I'm gay so the main option I have for sex is anal, but for whatever reasons assholes gross me out. I'm just not really into "butt stuff" and I kind of feel like it's wrong. I mean, I love the idea of it but when it comes to actually fuck or be fucked I kind of feel like I'm not really into it (and it's not that it's stressful to me - I just don't feel aroused by it).

Anyone feel the same?

There are loads of guys in the community who aren’t into anal. Unfortunately, it’s kind of viewed as the default because (and I sound like an insane sjw here) we live in a heteronormative society where sex=penetration.

I think that’s a silly way to view it considering we are already so outside what society considers “traditional.”

If you seek out others some way, you won’t have any trouble finding guys with the same preference. Anal is a hassle, anyway. All that worry and extra effort about cleanliness. You don’t have to do anything special outside of the normal daily grooming to enjoy basically everything else.

 

[Guysandmaybebirds]

Nope I fucking love licking assholes men or women, straight are great to rim they love it

 

[cantaloupe]

Are we twins by any chance? I just saw some of your other posts. I am a gay man and have been having sex for 10 years. I am not inot anal sex either and I have found a few other guys who were the same, many guys who didn't mind just doing blowjobs/jerking/kissing etc and very few who insisted on anal. I assume I rock at all those other things I do, so maybe that's why I didn't encounter many problems.

So if you don't want to do anal, you don't have to. Just be confident about your abilities and preferences.

 

[Cappy_Dick]

About 30% of gay couples do not practice anal sex. It's far from abnormal to not desire it. Having to be a "top" or a "bottom" is largely a product of porn. It has glorified the supposed need for D/s and/or M/F roles in m2m couples. In reality, it's totally unnecessary, unless both parties desire it. Prior to porn portraying it as necessary in porn, it is said that gay couples practiced it far less.

There is a growing trend of bi and gay men that really don't care for anal being honest with themselves and not settling on being a "top" or "bottom", just because it's "expected". For those who like labels, this is known as being a "side". It is said the term evolved from being neither "top", nor "bottom". Hence, a "side".

The solution is simple. Just find a partner that feels the same way as you. There's no shame in being honest with prospective partners and yourself.

 

[Sunman_Universe]

I'm gay so the main option I have for sex is anal, but for whatever reasons assholes gross me out. I'm just not really into "butt stuff" and I kind of feel like it's wrong. I mean, I love the idea of it but when it comes to actually fuck or be fucked I kind of feel like I'm not really into it (and it's not that it's stressful to me - I just don't feel aroused by it).
Anyone feel the same?

I've heard this before. You are not alone.

 

[Cum_is_Great]

Same here. I do not like anal play. I don't enjoy penetrating and while I have been penetrated, I don't really get anything out of it. I don't really like it that much. I mean I do enjoy how much pleasure the guy is getting thrusting into me but I don't really get much out of the act and prefer not to. You aren't alone but unfortunately it does make you split off to any even smaller subsection of a subsection of people.

 

[bravesoldier]

Here's my experience. When I first started playing assholes were repulsive to me. As time passed I began to look at them differently. That's the thing, as time passes. Kind of like a new fad you don't like at first but you see on hot guys enough it begins to grow on you. Anyways, at first an asshole was a shithole. Then it became a fuck hole. Knowing it can be cleaned and fucked can become so hot..

Don't know how long you've been playing but your views may change later. Then again, they may not. Enjoy and be safe.

 

[halcyondays]

I started topping guys at 22 but didn't get any pleasure from anal play until my late 30s and didn't bottom until 40. I don't know why my body/brain changed.

For whatever reason my anus wasn't an erogenous zone until then. Many guys I topped expressed surprise at this saying they had been playing with their pleasurable buttholes for a long time before they became sexually active.

I did get prostate pleasure and orgasm from external stimulation of the perineum when I was young.

Maybe yours isn't an erogenous zone. Maybe it will change over time like mine did. Maybe you'll go off the rails getting fucked the way I did, lol. It was a complete but very pleasant surprise.

Hey. Better late(r) than never!

 

[Theo0152]

Like a lot have said we are all different...I always go with my partners likes and dislikes... being you is normal!!!

 

[Pollsmoker]

I don’t want to see one but I sure know how to find it and fuck it.