Why do older men become bi-curious

[bigboaster]

I will say a lot of bi guys aren't bi just horny. If they stop watching porn and wife gives them sex I bet they wouldn't touch a man

Seems like it's kind of missing the point though. Being capable of and seeking out and enjoying sex with men makes them bi, not the frequency of gay sex they have or how often they seek it out quite frankly.

If someone is in a monogamous committed relationship, gay, straight or bi and they have a healthy sex life. They won't touch other guy/girls too. Not sure that means anything in regards to sexuality, just self-control.

There are plenty of sex-less older men in relationships who don't seek out sex with men "to scratch an itch".... because you know, they are not interested in sex with guys. Go figure. That's what prostitutes are for.

 

[merc41]

So it's because the men are lousy lovers and bore their wives or girlfriends into inattention?

Sometimes but generally a total lack of attention by females in their lives. Alot.of.women totally ignore a mans sexual needs and wants. Sex is a very easy way to keep your partner happy and satisfied. Most women don't put the effort in.

 

[accidenttourist]

There are plenty of sex-less older men in relationships who don't seek out sex with men "to scratch an itch".... because you know, they are not interested in sex with guys. Go figure. That's what prostitutes are for.

You're probably right in that the 10% of strictly heterosexual males on the good-old Kinsey scale (marked "0" below) would never stray to the "dark side", but for the 80%+ who are located between "1" and "5", the availability of female sex is an important factor on whether they go astray...

A large percentage of men are actually in the "1" and "2" rating.
They are fully straight in normal life. But once put in an all-male setting (e.g. a prison), many would become "interested" in M2M sex. That point has been clearly demonstrated not only by Kinsey but also by a large majority of academic studies.

Personally, I had the pleasure of initiating three straight, married guys in their 40s (yes, I was their first orgasm with another man, using Kinsey's definition of sexual experience) because "wife doesn't want sex, and I don't have much money to pay for whores."
I wrote about one of them in another thread, in case of interest.
A Straight Married Guy's Gay Experiences... (long Post Warning).

Honestly, I think many of the guys here belong to the "1" and "2" category who finally crossed the bridge because of lack of female sex...

 

[FrankieGuile]

Sometimes but generally a total lack of attention by females in their lives. Alot.of.women totally ignore a mans sexual needs and wants. Sex is a very easy way to keep your partner happy and satisfied. Most women don't put the effort in.

By the same token, I suppose a lot of men ignore a woman's emotional needs and wants. Perhaps if men were better at delivering a satisfying connection, their women would want to have sex with them. Most men don't put in the effort.

 

[merc41]

I think alot of guys put in The effort.When it goes unanswered or ignored they give up or look elsewhere.

 

[FrankieGuile]

I think alot of guys put in The effort.When it goes unanswered or ignored they give up or look elsewhere.

It could be, because we're both speculating but, in any event, it sounds like a poor excuse to blame women for not taking accountability and lacking self-responsibility.

 

[merc41]

I speak from real time experience. Been with both men and women and told them I'm married but not satisfied. Pretty much they have replied the same. Their needs my needs are not being met by our partners. And mostly not because we haven't tried. I enjoy sex and would love nothing more than to have sex with her. She is just unwilling and I've tried everything. BTW I'm told that I am a good lover with a package. Even told her if I can't get it at home I'll get it elsewhere. Didn't make a difference. So I actively seek it out. No divorce because I don't want to be financially ruined. Lifes too short not to be sexually satisfied. Sex is too easy with little effort just with enthusiasm.

 

[FrankieGuile]

I speak from real time experience. Been with both men and women and told them I'm married but not satisfied. Pretty much they have replied the same. Their needs my needs are not being met by our partners. And mostly not because we haven't tried. I enjoy sex and would love nothing more than to have sex with her. She is just unwilling and I've tried everything. BTW I'm told that I am a good lover with a package. Even told her if I can't get it at home I'll get it elsewhere. Didn't make a difference. So I actively seek it out. No divorce because I don't want to be financially ruined. Lifes too short not to be sexually satisfied. Sex is too easy with little effort just with enthusiasm.

I have no doubt you speak from "real time" experience. (Is that different from other kinds of experience?). In any event, your experience should not be scaled to everyone's experience, as you implied; nor is it representative of most people's experience, and doing so comes off as self-serving or self-justifying.

 

[Jjsurp99]

I speak from real time experience. Been with both men and women and told them I'm married but not satisfied. Pretty much they have replied the same. Their needs my needs are not being met by our partners. And mostly not because we haven't tried. I enjoy sex and would love nothing more than to have sex with her. She is just unwilling and I've tried everything. BTW I'm told that I am a good lover with a package. Even told her if I can't get it at home I'll get it elsewhere. Didn't make a difference. So I actively seek it out. No divorce because I don't want to be financially ruined. Lifes too short not to be sexually satisfied. Sex is too easy with little effort just with enthusiasm.

That sounds like you should get a divorce and just be single.

 

[FrankieGuile]

That sounds like you should get a divorce and just be single.

...not when it's so much more fun to humble-brag about being a "good lover with a package" and when "sex is too easy with little effort" (which seems redundant because "too easy" implies "little effort" but now I digress).

 

[WilliamG]

For me, there's a curiosity not related to the frequency or quality of sex with my wife. She can swallow my cock balls deep. And I want to see what that's like being at that end. But this is just MY situation. Most of the guys I chat with looking for the same mostly because it's not happening at home. Right or wrong... This is the outlet MANY take.

So far in my very unscientific micro poll of LPSG bi men... it's looking like 50-50 that men become bi when the get older.

 

[Cologuy19]

I have always had a hidden interest in men sexually that I have let settle in as I got older. Not getting sex at home has probably made me more interested, but I have always been kind of bisexual.

 

[FrankieGuile]

For me, there's a curiosity not related to the frequency or quality of sex with my wife. She can swallow my cock balls deep. And I want to see what that's like being at that end. But this is just MY situation. Most of the guys I chat with looking for the same mostly because it's not happening at home. Right or wrong... This is the outlet MANY take.

So far in my very unscientific micro poll of LPSG bi men... it's looking like 50-50 that men become bi when the get older.

In my unscientific poll of LPSG bi men, 99.9% believe 100% of men are bisexual, or will become bisexual, which proves the adage that hope springs eternal.

 

[bigboaster]

In my unscientific poll of LPSG bi men, 99.9% believe 100% of men are bisexual, or will become bisexual, which proves the adage that hope springs eternal.

The delusions some people have on here know no bounds. Sexual fluidity is certainly real but some take it ridiculous and quite frankly immature extremes these days. There are obviously strictly heterosexual people and they vastly outnumber us queers. It's time to accept reality people.

 

[FrankieGuile]

The delusions some people have on here know no bounds. Sexual fluidity is certainly real but some take it ridiculous and quite frankly immature extremes these days. There are obviously strictly heterosexual people and they vastly outnumber us queers. It's time to accept reality people.

Them's fightin' words! Tee up the responses along the lines of, "in my experience..." or "everyone that I know..." or "I don't believe in labels..." et. al.

 

[WilliamG]

In my unscientific poll of LPSG bi men, 99.9% believe 100% of men are bisexual, or will become bisexual, which proves the adage that hope springs eternal.

Can we at least agree that SOME men become bi curious when they get older? Heck, it's probably a small minority. But we are out there. I agree that asking WHY men turn bi when they get older is presumptuous. Hence the question "Of those that are bi... Did it happen later in life?" is a fair question.