Would this frustrate you?

[shamrockfaced]

Over the past 5 years, my SO has become much more open about her sexual interests. We've been together a long time, and both come from Sexually repressive backgrounds, where sex was considered taboo. She loves anal sex, but 10 years ago, such a thought would have been unbearable for her to divulge Now she'll unabashedly tell me she wants it (for example).

As she has opened up, I've noticed that I'm increasingly turned on by seeing her aroused.

Like more than anything else.

As a boy, I had kinks (I was really into extreme fake breasts like Kayla Kleevage and stuff like that.). What I would watch for porn was driven by my own sexual interests. That said, over time (and as we've watched porn together) I find myself no longer really interested in those things. I'm much more interested in watching or talking about something that I know has turned her up. I was never into gangbang porn. After seeing her reach extremely high states of arousal, now I want to watch it again.

Often times she'll ask me 'what are you into, what do you want to see?' when I tell her that I'm most turned on by her getting fired up, she thinks it's a cop out and can sometimes get frustrated. The truth is, my libido has always been off the charts, while hers has been simply average or above average.. Since I'm always ready to rock, seeing her get twisted up and turned on is a huge thrill to me. She sometimes thinks I'm not being truthful with her. Thoughts? I've tried to articulate this to her but I think maybe she underestimates how much seeing HER turned on is my kink.

 

[MickeyLee]

I wonder what type of freak-nasty porn you are into that you won't share with your wife






It does sound like one of those "where do you want to eat/where ever you want to eat" things. Only with more nekkid people *depending on the dress code for your local restaurants*

She is probably just as into you getting turned on as you are into her arousal. There has to be something you watch when you are alone that she hasn't seen. Even if you consider it inconsequential to your porn taste, the acting of sharing means a lot to her. Find something you like, let her watch it with you. You don't have to stun her with pervocity, she's not looking for a new kink. She just wants to know what you like as an individual.

Would I be frustrated on either side of the situation? No. Life is too short and our sex life is great. Why stress over something so silly.

 

[286798]

I'm like you and enjoy seeing my partner turned on. So yeah, it could be frustrating to me to ask "what turns you on?" and hear "whatever turns you on" as the answer. If that's the honest answer at the time, fine. If that's ALWAYS the answer, frustrating.

 

[AlteredEgo]

Think. What is your favorite way to turn her on so you can watch her getting turned on? Maybe an answer she can live with lies in that.

 

[Holly Doors]

Maybe you need to just humour her hunni, just go with it. when she asks what you want to watch then put something else on, I know you said your not into it anymore but if you can't think of anything put some fake tittie porn on, maybe Penelope Diamond or something. after you can say meh I don't really get this anymore and suggest you watch a good old fashioned gang bang again, may well work! X