Am I out of the friend zone? Do I have a shot?

[flagship]

A friend recently decided to move away for a while. Thinking I’d lose my chance, I worked a dick pic into conversation. She had joked about me starting an OnlyFans and I took that as my opportunity. But she didn’t respond for a week. So I texted her again, and she said her friend thinks I’ve got real potential for OF, and gave me advice on how to frame my shots. It was all joking around but she was really just giving me her friend’s reaction. (you don’t have to go through my albums, but I’m 9x6 measured from the side, and sent her a video of me measuring with a ruler)

What do you think, do I have a shot when she gets back? Was her OnlyFans joke enough of an invitation, or did I overreach?

 

[MickeyLee]

There is no such thing as the Friend Zone. There is only misrepresentation of feelings and, I guess, unsolicited dick pics.

Both are pussy dehydrators.

Ya know what? Duckie never sent Andy dick pics

 

[flagship]

There is no such thing as the Friend Zone. There is only misrepresentation of feelings and, I guess, unsolicited dick pics.

Both are pussy dehydrators.

Ya know what? Duckie never sent Andy dick pics

That's a fair assessment and somewhat what I expected.

But when I say friend zone, I just mean a guy that you look at as a friend vs a guy that you look at as a potential partner. I know enough about women to know they don't look at all of their male friends as potential sexual partners. And duckies rarely get the girl irl.

I've known her for years and waited until she started sending signals. She asked me out to dinner a few times before she left, asked me to help her with things she didn't need help with, and made the onlyfans comment.

I would have made a move sooner, but she's been engaged for 5 years. I just get the sense that they're HS sweethearts that don't know how to break up. And now she's 2000 miles from him for no reason other than she wanted to leave and explore

 

[MickeyLee]

Duckie got to make out with Iona.

Most men can't handle the nouveau punk goddess of 1986 Annie Potts with Siouxsie Sioux hair spikes.

 

[MickeyLee]

Visual aids:

 

[flagship]

Duckie got to make out with Iona.

Most men can't handle the nouveau punk goddess of 1986 Annie Potts with Siouxsie Sioux hair spikes.

Ok, ok, I surrender. I clearly don't know enough about Pretty in Pink to debate you.

All I know is when I tried the fedora / john lennon sunglasses combo, it did not work out for me like it did for duckie.

 

[MickeyLee]

The Duckman kept a lot of confidence stored in 80s dress shirt collars and vintage white shoes.

Fedoras only work for whip carrying archeologists. And only after they escape the Temple of Doom.

 

[1277255]

Rather than asking us about whether or not you're out of a zone which does not exist, you could ask HER.

If you're confident enough to send her an unsolicited dick pic, you should be confident enough to ask simply if there's any feelings between you two. As well as if she is still with her fiancé.

Asking you to dinner, and asking for help, hanging out and giving her friends opinions, not her own, is not a sign she wants to be with you. It's simply spending time with you and providing objective statements and opinions of others.

 

[flagship]

The Duckman kept a lot of confidence stored in 80s dress shirt collars and vintage white shoes.

Fedoras only work for whip carrying archeologists. And only after they escape the Temple of Doom.

Well now I know.

And in the future, if I desire rapid 80's references, I know I can either watch an episode of Gilmore Girls or come right to you.

 

[MickeyLee]

Dude, you Gilmore checked a Mod?

Not cool. Not cool.

I am so obviously High Fidelity.

 

[flagship]

Rather than asking us about whether or not you're out of a zone which does not exist, you could ask HER.

If you're confident enough to send her an unsolicited dick pic, you should be confident enough to ask simply if there's any feelings between you two. As well as if she is still with her fiancé.

Asking you to dinner, and asking for help, hanging out and giving her friends opinions, not her own, is not a sign she wants to be with you. It's simply spending time with you and providing objective statements and opinions of others.

I figured I'd ask for some female input before I take another step. I'm autistic, high functioning, but still. I don't have any intuition when it comes to relationships or interpreting other people's actions.

 

[flagship]

Dude, you Gilmore checked a Mod?

Not cool. Not cool.

I am so obviously High Fidelity.

Sry, I actually never read through all the LPSG Rules. Won't happen again

 

[Tight_N_Juicy]

I hate the term "friend zone".

Fucking hate it

 

[flagship]

I hate the term "friend zone".

Fucking hate it

Can I get some clarification on that. Because clearly women don’t view all of their male friends in a potentially romantic way. Unless I’m wrong about that.

I guess I could call it being platonically categorized or unrequited Eros

And in my specific situation I couldn’t initiate anything romantic when I first met her because I knew she was engaged. We clicked right away, but we had to be just friends

 

[Tight_N_Juicy]

Can I get some clarification on that. Because clearly women don’t view all of their male friends in a potentially romantic way. Unless I’m wrong about that.

I guess I could call it being platonically categorized or unrequited Eros

And in my specific situation I couldn’t initiate anything romantic when I first met her because I knew she was engaged. We clicked right away, but we had to be just friends

I've had sex with many friends.

If I don't wanna fuck someone is because I don't want to fuck them. Not because they're my friend.

I don't have to have romantic feelings for a person to enjoy sex with them. I just have to be sexually attracted to them. I'm not sexually attracted to everyone. It has absolutely nothing to do with whether or not someone is my friend.

 

[flagship]

I've had sex with many friends.

If I don't wanna fuck someone is because I don't want to fuck them. Not because they're my friend.

I don't have to have romantic feelings for a person to enjoy sex with them. I just have to be sexually attracted to them. I'm not sexually attracted to everyone. It has absolutely nothing to do with whether or not someone is my friend.

Well that’s good news

If thats the case, there’s a good chance my friends want to fuck me. I’m easily the most attractive / well built in my social circle

 

[Tight_N_Juicy]

Well that’s good news

If thats the case, there’s a good chance my friends want to fuck me. I’m easily the most attractive / well built in my social circle

I'm not her. Don't extrapolate my answer to apply to your situation with another person who isn't me.

Saying "I'm easily the most attractive..." Made my pussy slam shut. That's the kind of attitude that would make me not wanna fuck someone. Friend or not. And honestly, I wouldn't be friends with someone who comes off conceited the way you did in this post.

Honesty is all I have to offer. Take it or leave it

 

[flagship]

I'm not her. Don't extrapolate my answer to apply to your situation with another person who isn't me.

Saying "I'm easily the most attractive..." Made my pussy slam shut. That's the kind of attitude that would make me not wanna fuck someone. Friend or not. And honestly, I wouldn't be friends with someone who comes off conceited the way you did in this post.

Honesty is all I have to offer. Take it or leave it

I was joking. We clearly live in different worlds. The girls I’m talking about are mostly good girl nerds. We’re all recent law school grads with about 120 in the class. Most of the women graduated with the same bfs they came to school with or got married during school.
With such a small class everybody knows all the gossip and it’s all very lame. People really aren’t sleeping around with friends. We’re talking about pretty low body counts here. Even if I was a young brad Pitt, most of my female friends wouldn’t fuck me out of pure physical attraction.

 

[Tight_N_Juicy]

I was joking. We clearly live in different worlds. The women I’m talking about are mostly good nerds. We’re all recent law school grads with about 120 in the class. Most of the women graduated with the same bfs they came to school with or got married during school.
With such a small class everybody knows all the gossip and it’s all very lame. People really aren’t sleeping around with friends. We’re talking about pretty low body counts here. Even if I was a young brad Pitt, most of my female friends wouldn’t fuck me out of pure physical attraction.

Fixed it..

Anyway I've answered your question and I hope everyone reading has a nice day.

 

[EllieP]

The only term I hate more than Friend Zone is Out of My League. I've never heard any woman refer to either.

Here's the deal, Sir. You're looking for some action from your friend. Let's pump the brakes on that. The two of you are obviously on different tracks, and might be going in different directions. I can't tell because I'm not riding either train.

But the thing is you have a goal in mind. Goals are good. Goals give you direction. But if you're not communicating those goals with your teammate then all you'll do is fumble. (How's my football? Good?)

Anyway, there isn't a single on of us here that can tell you what she's thinking. We dismantled that hive mind sometime in the 50s, so it's a free game on.