Are you tops annoyed when your bottom jerks himself off?

[nickinoo]

I saw it as the bottom is totally getting off. . He is getting fucked and when he jacks off, he is getting pleasure from his dick and ass at the same time. So I find it hot when a guy jacks off as I fuck him.

Agree. I know a lot of people struggle to stay hard when they're getting fucked, but I find it a massive turn on if they're rock hard and wanking off. Although I prefer to do that for them

 

[Itsmeandyou]

NICE

 

[KuronoB]

Top here, and I like it when my bottoms jerk off. They're having a good time, and I'm having a good time because I see that they're enjoying themselves (in part) because I'm fucking them. Everybody's happy!

 

[Ohiojohn]

I've never topped but when I bottom I don't jerk off. If the top wants too jerk me that's great but not required because normally I reach climax just from anal stimulation.

 

[Mister2101]

I do not top often, but when I do I love to see the bottom get hard and stroke himself. Or I will help stroke him, if he would like that. What's the problem here?

As a bottom, I normally stay hard, but not always. I often can cum hands free, but also enjoy stroking myself to enhance the pleasure. I have to be careful when stroking because I may cum too fast.....

Isn't the whole point for you BOTH to enjoy the experience, enjoy the intimacy and pleasure....and hopefully both have mind-numbing orgasms???? Peace!!

 

[leykopygos]

I have a hair trigger much better if I leave it alone.

 

[nickinoo]

I have a hair trigger much better if I leave it alone.

A hair trigger?

 

[leykopygos]

If I don't hold off on stroking I'll come too fast. If I trust the person I'll let him tie my hands.

 

[illustrick]

Doesn't matter to me. Less work I have to do then

 

[Infernal]

It depends. My husband can be a little fast on the trigger. When he gets off, continuing to get fucked is painful. I understand that, but then I'm not able to get off from it.

 

[LDNdude]

Depends. I can be and mostly am top or dominant top, so I intuitively know just how much my bottom wants to be controlled. And if they love being controlled they will usually enjoy being forbidden to touch their own cock while I’m fucking them,
But then, sometimes the guy is just a bottom, not a sub-bottom, and so the command and control dynamic just doesn’t work.

I rarely bottom, but I never bottom as a sub. So any top who tells me what I can and can’t do with my own cock while bottoming can just fuck off.

Slightly different when it comes to oral sex though. I enjoy being a more oral subfrom time to time, so I’m more open to firmer commands and restrictions if I’m just sucking cock.

 

[erpap]

To each his own.

I've topped guys and some have jerked themselves themselves off to completion. With others I have finished them off with a handjob while topping. Another dude I was with popped hands free. That was pretty hot...and I popped shortly afterwards

A good lover does what it takes...within reason...to satisfy the needs of their partner.

I’d like to please you! Hot pics

 

[s18865]

Depends on who's fucking me. If a guy knows how to use his dick, I will gladly keep my hands off mine. Guys with big dicks who are good at fucking will usually make me come hands-free, sometimes even way too soon and without me being able to do anything about it. As most bottoms will confirm, it's not very enjoyable to get pounded right after having an orgasm, but if that's what the guy needs, I'll take it. If he's nice enough to slow down or take a break for a minute or two, I can enjoy getting fucked again for a long time afterwards and probably come hands-free again if he hits my prostate. Getting jerked off by someone else, on the other hand, rarely does anything for me. It will send me over the edge if I was close to coming from getting fucked anyway, but no-one else has every made me come by jerking me off (or sucking for that matter).

It's also fine if I don't come at all if that's the deal with the guy, i.e. if he's a dom top and using me for his pleasure only. This only works for me if I can feel it's not a role for the guy, but being in control is like part of his DNA. If that's the case, then I can leave completely satisfied not having had a orgasm, but with his load inside me. Total mind thing, obviously.

 

[LICNYCgay]

So according to your line of thinking, there is no pleasure for you? Pretty sad, don't you think ?

Yeah, I don’t get it either. But I don’t get the whole dim/sub thing either. I’m bottom and sex for me is a 2 way Street.

Now, that being said, I never touch my cock when I’m being fucked. Not a submissive thing at all though. I’m a greedy cock pig and the longer I can put off my orgasm the longer I can draw out the session. My goal is to always hold out until my top guy cums. At least once and preferably 2x or more. The longer I can keep his cock inside me the better.

 

[hypolimnas]

No - I like it especially when he comes at the same as I do.

 

[malakos]

It's also fine if I don't come at all if that's the deal with the guy, i.e. if he's a dom top and using me for his pleasure only... being in control...

I have seen this kind of rhetoric before. It's a sad reflection on Gay folk that being a Dom has become conflated with with being aggressively self-serving.

 

[Nudistpig]

Okay so I'm not sure if I'm alone in this but I usually tell my bottoms not to touch their cock when I fuck them. I'm not sure if this is simply mental or anything, but for me it's just a boner killer when they start masturbating themselves when I fuck them. It's not also this but usually guys who masturbate while they're getting fucked also cum quite quickly which is somewhat of a disappointment. Now, don't get me wrong, I do take care of the bottom's cock during sex but it's just that I prefer to be the one who stimulates his penis while working his ass instead of himself. Plus, I find it a waste for him to waste both his hands on his cock while he could use them for far better things.

I had a fuckbuddy who couldn't keep his hands off his penis when we first had sex so I had to tie his hands for our second time. He told me he enjoyed it far better and it was one of the best orgasms he had. For granted, he could've been bluffing, but it didn't seem like he faked it.

What do you guys think about his? I'm interested in hearing opinions from both bottoms and tops. I just hope I'm not the only dude around here who is somewhat annoyed by this.

You need to get over yourself and deal. The penetrative role outside of a BDSM predetermined role play doesn't entitle you to make absurd demands that the other MAN not pleasure himself. I trained myself to stay soft because I got tired of men thinking that penetrating me meant being my boss. Want strict role play? Ask for it and set the rules.

The result of that self training was increased ED when I wanted to fuck or was being asked to because the hard on I got was reinforced by my hard on from being fucked myself. But let me help you. Unless you know how to give anal orgasms asking him to forgo for you is rude.

I get it, sometimes they cum first and leave you hanging which sucks. The boss role feels a bit not when that happens. These are bullshit games with bullshit prizes. The top should fuck his bottom so well that the bottom doesn't want to cum and he should give his top pleasure so intense he doesn't want to pull out. From there rapture. But that requires practice patience and growth. Instead of seeing this as a game where taking away pleasure is what you need, try to see that as a mistake. Celebrate his pleasure and erection. It's for you.

 

[notN2pussy]

not even a little bit, the last one came while fucking, I licked it off his finger and kissed him

 

[Nudistpig]

Well, the top should have most of the control over the bottom.

The pleasure of my bottom is my no 1 priority when I top, but why allow him to do something that greatly diminishes that pleasure when I'm in control? It's like allowing your lover to harm himself.

No. You have not bothered to study this in any detail. You do not have control over him. He gives you that power. And from that gift from your equal to you, he empowers YOU to rise up and be in that moment greater than. What he does takes just as much effort as what you do. None of your power exists without him. Try it alone and see. The next objective is to use your given authority not to be petty and take away his self pleasure because it offends you but to help him arrive at a place of security and comfort so he can let go more. This floods you with new pleasure and so on. You seem to want to stop at accepting his gift because you have odd ideas that self pleasure is self harm and that he is incompetent on his own but also because there is insecurity over your actual power. It's your cock getting soft.

Part of your role is to anticipate and interpret his needs before he has them. Domination serves little purpose if it is simply an exercise in mundane controls. These also become tedious. The best place to experience total control is in his role. Only the bottom ever has this power. Only he can transform a man's directions into a pleasure so intense the dom is unable to resist. A future dom is born in this moment.

I rarely top. I don't find most men of interest for it. At 47 I still get occasion to bottom as demo to younger men because I do it to the letter for my former doms. This is why I can be an excellent dom if I desire it because I know his needs inside out. They were and are mine.

 

[LondonCutguy]

When I'm getting fucked, I'm too busy playing with my nipples...