As a gay man approaching 40, does anyone else feel weird about still finding younger men sexually attractive?

[loboestepario]

I have always thought that, if it is OK for straight people, it is OK as well for us. Attraction is of course one thing, and if it is reciprocated, great, but on the other hand, making a fetish of young men just because they are young... that's morally objectionable, IMO.

 

[oscar thomas]

My uncle is 63 and his son (my cousin) is 42, yet his partner is 19. If they don't have issue with it, why should anyone else. I think with m/f age gaps society is far less tolerant than it used to be when the male is older.

When the male is younger (in straight or gay relationships) it seems to be more accepted.

 

[Robert Dole]

I have always thought that, if it is OK for straight people, it is OK as well for us. Attraction is of course one thing, and if it is reciprocated, great, but on the other hand, making a fetish of young men just because they are young... that's morally objectionable, IMO.

Reciprocated attraction is everything in any relationship but especially where there may be some imbalance in power or whatever.

 

[eridim]

When I was in my early twenties i looked for bottoms in their 30s and 40s because they were easier to fuck and I was very successful. Guys my age were very virgin. I'm still very young but more open to bottoming now. It certainly is more difficult to get an older guy to want to top me. Not sure if it has to do with age or that everyone is desperate for a top, but I'd imagine older guys enjoy topping younger. I know i do.

It's almost impossible to find a younger guy that would top me. Was i just a big slut when I was younger?

 

[auouymonsz]

When I turned 18 the first guy I had sex with was 45, so it's not unheard of. But now, I tend to keep in within 10 years at most.

 

[Robert Dole]

When I was in my early twenties i looked for bottoms in their 30s and 40s because they were easier to fuck and I was very successful. Guys my age were very virgin. I'm still very young but more open to bottoming now. It certainly is more difficult to get an older guy to want to top me. Not sure if it has to do with age or that everyone is desperate for a top, but I'd imagine older guys enjoy topping younger. I know i do.

It's almost impossible to find a younger guy that would top me. Was i just a big slut when I was younger?

Your comments echo what some of the young guys have mentioned to me - many guys their age who are gay or bi are confused, scared, inexperienced and haven’t worked out their sexuality.
They see older men as having worked it all out and naturally want to know

 

[Vertigo1814]

When I was in my early twenties i looked for bottoms in their 30s and 40s because they were easier to fuck and I was very successful. Guys my age were very virgin. I'm still very young but more open to bottoming now. It certainly is more difficult to get an older guy to want to top me. Not sure if it has to do with age or that everyone is desperate for a top, but I'd imagine older guys enjoy topping younger. I know i do.

It's almost impossible to find a younger guy that would top me. Was i just a big slut when I was younger?

Pretty normal for older tops to prefer younger bottoms. To do with perceptions of dominance.

 

[PeterJoe]

Pretty normal for older tops to prefer younger bottoms. To do with perceptions of dominance.

As a young bottom, I really loved the feeling a real man was taking my ass. Older men (30-40-50) have that energy.

 

[AaronJames93]

So next year I turn 40, and I’ve never really had a “type” when it comes to men, but as I’ve gotten older, I’ve found myself feeling weird when I see an obviously much younger guy and find him sexy.

Now to be clear, I am NOT talking about underage guys or even teenagers. For example, there was a guy on the U.K. traitors who I thought was absolutely gorgeous, but then I saw he was only 20 and I felt kind of gross about thinking like that.

Yes, I know he’s an adult, legal age and all that, but I am literally old enough to be his Dad. Anyone else find themselves feeling like this? Almost as if I’m a creep for finding someone so much younger than me hot?

Not weird at all!

 

[RGHRGH]

So next year I turn 40, and I’ve never really had a “type” when it comes to men, but as I’ve gotten older, I’ve found myself feeling weird when I see an obviously much younger guy and find him sexy.

Now to be clear, I am NOT talking about underage guys or even teenagers. For example, there was a guy on the U.K. traitors who I thought was absolutely gorgeous, but then I saw he was only 20 and I felt kind of gross about thinking like that.

Yes, I know he’s an adult, legal age and all that, but I am literally old enough to be his Dad. Anyone else find themselves feeling like this? Almost as if I’m a creep for finding someone so much younger than me hot?

I've always wondered if the whole ”older creeper" stigma is a modern social trend, or if it has long historic precedence.

Regardless, it's such a toxic typecast. No man or woman in his or her forties or fifties should have to be made to feel like some dirty perv just for having an attraction that he or she is naturally, biologically prone to have. Surprise! We are designed to like the younger generation sexually. That's been true since the dawn of mankind.

And, I've been saying that since my teens. I'm in my early to mid-thirties now.

 

[DaveyBoySmith12345]

I've always wondered if the whole ”older creeper" stigma is a modern social trend, or if it has long historic precedence.

Regardless, it's such a toxic typecast. No man or woman in his or her forties or fifties should have to be made to feel like some dirty perv just for having an attraction that he or she is naturally, biologically prone to have. Surprise! We are designed to like the younger generation sexually. That's been true since the dawn of mankind.

And, I've been saying that since my teens. I'm in my early to mid-thirties now.

I think for me, it's also having a clear understanding that there's a very significant experience/developmental difference when it comes to younger guys. Like yes, they're still adults legally and grown ass men, but having lived with a couple of MUCH younger guys (as I often rent out my spare room), I've come to notice their mentalities are so much different and their life experiences too, which leads me to feel that, to a certain extent, while the attraction element may not be too bad, if I were to pursue a younger guy, that may be another question in itself.

 

[Cock_stroker]

I’ve also loved an older man. Now as a 28 year old man I’ve never really been into twinks” and I don’t want to be a 40 year old man fucking young men. But I don’t know as I get older Will my preferences change? I can’t imagine liking younger men? For me I find an older mature man really attractive has anyone else experienced this as an older man? Will my preferences change as I get older?

 

[Cock_stroker]

I’ve also loved an older man. Now as a 28 year old man I’ve never really been into twinks” and I don’t want to be a 40 year old man fucking young men. But I don’t know as I get older Will my preferences change? I can’t imagine liking younger men? For me I find an older mature man really attractive has anyone else experienced this as an older man? Will my preferences change as I get older?

I’ve never been into the skinny twink Type. I’ve also found an older man who is built heavier so much more attractive. Will I at 45 prefer to meet men my own age or will I develop a liking to guys in theirs 20’s/30

 

[ttpave]

I think for me, it's also having a clear understanding that there's a very significant experience/developmental difference when it comes to younger guys. Like yes, they're still adults legally and grown ass men, but having lived with a couple of MUCH younger guys (as I often rent out my spare room), I've come to notice their mentalities are so much different and their life experiences too, which leads me to feel that, to a certain extent, while the attraction element may not be too bad, if I were to pursue a younger guy, that may be another question in itself.

What are examples of their mentalities being so much different?

 

[ttpave]

What are examples of their mentalities being so much different?

Not denying it just curious what you’ve thought.

 

[Justfname1]

No. 21 and up, if they're cute, they're cute.

 

[jadegreenrocket]

So next year I turn 40, and I’ve never really had a “type” when it comes to men, but as I’ve gotten older, I’ve found myself feeling weird when I see an obviously much younger guy and find him sexy.

Now to be clear, I am NOT talking about underage guys or even teenagers. For example, there was a guy on the U.K. traitors who I thought was absolutely gorgeous, but then I saw he was only 20 and I felt kind of gross about thinking like that.

Yes, I know he’s an adult, legal age and all that, but I am literally old enough to be his Dad. Anyone else find themselves feeling like this? Almost as if I’m a creep for finding someone so much younger than me hot?

Yes I have that feeling now that I have gotten older