Bisexual awakening around 40?

[randoxyz]

Hey everyone,

I know this forum is filled with these questions but I hope you all are patient and honest with me. I'd love to hear honest feedback from a like-minded community.

So for nearly the last 40 years I've always thought of myself as strictly heterosexual. Never even touched a guy and only dated and had sex with women. However, since I was a teen I always preferred watching porn with guys who had large dicks or had a nice body/physique. As time went on, I found myself finding that what I thought was a mere admiration of a guys well endowed parts might actually be sexual attraction. In my 20's I started realizing I really enjoyed mainstream interracial porn because most of the guys had massive, beautiful cocks and also had great bodies. At this point I realized maybe I was watching for not just to enjoy the girl but also the guy. Double penetration, MMF threesomes, gangbangs, blowbangs, etc. became my favorite around this time partly because I loved seeing more dicks, more cum, and a sexy sloppy ending!

Fast forward maybe 2 years ago and I stumbled upon some solo male big cock masturbation gifs on a random site and it made me more curious. Suddenly, I was looking for more solo male content or content that focused on just the guy and his defined body/big cock. The itch was such a rush of curiosity, naughtiness, and shame. I even ended up buying porn star replica dildos of some of the guys I thought were hot to play with because I loved their huge cocks so much(Jax Slayher/Isiah Maxwell, fyi.)

I'm not sure what changed inside me but while I still love everything about women...I'm finding much pleasure as well with men. I don't feel romantically attached at all either, it's strictly a sexual desire. Now I'm at a point where I have no idea if I should try to experiment or not or let it stay a fantasy. I've heard the reality may not live up to the fantasy...but I have no experience in this area! Would love to hear your thoughts!

 

[ron88]

Why would you not try it?
Your life, your choice. If you have a desire inside of you and it doesn't harm anyone, go for it.
Explore and enjoy.

 

[dickthrobbing]

I'm not sure what changed inside me but while I still love everything about women...I'm finding much pleasure as well with men. I don't feel romantically attached at all either, it's strictly a sexual desire. Now I'm at a point where I have no idea if I should try to experiment or not or let it stay a fantasy. I've heard the reality may not live up to the fantasy...but I have no experience in this area! Would love to hear your thoughts!

Seems like the curiosity has always been there within you.

What most guys will have after the first meeting or so is the feeling of guilt, should I have done it? Then you go through the I enjoyed it but should I do it again .
There is a whole post meeting thought processing .

However; the feeling of another guys body, handling another mans cock the feel and taste of it in your mouth and seeing another guy suck you cock , there is nothing like it; and as for penetrative sex

 

[Scott8361]

Your post describes the exact road I traveled. Mine started in my mid 30s. Before that had no bi desires, but as I age they seem to grow stronger.

I did take the step to turn my curiosity and fantasies into reality, and it has been an exciting, erotic world. There is nothing like submitting to one's desire for cock!

 

[halcyondays]

Now I'm at a point where I have no idea if I should try to experiment or not or let it stay a fantasy. I've heard the reality may not live up to the fantasy...but I have no experience in this area! Would love to hear your thoughts!

Porn isn't sex. It's been said here a thousand times right? Here's another: porn is fantasyland.

The difference between porn and sex is the difference between watching someone play music and playing it yourself. It's a completely different experience. You don't watch yourself play music. You're paying attention to the instrument in your arms and hands.

It's not going to be the fantasy but that's okay. To play music you pick up a guitar or sit at a piano and play. Gotta start somewhere. Same for sex.

Find someone and play.

 

[Scott8361]

Hey everyone,

I know this forum is filled with these questions but I hope you all are patient and honest with me. I'd love to hear honest feedback from a like-minded community.

So for nearly the last 40 years I've always thought of myself as strictly heterosexual. Never even touched a guy and only dated and had sex with women. However, since I was a teen I always preferred watching porn with guys who had large dicks or had a nice body/physique. As time went on, I found myself finding that what I thought was a mere admiration of a guys well endowed parts might actually be sexual attraction. In my 20's I started realizing I really enjoyed mainstream interracial porn because most of the guys had massive, beautiful cocks and also had great bodies. At this point I realized maybe I was watching for not just to enjoy the girl but also the guy. Double penetration, MMF threesomes, gangbangs, blowbangs, etc. became my favorite around this time partly because I loved seeing more dicks, more cum, and a sexy sloppy ending!

Fast forward maybe 2 years ago and I stumbled upon some solo male big cock masturbation gifs on a random site and it made me more curious. Suddenly, I was looking for more solo male content or content that focused on just the guy and his defined body/big cock. The itch was such a rush of curiosity, naughtiness, and shame. I even ended up buying porn star replica dildos of some of the guys I thought were hot to play with because I loved their huge cocks so much(Jax Slayher/Isiah Maxwell, fyi.)

I'm not sure what changed inside me but while I still love everything about women...I'm finding much pleasure as well with men. I don't feel romantically attached at all either, it's strictly a sexual desire. Now I'm at a point where I have no idea if I should try to experiment or not or let it stay a fantasy. I've heard the reality may not live up to the fantasy...but I have no experience in this area! Would love to hear your thoughts!

Curious about the toys you purchased and how you use them. Part of my bi awakening and big cock desires grew out of anal penetration exploration. Did it with you?

In viewing metro porn I got very curious about being penetrated myself. I started small and got up to average cock sizes. Each time I moved up in size the pleasure became more intense. I could understand how size can matter and became more interested and envious of well hung men.

In the realization I could never have one myself, I began to crave to see, touch, and experience one in real life.

So tell me more about your toy experiences.

 

[titsmcgeenyc]

I'm bi, I know a lot of bi men, and awakenings happen at any age.

Life is for living and enjoying. Explore, have fun, don't limit yourself. Don't waste time on categorizing or identifying yourself — just go with what feels right.

I follow many male-female "amateur" couples on Onlyfans, and there is so much more male-male bi play than there used to be. Just an acceptance of what comes naturally.

 

[tito21]

Hey everyone,

I know this forum is filled with these questions but I hope you all are patient and honest with me. I'd love to hear honest feedback from a like-minded community.

So for nearly the last 40 years I've always thought of myself as strictly heterosexual. Never even touched a guy and only dated and had sex with women. However, since I was a teen I always preferred watching porn with guys who had large dicks or had a nice body/physique. As time went on, I found myself finding that what I thought was a mere admiration of a guys well endowed parts might actually be sexual attraction. In my 20's I started realizing I really enjoyed mainstream interracial porn because most of the guys had massive, beautiful cocks and also had great bodies. At this point I realized maybe I was watching for not just to enjoy the girl but also the guy. Double penetration, MMF threesomes, gangbangs, blowbangs, etc. became my favorite around this time partly because I loved seeing more dicks, more cum, and a sexy sloppy ending!

Fast forward maybe 2 years ago and I stumbled upon some solo male big cock masturbation gifs on a random site and it made me more curious. Suddenly, I was looking for more solo male content or content that focused on just the guy and his defined body/big cock. The itch was such a rush of curiosity, naughtiness, and shame. I even ended up buying porn star replica dildos of some of the guys I thought were hot to play with because I loved their huge cocks so much(Jax Slayher/Isiah Maxwell, fyi.)

I'm not sure what changed inside me but while I still love everything about women...I'm finding much pleasure as well with men. I don't feel romantically attached at all either, it's strictly a sexual desire. Now I'm at a point where I have no idea if I should try to experiment or not or let it stay a fantasy. I've heard the reality may not live up to the fantasy...but I have no experience in this area! Would love to hear your thoughts!

You said you bought and played with pornstar dildos. Are you gagging yourself on said dildos or riding them on the tile floor while they’re being suctioned to the floor? If your answer is yes to one or both of these. Molly, you’re a cock hungry hoe!

 

[vnesebtm]

As a gay man who has met many people with their sexuality awakening later in life, you need to explore it as soon as possible. You will have to see people you like and tell them about your situation. Gay people can be hostile to bisexual men sometimes, but they will never refuse to help others to discover their sexuality.

 

[El viento]

I’m going through a similar but opposite situation. I realize that I am attracted to women. I am 34 years old.

 

[Mister2101]

I think this is very very common. Mine happened in my 30s.......that curiosity and urges won't go away.....especially in todays world where porn on the internet is so prevalent and easy to access.....seeing and listening to men enjoying gay sex is hard to deny and easy to absorb in a positive way......the raw sexual pleasure is so very obvious......my opinion!!

 

[BIGBULL29]

I'm bi, I know a lot of bi men, and awakenings happen at any age.

Life is for living and enjoying. Explore, have fun, don't limit yourself. Don't waste time on categorizing or identifying yourself — just go with what feels right.

I follow many male-female "amateur" couples on Onlyfans, and there is so much more male-male bi play than there used to be. Just an acceptance of what comes naturally.

It is more okay to be deplore your bi side now. Younger dudes are getting more comfortable with male sexiness. I think most men are attracted to the sight of a big, beautiful penis. It doesn’t mean they’re all gay—not at all.

Take care

 

[QuietPrelude]

They say pretty much all men turn gay or bi when they get old. So yes, it's pretty positive you are part of the LGTB community now.

 

[PThong]

I'm in the same situation as you .
Always admired dicks....
Due to some fears only recently I admitted I was bi.

The urge to meet/touch me in person has growing bigger and bigger.


I've met some men online that I would have done things with, if I was not married.....

Since I'm married all this becomes a fantasy....
If you are not engaged.... Go on!

Meet some nearby men (here on lpsg, for instance) get to know them and the dive in!!!!

Best of luck!
And enjoy everything another man can give you

 

[justahornyguy174]

I'm in my early 40s, straight. When I was around 30 i started getting interested in trans women, I'd obviously seen them in porn before but them having a cock was a turn off. I did jerk off to one who was super sexy and her cock was in full view when I came, felt a bit grossed out by it but it triggered something. I started looking more and more at trans women, usually overly feminine with huge boobs, lips etc and started to focus more on their cocks until I'd be jerking off over trans cocks as much as pussy.
I took the plunge a few years back with a trans hooker, i was super nervous and thought I might not like it but as I massaged her bum it just felt like any other woman I've been with. When she turned over and I saw her cock I could not believe how natural it felt to suck it!
I had the fortune of meeting a trans woman this year on a data app and sucked her off tasting my first cum which I loved.
When i was in my 20s or 30s I would not have believed for one second I'd want to do this but things certainly changed.
I have zero attraction to men but I absolutely love trans women and their cocks. I wonder if many men have an inbuilt desire for pussy and cock, but they never think about cock as they are on hairy men. Maybe over time they realise this and with the almost infinite amount of porn available now they start discovering thins they would have not thought about

 

[adoniscubano]

Interesting. In my case has being the opposite. It’s being a while since I switched from gay porn to straight porn and I find myself more and more curious about straight sex. I had a few experiences with women when I was strictly top and strictly gay. I would say that my experiences with women were by accident, it was not something I was looking for at the time it happened.
I was seeing this man who was built like a heavyweight lifter and he had a very small cock, something like 4 inches fully erected and as thin as one of my fingers, yet he was married to a woman and he loved pussies as much as he loved taking a big cock up his ass. One day during one of our meetings and without previous knowledge he told me that he had a surprise for me waiting. I was curious but never imagined that as I walked into the bedroom there was a lady in doggy style fully naked and he asked me to fuck her. I was in my mid 20’s. Honestly I felt really nervous and didn’t know what to do as I never before had sex with a woman. I was fully into men. Still I performed well.
Those meetings went on for a couple of times. It was always the same routine: I’ll get to his place, we would have a drink, watch some porn in the living room get hard and then walk to the bedroom where his woman would be waiting for me doggy style. I would bang her for a few minutes and then we would keep going to our regular business.
Fast forward now in my 40’s I feel like I’m kinda bored with gay sex. I’ve learned what I like and what I don’t like. It came a point where I know that guys always lie, and out of those who claimed to be 8, 9 and 10 inch turned to be an average 7 inch cock. Very frustrating to almost always being the bigger guy in the room. So I’m not much sexually active lately and it’s just my personal choice to stay like this. In the other hand I feel this urge to drive around and pick up a hooker, buy her a nice lingerie and take her to dinner and then bring her home and fuck her like there’s no tomorrow. I’m more inclined to women than men lately.
Don’t get me wrong, I still like men, but I’m just not into getting off with anyone just because they like my big cock. I feel that the gay world sucks. If you go online to any dating apps you’ll find that most of the guys want big/huge cocks and muscles and pretty faces and people assume that just because someone has a big cock he has to be an agresivo fucker who fucks like a porn star. And while I know I’m a great lover I’m just not into being used just because of the size of my cock.
That being said, I feel like I should go for a lady. I just don’t see myself dating a woman, I have this fantasy that I pick up a hooker and treat her like a lady, wine, candles, nice ambiance, and then I bring her to my place where I make love to her all night long.

 

[adoniscubano]

I remember that I didn’t feel her pussy to be tight at all. If anything it always felt shallow and never felt the “wrapping my cock with her vaginal muscles”. To me it was kinda dissatisfying. Also I was never allowed to see her face. She was always doggy style ready to be penetrated. No oral sex or foreplay. Which led me to believe that a man’s ass was tighter than a pussy.

 

[daftman]

good events!

 

[mrbigdoc]

When I was younger I enjoy time with the boys... I got married and I only seen one guy early in out marriage. Always had the urge and really enjoyed seeing other guys naked and I'm into cocks. I controlled myself for 40 years and never pursued time with another guy. The urges and the stimulation I felt for cock was huge on me. Out of town on business travel and I met this guy in one of the meeting I was attending. We had drinks and was shooting the bull after dinner one night. The drinks were flowing and inhibitions were fading. He was a nice guy and I thought he was really into me and he seemed like a guy that I just might enjoy. He talked some sexy talk and I was getting hard and very horny... Our talk got real quiet and kinda sensual. I was feeling very good. It was so good that I just asked him if he wanted to take our drinks up to my room. Well he jumped at the invite and we had a great time. That was 15 years ago and I still reach out to him in an email to say thanks for the time that night. I sure enjoyed it and sent me on my way to enjoy what I enjoy and I'm so glad I did. So if you have the desire, pursue it... For me anyway the urge only got stronger as I got older.

 

[Zeehr0]

I read the name of this thread and blurted out loud - “Yes Pleassssssse”