I find this to be quite unproblematic actually. I appreciate him for what he actually is and what he does, which is something that is within his comfort zone. You on the other hand, want him to do something he naturally does not want to do, and calls him a flop for not doing it. This neurotic fixation with needing to see straight guys engaging sexually with other men, I truly don't get. I can understand the fantasy of wanting that experience with them for yourself.
Did you know that pretty much all gay4pay performers have to take things like viagra, dick injections, sometimes even mind altering drugs to be able to perform such acts? Did you know that during a shooting of a gay4pay scene, there are hired "fluffers" present? Meaning, women who strip and does sexual acts outside the view of the camera, to keep them distracted and hard while pretending to enjoying putting their dick in another man? Also, they often take long breaks and watch straight porn to get back in the right mood to continue shooting a scene?
I can give you plenty of examples of straight men who were gay4pay, who ended up as drug addicts who OD'd. I prefer to enjoy what is real or has some element of truth to it. Not insist on them doing something they are clearly uncomfortable with. I read their energy and facial expressions, and if I detect the smallest sign of them being uncomfortable, and I get uncomfortable. That makes me respectful, empathic, and a realist. That's not someone in need of help. Your lack of respect for their sexual orientation, and insisting on making them uncomfortable for your own sexual gratification on the other hand, could easily be a sign of many problematic mental conditions and personality disorders in need of help. Good day to you!