I do not agree with everything
@Sagittarius84 posts, even on this subject, but he not only seems to get it, he seems to want even better understanding.
Meanwhile, that jjzzz guy just comes across as so full of shit. He's NEVER stood too close? NEVER looked too hard for too long? NEVER made more than one attempt to get a disinterested woman's attention? I don't buy it. These are the minor things I think every man does until he knows better. Men doing these things do not necessarily mean any harm, and may not even know that to the woman on the receiving end, these maneuvers are intimidating.
There have been men who shook my hand in introduction but then wouldn't let go of my hand until I was forced to hear them out and tolerate their otherwise gentle flirting. Does anyone believe these men meant to scare me? I don't. But they did. They just wanted me to like them. But I do not. I still remember the sad tone in the last guy's voice when he said, "You won't call. I don't think you like me." He is the reason I do not let men shake my hand unless we are introduced by someone I know, or are conducting business. He wasn't the forst to refuse to let go, but he will be the last one I do not injure. I do not let men shake my hand, so this hasn't been a problem. But if it is, I will maim him. He gets two chances to unhand me. It is false imprisonment. The penalty? I will try to remove his fucking hand from both of us. I do not trust police. I won't be asking for help.
While I think most men are friendly and kind, or at least well-intentioned, I think all humans do random stupid things that make other people uncomfortable. In the case of most people, men in this context, I think most offenses are incredibly minor. The offended escapes the scene ASAP, afraid to make a fuss because she might make him angry, and angry men are dangerous. The offender never knows how he blundered and that he did minor harm to anyone.
How many times a week do I have conversations I do not want to have because it is easier to just be polite and wait for an opportunity to hide from Him? This is better than letting him see which car I get into. Better than angering him. If he's angry, he might hurt me. If he knows my car, he might spot a pattern in my travels, or worse, spot my car in my driveway! So, how many times do I smile and nod, give a fake name, try to let Dude know I'm busy/unavailable without pissing him off? How many times am I thinking about just being honest? "Look, Man, I am in no mood for conversation right now. I do not want to be friends. I am not going to fuck you. I do not want to buy or sell anything. I want to go home, without you, and without you seeing what car I put my groceries in. Have a pleasant day." I think about it every time. I would love to be that clean and clear about it. But what are some common abuses I have to endure if I am honest about not wanting His attention? Will he block my path? Follow me? Scream sexist/racist epithets and invective into my face? Will he be violent? He might. I do not know him. Every man alive is Schrodinger's rapist. I have no way of knowing if the cat in the box is dead or alive, both or neither. I have no way of knowing if the man before me can be rejected safely or not. I only know if he wants to stop me from leaving, he can. If he wants to kill me, he probably can. If he wants to hurt me, he can. If he wants to destroy my life, he can. So, in the intetest of self preservation, I tolerate some bullshit. I look out for other women who might be in trouble. I hide. I run. If all else fails, I fight.
Dudes who think they have NEVER imposed themselves on unappreciative women are either ignorant or liars. lol As if we are going to always be free to just come out and say in plain English, "Go away! You are interrupting my inner monologue."