He made a mess of his life going on the Bachelorette and all the subsequent drama. He doesn't know what he really wants now and is probably following a path that others like have gone, including Gus. In a few years, everyone will move on and forget these guys for new, younger versions.
A lot of guys think that after years of being a grown ass person who’s indulged phoniness, emotionally manipulating women (and maybe emotionally manipulating secret boyfriends) and doing things for fame, sociology, money, ego, attention, to alleviate insecurities, so folks don’t call them “gay”- that all they need to do is be “out”/adhere to some identity and do some thirst traps. And that just makes everything better. Maybe years ago that was cool, but standards are different now.
It’s been less than a year since he’s been engaged to a woman, talking about wanting a hetero normal family and commitment, stalking/harassing/tracking his girlfriend, and promoting being “not gay” for TV and for books. And in a blink he’s “proudly gay”, talking about wanting to marry and have a family with a guy, writing a book about his “gayness”, surrounding himself with queer “friends”, presenting himself as a stereotypical “queer”. You don’t genuinely understand the dimensions of your sexuality, understand what you want, get rid of internalized phobias and gay shame, confront mental health issues or traumas, and acquire queers who are your legit friends in that short period of time.
Once again, I understand shit like hetero pressures, internalized phobias, queer insecurities, trying to understand where your sexuality and where you are in the gender, sexual, affection, romantic, emotional investment, relationship contentment spectrum. However, even if what we’re seeing now is closer to the “real”, it still just comes off like more phoniness and pandering and image/ego building. It just feels like he stays obsessed with fitting in somewhere, with validation, with ego and with image control (which honestly, is a problem for many “queers”, closeted or not).
? Can this dude be anymore predictable. What’s next? Drag? A new found Obsession with Rupauls? Circuit raves? Fire Island? Palm Springs? Speedos? Jock strap ? Poppers? I see his “gay guide” has been doing a good job with the lessons
