Cuddling with Friends and Other Issues

[Brodie888]

Yeah I kinda got that sense too. It would have been nice if they got along, but I really think she had some deep seated dislike for them. I just think she's too hung up on how much someone gets paid and not enough about whether they're a good person or not.

Maybe. You would know better than anybody else.

But I think she's just using whatever ammunition she can throw at it to drive a wedge between you and them because she can't win fighting fair.

 

[justaguy5000]

If you don't mind me asking, what is the ethnic/cultural background of your now ex?

She's white. Originally from New York. Marginally Italian by heritage but certainly not overly religious. She's hardly a Sopranos character lol.

 

[Sagittarius84]

She's white. Originally from New York. Marginally Italian by heritage but certainly not overly religious. She's hardly a Sopranos character lol.

Ok, I was going to say there are some cultures where things like horoscope and blood type are considered in relationships in a way they aren't necessarily followed in the West, but no, she sounds like her woo-woo is homebred.
Italian from New York should have pre warned you about socioeconomic concerns given the cost of living in most of that state, in that an entry level position in NY probably pays more than an established career in the Midwest.
I know nobody likes to generalize and/or prejudge, but it is shocking to me the number of people who don't actively seek social or cultural context in their partners to prepare them for unforseen issues.
As I was discussing with the other poster, I think it would behoove you going forward to not necessarily spark earlier communication about expectations going forward, but to have a healthy assumption that some behaviors, traits, and associations that a lot of women find desirous and attractive, if not benign on the front end, will fundamentally change as your relationship progresses, even if what you find attractive persists.
I think the bait and switch is an unfortunate feature, not a bug of most women's relationship process and men are best served learning how to navigate it as opposed to thinking it won't apply.

 

[SubbySlutForBigDick]

Take it from this direction.... she gives you hugs just so she gets sex from you but then cuddles with her female best friend in the way you described wouldn't you feel the way she does??? Maybe she's figured out that your only giving her hugs so you can get your dick wet and that you don't seem to care about her

 

[CockMySuck]

Take it from this direction.... she gives you hugs just so she gets sex from you but then cuddles with her female best friend in the way you described wouldn't you feel the way she does??? Maybe she's figured out that your only giving her hugs so you can get your dick wet and that you don't seem to care about her

This is a stretch.

 

[SubbySlutForBigDick]

This is a stretch.

Not really