Did your father ever talk to you about? (18+ only)

[Longwood8]

My parents have open attitudes towads sex and masturbation. I found the joys of masturbating by myself, but when my dad brought up masturbation, I told him I already knew about it. Same as for sex, I sort of put it together how it's done especially finding his vast porn collection. My parents had/still have an active sex life, so I heard them many times and then peeked to see for myself how it was done to make sure I knew correctly in the non-porn world. And no I was not scarred by this. Also, masturbation was seen as natural so I never thought of it as shameful and the times one of them saw me, I didn't get embarrassed, it was just viewed as "me time." They would ask if schoolwork was done and I'd say yes (even if it wasn't ) and then I'd be free to do it for however long I wanted. They raised me naked so it wasn't embarrassing also for the fact they both saw my penis everyday, so it wasn't something to be upset over from them seeing it. My dad knew I found his porn collection and definitely didn't mind that I had. Sometimes if he saw me and saw I was watching one of his tapes (they still had a working vcr), or a downloaded video on his computer he would always joke I picked a good one and he also said put it back where I found it when I'm done. This dynamic is definitely not the norm in most families, but I loved the openness about it and my dad and I are close, so I never had embarrassment going to him with questions about my relationships.

I feel that for many guys if these talks took place it was well before the age of 18. So to answer the post in the 18+ time frame, by that point they obviously knew I masturbated and knew I already had sex and was careful about it (mostly was, but didn't get a girl pregnant), so if masturbation or my sex life came up in conversation, he either was making a jerk off joke, or checking in on how things were going between me and the girls I was dating.

If anyone here is a new father, try getting over any embarrassment bringing up these conversations with your son, because once sex and masturbation is seen as normal, it can lead to openness for your son to share any questions or problems.

 

[Longwood8]

My dad and I are super close and have always been totally open with sex and jerking. I figured it out on my own and he's seen me do it and it was/is no big deal. I'll give an example where I was 18 to keep in line with the thread.
I was on my bed jerking off when he came in to talk to me about a bad grade I got in math. He told me why he came in and he said he was disappointed I got another bad grade. I reminded him again I can never understand it even with a tutor. He said dinner was almost ready and he would keep it warm if I wasn't finished yet. I hadnt stopped masturbating during our conversation and he was allowing me more time if I needed it.

That's our relationship.

 

[NudistCoachBen]

My dad was a doctor so we were pretty open to discussing anything in our house. Dad thought the body should breathe whenever it could so nudity was not frowned upon. Discussions happened when it was the appropriate time for them. Very open and relaxed. The same way I've raised my sons.

 

[deleted1846971]

Only a few times as a teen, but once I was 19-20 years old our conversations opened up a lot. We now discuss a lot. I learn from his wisdom in relationships (my parents have been married for 20+ years) and with women. Some of my moves were even told to me by my Dad haha. He told me how to tell when she is aroused and how to read her body language. That’s invaluable to me.

 

[Petnax]

What's a father??

My biological father has been doing what he does best, travelling the world getting as many women pregnant as possible it seems. Only met him briefly once or twice when I was a lot younger.

I haven't spoken to my step-dad for 6 years. He was with us since I was very young but we never bonded. He was military. Only ever jokey or angry, nothing in-between. No hugs, no "I love you", no encouragement and certainly no advice about women or my body.

I've always found it strange reading/listening to men talk about their connection with their dads tbh. Hearing a male friend say that he hugs his dad sounds odd to me... nice! but odd.

This isn't a "boo hoo my dads didn't love me" thing though.

It's something that I'm actually proud of weirdly. I taught myself to shave. I taught myself how to be a man. Through experience I taught myself about my own body and how to treat other people. I consider myself to be a well rounded guy. Flawed! certainly, like everyone but well rounded.

This thread has been an interesting read.

 

[tnman]

My "talk" was in the truck just before I got my license, I grew up on a rather large farm and was headed in to the feed store with him on a Saturday morning and not far from the house he whips out a condom and hands it to me and says "don't get out and knock some girl up and bring her home" That was my talk! noda, nothing else period every again, up tight son of a bitch I am surprised he said anything. by then I had been sexually active for years, and I think what sparked it was him coming in from a bar late one night and finding me banging the girl down the road in my mother's Buick station wagon and finding the windows all fogged up, hell it had been a regular thing for a couple of years, she was a couple of years older, I think for him it just sealed the deal that I was very active at that point. I miss that Buick, had MANY good memories with the all those seats laid down in the back lol

 

[BMDUBYA]

My dad explained a lot to me about what to expect as I matured through puberty but the one thing I didn’t know about was the awesome feeling I would eventually experience the night my dick exploded with my first ejaculation.

 

[chrisrobin]

It turned out that it was me giving the talk! Through a very complicated turn of events I suddenly found I was going to be a father, turned out to be twin boys. Just as suddenly as I had taken on parental responsibilities she upped and left with a guy who had a huge cock, no sense of motherhood or responsibilities. so, having raised them, hopefully unaware that I preferred guys it came down to having to have the talk, the first of several, when I found them jacking off together. First thing that flashed into my mind was they';re bound to ask if they'll go blind!

 

[diver6]

No, I never really got the sex talk from either one of my parents. I was left to explore my sexuality alone and was very confused and felt guilt about it.

Thats too bad, my parents were very open and home nudists, so we got to talk about it and see things firsthand. I raised my boys the same way, wanted them to feel comfortable around others nude.

 

[HorseHung40's]

No, he did not. I did speak to my sons about it when we had "the talk". I told them that masturbation was safe sex, because you cannot pick up any disease from it, nor can it result in an unplanned pregnancy.

 

[BigAl9]

My dad never said anything until I got engaged. Understand that he was basically an absentee father until I was 20 yo. He had visitation every other weekend until I was 16. Nothing was ever said during those visits. We worked at the same place, in the same department. One day after work, after I announced that I was engaged he approached me about showering. The showers, at work were gang showers. I said yes because I wanted to see him nude. I had observed his bulge many times over the years. I had read Masters and Johnson's report as well as the Kensey Report so I was aware that I was quite a bit above average in size. During the shower I observed that out flaccid size was quite similar. Of course I also knew that flaccid size was no definite indication of erect size, but this opportunity gave me a general idea, or so I thought at that time. At that time my erect size was just over 8 inches and quite thick. Made the comment as we were getting dressed, "Be sure to try on the shoes before you buy them." I asked for a clarification. He told that I should make sure that my fiance and I fit properly before we got married. BYW my bride was a virgin on our wedding night. I had informed myself knowing that I was going to find it necessary to be careful, and introduce my cock to her gently. I was very successful in that task. We were married over 35 years, and had a very active, enjoyable sex live. She climaxed nearly every time we had sex. That was something of which I prided myself. We were very happy, and very compatible. She passed away at the age of 56 yo. I have been a widow now for 26 years.

 

[Linkguy13]

dad was a widower not much modesty thankfully

My friend and his brother are from a divorced family and they lived with their dad. They were always naked. The first time I came over to their house their dad introduced himself to me naked. My eyes were big as saucers from not expecting it. It wasn't long before my friends and I were naked playing games and watching TV.

 

[223790]

No, not a word. I discovered it by myself in the shower at an early age (which I won't mention here for TOS reasons). I noticed one day that it felt awfully good when I washed my dick, so I started washing it more often even outside of the shower. I was having orgasms (which were mind blowing to me) before I could cum. About a year later, I started to cum when I had an orgasm. From that point on I was masturbating non stop daily. I masturbated so much that I honestly thought there was something wrong with me. I'm in my early 50s and still masturbate daily. Thank God I can still get it up without any help from pharmaceuticals. I woke up on my 51st birthday with a raging hard on. Without a doubt that was the best birthday gift I ever got!

 

[ceejay1960]

Well absolutely gutted yesterday. I wrote previously how my Father handed me a brown package and inside was a magazine Journal of Love. I learnt quite a lot from it and when I returned it to him a couple of days later he asked if I had learnt anything to which I didn’t reply and he handed me a packet of condoms. What I didn’t know until yesterday some 40 years later was the magazine was lent to him by a at the time recently married coworker. We were talking yesterday about my Dad and them working together and he mentioned the magazines they exchanged. I said I remembered the Journal of Love to which he replied you didn’t reply to the advert. Apparently it was planned between him and Dad that I would be given the mag in which his mate had placed an advert for inexperienced guys to meet his wife. Dad had told him that I was endowed and was sure I was still a virgin and his mate said his missus loved virgin meat to teach.
If only I had known this at the time

 

[hairyladwest]

My dad was very open and talked me through everything about sex etc

 

[diver6]

My Dads became a nudist.
And was very open with me and was always naked when i stayed at his house . Hes got a massive dick , an is not shy about anything.
I loved it became. Feel quite lucky to be able to explore with him

My dad was the same way! love to hear about your experiences.

 

[Gopher]

Had already been doing it for a bit before he did but he and I had a pretty open and enlightening conversation bout it. He was always super forthcoming bout that stuff.

Hell we still talk bout it from time to time!

 

[deleted8734261]

Nothing ever. I hated it. I will be so open with my future kids about sex and jerking off. I do it daily, why not share my knowledge and keep an open forum.

 

[bastinger]

My dad was very open minded. No problem to talk about sex with him. He is always saying: sex us one of the best things in the world, why not talking about it

 

[deleted15347531]

I'm quite lucky I guess in that I have a dad and an older brother, so I had plenty of older guys to answer my questions without turning to google. They were both happy to help, my dad was really helpful, even going as far to look up gay-related stuff in case I was into dudes. Which didn't end up happening ahah, but it's still really considerate of him. Definitely grateful to have the both of them, otherwise I would have learnt about everything from porn lmao