And, indeed, they can't, or won't, fully master their urges so rather than admitting a weakness of will and moral character, proponents of open relationships will rationalize their weakness in a myriad of ways.
Does Real love in the gay community exist in 2024?
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Are you saying that open relationships are a failure of character, not a decision that two consenting adults make together? Monogamy and open relationships are based on the choices you make with someone. Infidelity is a choice you make on your own and tends to be a personal failure. Open relationships don't necessarily imply promiscuity. I've had one hookup this year. Where does one cross the line and become a weak-willed slut who has abdicated control of his life to his genitals? Doesn't that sound just a little ridiculous?
Tbh that’s what most open relationships are . So some people would assume .
Yes, I am, when in the context of a marriage. If in the case of two consenting married adults, then it is a failure of character on both accounts. You didn't think I would stand by my answer, for fear of your judgment, did you? Well, I did.
I think monogamy works when both people desire monogamy, and doesn't work when people don't desire monogamy. No one is "wrong," people just want different things. I will say, I desired monogamy and finding a partner that did as well was hard. Especially knowing that I wanted someone who matched my other life values as well. I don't want to be single because I hate dating and don't like hookups. I don't think I'm like, brainwashed, I just want someone who wants to be boring with me 
You say, "passing judgment" like it was a bad thing. It is not. It is a necessary and frequent thing we all do in the normal course of life and an indispensable ingredient for integrity and conviction of opinion. So here's another judgment for all you non-judger's to chew on: those who refuse to pass judgment lack integrity and conviction.
Oh, self-righteous, too, how exciting. Opinions are based on, as you said, judgments, also personal points of view, morals, or inconclusive statements. Your personal opinion is that people who have open relationships or marriages are weak of character, sluts, and their lives are controlled by their dicks. Here are some irrefutable truths and a little judgment. You don't know me. You don't know my character or values and are not a party to my marriage. You have an opinion on someone and something you don't know anything about; therefore, said opinion is irrelevant to me. Do carry on.
Your representation of my opinion is inaccurate, displaying your bias. I did not use the word "slut" (or any implication of the word) and I did not say "lives are controlled by their dicks. You said that. I said, "If in the case of two consenting married adults, then it is a failure of character on both accounts." If you're going to object to an opinion contrary to your own, at least represent that contrary opinion accurately rather than creating a straw man that doesn't exist that you can attack.
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