Embarrassed to hook up because I cum so quickly

[al1011]

Welcome to my world.. I cum way too fast and I get hard too easily. It has its own mind.

 

[PutItInHere691]

I can think of sex for 2 seconds and I’d be precumming before my dick gets hard.. but if I jerk off I last a good 10-15 minutes . Fucking. 20 to 25 minutes

 

[aclosetedguy]

My first sex adventures were me bottoming and not letting other guy touch my dick because I knew I would cum in like 30 seconds. But as time passed by I got used to it and right now I can edge for hours without any problem so I think it has a lot to do with practice and regular sex life. Of course I was lucky to be bottom because I don't know what I would do if I tried to top and cummed so quickly.

 

[visorkols]

Im a single guy & I have never had a steady relationship where I was having sex weekly or multiple times a month. So a lot of jerking off for pleasure & it has kinda messed up my libido & ability to maintain an erection. I find it easier to maintain if I am in a sitting position or if theyre on top riding me. If im the one fucking then I cum quickly for the 1st shot no matter what, the sensation is just different from anything but for the 2nd & 3rd round I last longer.

So try a different position, like I said if you jerk off watching porn on a computer. Try a seated position or have her ride you. Get a cock ring set also, they help a little bit.

 

[Ben Tramer]

And how long is it when gets hard again..

If you get hard again right away, who cares if you shoot off fast. Go many rounds each time. This is so hot.

 

[Ben Tramer]

My first sex adventures were me bottoming and not letting other guy touch my dick because I knew I would cum in like 30 seconds. But as time passed by I got used to it and right now I can edge for hours without any problem so I think it has a lot to do with practice and regular sex life. Of course I was lucky to be bottom because I don't know what I would do if I tried to top and cummed so quickly.

Seeing a dude cum really fast while he is being drilled is super hot, man. I would have loved to see this happen.

 

[chrisrobin]

I hate to say that it's a question mind over matter. You do seem to have gotten yourself into believing you'll cum quickly and so you do.
Most of us have had this happen one time or another, a quick spunk spurt at the wrong time followed by the conviction will always be the same.
Frankly I think its a compliment to the other guy that he's managed to bring you off with sexual excitement.
So, take advice, mind some form of meds to slow down you cum speed, maybe wank less, and just take the whole thing slow

 

[coolestguy]

Try deep breath. Also try counting numbers in your head and keep stimulating your cock.

 

[deleted20814161]

I have to agree that quick cummers can be very hot - it is exhilarating to know how turned on and horny they are. Fortunately, I think if it bothers you, working on edging and perhaps kegels could help you last longer.

 

[Ben Tramer]

I have to agree that quick cummers can be very hot - it is exhilarating to know how turned on and horny they are. Fortunately, I think if it bothers you, working on edging and perhaps kegels could help you last longer.

This is the complete opposite of watching some half-hard dude laboring away, trying to orgasm. I’ve seen so many porn videos of guys that go on forever and don’t seem to be into it. By contrast, I love a dude who is bone hard and dripping precum the second he drops his drawers and is unloading a massive high-pressure ejaculation almost immediately. Now that dude is into it. Nine times out of ten he is still horny afterwards and wants to shoot off again.

 

[bbsquatter]

I used to be a quick cummer when I started fucking men early 30s. I was with women prior to that. As I matured emotionally I decided to focus on intimacy, passion, caressing, kissing, body rubbing and so forth. In those days I was 100% top, and since I was/am hung, the "roles" were defined once the clothes were removed and I was erect. I was so stressed and excited I came fast. Thus my strategy had to change, so I shifted from "Im going to nail your ass" to "Im here for the total M4M experience". It all began with undressing together, slow and easy, so as make the experience memorable and enjoyable.

Now that I am happily married, to another hung top, we flip. Sometimes I cum fast, sometimes my husband does, sometimes neither of us can cum, but we fall back to "Im here for the total M4M experience". So perhaps you might consider how you are approaching your M4M meetings and manage your/their expectations.

M4M encounters back in the days before the internet was just that: the opportunity to just meet another gay man, and be together, let down our guard and with that our fears. No one asked about sexual positions or their cock size because these were not the goal. I knew I preferred men back in my teens and 20s, but sexual penetration wasnt on my mind. So the fear of pre-ejaculation wasnt a concern but rather meeting another gay dude. I met guys in straight bookstores in front of magazine racks where Playboy, Cherry, Playgirl and Blue Boy were visible. Men would huddle around the magazine rack, pretend we were there for the Playboy, but in actuality we just wanted to meet another gay guy who understood the struggle of being alone and afraid. Clearly loneliness and fear are still very much with gay men in spite of acceptance in society.

The internet and smartphone apps have placed labels on gay sex with the dreaded "Into? Top? Bottom? How hung?" list of questions that has destroyed our once close gay community to a cheap fuck. The young males today have no sense of belonging to a tribe of men because everything is so dopamine driven, so "task" or "activity" focused, which is a shame.

So perhaps seek to meet guys with no expectations, no sex on the list, and no "into" or "how hung" purity tests, and just hang for the sake of hanging. Crazy, huh!

 

[littleguy2]

I have experienced both ends at times during play at the gym and both are a bit frustrating. I would imagine as a partner it is earlier to work with. The quick cummer at the gym was a young hot guy who was very well hung and uncut. He would open his towel to reveal a very hard cock but as soon as I touched him, he would start to shoot and then leave. The other was an older guy who took very long to cum and at times was afraid he would have a heart attack trying so hard to shoot

 

[CaligulaMisunderstood]

It would definitely be essi

I have experienced both ends at times during play at the gym and both are a bit frustrating. I would imagine as a partner it is earlier to work with. The quick cummer at the gym was a young hot guy who was very well hung and uncut. He would open his towel to reveal a very hard cock but as soon as I touched him, he would start to shoot and then leave. The other was an older guy who took very long to cum and at times was afraid he would have a heart attack trying so hard to shoot

It would definitely be easier if I had a regular partner. When it's just a hookup and I can't hold it back and I cum, now I'm dripping or covered in jizz and someone you don't know that well is looking at you like " wow that's fast" Not a fun feeling

 

[CaligulaMisunderstood]

That sounds lovely. And I would love to meet someone and have a relationship. But in the meantime I'd like to have sex occasionally. I actually do understand what you mean, making the experience about being together and intimacy...and I would love to find that. But most of these guys want to ride a hard dick and get pounded. Especially if someone took the time to prep and get their rearends ready. They don't wanna hear about "lay with me" after you splooged the minute when you slid inside

 

[Ben Tramer]

I have experienced both ends at times during play at the gym and both are a bit frustrating. I would imagine as a partner it is earlier to work with. The quick cummer at the gym was a young hot guy who was very well hung and uncut. He would open his towel to reveal a very hard cock but as soon as I touched him, he would start to shoot and then leave. The other was an older guy who took very long to cum and at times was afraid he would have a heart attack trying so hard to shoot

I’d give anything to have a guy open his towel and begin squirting right away. That is so hot.

 

[CaligulaMisunderstood]

Im a single guy & I have never had a steady relationship where I was having sex weekly or multiple times a month. So a lot of jerking off for pleasure & it has kinda messed up my libido & ability to maintain an erection. I find it easier to maintain if I am in a sitting position or if theyre on top riding me. If im the one fucking then I cum quickly for the 1st shot no matter what, the sensation is just different from anything but for the 2nd & 3rd round I last longer.

So try a different position, like I said if you jerk off watching porn on a computer. Try a seated position or have her ride you. Get a cock ring set also, they help a little bit.

I think you understand kinda what I'm going through. I am single and so of course I jerk off alot. And I think 20 years of jerking has effected me to....Need that stimulation to maintain a rock hard erection. And EXACT same here, I will usually let a woman ride me because if I hike up her legs and start to fuck like I want I would cum, like immediately. I have been thinking about getting a cockring for awhile too

 

[CaligulaMisunderstood]

I used to be a quick cummer when I started fucking men early 30s. I was with women prior to that. As I matured emotionally I decided to focus on intimacy, passion, caressing, kissing, body rubbing and so forth. In those days I was 100% top, and since I was/am hung, the "roles" were defined once the clothes were removed and I was erect. I was so stressed and excited I came fast. Thus my strategy had to change, so I shifted from "Im going to nail your ass" to "Im here for the total M4M experience". It all began with undressing together, slow and easy, so as make the experience memorable and enjoyable.

Now that I am happily married, to another hung top, we flip. Sometimes I cum fast, sometimes my husband does, sometimes neither of us can cum, but we fall back to "Im here for the total M4M experience". So perhaps you might consider how you are approaching your M4M meetings and manage your/their expectations.

M4M encounters back in the days before the internet was just that: the opportunity to just meet another gay man, and be together, let down our guard and with that our fears. No one asked about sexual positions or their cock size because these were not the goal. I knew I preferred men back in my teens and 20s, but sexual penetration wasnt on my mind. So the fear of pre-ejaculation wasnt a concern but rather meeting another gay dude. I met guys in straight bookstores in front of magazine racks where Playboy, Cherry, Playgirl and Blue Boy were visible. Men would huddle around the magazine rack, pretend we were there for the Playboy, but in actuality we just wanted to meet another gay guy who understood the struggle of being alone and afraid. Clearly loneliness and fear are still very much with gay men in spite of acceptance in society.

The internet and smartphone apps have placed labels on gay sex with the dreaded "Into? Top? Bottom? How hung?" list of questions that has destroyed our once close gay community to a cheap fuck. The young males today have no sense of belonging to a tribe of men because everything is so dopamine driven, so "task" or "activity" focused, which is a shame.

So perhaps seek to meet guys with no expectations, no sex on the list, and no "into" or "how hung" purity tests, and just hang for the sake of hanging. Crazy, huh!

Alot of people who you meetup with expect sex, realistically. I need some tips for what to do when I've ruined the vibe by cumming down some girls thigh before we even get going and she is ready to have her brains fucked out

 

[visorkols]

I think you understand kinda what I'm going through. I am single and so of course I jerk off alot. And I think 20 years of jerking has effected me to....Need that stimulation to maintain a rock hard erection. And EXACT same here, I will usually let a woman ride me because if I hike up her legs and start to fuck like I want I would cum, like immediately. I have been thinking about getting a cockring for awhile too

Yea its hard to get experience without the real thing, I bought a fleshlight the stamina training unit and honestly while its better than a hand its not worth the effort sometimes. The position & angles are just awkward compared to real sex & the texture inside is literally inches deep so youre not getting the best sensation as the opening is very tight and not tight at all(maybe the anal one would be better for this).

You can also find online viagra/cialis now through various websites that deliver to home without an rx from a doctor. Not sure how effective they are but you could take one and jerk off 30 mins before the action so the 1st shot is gone so your 2/3/4/etc rounds are longer lasting.

 

[CaligulaMisunderstood]

Yea its hard to get experience without the real thing, I bought a fleshlight the stamina training unit and honestly while its better than a hand its not worth the effort sometimes. The position & angles are just awkward compared to real sex & the texture inside is literally inches deep so youre not getting the best sensation as the opening is very tight and not tight at all(maybe the anal one would be better for this).

You can also find online viagra/cialis now through various websites that deliver to home without an rx from a doctor. Not sure how effective they are but you could take one and jerk off 30 mins before the action so the 1st shot is gone so your 2/3/4/etc rounds are longer lasting.

I really never thought of a Fleshlight. Might be a good way to get some practice in. I have been just jerking myself off so long that any real deep penetration and I am ready to nut, immediately

 

[bravesoldier]

There is a such thing as desensitizing spray or lotion you apply straight to your penis. It harmlessly numbs it up a little and allows you to enjoy more. It gradually wears off and you begin to feel sensations again and getting close to cumming. Check out adult novelty sites or local adult stores, it's there.