feeling really envious of other guys w/ bigger dicks

[Cum_is_Great]

Again, being big you do not know or have to deal with any issues of masculinity, insecurities, shaming, rejection, etc

What a dehumanizing and insulting thing to say.

Welcome back Harry. Back to your old ways I see... I had hoped you would finally dial it back. Last time we spoke I gave you so much evidence to the contrary that it took you a few days of shock (Your words paraphrased: it's a lot to take in, I need time to respond) to finally just blindly reject it all.

 

[HarryPalmas]

What a dehumanizing and insulting thing to say.

Welcome back Harry. Back to your old ways I see... I had hoped you would finally dial it back. Last time we spoke I gave you so much evidence to the contrary that it took you a few days of shock (Your words paraphrased: it's a lot to take in, I need time to respond) to finally just blindly reject it all.

You gave nothing, circumstantial at best. Reality and experience proves otherwise.

 

[Rooker]

I feel like you might be overestimating how much men edit their photos to make themselves appear bigger - most of them also have videos where they appear just as large.

I don’t mean editing. I admit I’m not an expert on dick shots, but I’ve seen enough flattering photos of influencers on Instagram or hell, even just group photos of myself and/or friends to know that not every image is representative of what is really there. I have a photo with a group of friends in which I’m the shortest (they’re all 6-3 to 6-6). I have another with an ex and her friends that makes me look 6-6. I have a gym ID photo that my wife, in her love-fueled lust for me, says makes me look like a Ryan Gosling/Alexander Skaarsgaard hybrid. The lighting and angle and just imperceivable movements of my face distorted the very real image of me into something else, even though it is me in the photo.

Ever see a photo of a friend and think the same thing? Like, “damn she looks good there!” I’ve had exes tell me I

Point being is that there is a very good chance these photos/videos you use as evidence are good lighting. And an even better chance that someone broadcasting images for likes is exaggerating other aspects, like their body size. A short and thin woman’s boobs will look bigger, for example.

And what they have going on in their lives isn’t really relevant. I don’t have much going on in my life - again, still a virgin and never been in a relationship. I’d sure as hell take what they have if it means I have some physical redeeming quality for something I can’t definitively change.

Again, that’s your choice. Maybe not your choice to feel that way initially, but your choice to accept it.

Although I would argue what is going on in their lives is very important. If a guy is a social loser with a big dick, doesn’t it show how important his dick size really is?

Maybe the limited perspective could be on basis on you not considering the possibility that you height etc. helped you be seen as attractive. Or by simply saying to “just be confident” as though traits like those don’t make it easier (or simply not harder).

You are right. My perspective is shaped by my experiences. I also agree that it is not as simple as “just be confident”. But you do have to work on it. And it will get better if you do.

Or by implying that your perspective on masculinity is universal when not everyone agrees. Also, the other people that agree on this thread often times rather than not are also taller or have a bigger dick or otherwise (hence limited perspective). And either way, having a bigger dick, being taller, etc. and never be an objectively worse scenario than the opposites.

I think my idea of masculinity is in line with what most people see as masculine. I also think I have the real life social experience to back that up compared to you. That’s not a slight. I’m eight years older.

I agree on height. Height, at least for women, is way more important than cock size. Even that is overstated though. Most women aren’t turning down a date with a 5-9 guy who ticks off all of her boxes for a 6-2 guy who doesn’t. I’m telling you, most women MOCK guys who talk about having big dicks. Most women see those guys as losers. I don’t know how the gay community feels.

Which all comes back to my original point dude. Whining about stuff is rarely, if ever seen as attractive.

 

[ddgggg]

I don’t mean editing. I admit I’m not an expert on dick shots, but I’ve seen enough flattering photos of influencers on Instagram or hell, even just group photos of myself and/or friends to know that not every image is representative of what is really there. I have a photo with a group of friends in which I’m the shortest (they’re all 6-3 to 6-6). I have another with an ex and her friends that makes me look 6-6. I have a gym ID photo that my wife, in her love-fueled lust for me, says makes me look like a Ryan Gosling/Alexander Skaarsgaard hybrid. The lighting and angle and just imperceivable movements of my face distorted the very real image of me into something else, even though it is me in the photo.

Ever see a photo of a friend and think the same thing? Like, “damn she looks good there!” I’ve had exes tell me I

Point being is that there is a very good chance these photos/videos you use as evidence are good lighting. And an even better chance that someone broadcasting images for likes is exaggerating other aspects, like their body size. A short and thin woman’s boobs will look bigger, for example.

That’s true, but not everyone can actually get a photo of themselves that makes them a certain level of flattering. Only a few people can (namely those on Instagram, TikTok, etc). Plus, it’s not even that they happen to occasionally look more flattering than usual since they always look like that - people can look as attractive as that, if not more, in real life. If people are trying to exaggerate certain aspects of their appearance (and succeeding), that means they have those aspects that not everyone has.

Again, that’s your choice. Maybe not your choice to feel that way initially, but your choice to accept it.

Although I would argue what is going on in their lives is very important. If a guy is a social loser with a big dick, doesn’t it show how important his dick size really is?

I’d take that scenario over being a social loser with not as large of a dick. I wouldn’t say I’m a social degenerate, but making friends is hard, and I know not to bother with relationships. Most of the times I try to connect with people, it gets nowhere.

You are right. My perspective is shaped by my experiences. I also agree that it is not as simple as “just be confident”. But you do have to work on it. And it will get better if you do.

I’m sure it will get better, but not in the way I really want it to get better. It’s just easier to be confident when you look a certain way or have certain attributes - whether those can be changed or not.

I think my idea of masculinity is in line with what most people see as masculine. I also think I have the real life social experience to back that up compared to you. That’s not a slight. I’m eight years older.

I agree on height. Height, at least for women, is way more important than cock size. Even that is overstated though. Most women aren’t turning down a date with a 5-9 guy who ticks off all of her boxes for a 6-2 guy who doesn’t. I’m telling you, most women MOCK guys who talk about having big dicks. Most women see those guys as losers. I don’t know how the gay community feels.

Right, and while that’s the case, being taller, having a bigger dick etc. wouldn't not benefit me when it comes to being considered masculine in most people’s eyes. Like yeah, confidence is masculine, and that’s way easier to attain when you have physical qualities that are considered masculine. It’s like a positive feedback loop.

Also, it’s definitely different in the gay community. Men flock to dudes with big dicks - you see it all the time on Twitter, Reddit and well…here lol. Again, hence the name of the site.

Which all comes back to my original point dude. Whining about stuff is rarely, if ever seen as attractive.

I mean, what does it matter that whining isn’t seen as attractive if someone’s considered not attractive physically? I feel like a lot of people overestimate the impact of confidence and outlook and underestimate the impact of physical qualities.

 

[Electric blue]

Im not concerned about dick size . I tend to keep a close eye on my check book . Now that gets smaller more than larger lololol

7" length, then 5.5" girth on average. i had older measurements i mentioned in another thread, but those were likely inaccurate

 

[Porto1]

7" length, then 5.5" girth on average. i had older measurements i mentioned in another thread, but those were likely inaccurate

If you cock is small, mine is virtually non-existent

 

[Nalyd4Slave]

@ddgggg I have an average 5.5" at most penis (probably only that at peak just post-nut firmness). You have a comfortably above average penis, so I'm not trying to diss you here at all but your level of angst can read as seeming a bit ridiculous from the outside. But I also have no judgment and below I'll wonder if we have a similar background which I'll ask questions on.

So, I can still accept your feelings are valid because personally knowing that envy is a bitch (went through a couple of bad phases in my life including one really bad one late last year) I know 'a lot of people have it worse' is not a comfort when you're stuck in a phase like this. Like, others and even yourself can try and tell you logic (things like just that, 'many are worse-off') and it just doesn't change the feeling at all.

Strangely, I've never thought much about my dick size... but I'm also shorter than you (5'7") and that is my sore point for these feelings if I'm not careful. I had some self-discovery since late last year (at a relatively 'late' age for such of 33), that when I get crushes (of the online sort where the guy doesn't know you) they've tended to be on really tall influencers or athletes well upwards of 6 foot and that's a single trait I find so appealing in other men (that look good generally as well) that when I crush my hardest (which only happened once in my life until again, this late age of 33) it's not so much that I hate my own body, but I admire tallness in other men to the point I wish I had that myself.

When I first crushed hard in my early 20s it was on a really tall cute workmate. The feelings of envy went away eventually, but I didn't learn from the experience that well 'cause it was the first and only time (back then). So now if I find myself crushing on someone of that description, I've learned I have to check myself very early on and find that balance of admiring and enjoying looking at them but avoid becoming too obsessed. But since I've come through that, and know the signs of what to look out for to avoid getting deep into that mess again, I can look back on it as a valuable learning curve.

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So, I'm wondering if there's some things we have in common. That is, I was a lonely kid, I always wanted to be seen as like a cool boy, a masculine boy like I think all young boys do but even in the home I didn't get that. It used to be all about how 'cute' and 'funny' (as in quirky) I was and I hated that.

Basically all throughout my life I don't think I've ever felt completely valued. Only one guy has ever told me I was hot, and he was a fuckboy who wasn't fussy as long as he got off. So, I think when you come from a background of sometimes feeling kind of invisible, undervalued, unpopular etc. it's easy to look at dudes who get so much free admiration for stuff they didn't earn (like being hung, tall, or beautiful in general lol) and feel a little sick.

Just wondered if we have that in common. Basically, do you come from a background socially, family etc. that you would've considered often lonely or maybe even a little bit emotionally abusive?

 

[ddgggg]

@ddgggg I have an average 5.5" at most penis (probably only that at peak just post-nut firmness). You have a comfortably above average penis, so I'm not trying to diss you here at all but your level of angst can read as seeming a bit ridiculous from the outside. But I also have no judgment and below I'll wonder if we have a similar background which I'll ask questions on.

So, I can still accept your feelings are valid because personally knowing that envy is a bitch (went through a couple of bad phases in my life including one really bad one late last year) I know 'a lot of people have it worse' is not a comfort when you're stuck in a phase like this. Like, others and even yourself can try and tell you logic (things like just that, 'many are worse-off') and it just doesn't change the feeling at all.

Strangely, I've never thought much about my dick size... but I'm also shorter than you (5'7") and that is my sore point for these feelings if I'm not careful. I had some self-discovery since late last year (at a relatively 'late' age for such of 33), that when I get crushes (of the online sort where the guy doesn't know you) they've tended to be on really tall influencers or athletes well upwards of 6 foot and that's a single trait I find so appealing in other men (that look good generally as well) that when I crush my hardest (which only happened once in my life until again, this late age of 33) it's not so much that I hate my own body, but I admire tallness in other men to the point I wish I had that myself.

When I first crushed hard in my early 20s it was on a really tall cute workmate. The feelings of envy went away eventually, but I didn't learn from the experience that well 'cause it was the first and only time (back then). So now if I find myself crushing on someone of that description, I've learned I have to check myself very early on and find that balance of admiring and enjoying looking at them but avoid becoming too obsessed. But since I've come through that, and know the signs of what to look out for to avoid getting deep into that mess again, I can look back on it as a valuable learning curve.

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So, I'm wondering if there's some things we have in common. That is, I was a lonely kid, I always wanted to be seen as like a cool boy, a masculine boy like I think all young boys do but even in the home I didn't get that. It used to be all about how 'cute' and 'funny' (as in quirky) I was and I hated that.

Basically all throughout my life I don't think I've ever felt completely valued. Only one guy has ever told me I was hot, and he was a fuckboy who wasn't fussy as long as he got off. So, I think when you come from a background of sometimes feeling kind of invisible, undervalued, unpopular etc. it's easy to look at dudes who get so much free admiration for stuff they didn't earn (like being hung, tall, or beautiful in general lol) and feel a little sick.

Just wondered if we have that in common. Basically, do you come from a background socially, family etc. that you would've considered often lonely or maybe even a little bit emotionally abusive?

I can definitely relate with a lot of the sentiments you expressed here. I never really had a crush on anyone growing up, but I did see guy that had features that I really, really wanted for myself and hated that I didn’t have.

For growing up, I did tend to be to myself a lot dp the time since I was an only child and not the most sociable (still not the most sociable). I didn’t grow up in an abusive environment m, but my parents used to be strict with my grades and such and that might’ve gave way to an eventual critical of myself. Then my dad had tended to criticize me for stuff related to fitness in the past.

 

[ddgggg]

If you cock is small, mine is virtually non-existent

don’t worry, ours are both virtually non-existent compared to the dudes on this site and elsewhere on and off the internet

 

[ddgggg]

Also, looking back at this thread and the previous one i made - the people saying to just accept yourself tend to be like 8”+. Just found that interesting

 

[ddgggg]

Small update - I tried practicing self-acceptance regarding my size, and it hasn’t worked.