Gay escorts... have you ever? any tips?

[TDJ6]

if you've ever hired a gay escort... do you have any tips for someone like me that's interested but cautious?

 

[theplayerking]

Do your research and go with a true professional (not a dilettante looking to make a few extra bucks every now and then). Be very explicit and up front about what you want to do (they’re used to and will appreciate knowing how to prepare). Start with a short session. Like most things, you get what you pay for.

 

[ThroatCummer]

What he said ^^^^^

I started hiring this year for various reasons that have nothing to do with the ability to get laid by picking someone up in person or on an app. I only say that because the first step is to thoroughly examine what you want and why you're hiring someone. For example:

You looking for just quick sex or something more intimate?
Are you even looking for sex at all? Many aren't.
Is them being gay or kissing important? If yes, then exclude the straight and bisexual guys from your searches. They'll never be "fully" into it even if they're insanely hot and crazy good in bed.

I have a ton of good advice here but need to know a little more about why you're asking the question to give some better guidance.

Pro tip: Use a VPN to position yourself in Europe and then open a new browsing window on your computer. Then open rent.men, and you'll be able to see long and lengthy reviews where people write about their experiences with the various guys available. These are blocked to people who connect to the site from the USA. Being able to read a written review of someone gives you a whole different perspective.

 

[theplayerking]

The best escorts, like the best porn stars, are highly sexual and enjoy lots of casual hookups in their personal lives. Of course it’s hard work, but it’s always better to find someone that at least enjoys sex, and sexual exploration, for its own sake.

 

[Sodoko]

I'm curious and a little naive but how do you get around the illegality??
I would like to try this in the UK but would worry about finished up being arrested!!

 

[Annatarsauron]

Escorts are highly underrated. After almost being raped in a casual Grindr encounter as well as beng frustrated with all the known unknowns of meeting up with someone, using an escort brings immense peace of mind.

Keep in mind that most escorts take their health very seriously. The same can’t necessarily be said about random hookups. (Is he really on PrEP? Did he really get tested recently? Etc., etc., etc.)

I use professional services (i.e., none of the hook up apps) to find one. I’m very explicit with what I want and need, and in all cases they have told me that they have had many clients like me and know exactly how to proceed in a safe, comfortable, yet exploratory manner.

I am obliged to state that I do not, under any circumstance, recommend a person engage in illegal activity. That said, discretion is an art many have mastered.

 

[sdcbttmchub]

In places like Vegas (I'm sure in other large cities too) there are very professional services that cater to all of the details you may be concerned with. I have only had one experience with a high-end escort in Las Vegas who was selected and verified (test results, photos, pre-screening chat and phone call, etc.) in a very, very professional manner. It was a very expensive experience, but well worth it. He was exactly as advertised, very sweet and courteous, and brought the goods delivering an experience I will never forget. Not sure I would ever do it again considering the high price, but if you can afford it can certainly be worth it!

 

[JoeRoscoe]

I'm curious and a little naive but how do you get around the illegality??
I would like to try this in the UK but would worry about finished up being arrested!!

There's a fine line in the website descriptions, where sex isn't explicitly offered or discussed. (Admittedly, it's about as subtle as stores calling poppers "tape cleaner" or whatever, but still.) Maybe it's different in the UK, but this is a well-trod grey area in the US at least -- meaning that the chances of being busted for hiring an escort off a much-used website (as opposed to picking up a hooker on the street, say) are close to nil. I've actually never hired an escort, but I have read rent.com ads, because they're interesting to me. If there are reviews of the person and the profile has been around a long time, you can be even more sure it's not some kind of setup.

 

[TDJ6]

You looking for just quick sex or something more intimate?
Are you even looking for sex at all? Many aren't.
Is them being gay or kissing important? If yes, then exclude the straight and bisexual guys from your searches. They'll never be "fully" into it even if they're insanely hot and crazy good in bed.

I have a ton of good advice here but need to know a little more about why you're asking the question to give some better guidance

I can message you.
Definitely looking for sex... but looking for sex from the type of guys I ASSUME wouldn't be interested in me in any social settings.
and that might be part of my insecurity about the whole transaction. I have this feeling that I'll hire some dude... and the whole time he'll have this look on his face like "ugh, this guy is a booger" lol!

 

[ThroatCummer]

I can message you.
Definitely looking for sex... but looking for sex from the type of guys I ASSUME wouldn't be interested in me in any social settings.
and that might be part of my insecurity about the whole transaction. I have this feeling that I'll hire some dude... and the whole time he'll have this look on his face like "ugh, this guy is a booger" lol!

Good answer. This is what makes for a great escort.

In general (there are exceptions), there are two types of escorts:

1. People who do it for the money.
2. People who do it because they're genuine people pleasers and like sex and making connections.

You want to find #2. I've met a small handful and they are absolutely mind blowing. They only really care that you are clean and respectful. Their passion is forming connections with someone and your textbook looks aren't anywhere on their priority list. For real.

My "go to" guy who I hire on a regular basis can literally find something attractive in almost anyone he meets. He latches on to that attractive quality and forms a connection around it. He's probably one of the most skilled people pleasers I have ever met in my entire life.

For all intents and purposes, he and I would never cross paths in a social setting and I joke with him that he wouldn't find me attractive or come hit on me in a bar. But he really likes my passion and ability to make him feel comfortable. Yes, I am paying him for his time and company and the sex. But for that time together, I am the absolute center of his world and attention. You also have to be careful not to fall in love and realize that it's a business transaction.

So go into it with a list of things you want, be up front and open with them about it, and you will have a great time. You also might need to go through two or three before you find that one who makes you feel the same. Then again, I am not all about the quick get off type sex (hell yea there is a place for that, but I hire to feel more -- they call it a "boyfriend experience")

For the #1's above, you can tell they aren't genuinely into it and they need someone "hot" to hook up with in order to function. That's fine and there is certainly a place for it, but you will eventually find a #2, and that's priceless.

Finally, remember that you're the customer and you're paying. Their job is to make you feel attractive and make you the center of their attention for X hours or all night. Don't settle for anything less.

Good luck and feel free to ask more.

 

[JoeRoscoe]

What's the current website people use to look at ads? The one I thought it was, is long gone.

 

[TDJ6]

What's the current website people use to look at ads? The one I thought it was, is long gone.

i just know of rentmen and friendboy.pro

 

[ThroatCummer]

Rent.men has 98% of the North American market -- so just go there.

RentMasseur has some people from USA/Canada that aren't on Rent.men, but it's more difficult to navigate asking for the services you truly want. Stick to Rent.men.

If you're in Europe, Hunqz.com has 90% of that market.

If you find someone in any of these places you like and want to pursue, then look up their handle/screen name on all three sites to get more background and read comments, etc.

 

[theplayerking]

If you want a massage, find a licensed and reputable massage therapist. If you want other services, get an escort. In my experience, “erotic“ massage therapists give lousy massages and ambivalent additional services. They are not worth the money.

 

[JoeRoscoe]

So I found someone who's exactly my type in a city I'm going to visit soon. He indeed offers exactly what you said above: "erotic massage." Do I ask him directly (in a text, not on the site) what he's willing to do? I don't know what he means by "erotic," and if it's just something lame, I'm not interested.

 

[ThroatCummer]

It's a fine line. Some of them are very nervous about being contacted by law enforcement and getting into trouble. This rarely happens with male providers, almost never. The cops that do engage them are usually looking for sex themselves, but that's another story. There is always going to be some level of ambiguous answer and it won't truly be clear until you're with them, and it could go either way. If you're looking for straight up sex, that's why I recommended passing on the erotic massage guys and going straight to rent.men.

Once you move off-platform to a text message (or WhatsApp) exchange, almost all of them will discuss almost anything. It's never going to be 100% and there are always exception, hence the almost. But providers like it if you are open, honest, and straight forward with them in EXACTLY what you want. You're on PrEP and want bareback, say it. Be clear. It's their job/profession and they have heard almost every request in the world 50 times over in the past.

If they're uncomfortable or won't do something, they will politely decline. You WANT that, because you'll narrow your list(s) to exactly what you want and get it going into the meeting.

 

[JoeRoscoe]

Very helpful reply, thanks!

I probably won't pursue this, but man is he hot. "Straight" and "erotic massage" so maybe limited in what he'd do. He is on Rentmen, btw.

 

[glycine]

if you've ever hired a gay escort... do you have any tips for someone like me that's interested but cautious?

i do it all the time! Its the only luxury thing i really enjoy

I say just get someone with good reviews who is friendly over chat. start slow

 

[glycine]

Escorts are highly underrated. After almost being raped in a casual Grindr encounter as well as beng frustrated with all the known unknowns of meeting up with someone, using an escort brings immense peace of mind.

Keep in mind that most escorts take their health very seriously. The same can’t necessarily be said about random hookups. (Is he really on PrEP? Did he really get tested recently? Etc., etc., etc.)

I use professional services (i.e., none of the hook up apps) to find one. I’m very explicit with what I want and need, and in all cases they have told me that they have had many clients like me and know exactly how to proceed in a safe, comfortable, yet exploratory manner.

I am obliged to state that I do not, under any circumstance, recommend a person engage in illegal activity. That said, discretion is an art many have mastered.

i couldnt agree more!

 

[glycine]

In places like Vegas (I'm sure in other large cities too) there are very professional services that cater to all of the details you may be concerned with. I have only had one experience with a high-end escort in Las Vegas who was selected and verified (test results, photos, pre-screening chat and phone call, etc.) in a very, very professional manner. It was a very expensive experience, but well worth it. He was exactly as advertised, very sweet and courteous, and brought the goods delivering an experience I will never forget. Not sure I would ever do it again considering the high price, but if you can afford it can certainly be worth it!

ooh im going to vegas! what are the services?