Grindr Is Full Of Snobs

[PorknBeans19]

Am I the only one who has experienced this? I'm not looking for casual sex or any kind of relationship. I'm literally just trying to get to know other lgbt people because all of my friends are generally straight guys. Is it too much to ask people to get to know you at this stage?

I'm 31. I'm told I'm a nice, funny guy and good for a chat. I don't understand if I'm doing something wrong? I suffer from social anxiety and depression too so this is a big thing for me to do.

 

[malakos]

Is it too much to ask people to get to know you at this stage?

From Grindr? Yes, that's too much to expect. It's not what the vast majority of dudes use it for. It's a hookup app. It's not so much a matter of snobbery as it is that they're just there to get off.

If you want to get to know people in a romantic capacity, then you should shift your attention to services/venues that are actually for dating. Or, if you want to get to know people in a platonic capacity, then start looking in places that draw people who share your interests.

 

[BillM]

Here Grindr is just for fucking and well if You want more You need to find another social media site!!

 

[Herbalist]

I've met two of my boyfriends off Grindr. It's designed really as a hookup app, that I'll agree with. You don't have to use it as such, you may just have a harder time overall.

However, even with that said, Grindr is the last place I'd go to look for friends. I want a boyfriend, or a hookup buddy, but I can find friends anywhere.

 

[Player_01]

I would suggest looking for LGBT groups on Facebook. What kind of interests do you have? I once searched for 'gay geeks' since I like comic books and joined a bunch of them but you can probably find "gay" anything on Facebook.

Nobody's "looking" for friends on Grindr

 

[cedarizzo]

I've become friends with a couple of guys I met on grindr. But that is not normal for Grindr. It is a hookup app, most of the guys on there aren't looking for anything but sex. I don't think those that are only looking for sex are really even looking for sex. It seems like so many guys on there never talk, respond, reply, meet up, etc. I think it is just eye candy for them.

 

[PorknBeans19]

Maybe I have the wrong idea but when you edit your profile the options of chats and friends are there. I mean fair enough if that's what people don't use the app for. Each to their own and whatnot.

I don't feel entitled to get their attention. If they don't want to get to know me, at the end of the day, fuck them.

As for finding other outlets. I've joined a few groups since. Thanks all.

 

[deleted1152486]

Am I the only one who has experienced this? I'm not looking for casual sex or any kind of relationship. I'm literally just trying to get to know other lgbt people because all of my friends are generally straight guys. Is it too much to ask people to get to know you at this stage?

I'm 31. I'm told I'm a nice, funny guy and good for a chat. I don't understand if I'm doing something wrong? I suffer from social anxiety and depression too so this is a big thing for me to do.

It's nice to see how genuine and caring you are. Unfortunately I wouldn't bring it into the Grindr environment where there's demands and expectations from uncaring people.

 

[trav.]

No, you are definitely not the only one. I’ve never used Grindr but the internet in general has changed since Twitter and Instagram. People used to be more friendly and sociable. Now most of them seem indifferent and have short attention spans. They get bored after reading a few sentences. I miss when people were capable of having a conversation.

 

[thegmf]

No, you are definitely not the only one. I’ve never used Grindr but the internet in general has changed since Twitter and Instagram. People used to be more friendly and sociable. Now most of them seem indifferent and have short attention spans. They get bored after reading a few sentences. I miss when people were capable of having a conversation.

I agree, a guy on Grindr spoke to me as if I was a human and I almost fell in love.

 

[WilliamG]

Same can be said for Sniffies as well. There are a FEW that will do a bit of back and forth chat. But the vast majority are "ready for now" with only an obscured dick pick, close up of a butt, and/or a one or two word answer to any questions.

 

[thegmf]

Honestly, I'm really heartbroken over it. I haven't clicked with anyone in a really long time I really vibed with this guy. But it wasn't meant to be

 

[seeing.green]

Throw the whole app away. Grindr is full of losers and slow people who want to trade pics all day like some high schoolers

 

[deleted1152486]

Throw the whole app away. Grindr is full of losers and slow people who want to trade pics all day like some high schoolers

I miss the days where you had to go out abd meet someone in person. This online bullshit is nothing but a bunch of pussies playing games and making demands. Fuck them!

 

[thegmf]

I like trading pics tho'.