How many close "straight friends" you suspect or confirmed that are bi curious ?

[bidudeDL]

Having used this website, reddit and other hookup forums, I can't help but notice the amount of "straight but curious" folks (always on the down low just like me). I can't be the only one in my circle right ? I'm 30M and have a lot guy friends - and I've been trying to find someone that can relates, that I could talk to and share this side of me. At my age, its a pain and a lot of energy to go a look for new friendship. I have suspected 1 or 2 friends and have given them hints about me, but it never really worked - I guess my "Bifi" (bi radar) needs some updates

So, the question: have you ever suspected and confirmed that a close friend is also bi or curious ? What made you suspect it and what happened next ?

 

[bidudeDL]

Anyone ?

 

[Max7653]

One was my friend in high school. Went on vacation with him and his family and we had to share the pullout couch. Woke up to him spooning me. Few months later he texts me saying he thinks he’s bi. But then the next day he said he was drunk and just wanted to mess with me.

Other time was my roommate in college. He was the nicest guy and was a ladies man. But there were times we would be talking about sexual stuff and you could cut the tension with a butter knife. There would be times that I would catch him looking at me while i was changing and when i looked over my shoulder i would see his head turn so quick. We had moments where we would be extremely close to each other and i could feel the air just stop between us and we would hold the most intense eye contact ever.

Nothing happened between either of them tho. Many times really close but I didn’t want to risk losing the friendship. I was shocked to even get both of their attention as they seemed to mostly be into skinny white sorority girls and i was a chubby black boy.

 

[daftman]

me, generally no...I really do think most of my guy friends are NOT bi...so I am likely wrong there. I am bi, married, wife in the loop...and have told a few friends...and those would be female... funny stuff!

 

[bidudeDL]

me, generally no...I really do think most of my guy friends are NOT bi...so I am likely wrong there. I am bi, married, wife in the loop...and have told a few friends...and those would be female... funny stuff!

Same as you buddy !

 

[halcyondays]

I suspect 9 out of 10 are bi because lab studies have shown that in the adult population for the last three decades.

 

[bidudeDL]

I suspect 9 out of 10 are bi because lab studies have shown that in the adult population for the last three decades.

Beside the study, what are the signals to look for ? Or any hints ? Did you tell them or gave them hints on you being bi and how ?

 

[Very kinkey]

Beside the study, what are the signals to look for ? Or any hints ? Did you tell them or gave them hints on you being bi and how ?

How can you tell?

 

[halcyondays]

Beside the study, what are the signals to look for ? Or any hints ? Did you tell them or gave them hints on you being bi and how ?

This isn't going to be helpful.

I don't look for signals or pry into the sex lives of close friends. They are platonic and I keep them that way.

I'm a sixty yo boomer and most of my current closest friends are older, married or have S/Os. I've never told any of them that I'm bi. They suspect it anyway because I never married and never bring dates to our group activities.

When I was younger I had different close friends but still kept them platonic. The only times I violated that rule was with a few who clearly weren't interested in just being friends. We had flings and went our separate ways.

In my experience there are friends and there are lovers and never the twain shall meet.

 

[Eqx1987]

Freshman year of college, I had a good friend who I hung out with all the time. He was handsome, worked out a lot and had a great body, and was constantly talking about sex and girls he fucked. He also talked about his dick a lot, how big it was. He once was wearing sweatpants and pressed the fabric against his dick to show the outline, saying “look how big my dick is, and it’s totally soft.” This made me wonder if he was totally straight, because it was just the two of us, no girls around.

Anyway, one night we were watching TV in my room, and I just hear him out of nowhere, “you have really nice lips. You know, if I was drunk enough, I’d kiss those lips.” This was a dream come true because I’d been crushing on him hard since we met, but I was totally in the closet at the time, so I just panicked and said nothing. He never brought it up again. Probably the greatest regret of my college life lol.

 

[twister926]

I have a friend back from college days. We are 37 now. He had GF, now wife.

I suspect he may be bicurious mainly because he was always comfortable with hugging males (not common in our culture) and he made some remarks about me looking good or wanking together (but again, he makes weird offhand remarks all the time, he's not a serious type of guy at all). He may be repressing his gay tendencies because whenever we talked about gays, he sounded a bit guilty about the topic.

There was a perfect chance to see what's up with him. I was crashing at his apartment for a couple days. We were alone and drunk late at night, sitting on his couch watching YouTube. During my stay he commented on how good I looked in my underwear and that he had a wank when taking shower. All it would take was asking him if he wants to watch porn together. I so regret not doing that.

 

[bidudeDL]

I have a friend back from college days. We are 37 now. He had GF, now wife.

I suspect he may be bicurious mainly because he was always comfortable with hugging males (not common in our culture) and he made some remarks about me looking good or wanking together (but again, he makes weird offhand remarks all the time, he's not a serious type of guy at all). He may be repressing his gay tendencies because whenever we talked about gays, he sounded a bit guilty about the topic.

There was a perfect chance to see what's up with him. I was crashing at his apartment for a couple days. We were alone and drunk late at night, sitting on his couch watching YouTube. During my stay he commented on how good I looked in my underwear and that he had a wank when taking shower. All it would take was asking him if he wants to watch porn together. I so regret not doing that.

Why didnt yoy act on it ? Did he give you more direct hints afterwards or recently ? One thing I find is that "Straight curious" guy that are comfortable with their sexuality will always make gay joke, talk about good looking guys that could turn them and all... but whenever they caught themselves having a convo that is too heated, the immediately switch topic. The more they drink or smoke, the hotter the convo will get.

 

[twister926]

Why didnt yoy act on it ? Did he give you more direct hints afterwards or recently ? One thing I find is that "Straight curious" guy that are comfortable with their sexuality will always make gay joke, talk about good looking guys that could turn them and all... but whenever they caught themselves having a convo that is too heated, the immediately switch topic. The more they drink or smoke, the hotter the convo will get.

It was a mix of few things. Mainly, after falling in love with 2 straight friends, I trained myself to not think about any straight male in a sexual way to avoid getting hurt. And I treated all of it as a joke (we used to make nonsense off-limit jokes a lot). And at that moment I may have been just too drunk or not horny enough to seriously consider making a move (I often get *too* reserved when drunk because I get too self-conscious).

There was no hints from him afterwards but we also didn't have a chance to be alone, as his 2nd kid was born recently and I visit them only 2-3 times per year. I sent him some texts like "Damn this lockdown, it makes me watch so much porn" followed by "Dude, I just saw the biggest cock ever" but he didn't pick on that.

As it's unlikely that I will have a sleepover in his place without his family around in the near future, I thought of just telling him "I need to confess, I fucked some guys and it's quite cool experience because we are so laid back about sex" after few beers and seeing if it leads somewhere.

 

[bidudeDL]

It was a mix of few things. Mainly, after falling in love with 2 straight friends, I trained myself to not think about any straight male in a sexual way to avoid getting hurt. And I treated all of it as a joke (we used to make nonsense off-limit jokes a lot). And at that moment I may have been just too drunk or not horny enough to seriously consider making a move (I often get *too* reserved when drunk because I get too self-conscious).

There was no hints from him afterwards but we also didn't have a chance to be alone, as his 2nd kid was born recently and I visit them only 2-3 times per year. I sent him some texts like "Damn this lockdown, it makes me watch so much porn" followed by "Dude, I just saw the biggest cock ever" but he didn't pick on that.

As it's unlikely that I will have a sleepover in his place without his family around in the near future, I thought of just telling him "I need to confess, I fucked some guys and it's quite cool experience because we are so laid back about sex" after few beers and seeing if it leads somewhere.

Let us know how that goes !

 

[Dr.Jones]

I have 2 friends I know are curious. Different friend groups.

 

[twister926]

Let us know how that goes !

Sure, but I will not see him until Christmas

 

[bidudeDL]

I have 2 friends I know are curious. Different friend groups.

How are you able to tell ? What are the hints to usually look for ?

 

[BMJ31]

Having used this website, reddit and other hookup forums, I can't help but notice the amount of "straight but curious" folks (always on the down low just like me). I can't be the only one in my circle right ? I'm 30M and have a lot guy friends - and I've been trying to find someone that can relates, that I could talk to and share this side of me. At my age, its a pain and a lot of energy to go a look for new friendship. I have suspected 1 or 2 friends and have given them hints about me, but it never really worked - I guess my "Bifi" (bi radar) needs some updates

So, the question: have you ever suspected and confirmed that a close friend is also bi or curious ? What made you suspect it and what happened next ?

A friend always eyeball my crotch.. If im naked he dick watches..

 

[678wsb]

I'd never do anything with a friend. I've been friends with all of them for years and I don't want to mess it up.

 

[12843051]

I have a couple of mates I don’t think are bi but definitely open to wanking together. I’ve brought it up drunk when talking about porn or whatever we like to see people’s reactions. I’ve wanked with two mates, one stroking each other and one just ourselves. At rugby I brought it up with one guy who wasn’t game but showed me a pic of his hard cock and this week another team mate showed me videos of him fucking his bird and said they’re gonna start an onlyfans.
My advice, just have conversations about sex/wanking/porn, ask hypothetical questions etc. get a feel for what people like