How many men are actually bisexual?

[StrenghtenMe]

First I should define bisexuality as a sexual attraction/interest to both men and women. Not romantic attraction; only sexual; bisexual men can be heteromantic, biromantic, homoromantic or aromantic( actually majority will fall into first category- heteromantic bisexual). Bisexuality also is not only 50/50 split; guy can be 80% into women/men and 20% into men/women etc.
So basically since bisexuality was so misundestood as both romantic and sexual equal attraction only a big number of ppl were pushed into str8 or gay corner.

Poll from 2022 done on over 6000 British ppl (but I don't see a reason why the stats shouldn't be similar in US) found that 40% of gen Z responders expressed same sex attraction and 53% were exclusively attracted only to opposite gender. With baby boomers the number of fully str8 ppl was 77% ( overall 66% of responders id as fully str8).
The other side of that study found that 14% of gen Z identify as bi/pan, 2% as gay and 3% as lesbian.
And 2% of all responders id as asexual.

And here is an interesting thing
40% of gen Z expressed some type of same sex [sexual] attraction but "only" 14% identified as bi or pansexual.

Is it just that ppl even if they are sexually attracted to both genders refuse to label themselves as bi because bi is a part of LGBT and they don't want to be a part of that community?
So If that hypothesis is true then if we would remove B from LGBT then far more people would identify as such?

We are talking about men and the poll included women so its impossible to know how many of those 40% were men but I believe its rational to say that
20% of gen Z men are more or less bisexual. [The poll classify gen Z as ppl between 16 and 26 y.o].

 

[dickthrobbing]

Poll from 2022 done on over 6000 British ppl (but I don't see a reason why the stats shouldn't be similar in US) found that 40% of gen Z responders expressed same sex attraction and 53% were exclusively attracted only to opposite gender. With baby boomers the number of fully str8 ppl was 77% ( overall 66% of responders id as fully str8).
The other side of that study found that 14% of gen Z identify as bi/pan, 2% as gay and 3% as lesbian.
And 2% of all responders id as asexual.

For the baby boomer gen in the UK we grew up in an era of gay sex being illegal until the Sexual Offences Act 1967 Even then it was on legal in private men could still not legally be intermate eg kiss in a public place.

There was still a high level of stigma through the 70's which suppressed many baby boomer men form exploring bi or gay sex which may explain why there are a high number of UK men in their late 50's 60's and 70's who are on hook up sites

 

[WilliamG]

My opinion based on my very scientific research (Reddit and here... ). A large number are bi in visual stimulation only. Meaning: They will wank to gay porn or even online cam to cam. But very few I think take it to the next level of a real encounter.

 

[BlazerBoy05]

It’s not real Just confusion

 

[daftman]

funny.. in my world (metropolitan Minnesota) most of my peers, I think are NOT bi. I am. I just do not get any sense that most males in the 30-60 range here are anywhere bi -

 

[StrenghtenMe]

I think most of the guys I was with back in “ those days “ were bisexual because of alcohol and drugs.. because a lot of them are married and have kids

But bisexual guys most of the time date and marry women... so I don't see anything weird.

 

[Alex Sommers]

My guess is that if someone has a sexual attraction to the same sex, but has not desire to act on it -- and may be turned off by the act of gay sex -- they are less likely to identify as bisexual. There are probably more people than not that have some kind of attraction to the same sex, but don't consider it part of their general sexual orientation. Some day more people may be willing to talk about it, but until that day, we really don't know how prevalent bisexuality is.

 

[WilliamG]

biggest portion of the girls I was with was while I was stoned or high..

I went one night fucked a guys ass and then 5 minutes later fucked a woman .. some reason the drugs and alcohol made me and my dick not care just as long as we can get off ..

I cleaned myself up around the age of 20 until 35 .. all that time I been with nothing but guys.. as my mind knew I was gay and needed men ..

When I was around 35 I had a bad turn for thee worse.. I had fought the addiction.. and if people have been addicted that’s reading this will understand how hard it is

went to a few parties that friends of mine still had all the time.. ..I drank some beer and took few pills and I was fucked ul and mellowed out like I always felt..

This woman comes over to me .. I was on couch learning back against the back of couch .. she’s like hi lover those guys say you’re the man to come to.. unzips my pants pulls my dick out sucked it gets it hard and then gets on top sits on it and begins to ride me..

right when I began to feel something about to happen.. I reached down grabbed my dick went to pull it out .. she goes down on it just as it begins to shoot.. she doesn’t stop either .
I fought to get myself alert and get her off me .. and the guys were like did you make her b——d.
Few weeks later I found out she. Was pregnant several months she had a baby boy ..my first son she got pregnant again right after that .. months later .. another boy..

she got on birth control or we weren’t going to have sex anymore .. she ran out of pills couple years later and didn’t tell me.. she got pregnant again.. this time had twins.. both boys..

My mom was like she wants a grand daughter .. I said sorry .. do t think it’s going to happen with my sperm..

but after the first boy .. I married her.. stayed clean for the 6 years we were together plus had 4 boys..

But the longer I went without drugs the more my mind wanted man on man sex ..

One day she took the boys to her parents house .. I stayed home mowed the yard and did some yard work.. got done.. took a shower .. got out of the shower and I hear hello I was like oh shit.. it was her younger brother (24) and he looks right at my dick and says damn that’s what you’re fucking my sister with . I smiled and said you want some.. he thought I was kidding at first

he was openly gay and he broke up with his boyfriend of 5 years and been single ever since

I told him go ahead take it in your hand he started to and backed off so I just grabbed his hand and put it in his hand.. let him feeling get hard in his hand…

…….we did a lot of things but it was him on his back legs up and I was pounding his ass good as he moaned and stuff a little loud.. god thing I didn’t have any close neighbors ..

I told him he was so much more fun to fuck than his sister and began cumming .. next thing we here is a voice .. it was her and she saw ne fucking her brother.. needless to say she got upset

she left .. few weeks later got divorce papers pleading no contest meaning I got to keep the house and everything but her stuff

then in same envelope was papers of her signing over her rights to the boys.. I couldn’t understand that o e.

so I got her stuff boxed up with her brothers help.. I rental truck showed up with a man I didn’t know .. loads her stuff up and leaves..

that night she calls tells me she hopes her brother and I are having fun.. and that I can keep my gay sons… I was like wtf

this was 10 years ago and haven’t heard from her since.. the boys asked where their mommy was all I can do was say she’s gone for a while and they finally quit asking

Apparently she didn’t realize I liked guys even though it was a couple guys told her to get in my pants that she wouldn’t regret it..

so now I am still clean .. and trying to do right by my boys

So I think my bisexual side was triggered by the beer and drugs

I know of two other women I was with had boys but they are married and don’t tell them who their real daddy is .. and I respect their wishes even though I know one day there will become a time they wanna know their real dad

A lot to unpack here bud...

 

[Putang2012]

But bisexual guys most of the time date and marry women... so I don't see anything weird.

I think that for bi men, when it comes to dating and marriage with options of more than one gender, it is most likely that they will bump into a straight/bi woman rather than a gay/bi man simply because statistically there are more straight/bi women out there than gay/bi men. This goes the same for a bisexual woman's dating pool where there is a higher chance of meeting a guy who's into women than another woman who is into women.

 

[Richard Licks]

Since we opened our marriage to other couples, specifically bi couples there has not been a husband who wasn't bi. Even the ones who say they only want to swing with the wives always give into sucking cock with their wives and once the women have worked their strap-on magic there is not a one who does not take a real cock now. They all love their wives and the women in our group but they also now have no qualms with male on male these days. I supposed that is the circle we travel in because we no longer personally know any couples (even the non swingers we know) where the husband wouldn't love to...

From my experience it appears a lot of men who call themselves straight don't have a problem with another man sucking their cock. Some who say they are straight will suck a cock. Men are born cock suckers and don't let their inner desire free.

 

[l3moning]

For the baby boomer gen in the UK we grew up in an era of gay sex being illegal until the Sexual Offences Act 1967 Even then it was on legal in private men could still not legally be intermate eg kiss in a public place.

There was still a high level of stigma through the 70's which suppressed many baby boomer men form exploring bi or gay sex which may explain why there are a high number of UK men in their late 50's 60's and 70's who are on hook up sites

And the age of consent was higher for gay sex until 2000. Not to mention Section 28 (which banned "promoting" homosexuality in schools, but was taken to mean "don't talk about it at all") was repealed the same year.

 

[StrenghtenMe]

I think that for bi men, when it comes to dating and marriage with options of more than one gender, it is most likely that they will bump into a straight/bi woman rather than a gay/bi man simply because statistically there are more straight/bi women out there than gay/bi men. This goes the same for a bisexual woman's dating pool where there is a higher chance of meeting a guy who's into women than another woman who is into women.

Nah I just think majority of bisexuals strongly prefer opposite gender for romantic relationship.
Some surveys seem to support this

Even if bisexuality was "standard" orientation and treated perfectly normal still most bi guys would date and marry women; its just the way they are.

If you know any other studies that suggest otherwise tell me.

By the way this survey from 2017 really show how useless are sexual labels;
In "straight" category we have 3 bisexuals and 1 homosexual.
In "bisexual" category we have 4 heterosexuals and 1 homosexual.
And in "gay" category we have 16 bisexuals.

 

[FrankieGuile]

First I should define bisexuality as a sexual attraction/interest to both men and women. Not romantic attraction; only sexual; bisexual men can be heteromantic, biromantic, homoromantic or aromantic( actually majority will fall into first category- heteromantic bisexual). Bisexuality also is not only 50/50 split; guy can be 80% into women/men and 20% into men/women etc.
So basically since bisexuality was so misundestood as both romantic and sexual equal attraction only a big number of ppl were pushed into str8 or gay corner.

Poll from 2022 done on over 6000 British ppl (but I don't see a reason why the stats shouldn't be similar in US) found that 40% of gen Z responders expressed same sex attraction and 53% were exclusively attracted only to opposite gender. With baby boomers the number of fully str8 ppl was 77% ( overall 66% of responders id as fully str8).
The other side of that study found that 14% of gen Z identify as bi/pan, 2% as gay and 3% as lesbian.
And 2% of all responders id as asexual.

And here is an interesting thing
40% of gen Z expressed some type of same sex [sexual] attraction but "only" 14% identified as bi or pansexual.

Is it just that ppl even if they are sexually attracted to both genders refuse to label themselves as bi because bi is a part of LGBT and they don't want to be a part of that community?
So If that hypothesis is true then if we would remove B from LGBT then far more people would identify as such?

We are talking about men and the poll included women so its impossible to know how many of those 40% were men but I believe its rational to say that
20% of gen Z men are more or less bisexual. [The poll classify gen Z as ppl between 16 and 26 y.o].

According to the U.S. Census Bureau, 4.4% of Americans identify as bisexual and 88.3% identify as straight. According to Americans who identify as bisexual, 100% of Americans who identify as straight are liars.

 

[FrankieGuile]

I bet if they did stats based on sex and not relationship the numbers would be crazy high. Only the gay couple in our group wants to have a male/male relationship. The rest of the men enjoy the sex and there is not a one of them interested in dating a guy. Our guys only kiss the ladies even though they do all that other. I appreciate it and so do the other wives. It's about the sex for them.

Thank you for proving my second point.

 

[hungstoner80]

I’m bisexual and I’ve been atttacted emotionally and physically to women and men. I currently have a serious bf but I’ve had plenty of girlfriends as well. It’s been stated and I think it’s true sexual and romantic attraction is different. But I can say that about men and women.

 

[bi2]

Probably a lot more than you would think, if they could.

My fuckbuddy and I hookup once a month to fuck and we both see ourselves as "straight".

 

[FrankieGuile]

Probably a lot more than you would think, if they could.

My fuckbuddy and I hookup once a month to fuck and we both see ourselves as "straight".

Saying so doesn't make it so. But, if you insist, we need to find a new word meaning men who are emotionally and physically attracted exclusively to women and never to other men under any circumstances, including in the fantasies of, and over the denials of, men who are attracted emotionally and physically to other men, no matter how much they want to believe the kind of men we formerly called "straight" do not exist. Wow! That's quite a torturous reframing of the word "straight" but some brave linguist out there will undertake the task.

 

[deleted21799691]

I bet most 'straight' guys are attracted to cock, but not the rest of the guy....at least that's how I felt at first.

 

[bi2]

Saying so doesn't make it so. But, if you insist, we need to find a new word meaning men who are emotionally and physically attracted exclusively to women and never to other men under any circumstances, including in the fantasies of, and over the denials of, men who are attracted emotionally and physically to other men, no matter how much they want to believe the kind of men we formerly called "straight" do not exist. Wow! That's quite a torturous reframing of the word "straight" but some brave linguist out there will undertake the task.

Not really at all, men fall into various levels. Many bi men in here have felt the same as I do.

 

[StrenghtenMe]

Saying so doesn't make it so. But, if you insist, we need to find a new word meaning men who are emotionally and physically attracted exclusively to women and never to other men under any circumstances, including in the fantasies of, and over the denials of, men who are attracted emotionally and physically to other men, no matter how much they want to believe the kind of men we formerly called "straight" do not exist. Wow! That's quite a torturous reframing of the word "straight" but some brave linguist out there will undertake the task.

But there are quite few words for it;
"Heteroflexible" "Mostly straight" "straight leaning bisexual" "heteromantic bisexual" etc.

But you are right it would be stupid to put into the same box genuinely straight guy and bi guy who just pass as straight.
Also its just a label. Sexual partners of that guy wouldn't care anyway.