How many men are actually bisexual?

[alexsopim]

my reading comprehension? next time you use chatgpt to write your so-smart and philosophical paragraph, make sure you tell it not to use dashes 10 times in the paragraph. that way, it will look genuine and well-thought-out. anyone smart can spot a chatgpt response just by the dashes all over the place.

Yeah i do use ChatGPT to correct my texts, especially when they’re long, so what? If this is your only way of arguing, you should put in a bit more effort.

 

[jthomasmpls]

It honestly blows my mind that the gay community spent so many years fighting for the freedom to just be ourselves, and now here we are trying to put other people in boxes and tell them who or what they are. To the straight guys jumping into this thread to argue about whether someone’s straight or bi just because they’ve had experiences with other men, seriously, what are you doing here? Why are you even interested in this conversation if you’re coming from a toxic masculine mindset? And honestly, I’ve never really felt like a proud member of the gay community. In my experience, a lot of the people who are the most vocal or active in it can come off as hypocritical, snobbish, and pretty self-centered. It’s frustrating when the very community that’s supposed to stand for freedom, authenticity, and acceptance ends up being just as judgmental as the world we fought against. At the end of the day, can we please just let people be who they are without constantly trying to label them or police their identity? It’s not our place to decide that for anyone. Everyone deserves the space to define themselves on their own terms. And on top of that, I honestly feel like this generation of the LGBTQ+ community has started to make a mockery of everything the people before us fought to survive. Being gay used to be about the right to live freely, to love who we love without fear or shame. It was about courage, resistance, and authenticity. Now it feels like it’s been watered down into a spectacle, more about being loud, performative, and trendy than about real connection or meaning. Being gay doesn’t mean being feminine. It doesn’t mean using certain pronouns. It doesn’t mean dressing in leather or having sex in the streets at events like Folsom. That might be someone’s personal expression, and they have every right to it, but it’s not what being gay is. And I’m tired of being automatically associated with all of that just because I’m gay. We fought to be seen as individuals, not to be lumped into another box with a new set of expectations. Let people define what being gay, straight, bisexual, hetero, or flexible means for them, and stop trying to make it one-size-fits-all.

Agreed, this tread continues to blow my mind.

It seems to me a majority of the comments are from gay or straight men, not bisexual men. Most of the comments are not favorable or supportive. Many are biphobic.

Like you said, it's hard for me to understand how critical of if and how bisexual men come after the decades gay men had to advocate for acceptance and equal rights.

And the some of the comment I have read in this tread are wild. A couple favorites are;

'straight men who have sex with gay men are the worst', umm straight men don't have sex with men...

and 'yeah, I like having sex with women sometimes but I am really gay', umm gay men don't have sex with women.

Bisexual men do have sex with both men and women.

"I call myself bisexual because I acknowledge that I have in myself the potential to be attracted--romantically and/or sexually--to people of more than one gender, not necessarily at the same time, in the same way, or to the same degree." Robyn Ochs

 

[daftman]

all I really know: i love my great wife, am largely attracted to women that I see around, am more tuned to connect with them generally, do not find most men alluring, BUT I am very and happily bi, insofar as I crave dick, love to be smooth....and wear tiny suits/undewear!

 

[chapter6plan]

funny.. in my world (metropolitan Minnesota) most of my peers, I think are NOT bi. I am. I just do not get any sense that most males in the 30-60 range here are anywhere bi -

I'm also in metropolitan Minnesota and work with a lot of younger college grads ... there are a significant number who are lgbtq, but few are openly bi. I think that's because most of my coworkers are in a committed relationship or keeping their sex life out of the workplace.
This is the biggest frustration with being bi (and older) ... where does one find a same sex partner? Where can I advertise my availability to other men? How do I vet guys that may be interested if we only connect online?!?