I caught my neighbors 19 year old son stealing my underwear, again, and I’m not sure how to address it..

[dmoney01]

Can I just say it is so annoying and slightly rude to bring us all this information and request advice only to delete your account shortly after! But being sure to be very physically descriptive without providing proof. Because honestly it does make a difference escpecially if the OP is as attractive as described we'd probably all be looking for a momento just saying.

 

[Disco_In_Dreams]

Where are you keeping ur underwear that he has access them?

 

[Skagen Krauss]

A young, beautiful guy like him. You should be flattered. Talk to him. Aren't you attracted to or by him?

 

[deleted19462351]

Lol, I think I'm the only one who doesn't find guys that are much younger than me attractive.

 

[awdrg2]

Damn this stories wild lmao. Sounds like the start of a weird romcom or something. Lowkey wish op stuck around to tell us about what happened. Would be lying if the comments on his pics didn't have me curious to ngl lol.

 

[678wsb]

The pics and avatar were hot tbh

Now I'm very curious to see them.

 

[HappyMedium]

Lol, I think I'm the only one who doesn't find guys that are much younger than me attractive.

Not at all. Like, I can see the attractiveness of hot 20-somethings but don't feel it. Closer to my age or older, please.

 

[Thierry lagard]

I think it's best to talk it out and clear the air, otherwise the weird energy between the two of you will become noticeable to his parents. You can soften it by telling him that you're flattered that he finds you attractive but this is not OK. Tell him how it made you feel but counter it with empathy of knowing what it's like to be closeted. Assure him that you'll not speak of this to his parents. And affirm that you are not interested in pursuing anything with him other than being a friend of his parents. Nothing wrong with asserting some boundaries, in fact it's the perfect moment to do so.

You sound like a very thoughtful person, so I think you'll be able to handle this with care. Good luck!

Worst advice ever. He should leave it alone or tell him to stop going through his things at the most. Talking about being "flattered that he finds him attractive but..." is the worst. The 19 year old will be the first to say the gay guy is trying to hit on him, just to protect himself and nobody will believe this man's defense. It will cause problems with the parents. Anything this mans says will seem to the parents like he is making shit up and just fantasizing about their son. They will choose to be in denial and this man will turn out to be the bad guy. Asserting boundaries should end at dont touch my stuff and dont speak about anything you assume about him. He never told you anything about his sexuality. if he denies it, especially infront of his parents, then it looks like you just wish he were gay like you. You have no hard evidence he stole your underwear even though you know he did. But you cant prove it to anyone. Then again you will look like a liar/groomer.

 

[deleted22016481]

I think it's best to talk it out and clear the air, otherwise the weird energy between the two of you will become noticeable to his parents. You can soften it by telling him that you're flattered that he finds you attractive but this is not OK. Tell him how it made you feel but counter it with empathy of knowing what it's like to be closeted. Assure him that you'll not speak of this to his parents. And affirm that you are not interested in pursuing anything with him other than being a friend of his parents. Nothing wrong with asserting some boundaries, in fact it's the perfect moment to do so.

You sound like a very thoughtful person, so I think you'll be able to handle this with care. Good luck!

Awesome advice.

 

[angelyo]

Yeah. Not really sure how to begin with this, but I’m gonna try.

I’m a 31 year old gay man, and over the years have become close friends with my straight neighbors who are several decades older than me and are married. They’re very good people and a ton of fun. They invite me to join them on their vacations at their lake house sometimes which is only like 30 minutes away. I like them and they’re just solid people, even if a little bit ignorant about some things. They know I’m gay and respect that, but just sometimes ask silly questions about gay men that can make you roll eyes. Regardless, they’re good people.

They have a son who I have suspected was gay or bi for the two years that I’ve known him. I don’t really interact with him much except for when he joins the conversations I’m having with his parents. He’s actually very masculine guy and is very kind and polite but I have caught him staring at my ass so many times it’s crazy - I don’t think he realizes it’s not very discreet. He’s also a good guy though and is in college, and just visiting over the summer break. His parents totally think he’s straight.

None of this is really an issue. I’m a personal trainer and actually used to be a stripper for a few years in my mid twenties, so I’m used to getting stares because of my muscles or because I have a huge ass that’s a little out of control (this family doesn’t know I used to be a stripper obviously). But last week I was over at this family’s lake house and realized I was missing some underwear. I didn’t think much of it and guessed I must have misplaced it. Honestly there have been a few times over the summer already where I thought I must have forgotten my underwear. But then this week I was at their lake house again, and I decided to go to my room after going for a swim so that I could get out of my swim trunks and into my underwear and shorts.

I walked into my room and immediately found their son going through my backpack which just had my clothes inside. It was just a half second, but he immediately froze and stopped looking in there when he realized I was in the room. He was stammering and nervous and immediately got red-faced and awkward, but was able to make some excuse that he thought I might have “batteries” and was looking for some. In my confusion, I kind of just said “uh.. no sorry man.. don’t have batteries”. And it was very awkward and he left. After he left my brain finally had a lightbulb moment and I connected the dots that he had probably stolen my underwear the previous week and several times before and might have been trying to steal my underwear again just now.

My question is this: I’m obviously not attracted to the guy (he’s way too young for me) nor do I want to make him feel too bad about this in a public way, especially because he’s not out to his family. I know he’s a horny 19 year old closeted guy just doing stupid shit. Because of my muscles and ass, im used to guys acting “strange” around me my entire life. That said, I don’t know whether I should just address this, or leave it alone.

Im inclined to just leave it alone, but I can already tell the guy is incredibly uncomfortable around me because I think he knows I know he has my underwear. I think he’s afraid I might out him to his family as being bi or gay.

What should I do? Never discuss it ever? If I do discuss it, is it better to just say, “hey don’t do that again, you shouldn’t steal, but it’s okay to be gay? If you’re closeted and gay, I understand how that can be and am here if you need to talk through that. I won’t tell your family about this” to calm his nerves? Or is the fact that he physically attracted to me to this level just gonna make this whole thing unbearably awkward? I’ve had my underwear stolen before in gym locker rooms by strangers, but this situation seems a bit more sensitive.

Im overthinking all of this. But if you were him what would you want the person in my situation to do? He is now unbearably awkward around me (which yeah he should suffer those consequences honestly), but I also know this is a little nuanced.

This is kind of exciting. I think you should talk to him and maybe let him enjoy your beautiful body for a bit. It’s really hard being a closeted man. Maybe this will help him come out and talk to his parents.

 

[jonsnow1990]

I don’t blame him - I’d probably steal your underwear too

 

[deleted1208118]

Did I miss OP pics, why is everyone so horny for them?! I want to see!

Also I figure is late to add any advice but I agree bringing up anything about the kids sexuality is bound to create a problem for the gay person especially if the parents are already not the most open minded as OP suggests.

"Ey man don't go through my stuff again without my permission" is more than enough, anything else is a porn movie plot and it's not going to end well in real life.

But again and most importantly, please someone tell me how to see OPs ass

 

[sonny84]

Not at all. Like, I can see the attractiveness of hot 20-somethings but don't feel it. Closer to my age or older, please.

 

[Rippedspeedo]

Don't out.him.Slip him a.pair and tell him to come to you to.talk

 

[angelyo]

Don't out.him.Slip him a.pair and tell him to come to you to.talk

“Talk,” right? Lol

 

[Rippedspeedo]

No put him over you knee and make his as s red.

 

[Mahi Bansi]

So what happened later, OP?

 

[deleted1208118]

So what happened later, OP?

Someone called them out and OP deleted his account is what happened later I think

 

[Kanashi]

Who called him out?

 

[Goodboi08]

No put him over you knee and make his as s red.

Fuck yes