It actually does, most people seem to prefer their own race, this is because evolution and social borders, usually individuals who prefer partners out of their own race it's because idealistic traits post colonization, people who get exposed to a more diverse groups can find more attractive people of different races, if you look at the type of asian men that are perceived attractive among white men you will notice that they tend to look similar to the typical hot white dude rather than the average Asian male, so most of the times they are just translating the preference in a minority instead of the whole group or the men that Asians will perceived as attractive by themselves.
I agree with you on this.
It’s actually a very strange phenomenon that I noticed and have observed over the years. When i’m out and about, whenever I see an interracial couple, white and Asian, 100% of the time that the white guy is much older than his Asian partner. And I would always cringe at the sight.
I try not to make any assumption or being judgemental about other people but generally, the Asian guy is settling for the older white guy is because he couldn’t get himself a younger white guy or a white guy around his age. So he would rather settle for an older white guy than date another Asian guy around his age. Some Asian guy may even find other Asian guys repulsive.
This goes back to what you’re saying about people tend to date within their own race due to similarity in appearance and culture.
Human likes belonging to a group. Being gay is already being a minority in a world of heterosexual. So being Asian/or non-white in the western world is like being a minority within a minority. Human are social creatures and like to belong to a group that they can relate to. So some Asian guy would go to an extreme length trying to fit into the western gay world by compromising themselves.
I have seen some Asian guys refusing to date other Asian men. They’d rather date an older white guy that may be less attractive than the Asian counterpart, so that they could feel like they’re ‘somewhat’ fitting in within the western gay world. You rarely see this strange
phenomenon in Asia, generally, the gays in Asia tend to date other Asians around their age. You rarely see a big age difference amongst gay Asian couples.
The older white guy is a fucking pig for preying on the young Asian guy’s insecurities. They could no longer get a date with young white guys. So they’ll switch gear and start dating young Asian guys instead. They refused to date other older white men around their age. Tragic really!
Also, like you have pointed out, the Asian men that are perceived as attractive by the western gays tend to look westernised (could almost pass for a white guy) than the average Asian guys. People tend to date and marry people that look like themselves. You always hear that married couple tend to morph into each other. No! They have always looked similar from the start and now it’s more noticeable because they’re dressing more closely/similar to each other, hence the stronger resemblance.
I think people should just be happy with themselves and don’t give a fuck whether people find them attractive or not. Just as long you take good care of yourself, stay clean, smell fresh, healthy and fit, enjoy your life and pursue your goals (one that doesn’t revolve around finding a white guy) and live your life to the fullest.
No matter how attractive you are or whatever your skin color may be. There’ll come a point where 99% of the population will find you unattractive when you hit the senior years.