If You Are Sexually Attracted To Men, But Only Have Romantic Relationships With Women. Why?

[bigboaster]

I want children one day. Not saying gay men can't, but it's a whole lot easier if you are with a woman for the long term.

Fair enough.

 

[bigboaster]

Women usually require a romantic connection, e.g. date night, while men usually don't. Generally. In my experience.

I'm not married and am clear that I don't do exclusive relationships, but I do go out with women in advance of hooking up. This is much less common with male hookups.

Reference the sex study A Billion Wicked Thoughts. The male brain has one switch for sex which is physical attraction. The female brain has two switches which are physical attraction and an emotional connection.

In short women need to be wooed men don't.

There are exceptions. I have no problem going out with or romantically wooing a guy who needs it. Nor do I have a problem with women who just need to hook up without being wooed.

That's why.

Yes Ive heard of this before actually. Thanks for the detailed explanation and for the additional resources.

 

[beginner63]

Women usually require a romantic connection, e.g. date night, while men usually don't. Generally. In my experience.

I'm not married and am clear that I don't do exclusive relationships, but I do go out with women in advance of hooking up. This is much less common with male hookups.

Reference the sex study A Billion Wicked Thoughts. The male brain has one switch for sex which is physical attraction. The female brain has two switches which are physical attraction and an emotional connection.

In short women need to be wooed men don't.

There are exceptions. I have no problem going out with or romantically wooing a guy who needs it. Nor do I have a problem with women who just need to hook up without being wooed.

That's why.

I have spent 100s on a date with a women and gotten nowhere . When I meet a guy usually in a few minutes I’m sucking his cock

 

[karatooga]

My SO is a bit of a tomboy so I feel like I have the best of both worlds

 

[halcyondays]

I have spent 100s on a date with a women and gotten nowhere . When I meet a guy usually in a few minutes I’m sucking his cock

Go dutch.

 

[deleted10307401]

Exactly that

From time to time I just enjoy pure carnal man on man sex, two (or more ) just doing with each other that only men can do

 

[WebMale80]

I definitely crave sex with guys more than women but don’t care to date men.
I think it’s just the raw attraction of another man’s sexuality that turns me on so much. And the fact that I’m very much in the closet and have been since I was in high school makes sex with guys a secret and verified commodity. It just makes the sexual energy that much more intense for me.

I guess you wouldn’t know unless you’ve experienced it but there’s nothing more electric than the sexual energy between two closeted men.

 

[bigboaster]

I definitely crave sex with guys more than women but don’t care to date men.
I think it’s just the raw attraction of another man’s sexuality that turns me on so much. And the fact that I’m very much in the closet and have been since I was in high school makes sex with guys a secret and verified commodity. It just makes the sexual energy that much more intense for me.

I guess you wouldn’t know unless you’ve experienced it but there’s nothing more electric than the sexual energy between two closeted men.

I understand the logic of it even from an outsider perspective. It's almost like a forbidden fruit type thing I guess. Lol

 

[JBrown61]

1. I like vulvas and vaginas more than I like cock. That may sound incredibly shallow, but physical intimacy is important to me in a relationship and I'd rather spend time getting to know my partner's pussy than a dick.

2. Many men still have toxically masculine, macho attitudes. It's less prevalent among queer men than it is among straight men, partly because being an MSM often challenges a lot of toxic attitudes and behaviors of straight men. Some don't do the work on themselves, though, and it's enough to turn me off from the prospect of trying to find a guy form a long-term relationship.

 

[daftman]

I wouldn't say it could never happen but I just haven't connected the same way emotionally with men as I do women. I don't mean there is less connection just...different. I could have a good buddy that I'm close to but it doesn't feel "romantic" even if there was sex happening. with sex that makes the experience seem more like a recreational activity.

But just like any recreational activity I prefer the company of a buddy or small group of buddies for hooking up. I don't go looking for random/one night stand things and it I like what I find I stick with it lol.

That said I'm not the type of bi guy that doesn't kiss or do body contact with men...I like it all with either men or ladies but because with men it is more like buddies having fun it has a more "carnal" vibe to it (it has been similar with ladies who were only FWB to be honest though with romantic partners the vibe is different). I don't equate any particular physical activity with romantic feelings even though romantic feelings can have an effect on how those activities feel I guess?

agree with you there.

 

[Cappy_Dick]

Bisexuality differs with many levels of interest. With 94% of us being bisexual at some level, it varies greatly. Whether they admit it, or not, all men are curious about cocks. It's why most boys have pissing contests and many jo with a friend. All men glance around in the showers and locker rooms. Any man who says he hasn't is a liar. All men (except the 3% that are 100% gay) are at least at least that level of bisexual. Most straight porn is primarily focused on the cock. This is the same porn that is mainly marketed towards men. Then there are those who fantasize about cock play, but would never act on it.

Then there are there are guys that just enjoy stroking and sucking each other. That's all they are interested in. Some that are more bisexual might add in some combination of kissing, nipple and\or anal play, Basically but they are still more strongly attracted to women and a hetero emotional relationship. It's only someone who is 100% bisexual that will have an emotional relationship with either sex. Just because a man is "all in", doesn't make him 100% bisexual. There is usually a stronger attraction to one sex.

xx

 

[deleted10500801]

1. I like vulvas and vaginas more than I like cock. That may sound incredibly shallow, but physical intimacy is important to me in a relationship and I'd rather spend time getting to know my partner's pussy than a dick.

2. Many men still have toxically masculine, macho attitudes. It's less prevalent among queer men than it is among straight men, partly because being an MSM often challenges a lot of toxic attitudes and behaviors of straight men. Some don't do the work on themselves, though, and it's enough to turn me off from the prospect of trying to find a guy form a long-term relationship.

Gay guys are more toxic and misogynist than straight men and in my experience Bi and straight men have better relationships with other men than gay men do.

 

[deleted10500801]

Bisexuality differs with many levels of interest. With 94% of us being bisexual at some level, it varies greatly. Whether they admit it, or not, all men are curious about cocks. It's why most boys have pissing contests and many jo with a friend. All men glance around in the showers and locker rooms. Any man who says he hasn't is a liar. All men (except the 3% that are 100% gay) are at least at least that level of bisexual. Most straight porn is primarily focused on the cock. This is the same porn that is mainly marketed towards men. Then there are those who fantasize about cock play, but would never act on it.

Then there are there are guys that just enjoy stroking and sucking each other. That's all they are interested in. Some that are more bisexual might add in some combination of kissing, nipple and\or anal play, Basically but they are still more strongly attracted to women and a hetero emotional relationship. It's only someone who is 100% bisexual that will have an emotional relationship with either sex. Just because a man is "all in", doesn't make him 100% bisexual. There is usually a stronger attraction to one sex.

xx

Humans are sexually fluid and their desires and attractions change and fluctuate over their lifetime. Personally I have found most men have a closer bond with their best friend, better than they do with a romantic partner of any gender.

 

[bigboaster]

Gay guys are more toxic and misogynist than straight men and in my experience Bi and straight men have better relationships with other men than gay men do.

Well that's certainly an anecdote but okay. Lol sorry for that experience but it's definitely... Unique

 

[deleted10500801]

Well that's certainly an anecdote but okay. Lol sorry for that experience but it's definitely... Unique

It's not anecdotal, it's factual. I stand with Rose McGowan when she spoke the truth about the misogyny of men who identify as 'gay'.

 

[bigboaster]

It's not anecdotal, it's factual. I stand with Rose McGowan when she spoke the truth about the misogyny of men who identify as 'gay'.

Oh well then I will have to totally disagree. That's a completely subjective opinion. Far from fact but be blessed. Lol

 

[deleted10500801]

Oh well then I will have to totally disagree. That's a completely subjective opinion. Far from fact but be blessed. Lol

It’s objective.

 

[MilfBanger78]

In my own case, I'm only attracted to the guys cock (if its big).. Dont really have any attraction to the rest of a guy, mutual oral/JO is my thing. have topped guys before in MMF 3somes.

 

[bigboaster]

In my own case, I'm only attracted to the guys cock (if its big).. Dont really have any attraction to the rest of a guy, mutual oral/JO is my thing. have topped guys before in MMF 3somes.

Sounds like a fetish or paraphilia to me then instead of bisexuality. But you can identify however you please of course. Lol

 

[MilfBanger78]

Sounds like a fetish or paraphilia to me then instead of bisexuality. But you can identify however you please of course. Lol

Yeah I pretty much just call it a big cock fetish lol