If You Are Sexually Attracted To Men, But Only Have Romantic Relationships With Women. Why?
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i can imagine. i'm a massive fan of rugby but never played well, i reckon i'd have struggled in the sheds especially if i was showering with front rowers.
I still find relationships with women more fulfilling than dating men.
I’m sure part of that is due to the fact that I’m still very much in the closet with my bisexuality but part of it is just the particulars of my sexual attraction to men.
Sex with guys just feels a lot more animalistic and athletic rather than an emotional attraction
I’m sure part of that is due to the fact that I’m still very much in the closet with my bisexuality but part of it is just the particulars of my sexual attraction to men.
Sex with guys just feels a lot more animalistic and athletic rather than an emotional attraction
I’m mainly attracted to women. Like I check them out all of the time. I never check men out. But when I watch porn, or fantasize…it’s always about men. Always. I think it’s my curiosity getting the best of me. I’ve been with my share of women. But never have done anything with a man, other than trade dick pics and JO vids. Not sure if I will ever act out on my male fantasies or not. I’ve literally only started talking to guys online 6 months ago on fet life.
Only attracted to women, and would only ever pursue a relationship with a woman... But, there's something purely physical and lustful about giving head. Love to go down on women as well.
"being in a relationship with a guy seems…gay" literaly the most pathetic excuse ive ever heard
I would be in a relationship with someone I truly liked, men or women, it ain't happening though.
"If You Are Sexually Attracted To Men, But Only Have Romantic Relationships With Women. Why?"
I think that it has a lot to do with your gender identity. I think men that have a strong physical attraction to men(the smell of men, the skin texture of men, the shape and taste of cock, etc), but still have a masculine identity as a guy and are also physically attracted to women, will seek emotional relationships with women exclusively because they still see themselves as "the guy" that romances "the girl".I can only speak for myself, but I prefer emotionally to be a "man" and I am more attracted emotionally to the submissiveness, softness, gentleness and need of protection of the female, and how she makes me feel "man".
In the few times in my life when I saw myself falling for a guy, I saw myself feeling like "the girl" and wanting to play the part of a girl, and to be romanced, swept of my feet, etc. Oddly, I never had the desire to be "the man" to another man, probably because even twinky guys still don't look as soft and feminine as girls
But I think only a couple times in my life I had romantic feelings for guys, mostly when I was teen, and I always saw him as "boyfriend" and not as "girlfriend". Like 95% of the time or more when I develop romantic feelings, it is for females.
In short, I only want to have relationships with women not out of self-hatred of anything, but just because I feel emotionally more comfortable in that role. I need to feel "man" and other guys don't arise that instinct in me even if they are skinny and pretty and look like girls. For me to have a relationship with a man, he would need to make me feel "girl", and it that is very, very difficult. It would take some super-Aloha stud mega-King to make me feel like that. For emt to be another guy's bitch, he would need to be some Giga-King. It takes quite a Man to earn my submisiveness.
from my experience, bi guys are a lot friendlier to me when I crossdress but it’s the same sexual energy as temporary hooks.
I think a lot of us can identify 100% with what you say.
I only like women, but I have never had relationships with women, although I have been in love.I believe that my interest in men is some kind of fetish.I grew up in a family where topics of sex were prohibited; I was told that sex should only happen after marriage.I had phimosis, I also had a birthmark on my face and I experienced complexes.Once I met a girl, we kissed, it was late and my mother came, I was afraid that my mother would see us and asked the girl to leave quietly.I didn’t want my parents to judge me for having relationships outside of marriage.I didn't even try to meet women anymore.When I hit puberty, I masturbated. Had a fetish for women's underwear.Then I began to change into women's clothes, it was exciting, I looked at myself in the mirror and imagined that it was a girl.I watched porn, and at some point I became interested in how women felt, I became interested in the female role.I think I was depressed, there was a mole on my face, phimosis, and a crooked penis, I was thin, I couldn’t associate myself with a man in any way, so I became interested in the weaker female role.Why? I think this is psychological trauma from upbringing.
Nope. I'm not romantically attracted to men, just women. But I find sex with both / either to be the best.
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I have a long time girlfriend whom I love and have my romantic relationship.
My bi desires comes from my love and adoration of cocks, generally bigger than my own, especially in girth. I don't have any romantic desires for the cock or its owner, just carnal lust for pleasuring it, receiving its cum, and offering my body up to be used for its pleasure.
My bi desires comes from my love and adoration of cocks, generally bigger than my own, especially in girth. I don't have any romantic desires for the cock or its owner, just carnal lust for pleasuring it, receiving its cum, and offering my body up to be used for its pleasure.
Fuck if I know. I mean, I've often wondered if it's a kind of internalized homophobia or the fact that I'm not fully out as bi, but it's not just that I can't see myself in a romantic or emotional relationship with a man, but also that I'm not sexually attracted to 90% of men irl.
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I would even say not "sexually attracted" but more of a "we both have a scratch to itch so..." kind of vibe. Sure the guy needs to be decent looking and perhaps at least average build too. But zero romance here.
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Me neither but I still wouldn't rule out being in love with a guy (I have been though)
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I've never had any romantic feelings for the men I've had sex with. Yes, as we're fucking we may passionately kiss and yes I'll probably look longingly into his eyes as pumps inside me. But after it's over, it's over, a purely physical experience. I've never woken up in a man's bed or gone on a date with him.
good thread. I have always connected more, emotionally and physically, with women, really since I was 14 (65 now). So my 'connect' is today with my wife (this since 1975). Only had bi interests over the past 20 years. Who could resist a smooth cock and body! That said, I do not go off the farm...though I would in a minute, with permission! As to attraction to guys, vs women, women get the focus from me. Sometimes, rarely, guys. Example, at Home Depot last year, walking by an aisle. Glanced across, glimpsed this guy, only for a second, bang. There was this guy at the gym (alas, no longer), pierced nipple, etc., yup.
Most guys, vast, vast majority, a no. Once in a while, for sure. As you might guess, still a bi virgin here, always trolling though!
Most guys, vast, vast majority, a no. Once in a while, for sure. As you might guess, still a bi virgin here, always trolling though!
100% fit this here for me...
- Women = Sex, Love, Cuddling, the cutesy mushy stuff, partnership, the whole package.
- Men = Best you're getting out of me is... "Best Friends who happen enjoy letting me jack off and suck off their cocks". Absolutely 0.00 interest beyond Best friends level. No romance at all, never have and never will feel that. Just friendship, cock, having fun and blowing loads is the "peek" achievable level.
Reasons:
1... I'm very much in the closet about my sexual attraction to big hairy cock, gay porn, hung gal porn. My public image is that of a normal under the radar straight guy and I'm perfectly happy and fine with that. I dont need some sexual bombshell ruining my life or causing people to do, act, or talk anything or anyway differently around me. Im happy as is. The world may very well have become a slightly more accepting place of the gay / bi community, but there's ALWAYS going to be criminals and hardliners our there that are not and never will be for whatever reason that may be. And I don't need to become the target of those unnecessary problems or lose relationships and friendships over them. Leading me into....
2.... I want nothing to do with the drama of the gay community. I want absolutely nothing to do with "the messssage" in the words of Critical Drinker or the "the cause". My personal opinion and experience as far as the people around me, the people I know, the people I've spoken to about such topics is, and the concensus myself and they have come to is....
"I don't freaking care what someone shoves in their mouth or up their ass. Just stop shoving sexual politics in my face and live your life. The only point at which I'll care, or even NOTICE, is when that person literally Just becomes a walking billboard for their sexual identity, and appears to only identify themself as a person by what they fuck in whatever form than manifests in. The point at which their sexual politics and identity seems to HAVE to be a part of every single facet of their life and what they do is when you will hear people yell at them to stop drawing attention to yourself and leave us alone and go live your life."
3.... I've thought about the topic. And it's just not there. I don't want to cuddle with a dude. I don't want to make out with a dude unless somehow someway I'm just so ridiculously horny and it just "happens" mid-sex. I don't want to be all lovey dovey with a dude. There are simply none, 0.00 romantic feelings in me for men. I only like big hairy cock and jerking and sucking them and cum. No emotional feelings beyond lust and friendship.
4.... Ties back into being in the closet. From my experience, talks, and observations of women. Women are very unaccepting of taking Bi Men as a partner unless they themselves are also Bi. And even then.... it is hit or miss and a lower percentage.
Females are naturally drawn to the loyal male protector and lover, and the majority absolutely hate competition and will not put up with it whether they admit it or not since females by in large are the sex with "the options". Women know they're competing for their target mens' affections and "gaze" against the members of their own sex... but also throwing in having to worry about other men being fellow competition for "their man's love and affection and security".... you've just barred yourself off from an even greater percentage of potential female partners. Like it or not, the vaaaast majority of straight and even Bi women don't want a bi male as their partner is what I have seen. (This online forum's TINY... TINY... population of women is NOT representative of IRL females, and even if we ALL know... one or two bi chicks... or that "freak in bed" straight girl who likes to see her man suck cock.... again... no where near the majority. Not even in the same galaxy of being close to representative of standard majority female opinion.)
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..... very very representative of women in my experience, and thats just towards their competition of their own sex. Now add... "He also fucks men..." to that situation. You've just lost the interest of a MAJOR amount of the females who WERE interested in you just because they thought / assumed you were at least straight.
Example: (JUST an example)
- Starting Point...
- Women interested sexually / physical image attraction alone before getting to know or talking to you...
= 100
- Like your personality and or trust you enough after meeting and talking to you to fuck you or attempt to date you....
= 1-20 (Typically what we see in the dating scene these days as Men... dating is the women's world not ours... numbers I've read / seen range from 1% to only as high as 10% of attempts by men to court women have any success ESPECIALLY in the online dating scene)
- Women still interested after they find out your Bi....
= 0 - 8
(if we go by the law of almost all studies done saying that 2/3 of women say they would never date a man who has or wants to have sex with other men... when combined with having to desire / want to partner with that man, and NOT JUST fuck them)
Ya... noooo interest in those odds. And I'm lucky I don't have to worry about them. I'll stay happily in the closet jacking off to big hairy cocks online and keeping that shit to myself.
So.... it's not worth it in any way shape or form for me as an in the closet bisexual guy to come out of said closet for sexual... personal... relationship... life etc. Reasons... AND... I simply have absolutely no romantic or emotional feelings towards men at all to begin with. So it's infinitely not worth changing my public image to even "Give it a try you might like it..."..... naw. I'm good right where I am.
- Women = Sex, Love, Cuddling, the cutesy mushy stuff, partnership, the whole package.
- Men = Best you're getting out of me is... "Best Friends who happen enjoy letting me jack off and suck off their cocks". Absolutely 0.00 interest beyond Best friends level. No romance at all, never have and never will feel that. Just friendship, cock, having fun and blowing loads is the "peek" achievable level.
Reasons:
1... I'm very much in the closet about my sexual attraction to big hairy cock, gay porn, hung gal porn. My public image is that of a normal under the radar straight guy and I'm perfectly happy and fine with that. I dont need some sexual bombshell ruining my life or causing people to do, act, or talk anything or anyway differently around me. Im happy as is. The world may very well have become a slightly more accepting place of the gay / bi community, but there's ALWAYS going to be criminals and hardliners our there that are not and never will be for whatever reason that may be. And I don't need to become the target of those unnecessary problems or lose relationships and friendships over them. Leading me into....
2.... I want nothing to do with the drama of the gay community. I want absolutely nothing to do with "the messssage" in the words of Critical Drinker or the "the cause". My personal opinion and experience as far as the people around me, the people I know, the people I've spoken to about such topics is, and the concensus myself and they have come to is....
"I don't freaking care what someone shoves in their mouth or up their ass. Just stop shoving sexual politics in my face and live your life. The only point at which I'll care, or even NOTICE, is when that person literally Just becomes a walking billboard for their sexual identity, and appears to only identify themself as a person by what they fuck in whatever form than manifests in. The point at which their sexual politics and identity seems to HAVE to be a part of every single facet of their life and what they do is when you will hear people yell at them to stop drawing attention to yourself and leave us alone and go live your life."
3.... I've thought about the topic. And it's just not there. I don't want to cuddle with a dude. I don't want to make out with a dude unless somehow someway I'm just so ridiculously horny and it just "happens" mid-sex. I don't want to be all lovey dovey with a dude. There are simply none, 0.00 romantic feelings in me for men. I only like big hairy cock and jerking and sucking them and cum. No emotional feelings beyond lust and friendship.
4.... Ties back into being in the closet. From my experience, talks, and observations of women. Women are very unaccepting of taking Bi Men as a partner unless they themselves are also Bi. And even then.... it is hit or miss and a lower percentage.
Females are naturally drawn to the loyal male protector and lover, and the majority absolutely hate competition and will not put up with it whether they admit it or not since females by in large are the sex with "the options". Women know they're competing for their target mens' affections and "gaze" against the members of their own sex... but also throwing in having to worry about other men being fellow competition for "their man's love and affection and security".... you've just barred yourself off from an even greater percentage of potential female partners. Like it or not, the vaaaast majority of straight and even Bi women don't want a bi male as their partner is what I have seen. (This online forum's TINY... TINY... population of women is NOT representative of IRL females, and even if we ALL know... one or two bi chicks... or that "freak in bed" straight girl who likes to see her man suck cock.... again... no where near the majority. Not even in the same galaxy of being close to representative of standard majority female opinion.)
..... very very representative of women in my experience, and thats just towards their competition of their own sex. Now add... "He also fucks men..." to that situation. You've just lost the interest of a MAJOR amount of the females who WERE interested in you just because they thought / assumed you were at least straight.
Example: (JUST an example)
- Starting Point...
- Women interested sexually / physical image attraction alone before getting to know or talking to you...
= 100
- Like your personality and or trust you enough after meeting and talking to you to fuck you or attempt to date you....
= 1-20 (Typically what we see in the dating scene these days as Men... dating is the women's world not ours... numbers I've read / seen range from 1% to only as high as 10% of attempts by men to court women have any success ESPECIALLY in the online dating scene)
- Women still interested after they find out your Bi....
= 0 - 8
(if we go by the law of almost all studies done saying that 2/3 of women say they would never date a man who has or wants to have sex with other men... when combined with having to desire / want to partner with that man, and NOT JUST fuck them)
Ya... noooo interest in those odds. And I'm lucky I don't have to worry about them. I'll stay happily in the closet jacking off to big hairy cocks online and keeping that shit to myself.
So.... it's not worth it in any way shape or form for me as an in the closet bisexual guy to come out of said closet for sexual... personal... relationship... life etc. Reasons... AND... I simply have absolutely no romantic or emotional feelings towards men at all to begin with. So it's infinitely not worth changing my public image to even "Give it a try you might like it..."..... naw. I'm good right where I am.
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