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[D_Anne_T_Freeze]

OK so last year i met up with a guy from a site and we had a lovely evening of chat and banter and then hit the bedroom. He was awful. Truly awful. I tried, i really did. I gave him advice then gave him a slap then eventually i gave up and went to sleep. Yesterday he tracks me down on another site and sends me a message asking why i never got back in touch and if we could meet again. I wrote back telling him exactly why i hadn't been in touch, expecting him to take the huff and fuck off. To my surprise he came back with an apology and explanation about how he's never been with a "grown up" (god bless his wee cotton socks) and how i was intimidating and how he would love to make it up to me with dinner and a movie and listening intently to all and any advice i gave.
So my question is, is this guy looking for a revevnge fuck or do we think he's genuinely looking to get better in bed?

 

[Thickguy007]

Doesn't sound like revenge to me, he may just be genuinely inexperienced. If he was a jerk in conversation I could see it...but it sounds like you 2 hit it off in that department.

 

[D_Anne_T_Freeze]

Yeah his chat was good although he did also say that he was so scared that he just talked and talked to cover it up. He didn't cover it well coz i could tell how nervous he was but then most guys are that nervous when they first meet me. Well one vote for him being a nice guy, lets see what else we get.

 

[ronin001]

Loving, my first time was with slightly more mature woman that i was. I was not at the top of my game that night, i must say with great shame. I do remember I well made up for it the next time she gave me a chance.

 

[554279]

Negative, break contact.

 

[Petrolhead]

there's only one way to find out...

 

[D_Anne_T_Freeze]

Well i'm going to make sure he has to put in alot of effort before i meet him again. I'll get the long phone calls done, i won't meet him before Valentines day and he better have something nice for me on it and i'll make sure we have the "how come your not wanting to kill me" conversation. If he's meeting me just to not show up then he'll have to put in more effort before the date than is reasonable for a no show.

 

[185248]

Maybe it's your thoughts of playing teacher. Don't forget to take your mistress costume and cane

 

[D_Anne_T_Freeze]

I don't need the props, the tone of voice is enough.

 

[HunggGreek]

Trust me, he wants to get better in bed. Telling someone they are that bad and then slapping him and going to sleep is a complete ego smasher. If that was to happen to me at some point after I get laid I'd both be very hurt and desperate to improve.

 

[D_Anne_T_Freeze]

Trust me, he wants to get better in bed. Telling someone they are that bad and then slapping him and going to sleep is a complete ego smasher. If that was to happen to me at some point after I get laid I'd both be very hurt and desperate to improve.

Please don't get me wrong, i really did try! I started out very nice, giving advice. Then when he wasn't listening (as so many of them don't) I was stricter. I explained that what he was doing wasn't good but then told him what WAS good. He still wouldn't listen. then when he hurt me for the 3rd time (giving head) i slapped him and told him AGAIN what not to do. We did have sex. He lasted about 2 minutes. Even then i gave him another chance and for the second time he came in minutes. So i feel i was justified in going to sleep. Tbh the only reason i didn't throw him out was becasue he lived on a base miles away. I'm not that heartless believe it or not. Anyway i will be giving him another chance. I am all about paying it forward.

 

[Matt_x]

Perhaps a Viagra pill will help the pe, the kid sounds like he really wants to get better.

 

[D_Anne_T_Freeze]

I appreciate the advice but i have real problems with taking pills for sex. Plus i also believe that premature ejaculation is something that should be solved by gaining some goddamn self control rather than medication. I'll work something out. It's not the first time i've helped a guy with P.E.

 

[Matt_x]

I appreciate the advice but i have real problems with taking pills for sex. Plus i also believe that premature ejaculation is something that should be solved by gaining some goddamn self control rather than medication. I'll work something out. It's not the first time i've helped a guy with P.E.

Wow, that is very admirable that you are willing to help him reach his potential. A personal challenge taken head on, that's very attractive and a bonus if its sexual. Practice makes perfect, you will get him in tip top shape.:biggrin1:

 

[PerfectlySexy]

He may sincerely want to get better, but from where's he starting, given your description, it might take a while. So are you looking to be a long-term teacher? A friend of mine has the opinion that everyone (men and women) should get a 2nd chance in bed because you never know what role nerves plays on that first time. But I'm not sure men can go from lasting 2 minutes to lasting 20 minutes (let alone an hour or more) without some effort. Do you think he's put in that effort in the last year? Sometimes playing the teacher can be fun, and sometimes it can be a drag. I certainly hope you get the former but I'm not sure I would wager money on it.

 

[twoton]

Please don't get me wrong, i really did try! I started out very nice, giving advice. Then when he wasn't listening (as so many of them don't) I was stricter. I explained that what he was doing wasn't good but then told him what WAS good. He still wouldn't listen. then when he hurt me for the 3rd time (giving head) i slapped him and told him AGAIN what not to do.

After reading this....I dunno. It doesn't sound like a good idea. Unless you really like him a whole, whole lot outside of the bedroom and can develop a relationship that way...it looks to me like he's not a quick learner.