Is it taboo for a top to suck a bottom’s dick?

[LondonCutguy]

I expect to be sucked AND fucked!

 

[deano-uk]

I class sucking as unrelated, it may result in one or other getting fucked, or both flip flopping. My husband is a bottom but I suck him. I’ve been with guys before that I’ve sucked and then he’s fucked me, but been with guys I’ve sucked and then fucked him.

 

[Tbprivate]

Living in Turkey, where many guys are ashamed of being gay, I often hear guys say they don’t suck or touch someone’s dick as they are active, not passive!
The belief exists that being a Top doesn’t make them gay, it’s the (gay) Bottom’s role to lick & suck the Top until he’s ready to fuck and ‘job done!’
I’ve told a few that it’s easier for me to use a dildo if the guy doesn’t fully participate.

 

[328982]

Living in Turkey, where many guys are ashamed of being gay, I often hear guys say they don’t suck or touch someone’s dick as they are active, not passive!
The belief exists that being a Top doesn’t make them gay, it’s the (gay) Bottom’s role to lick & suck the Top until he’s ready to fuck and ‘job done!’
I’ve told a few that it’s easier for me to use a dildo if the guy doesn’t fully participate.

I think in some cultures the straight/gay axis is more about active/passive roles in sex than it is about male/female. But the idea that a man sucking another man's dick makes him less manly seems pretty common all over. Cock-sucking and cock-sucker are derogatory terms and sucking another man's cock is pretty much the definition of gay in some quarters.

 

[curious25]

I enjoy sucking a guy as I fuck him. No complaints yet and it helps me get off. The point is for both to enjoy it. My two cents.

 

[ethanolmos]

So my question is, if do like a male, and i'm male as well, how can approach him and not offend or act rude? I mean, we work together, i think people know that i'm gay, but i'm not a "openly gay" person and never tried to ask someone out in real life. I've used to date man only from gay sex site and only like that, where people are gay by default. I really like this man, but don't want to create awkward situation at work place.

 

[328982]

So my question is, if do like a male, and i'm male as well, how can approach him and not offend or act rude? I mean, we work together, i think people know that i'm gay, but i'm not a "openly gay" person and never tried to ask someone out in real life. I've used to date man only from gay sex site and only like that, where people are gay by default. I really like this man, but don't want to create awkward situation at work place.

You might want to post this as a separate thread rather than hijacking this one. But going by other threads of this sort, I think many will advise you to be cautious about coming on to a colleague at work regardless of gender or sexuality.

 

[Tbprivate]

I think in some cultures the straight/gay axis is more about active/passive roles in sex than it is about male/female. But the idea that a man sucking another man's dick makes him less manly seems pretty common all over. Cock-sucking and cock-sucker are derogatory terms and sucking another man's cock is pretty much the definition of gay in some quarters.

Yes, I agree with your comments.
I understand that not everyone enjoys certain aspects of sex, some don’t like rimming, toe sucking or something more extreme for example but if a man is gay and is attracted to another man I guess I expect him to desire to explore and pleasure every inch of their partner’s body, just like heterosexuals.
Not wanting to touch his dick seems strange to me

 

[328982]

Yes, I agree with your comments.
I understand that not everyone enjoys certain aspects of sex, some don’t like rimming, toe sucking or something more extreme for example but if a man is gay and is attracted to another man I guess I expect him to desire to explore and pleasure every inch of their partner’s body, just like heterosexuals.
Not wanting to touch his dick seems strange to me

Totally agree. As someone else said, it's no more unmanly than a straight guy eating pussy, yet somehow it's still seen as such by some people. For me, being gay is about being attracted to the whole person, sexually and romantically.

 

[1102669]

I top only and love sucking my bottom boy, I take the control and its there for my use and my pleasures. and besides that, I like pleasuring my bottom, that's what we are here for right!

on a side not... im sucking straight/curious and bi guys on a regular basis. just a one way bj. I never feel fem but do enjoy the feeling of pleasuring another like minded/top type guy

 

[Tbprivate]

On a number of occasions I’ve had guys (on gay apps) who’ve questioned if I’m totally Bottom as my online pics include my Dick rather than just my ass!
Really? Bottom guys shouldn’t/don’t need to have a penis? Crazy!
I’ll never understand how/why a gay Top isn’t happy to enjoy another guy’s Dick.

 

[RowanB]

Because I remember that if a Top suck a bottom’s dick That make him less masculine

What fucking bizarre world do you live in?

If you want to do something and it's fun for both people then just do it and get on with life.

 

[BarefootGuy]

If you are into the bottom, I think it is great to go down on him too. Why not? Fun for all!

 

[lblclblc]

absolutely not, its not taboo if a top sucks the bottom's dick. for me its an action of gratitude given to the bottom for letting the top enter him

 

[muskokan]

i am a total bottom and rarely get hard when am out playing at a bath house or at a friends house. When we are playing at the friends house we always do the 69 thing and i never call him out on being a cocksucker even though i revel in the title. If 2 consenting men want to both suck each other then that is great, it does not nor should not be any less masculine for either man.
i am a cocksucker and want everyone to know that. i am a masculine guy when out on the street but when there is a cock in front of me i am on my knees with that cock in my mouth and am still masculine, just a cocksucker not a sissy

 

[ohiorod]

I personally believe that s couple should do what they enjoy. If they want to follow the “don” rules, fine, but if they want to add things for their own pleasure, go for it, as long as you have consent. I guess I have always been an adaptable person in just about anything, so it is only natural for my partner and I to go outside the rule box and have a good, mutually satisfying time when engaging in sexual activity.

 

[deleted1074483]

nope, other than fucking its a two way street, and I love a guy's body, all of it, esp his ass and dick;-)

 

[tinytigger]

Taboo saboo. Do whatever with your sex partner that makes the two of you happy and is consented to/agreed upon among the two of you. Now granted, it may be rather unusual for this to happen in a Dom/sub relationship but it's certainly not "taboo". Hell, the Dom/sub relationship dynamic itself is pretty "taboo" depending upon how uptight one's upbringing was (i.e., in terms of religion, culture, country, etc.). But unless you're stuck in having to follow any kind of "traditional" mindset, it's really an irrelevant consideration.

 

[Killahbee]

I'm a top and I love sucking a hung bottom.

 

[auncut10in]

I love sucking dick. Nothing gets me harder. So if the guy wants me extremely hard when I fuck them, they better let me suck their cocks. One of my favorite things to do is to be sucking on the guys dick while I am fucking him. Can't always do that, depending on dick sizes.