Julian morris
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That will just continue to happen if more people don’t come out.
if people arent ready or dont want to be public that is their choice.
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I get your intention is good, but this is low-key a daft question. Like it or not gay and straight people are currently not equal in the eyes of the society, even in "developed" places like the US & UK, so of course that's why we still have things like coming out. Straight people don't work around with straight written on their forehead because straight is the default
Should it be that way? Of course not. I bet every gay person would love not to need to come out (and no one should be forced to confirm their sexuality if they don't want to) What you should probably have said is that no one should have to come out if they don't feel like, but posing a question asking why gay people (especially high profile ones) still need to come out is a bit tone-deaf and stupid as if all gay struggles have suddenly ended and being gay is the norm or something. It's called representation.
While this doesn't seem to need repeating, but coming out is not a moral obligation. Of course the more people are public the better, but I can see why he doesn't want to self-associate with this kind of judgemental, entitled asses we see so often in our "chosen family". What great courage have you shown in your life to so easily call someone a coward, having known nothing of his backstory? Jesus.
Let him come out on his own terms just because he chose to be an actor doesn't mean he owes you anything. Nobody forced you to come out to your parents, right? It's the same deal maybe he wants economic stability before doing that. Brian J Smith wanted to be perceived as a action star before coming out and it felt right to him when he did it.
Im pretty sure i remember him saying in an interview he is from a Jewish family....so cut then.
That’s a bad take. As a public figure, he has a responsibility to gay kids to show them that being gay is nothing to be ashamed of. By staying in the closet, the message those kids are getting is that being gay is not something you should be open about. This responsibility to young gay people is why Anderson Cooper said he finally came out.
This is a very selfish reason to stay in the closet. He should think of the message he is sending to young gay people by staying in the closet.
Actually, I was forced to come out to my parents when I was 16. Someone told them. It violated my trust, but I was lucky my parents were very accepting. Not everyone has such accepting parents, but he’s a grown man in his 30s. He should be able to handle coming out to everyone by now.
You’re also not acknowledging the great privilege he has as a gay man who is able to stay closeted publicly when so many gay men, myself included, aren’t able to pass for straight because by no choice of our own making, we’re too effeminate and sound gay and/or have too many gay mannerisms. He’s obviously able to pass for straight. That’s an immense privilege that many in the LGBTQ don’t have.
And I'm sorry that happened to you but every story it's a different one, just because he's in his 30s doesn't mean that he should be able to come out to everyone, he's not a leading man or a big star you don't know if he's struggling financially, he must have his reasons and if he doesn't want to come out it's his deal. Acting it's a job and it doesn't require for you to be a role model, that's your thinking.
It's his own private life. He doesn't have a responsibility to do anything like that. Some people take that upon themselves but that's their own perogative, not their responsibility.
Having said that, him not coming out and just openly being in a relationship with a man is arguably more powerful because 1) it normalises the behaviour 2) it relieves a lot of pressure that young gay individuals might feel about having to come out themselves and 3) it emphasises the fact that it's not a big deal that may not necessarily need a huge announcement (yes, in some cases it is necessary but not all the time)
Anyway, I'm really happy for him and his boyfriend, they both look really happy - wishing them the best!
Let's go back to cute pictures now
You don’t get to choose whether or not you want to be a role model if you’re a public figure. There will be people who look up to you or idolize you whether you want them to or not.
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Are you guys crazy? He's been dating this guy for ages. Attending public events and showing PDA on social media. He's pretty much out. If he had any issues with it he wouldn't be so public about his Life. Also, he's not hugelly famous. I get the impression he's just living his Life.
Honestly, coming out publicly would probably just raise his profile and get him offered more roles rather than hurt his chances of getting roles.
